Posted September 28, 2019 IIm fairly new to this site but have been getting my feet wet in a short amount of time. My question is I have contacted other guys for info or details and I have not have much success. Is it because I am new and people are being cautious or I'm asking wrong question? Would like any feedback or advice. Thanks ahead of time. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 28, 2019 Being new is part of it for sure. Something that may help is do not ask too specific of questions. Speaking for myself here but I wouldn't give you anything specific that could get a lady or myself in a bind. 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 28, 2019 If you are asking for info that can be obtained by reading reviews or the provider's ad/website then you might get pushback. Or crickets...... 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 28, 2019 Looks lips sink ships............... Period! 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 28, 2019 That was.......... Loose lips sink ships! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 28, 2019 I really don't understand what info could be obtained that you couldn't get from reviews. I believe seeking info would definitely make your stand out and not in a good way. Do like the rest, jump in with both feet and find out yourself. Sometimes there might be a let down, but then other times your expectations might be exceeded. 5 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 28, 2019 always fears of LE lurking - just keep researching and if you have a question that is better 'private' then PM - if no reply just delete and move on... in time all things happen... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 29, 2019 9 hours ago, Cherry aka Miya said: I really don't understand what info could be obtained that you couldn't get from reviews. I believe seeking info would definitely make your stand out and not in a good way. Do like the rest, jump in with both feet and find out yourself. Sometimes there might be a let down, but then other times your expectations might be exceeded. I think I already knew the answer to my question before I asked it. I try to do the research and I don't ask specific questions. Mainly I ask about attitude or what there general opinion is. My plan going forward is to see ladies with a website and positive reviews. Problem solved. Thanks for the help. 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 29, 2019 11 hours ago, Newoldbull said: I think I already knew the answer to my question before I asked it. I try to do the research and I don't ask specific questions. Mainly I ask about attitude or what there general opinion is. My plan going forward is to see ladies with a website and positive reviews. Problem solved. Thanks for the help. The review system changed in the past from a few different options to a few. I do this with anything review related - throw out the top 10% and bottom 10% of reviews and see where the 80% lies. This should give you a good overview of what to possibly expect. Good luck and have fun! 5 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 29, 2019 20 hours ago, Cherry aka Miya said: I really don't understand what info could be obtained that you couldn't get from reviews. I believe seeking info would definitely make your stand out and not in a good way. Do like the rest, jump in with both feet and find out yourself. Sometimes there might be a let down, but then other times your expectations might be exceeded. Reviews are something I participate in. And they benefit most of us. If someone contacts me. I have no issues responding to them reaching out to me. I've never had a guy be terribly intrusive. And if they did. I'd shut it down. And on the other end. I have also reached out to guys. There have been times with ladies I'm interested in where their reviews are limited or very minimal. And to be perfectly honest. I don't want to waste my time or lose out monetarily if I can avoid it. If someone doesn't mind enlightening me. Then I's say that's a win win!! 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 29, 2019 23 hours ago, Cherry aka Miya said: I really don't understand what info could be obtained that you couldn't get from reviews. Cost. If a provider doesn’t have a website, one has to either contact a provider for the information or hope a reviewer will tell how much the provider charges. I don’t want to waste a providers time if she is out of my price range. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 30, 2019 4 hours ago, inkspot said: Cost. If a provider doesn’t have a website, one has to either contact a provider for the information or hope a reviewer will tell how much the provider charges. I don’t want to waste a providers time if she is out of my price range. See never too late to learn. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 1, 2019 Before I respond to any inquiries about a lady, I always contact the lady and ask them if they are okay with me responding back to the inquiring gentleman. 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 1, 2019 On 9/29/2019 at 2:33 PM, inkspot said: Cost. If a provider doesn’t have a website, one has to either contact a provider for the information or hope a reviewer will tell how much the provider charges. I don’t want to waste a providers time if she is out of my price range. You know now that I think about it, I don't think your wasting a providers time by asking her rate and your info would be directly from the source instead of second hand. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 1, 2019 4 hours ago, ilovewomen said: Before I respond to any inquiries about a lady, I always contact the lady and ask them if they are okay with me responding back to the inquiring gentleman. And see that I think would be my issue with concerns of LE I would think why is this guy not contacting me instead of him? But that's just me, maybe the other ladies would feel different. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 2, 2019 On 9/29/2019 at 0:45 PM, parkercole said: Reviews are something I participate in. And they benefit most of us. If someone contacts me. I have no issues responding to them reaching out to me. I've never had a guy be terribly intrusive. And if they did. I'd shut it down. And on the other end. I have also reached out to guys. There have been times with ladies I'm interested in where their reviews are limited or very minimal. And to be perfectly honest. I don't want to waste my time or lose out monetarily if I can avoid it. If someone doesn't mind enlightening me. Then I's say that's a win win!! I, for one, would like to thank you very much for posting reviews. I recently was planning a visit to a provider but your tactful but honest description of some negative things about your appt with the provider turned me off, and I definitely crossed this provider off of my bucket list. Tip of the hat, sir. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 3, 2019 This is a mixed bag of tricks. Each lady has their own unique style. I know that NO meeting with me has ever been the same. Yes, of course the introduction is similar. Everyone is a different person and ladies in the industry are usually good at reading gentlemen. If your a super freak shit is going to be kinky If you are mellow and don't say or do much , things are going to be pretty easygoing. I leave it up to the gentlemen. It is your time that you are paying for. Gentleman asking info from another gentleman can be helpful. It is always a good idea to trust your own gut though. Ladies do this all the time. We talk to eachother and what one may like the other may not. The experience is always different. 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 3, 2019 15 hours ago, Kandi Apple said: This is a mixed bag of tricks. Each lady has their own unique style. I know that NO meeting with me has ever been the same. Yes, of course the introduction is similar. Everyone is a different person and ladies in the industry are usually good at reading gentlemen. If your a super freak shit is going to be kinky If you are mellow and don't say or do much , things are going to be pretty easygoing. I leave it up to the gentlemen. It is your time that you are paying for. Gentleman asking info from another gentleman can be helpful. It is always a good idea to trust your own gut though. Ladies do this all the time. We talk to eachother and what one may like the other may not. The experience is always different. I assume ladies talk about the guys all the time and I know the guys talk about the ladies all the time. I think it is just human nature to want to get as much information as possible before agreeing to spending time/money with someone. Of course, it is crucial to know who you are talking to and to be careful not to share any information that could put anyone in danger. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 3, 2019 I had a client tell me that another client contacted him to say my specialty was not for him. Hmmmm, why would my other client care?? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 4, 2019 (edited) 16 hours ago, Raine-7379 said: I had a client tell me that another client contacted him to say my specialty was not for him. Hmmmm, why would my other client care?? That is very strange. Why would a guy call another guy who apparently seen you to tell him that your specialty was not for him? Strange indeed. Edited October 4, 2019 by ilovewomen 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 4, 2019 4 hours ago, ilovewomen said: That is very strange. Why would a guy call another guy who apparently seen you to tell him that your specialty was not for him? Strange indeed. Maybe guy #1 was explicit about his needs, or perhaps they are buxom buddies, ie, they like to double up for playdates? It's a bit too weird for my taste. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 5, 2019 I have inquired from other hobbyists about certain ladies as well as inquiring with the ladies as well. Usually it is about fees if no web site is listed. Just like Inkspot said. Don't want to waste her time or mine for that matter if cost etc. is not for me. If no reply from the other guy then by all means will contact the lady. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 11, 2019 Hobbyists hitting one another up for info on providers is what SHOULD be happening. There should be a free flow of information about the provider just as I am sure there is a free flow of information on hobbyists that is shared among providers. Good and bad, communicate with one another. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 11, 2019 1 hour ago, Bravo1 said: Hobbyists hitting one another up for info on providers is what SHOULD be happening. There should be a free flow of information about the provider just as I am sure there is a free flow of information on hobbyists that is shared among providers. Good and bad, communicate with one another. If and only if you are sure the guy you are freely giving info to is NOT LE some hobbyist's wife reporter researching a story a provider's stalker competition looking for dirt And that is only a partial list of reasons to be a little cautious about new handles. Once you are sure who/what you are dealing with, the more sharing of info the merrier. As usual YMMV is always key. 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 11, 2019 9 hours ago, gr8owl said: If and only if you are sure the guy you are freely giving info to is NOT LE some hobbyist's wife reporter researching a story a provider's stalker competition looking for dirt And that is only a partial list of reasons to be a little cautious about new handles. Once you are sure who/what you are dealing with, the more sharing of info the merrier. As usual YMMV is always key. I agree with you. I've had people PM me for info, and depending on who asks (like, do I know you), I try to provide helpful information, with some limits. I want to be helpful, but also am cautious. 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 11, 2019 6 hours ago, average1 said: I agree with you. I've had people PM me for info, and depending on who asks (like, do I know you), I try to provide helpful information, with some limits. I want to be helpful, but also am cautious. I will respond to active members of the board with non specific (tasteful) information. But Newbie specific (sometimes probing) questions very seldom respond. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 14, 2019 be quite honest one person's opinion on any given interest is subject to change from person to person. Eventually, a person needs to just take the plunge and jump in and experience for themselves. Enjoy your adventure, even if the experience is not as wonderful as expected. Is that not true about everything in life? We (humans) are all entitled to a bad hair day yes?! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 14, 2019 12 hours ago, Kali Sensual Reiki said: be quite honest one person's opinion on any given interest is subject to change from person to person. Eventually, a person needs to just take the plunge and jump in and experience for themselves. Enjoy your adventure, even if the experience is not as wonderful as expected. Is that not true about everything in life? We (humans) are all entitled to a bad hair day yes?! I understand that thinking and know it works for a lot of people. However, my TOFTT days are behind me. Every once in a while I have an experience that is less then great, but that is not because I didn't do my homework. I need to know rates and what services to expect, I need to see numerous reviews and ideally communicate directly with numerous guys who've seen her recently. If I can't get that information then I won't reach out. I'm sure I've missed out on some great opportunities, but I'm OK with that. I've had a lot of great experiences too. Please note, I'm just speaking for myself and not anyone else and I appreciate all the guys who've done the leg work. Of course, I've done plenty of leg work over the years. I'm always willing to share this type of info on here when asked as long as I can verify who is asking. And I've found most guys on here any willing to share information when asked. 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 14, 2019 1 hour ago, Mustang87 said: I understand that thinking and know it works for a lot of people. However, my TOFTT days are behind me. Every once in a while I have an experience that is less then great, but that is not because I didn't do my homework. I need to know rates and what services to expect, I need to see numerous reviews and ideally communicate directly with numerous guys who've seen her recently. If I can't get that information then I won't reach out. I'm sure I've missed out on some great opportunities, but I'm OK with that. I've had a lot of great experiences too. Please note, I'm just speaking for myself and not anyone else and I appreciate all the guys who've done the leg work. Of course, I've done plenty of leg work over the years. I'm always willing to share this type of info on here when asked as long as I can verify who is asking. And I've found most guys on here any willing to share information when asked. I can see that Mustang 87, You joined TOB after or right before I quite for a period of five years (not important) . Another thing is I personally find what you share on here as well as other websites being truthful and helpful. Thank you for being supportive to the ladies and also level headed. Hope to meet you even just to say “Hi” as well as a few other people I find highly supportive on here too thank you! Sorry if this sounds a bit Sappy? however it means a great deal to know people who care about the ladies! ♥️ 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
