GENTLEMEN HELP
Support & FAQ
Last updated: January 4, 2016
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I CAN'T LOG IN
1. Click the "Forgot Password" link on the login page to recover your account.
2. If you're still unable to log in, email us at CONTACT US with the subject line: LOGIN
Include the following info:
- Username
- Email address
- Approximate date you registered
If all info is provided, we can usually resolve the issue the same day.
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DO I HAVE TO JOIN THE SITE TO USE IT?
No, you can browse the site without registering.
However, to write reviews or post in the forum, you must become a member.
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IS THERE A FEE TO JOIN?
No — joining and using the site is completely free.
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USING TOB REFERENCES
What is a TOB Reference?
TOB References are like P411 "OKs". These are references from female TOB members verifying male members.
What is a Personal Reference?
Personal References are unverified and entered by you. If a reference isn't a TOB member, you can still list them. Providers you've shared access with will be able to contact them directly.
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HOW TO SHARE REFERENCES
Your references are private by default. You can share them in two ways:
1. Through a Member Profile
- Find the provider's profile
- Click "Share My References"
- She'll be notified and granted access
2. Manually via Email or Phone
- Click your name (or menu icon on mobile)
- Select "Share References"
- Enter the recipient’s email or phone number
- A secure link will be sent
- That link auto-expires in 7 days
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HOW TO STOP SHARING REFERENCES
- Click your name and select "TOB Reference Permission"
- You'll see a list of who has access
- Click "Stop Sharing My References" to revoke it
Note: You cannot revoke links shared with non-members, but they auto-expire after 7 days.
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THE USER DIDN’T RESPOND TO MY REFERENCE REQUEST
Reach out directly by text, phone, or email.
She can log in, scroll below her gallery to "Pending Reference Requests", then click "GIVE REFERENCE" or "REJECT".
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REVIEWS: READING & WRITING
Reading Reviews
- Hover to expand or collapse
- Click a reviewer’s name to view their full profile and all reviews
Writing a Review
Option 1:
- Click the "Reviews" tab
- Click "Write Review"
- Enter provider’s phone or email
- If they’re not in our system, a profile will be created
- Complete the form
Option 2:
- Go to the provider’s profile
- Click "Write Review"
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HOW LONG BEFORE MY REVIEW IS LIVE?
- Reviews are screened before going live
- It may take up to 8 days
- You’ll be notified when it’s approved or denied
- If it takes longer, we may still be verifying the info — we’ll reach out if needed
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LISTINGS: HOW TO READ THEM
Listings are shown in List View by default. Click the title to expand a listing.
Icons you’ll see:
- Camera – View all attached photos
- Book – View related reviews
- Info – Profile stats
Click the provider's name to access:
- All reviews
- All listings
- Request reference
- More profile info
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PHOTO VERIFICATION TIP
Next to each photo are two icons:
- TinEye – Reverse image search
- Google – Google image search
Use these to spot fake or reused images.
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