Ladies Help

(last updated 1/8/17)

I Can't Login:
#1 Use the Forgot Password link to obtain your login information. If you have a phone number in your profile we can send a text message to that phone as well:)

Pre-Paid Cards We Know Worked 
#1 (user reported 1/8/17) Netspend Visa and PayPal MasterCard 

#2 (tested 5/10/16) The company name is Green Dot and can be purchased online and at major retail stores like Walmart. They do require your social security number. They do charge a monthly fee and there is a 3% foreign transaction fee which would apply when making payments to us. Read their FAQ

#3 (tested 5/1/16) The company name is Account Now  they do require you to enter your social security number and then will mail you the card in a few days. There is a Classic and Gold, we recommend the classic as there is no monthly fee  

I Can't Make a Payment:
First, you Cannot make payment with a Visa or MasterCard Gift Card. Why? In 2012 homeland security passed legislation to counter terrorism and forbid gift cards to be used for purchases outside of the USA.

We always advise that you use a straight Visa or MasterCard sometimes the debit cards work, we have provided 2 pre-paid options above. If you want to use a different pre-paid card call the number on the back of the card Before you purchase and make sure that they will allow INTERNATIONAL purchases from the UK (United Kingdom).

If you tried to make the purchase and it didn't work please contact your credit card company and make sure they will allow an INTERNATIONAL charge from " Pink Lily Media". This is how it will appear when we submit an authorization to your bank. Because it is an overseas charge some banks will flag it as possible fraud to protect you.

Once you have spoken to them and they say they will allow the charge, please try and make the payment again.

If that does not work please email us directly at

How Long Before My Listing is Live?
Once you JOIN, simply upload your pictures, select the Post New Listing link, fill out the form and Post the Listing! Please note that some markets require a fee.

My Reviews Are Not Linked to My Account:
Please email us at and provide us the following information:
Your Ad Name
Date of the Review
Reviewers Name
If it is under a different phone number or email address please explain why. This can take us up to 7 days to research. We will send you a follow up email of the status.

Posting A Listing:
To Post a Listing click the LOGIN link in the upper right hand corner and login using your email address and password. Once logged click your name (on mobile devices there is 3 horizontal lines, looks like a hamburger) in the upper right hand corner and select Post New Listing. Then, fill out the Title information and anything else you would like to appear in and be associated with the listing. Select the Gallery you would like attached to the listing, then enter the information in the body/ description area. There is no need to know HTML, just type in whatever you want to appear, then post the listing. 

Re-posting the listing is even easier, select My Listings button or link in the menu and select the listing you want to re-post. You can also do a quick Edit or copy the listing to create a modified version.

If this is your first time please add images to your Gallery. Once you have completed that, then select POST NEW LISTING and you will be taken to the Posting page, fill out the form and post:)

Adding Pictures to the Gallery:
#1 Click to Create New Gallery. You have the option to Rename that Gallery.

#2 Then click ADD TO GALLERY  This will open the Media Manager window. (If you added pictures previously, they will be in there)

You will then Click and Browse your Tablet, Phone or Computer and locate the pictures you want to upload.

#3 Once you have the pictures uploaded, please CLICK each picture you want to appear in that gallery then click the blue button ADD.

You have now created a gallery. You can repeat the process for each gallery you want to create. :)

Does the blue line load, but then no image appears? If so, the image is to large. A quick fix, send that image to yourself in a text message, save that and then upload that image.

Manage Auto Post:
Click your name, click Manage Auto Post, Select the Listing, Select the Time and Save!

How Do I Change My Listing Profile Picture?:
Click the Edit Profile button above your image. Then click the Change Picture button below the profile picture. This will open the Media Manager. If you have previously uploaded pictures Click the picture you want and then click the ADD button at the bottom of the page, then click Save.

What is TOB a Reference?:
TOB References are similar to P411 OK's. These are other ladies, such as yourself, that are also members of TOB and have provided a reference for a TOB gentleman Member.

I have a Reference Request, What Do I Do?:
To view the Reference, login and on your TOB Profile scroll down below the galleries to "Pending Reference Requests" You will see the gentlemens name, session date and a description of the session. You can then click the button to "GIVE REFERENCE" or "REJECT" Any Reference you GIVE can be withdrawn at anytime by you with one click. IF you don't remember the gentleman you can click his name, view his profile and send him a message.

I Denied a Reference Request By Mistake?:
Have the Gentleman submit another reference request.

A TOB Member Has Allowed Me To View His References, How Do I Do That?:
Login,  scroll down the page below your gallery to a heading titled "Profiles Shared with You" Then click on the user name you are interested in. These are the only users that have given you permission view their references. Once you click on their user name you will be taken to their profile page. You can then scroll down to view their References area.

What is a Personal References?:
These are unverified reference's entered by the user. We encourage you to contact those reference's directly to verify that user.

How Long Before My Review Is Live:
A user said he submitted a review for me, but I don't see it. Once submitted the review is run through an algorithm and then placed in queue, prior to review and publishing. This process can take 8 days. You and the user will be informed if the review is approved and only the user will be informed if denied.

How Do I Make a HyperLink In My Post:

There are two ways- enter the and then click the Enter/Return this will put the cursor on the next line making the hyperlink. You can also click the Link icon and enter the URL(website address) and a description (optional) then click the Insert button

How Do I Make My Email a Link:
Click the Email icon then enter the email address and description (optional) then click the Insert button.