Posted June 21, 2014 Do you guys like when we give you compliments, or does it make you self conscious? When a guy is telling me really nice things, and giving lots of excitement, it encourages me to continue, and give even more effort etc. Lately there have been some really great clients.... super cute, beautiful eyes, pretty cock, very skilled etc. Some seem to get the same encouragement from my compliments as I do, but some seem to get really shy; especially when being told they are super hot. So...... Do you like the compliments or rather stick to business? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 21, 2014 Not really. Since I'd be paying her, there's no way I could believe most compliments, especially if they are frequent. It's better to just be real. Don't say it unless you mean it. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 21, 2014 Do you guys like when we give you compliments, or does it make you self conscious? When a guy is telling me really nice things, and giving lots of excitement, it encourages me to continue, and give even more effort etc. Lately there have been some really great clients.... super cute, beautiful eyes, pretty cock, very skilled etc. Some seem to get the same encouragement from my compliments as I do, but some seem to get really shy; especially when being told they are super hot. So...... Do you like the compliments or rather stick to business? Some of us have a self image that is "I'm just an average, or below average, or unattractive guy". Compliments like "you're handsome!" or "you look good!" make me feel more self conscious, and shy. I honestly don't believe them. However, when you compliment a specific thing "you have kind eyes", or "your hands are very masculine", or "I really like your voice", I accept those better. I do believe that parts of me are attractive, but it's harder to accept general compliments on physical looks. Telling anyone they are super hot, male or female, probably turns their attention inward. I know it would do that to me. My opinion, and worth what you paid for it! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 21, 2014 for me a session with a temporary g/f is to suspend reality for the hour. I can be charming for the hour before reverting to my crusty self, but during that hour compliments are welcomed and returned. Don't see this as fakery, but rather as good theatre. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 21, 2014 Complement away! If you mean it say it. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 21, 2014 I like compliments if they are real, however I sometimes feel that I am remiss in giving compliments as often as a should. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 21, 2014 No thanks, they are mostly fake and obvious. Now if you want to compliment. ...........my wad of cash, compliment away I would believe it. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 21, 2014 I agree with most here, in that I Iike them but only if I believe them. And unfortunately in appointment situations they are harder to perceive as genuine. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 21, 2014 Compliments are fine with me. It means more if there is more familiarity with the person. A first appointment and excessive compliments make me doubt the sincerity of it or perhaps they are going for an Oscar. If it feels like it is part of the session and fits the circumstances then not a problem. As with all things hobby-wise it depends on each individual and the experience, one time it can be great and the other feel like a bad acting performance in a porn movie. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 21, 2014 Oh wow.... this was not what I expected:( I suppose it does happen a lot where people are being fake, and telling you what you want to hear to get your money. That's sad and plain rude. Obviously it wouldn't be like telling Shrek he is the most handsome guy I have met. I can honestly find something nice and something I like in ALMOST everyone. Wow... a little lost now. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 21, 2014 Do you guys like when we give you compliments, or does it make you self conscious? When a guy is telling me really nice things, and giving lots of excitement, it encourages me to continue, and give even more effort etc. Lately there have been some really great clients.... super cute, beautiful eyes, pretty cock, very skilled etc. Some seem to get the same encouragement from my compliments as I do, but some seem to get really shy; especially when being told they are super hot. So...... Do you like the compliments or rather stick to business? Compliments are ok if I believe them to be genuine. I have been around long enough to know I'm not any of the above. most guys know thier own qualities, if you compliment one of them it might be nice. if you tell me I'm "super cute" I know your just blowing smoke up my azz. if you tell me I have nice hair I might let you run your fingers through it. the key, I think is to be genuine or don't compliment at all. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 21, 2014 for me a session with a temporary g/f is to suspend reality for the hour. I can be charming for the hour before reverting to my crusty self, but during that hour compliments are welcomed and returned. Don't see this as fakery, but rather as good theatre. I like this thought. It's very hard to describe the intricacy of what goes into being a provider and interacting so intimately with people you don't know all that well. There is a fine line between the theatrics and a genuine compliment. It's pretty much impossible to be genuinely interested in 100% of the people you meet but not impossible to be polite and genuinely kind. It's sort of a Catch-22 ( although I don’t know for sure because I refuse to read literature that questions the morality of war.*) we offer a fantasy not compatibility a little insincerity seems par for the course. Our job is to make you feel good and one of the ways to do that is to compliment, it's also not limited to compliments on physical appearance. If an individual is unable to accept a compliment it's not really the problem of the one giving it. Does it really even matter how genuine it is? It's saying something nice for the sake of being nice, there is nothing wrong with that at all. * Jack Donaghy-30 Rock 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 22, 2014 Holly, Coming from you, I would take any compliment as being genuine as you are a very genuine and honest provider. I enjoy giving compliments as well as receiving them if they are warranted. Great post! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 22, 2014 (edited) ..........most guys know thier own qualities.......... Yep. This. Most of us older guys have a self image built up over decades, and reinforced by the things we've been told, and our observations of how others interact with us. Most of the kind of compliments providers are likely to offer me will be dismissed outright. As Clint said......"a man's got to know his limitations." And most of us do. .......... Now if you want to compliment. ...........my wad of cash, compliment away I would believe it. My mama didn't raise no dummies. Like NNG, I know the primary redeeming feature I bring to the party. Edited June 22, 2014 by Mr.Bubble bad grammar 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 22, 2014 If I was half as desirable as I have occasionally been told in "sessions" I could just sit on the porch and wait for 'em to come to me - to hell with paying for it!! But yes, I have also received a few sincere sounding compliments and they are very appreciated when they happen. Just don't try to tell me I am this guy: http://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache:t_fK5KF_G68J:www.tmz.com/2014/06/19/mugshot-eyes-felon-sexy/+&cd=3&hl=en&ct=clnk&gl=us 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 22, 2014 As Boink, MrBubble, Growl stated, IMO, once a guy gets to a certain age, one starts to be able to decypher real versus smoke/sunshine up the gazoo. Or to be a bit negative, jaded and sense the BS. Hopefully. Seen my share of guys that are a little too naive. When real connection, yes, appreciated. And hopefully can sense. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 22, 2014 The problem is, everyone has a different opinion as to what beautiful/handsome is. As a "john", we don't know if the lady is being truthful or "working it". Even in the real world you have to wonder. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 22, 2014 Interesting question. I was just pondering this after this week. I saw a lady on Thursday, and we were talking afterward about the various reasons that very attached guys end up on her bed. Lack of sex, etc. She said something like, "Well, I think you're hot, and I'd fuck your brains out a hell of a lot more than that." I work out a lot in the gym, really try to keep myself groomed and the weight off, and my SO never notices, does not seem to care. So that little compliment was nice. My response to her was, "You know, even if you're fibbing, I really don't care. It's nice to hear." She assured me she wasn't, but my statement still stands. I truly don't care. It's a fantasy anyway, so why not let that be part of the fantasy -- that she really thinks I'm cute. It may not be real, but the whole reason I'm there is because my reality (at least when it comes to sex) sucks. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 22, 2014 (edited) Excellent question, Holly. I'm not surprised as you're very smart. This is actually something that has come up a few times for me lately. Like most of the responses here, I tend to brush off compliments as just part of the session. Why I'm in a session is that I'm in a similar boat as Pitbull. My SO has no interest in being intimate* and it has been that way for many years, so I'm pretty self-conscious about how appealing I am physically. As a result I tend to be a maniac about hygiene, grooming, appearance, staying in shape and such. So when I provider offers compliments, unfortunately, I mostly do not believe it, except when one hits on an area I wish were true. The worst part is that those are the ones that stick in my head, even though I'm certain the provider was just throwing stuff out to be nice. (One friend is very complimentary & I think knows the right buttons to push, so to speak. It is kind of painful, actually.) Anyway, I would repeat what others have said. As much as I'd like to believe I'm sexy, I'm going to dismiss that. (Who knows there might be some random lady who's into my type. It could happen!?) Something specific -- nice hair, smell good, good hands -- are more likely realistic and very much appreciated. Do you guys like when we give you compliments, or does it make you self conscious? When a guy is telling me really nice things, and giving lots of excitement, it encourages me to continue, and give even more effort etc. Lately there have been some really great clients.... super cute, beautiful eyes, pretty cock, very skilled etc. Some seem to get the same encouragement from my compliments as I do, but some seem to get really shy; especially when being told they are super hot. So...... Do you like the compliments or rather stick to business? Edited June 22, 2014 by Boardmember formatting 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 22, 2014 Not really. Since I'd be paying her, there's no way I could believe most compliments, especially if they are frequent. It's better to just be real. Don't say it unless you mean it. +1,000,000 But I would say don't say it at all, because given the context of this business, it comes off almost as passive aggressive marketing if not condensending. The clients and APS, respectively, know who we are and why we engage. To attest to this, try online dating, one will quickly find out his or her true standing. As proof, search the archives. I remember a well know and currently active ASP openly implied how clients shorter than her, made her feel gross. But she did so in a verbose and visual manner. (Not) surprisingly other APS responded in agreement. It is what it is... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 22, 2014 Do you guys like when we give you compliments, or does it make you self conscious? When a guy is telling me really nice things, and giving lots of excitement, it encourages me to continue, and give even more effort etc. Lately there have been some really great clients.... super cute, beautiful eyes, pretty cock, very skilled etc. Some seem to get the same encouragement from my compliments as I do, but some seem to get really shy; especially when being told they are super hot. So...... Do you like the compliments or rather stick to business? NO don't stick to business. I like hearing compliments as long as they sound genuine. Like im pretty sure I have trust issues with escorts. I never believe a god damn word they say. I wish I could just believe everything they say and not care. But I just can't. One time an Escort was calling me Mandingo in bed. Deep down it hurt a little because im not black or do I have a huge cock. But it's ok with me to tell me fake compliments too. I hardly ever call escorts out for lying. I just kind of roll with it and I always forgive them. Because I know a lot of escorts are incapable of telling the truth. And one would think why would someone need to tell people fake compliments, when there is a million real ones you can say. Anyways I'll never get upset about something as trivial as a compliment. Im just happy that she would put in the effort. So If you are an escort that gives compliments you get and A for effort. Just try to make them sound real 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 22, 2014 Fantasy, yes it is what I am looking for. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 22, 2014 I'd say 90% of the time asp's don't sound sincere. It's kind of a turn off for me... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 22, 2014 Oh wow.... this was not what I expected:( I suppose it does happen a lot where people are being fake, and telling you what you want to hear to get your money. That's sad and plain rude. Obviously it wouldn't be like telling Shrek he is the most handsome guy I have met. I can honestly find something nice and something I like in ALMOST everyone. Wow... a little lost now. Dear Holly, I like compliments if they feel real. I have been with you a couple of times and I do believe you if you give me a compliment. some other providers not so much. there are two areas I do get complimented on a lot and for those two I believe it from almost all of the ladies. other stuff again not so much. I believe you should compliment certain items as in Holly you have pretty eyes or Holly your ass is fantastic. those are things most women know if there true and so do the guys. now if you said I look like Brad Pitt id die laughing. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 22, 2014 No, compliments don't make me self conscious. I like them so I say keep them coming even if they aren't true. Due to the nature of the business at the end of the day I probably dismiss all of them because I figure they are just meant to secure a return visit but I'm secure with myself so anything said either true or untrue, negative or positive doesn't really phase me. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 22, 2014 Personally I like compliments, feeds the ego a bit. Just so long as they aren't obviously fake. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 22, 2014 Complements are cool, if applied with class and sincerity. My ATF once said "I like you" She came off as sincere and it really was true as we had a long relationship. I remember it boosting the old ego. Many things can be said if there is a modicum of truth or sincerity about what you are saying. We are people and most can tell when we are being lied to. I only like that if its a heat of the moment thing which can be seen also. Be sincere and honest or don't say it. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 22, 2014 I don't believe when clients gives me a compliment , I think they are trying to get something free maybe not at that moment but some where down the road. Which is usually the case. Its so rare to see a really good looking man so I don't compliment a whole lot. Now if a man smells good its a real turn on for me. Lilithia 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 23, 2014 I don't believe when clients gives me a compliment , I think they are trying to get something free maybe not at that moment but some where down the road. Which is usually the case. Its so rare to see a really good looking man so I don't compliment a whole lot. Now if a man smells good its a real turn on for me. Lilithia And yet, why would a guy compliment you if he did not mean it? Why wouldn't you believe him? Would a compliment ever really get anyone a freebie? I don't think so. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 23, 2014 The compliments I get from providers are similar to the compliments I've received in civilian life so I don't find it difficult to accept them. There is an inherent discount on those given by providers to maintain boundaries. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
