Waldofindme

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How many people out there have felt lonely, lost and alone with no one to reach out to? When nothing in life seems to bring you Joy or happiness. And if you do happen to find something you make a mistake and messing up. The scream for help but it falls on deaf ears, you ask for second chances and none are given. What do you do next?

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You remember that yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, and today is a gift that’s why It’s called the present. 

Make the most of everyday and never give up on being yourself; you are the most important character in your life story.  

If you need someone to talk with please call the Colorado Crisis Center (844) 493-8255. 

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54 minutes ago, Waldofindme said:

How many people out there have felt lonely, lost and alone with no one to reach out to? When nothing in life seems to bring you Joy or happiness. And if you do happen to find something you make a mistake and messing up. The scream for help but it falls on deaf ears, you ask for second chances and none are given. What do you do next?

Do you want to message me about it? I’ve been told I’m a good listener!

 

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Think positive. Get up off the ground and shake the dirt off. Reach out to the most important people you have in your life.

Its one thing to be down and out, you have to be in charge of YOU.

My last two cents............make the lemonade from the lemons!

You will get by!

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Go do something you love opening the opportunity to meet people. Stay positive as loneliness is something everyone feels and that's what friends are for in those times. Call someone and make plans. 

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1 hour ago, Waldofindme said:

How many people out there have felt lonely, lost and alone with no one to reach out to? When nothing in life seems to bring you Joy or happiness. And if you do happen to find something you make a mistake and messing up. The scream for help but it falls on deaf ears, you ask for second chances and none are given. What do you do next?

Me, I go hire an escort for a couple of hours.  Makes me feel great again.  Been there, felt that, it will pass, but will pass much more quickly in the arms of a scarlet lover.

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Don’t feel ashamed. There’s a lot of this going around. The sun does boost serotonin and endorphins. Try taking a walk in the sun. Sometimes just going to the coffee shop and sitting amongst other people can help loneliness. If these feelings persist, it’s definitely worth a trip to the doctor to evaluate if you need meds and/or counseling. Just know that you are not alone.;)

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No shame in admitting it and seeking help.  Whether it’s a trusted friend or a trained counselor.  You’ve already taken the first step!  Carry on, my friend.  This too will pass.

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Waldo I dreally hear your pain.  It is amazing how you can be surrounded by people and still feel so utterly alone to wrestle with your demons.  I hit the wall 5 years ago and realized how dark my mind and soul had become.  I was able to make an honest evaluation of the real causes and walked away from a 34 year career.  Reach out to someone you can trust.  The hardest DAMN thing in the world but essential.  The Crisis Center, a Counselor or a trusted friend.  You need someone to know where you are at with this.  Take the step toward healing your soul!

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5 hours ago, Waldofindme said:

How many people out there have felt lonely, lost and alone with no one to reach out to? When nothing in life seems to bring you Joy or happiness. And if you do happen to find something you make a mistake and messing up. The scream for help but it falls on deaf ears, you ask for second chances and none are given. What do you do next?

You have received a variety of good advice from a lot of different people. You've also started yourself in the right direction by reaching out continue to reach out and find someone who will listen and help be IT professional help or just a friend. If there is any way I can help please send me a message

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Remember one thing....the problems you have today, in time will be irrelevant in your life. 

Keep fighting day to day, hour to hour, minute to minute and second to second.  Don't ever give up.  Things always have a way of getting better.

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I think that everyone faces this at some point. Some of us face it frequently.

 

I served 20 years on Active Duty in the US Navy, most of that was 'combat duty'. These days I see a lot of homeless vets, most of these vets only served one enlistment. Yet what they experienced in that one enlistment, has sent them on a path that many of them have a very hard time getting straight from. At the same time, each of these homeless vets served alongside others who are 'fine', and who went on to serve through 5 or 6 enlistments. I think the real difference is that those of us who did combat for a career, learned to hide our brokenness enough so we can continue to function.

 

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9 hours ago, Waldofindme said:

How many people out there have felt lonely, lost and alone with no one to reach out to? When nothing in life seems to bring you Joy or happiness. And if you do happen to find something you make a mistake and messing up. The scream for help but it falls on deaf ears, you ask for second chances and none are given. What do you do next?

There's not a person on this planet who at one time or another didn't feel just as you do right now. The key is to not hole yourself up in your home and your own thoughts. Go outside. Talk to someone, including the people hear who've been generous enough to reach out to you. You're not alone. 

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You've received a lot of good advice. You Never have to be alone with how you're feeling. You've received excellent recommendations from crisis line to getting laid. What a country. Seriously:

1) Bad ju ju to be alone right now; behind enemy lines in your mind is dangerous turf and you are scantily clad and poorly armed. 

2) For God's sakes don't pour your drug of choice on it and don't ever combine them. Stop. Feelings are our friends. 

3) as I read between the lines of your post, if this is about a relationship, puuleeze!  Quit giving people so much control over you.  If it's not, I apologize. If it is, you can learn to quit doing it and have more productive relations. Lots of resources!

4) Get active. Like yesterday. Nothing worse than sitting around on the pity pot. 

Good luck. If it was easy, everyone would be doing a bang up job. 

 

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Talk to someone, please.  A professional counselor at least once preferably .... but a friend would do ..... or a friendly stranger or two here that offered.  Always remember, no matter what, the sun will come up tomorrow.  A new day regardless of what or who troubles you today. Be there for it and make tomorrow yours, not theirs.

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27 minutes ago, Waldofindme said:

I hear all of you, and thank you for your words. They are helping! 

I'm not going to be as enabling, milquetoast, or Kumbaya  as most. This shit happens to everyone. Loves are won and lost ...just as jobs, loved ones, pets are won and lost. It's called life. If you are alive you WILL have these patches. GET UP!!! MOVE FORWARD!!! I don't care if you don't even know right now where forward is MOVE!!!!!! The darkness is IN YOUR HEAD. STOP embracing that darkness...stop feeding it, stop asking people to sooth it. STAND UP!!! MOVE!!!  Granted, you did not ask to land in this dark valley, but here you are nonetheless. It's your choice..lie down in that valley and cry...or get up, stand up, man up and walk the hell out of it.

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People ,for the most part are optimists. Somewhere you lost sight of your optimism. Everyone is prone to bouts of the "Poor me's". I fall prey to this more then I like to admit. But  I know this, so I just dust myself off  and move forward. It is a tough world out here. Many people have only their self to rely on.Do you have a pet?  I am a person who has to have someone in her corner ,so I have my hound. Believe me,she has gotten me through some major crap in my life.  Try to regain your optimism ,and remember that their are other people who are having tough times also. Your not the lone ranger there. 

Lastly, I kind of like this quotation. "Don't let the bastards get you down'.🍀

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I really like this thread. So much empathy and support!

The pressures of modern life can be a lot to handle and if two or three things don't go as planned, it can be an awful feeling. I'm going through a bit of a phase myself and I've been telling myself that it will pass and seem inconsequential in a few years' time. In addition to all the wonderful suggestions here, I find that music helps lift my mood, or at least make me realize that everyone goes through this. One particular song that has got me through a lot is Bon Jovi's Welcome to wherever you are. Simply an amazing song. A few more that I love during such times are:

Bon Jovi - Keep the faith

Stars Go Dim - You are loved

Pink - Perfect

Stay strong!

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We all have had such times to endure.  Please know you are not alone and take the suggestions above as I know they will help you.  For sure call Laci, she is very wise.  Hang in there man!

BR

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There have been time(s) when my long-term goal was to see the sunshine tomorrow.  Talking to someone (friend, counselor, pastor/priest, etc) helps. Get out, go for a walk around the block or take a hike.  Pets do help; not only can you talk to them w/o their being judgemental but by taking care of them you take your mind off your own problems, even if just for a few minutes.

As others have said - hang in there! You’re not the only one to have gone through this.  You’ll come out the other side a stronger person.

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Thanks.... to all of you! I appreciate all of the help.  I really needed to hear some of what was said.

I took some of BB advice and hooked up with a provider. And she was great but I couldn't preform...this has become a real problem. And a big part of what I am talking about. But I know now what some of what the problem is.  

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9 minutes ago, Waldofindme said:

... And she was great but I couldn't preform...this has become a real problem. And a big part of what I am talking about. But I know now what some of what the problem is.  

Do NOT let that get you down. It can become a self fulfilling prophecy.  Go with the flow, relax and let her lead & take care of the issue,  Most escorts see this far more than you might imagine, for lots of reasons.  The endorphins will ease your pain.  If her pleasure is your goal, remember that you have many other “tools”.

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9 minutes ago, Waldofindme said:

... And she was great but I couldn't preform...this has become a real problem. And a big part of what I am talking about. But I know now what some of what the problem is.  

Do NOT let that get you down. It can become a self fulfilling prophecy.  Go with the flow, relax and let her lead & take care of the issue,  Most escorts see this far more than you might imagine, for lots of reasons.  The endorphins will ease your pain.  If her pleasure is your goal, remember that you have many other “tools”.

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22 minutes ago, Bit Banger said:

Do NOT let that get you down. It can become a self fulfilling prophecy.  Go with the flow, relax and let her lead & take care of the issue,  Most escorts see this far more than you might imagine, for lots of reasons.  The endorphins will ease your pain.  If her pleasure is your goal, remember that you have many other “tools”.

 Yeah I know , but this has become a real problem, but I have to deal with some other issues, I have mentioned in a nother thread. And one that I haven't brought up.

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Binge-visit as many ladies as you can in a 24h period

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You know, I think most " average " guys really aren't introspective enough. Or just don't care, to really take an honest look at themselves. And put the effort into understanding what really makes them tick, understanding what they really want, or need. But, luckily your not normal, your here on TOB. Where most of us, want something better for ourselves.

Alot of guys that don't have any real medical issues, but have ED like problems. Most of the time, it's all in their big head. It doesn't matter how hot she is, how hard she tries. Usually her trying harder, will just make it worse. Or how naked she is. If your big head isn't in the the right place ( for whatever reason ) he will sabotage your little head, regardless of what you want. You have no choice in that matter. The more it happens, the more likely it will be to happen. You also have no choice in that either. But, its important to recognize that, so that you can be comfortable with it and address it.

You basically need to reprogram your big head, to go fuck off, when your little head is supposed to be in charge. What you need is positive, non hard-on based dates. I don't know if you're a daty guy, but I love it. For example I would schedule a daty only date. Or if your a massage guy, schedule a massage only date. Tell your date your stressed from work, and you just want to relax and play around. You both will then know, your not there for a full date. You won't be there to have a hard on, or need one. So who gives a fuck if you do or not. Relax, have fun, be playful, be positive on your date. After a couple of good, with no pressure to perform dates. Your little head will probably wake up and start paying attention. Go slow, you don't need to hit a home run when he first wakes up, try third base out first.

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Waldo, I believe this is all sweet karma biting you in your dysfunctional ass!  

 

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