Posted October 14, 2019 So as I sit in my car with my heart in my throat waiting for my ultimate date to text me their room number, I start to ponder the idea of sex addiction? Is it a real thing or just something we’ve made up as an excuse for our depraved sexual appetite? What are your thoughts out there as a hobbyist or as a provider? What are the factors for addiction and can we apply it to sex? Remember, that I’m not just counting sex, but masterbation and pornography use as part of the umbrella term of sex addiction. Let your thoughts roll. Maybe you can help self-diagnose me 🤪 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 14, 2019 I am sure that it is possible to be addicted to pornography. I am not sure about "sex". 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 15, 2019 6 hours ago, pointymoustache said: I am sure that it is possible to be addicted to pornography. I am not sure about "sex". You're not getting out too much I'm thinking! haha! 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 15, 2019 I would say that addiction would be measured by how much time and money you devote to the hobby. There are people who hunt and spend a fortune on it. Guns, ammo, licenses, guides, etc. I wouldn't call them addicted to hunting. Guys who take a old car and put a lot of time and money fixing it up. Are they addicted? I would say that when you start spending more than you can comfortably afford, then a addiction has started. Bills being paid late, spending time at work on the computer/smartphone instead of your job, not attending family functions in order to have a session, not keeping up your home because you are saving the money for sessions, etc. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 15, 2019 Yes, there is such a thing. Like any addiction, if the addictive behavior is causing consequences in your life that are difficult for you or your family, you might be addicted. Food, sex, drugs, alcohol, exercise and more. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 15, 2019 Sex is a healthful, life affirming activity. Perhaps the term, "sex addiction" could pertain to those who lose sight of their personal responsibilities through the pursuit of sex? Is your life out of control? No? Then you are just a normal, horny bastard like the rest of us. 😃 -RJ 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 15, 2019 Yes, I would argue sex addiction is a thing.... I've been clean and sober for years, and I know all too well the battles of addiction and obsessive compulsiveness.. Anytime we look to fill an empty void with people, places or things, we run the risk of becoming addicted. My rationalization is that sex IS a beautiful life affirming activity, and that I have made some amazing connections to some incredibly beautiful women during this trip. The risk is there, but so are the flashes of nirvana.... 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 15, 2019 Reviews (176) Sex addiction who has a sex addiction. As long as you are not hurting yourself or anyone else, you only live once right. Loving every minute of it or I should say loving everyone of them . 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 16, 2019 Addiction can be harmful or helpful I work helping people with addictions everyday and just as food, drugs, work, or even running can be an addiction so can sex. It is all about the chemical released by the action that makes it a craving for more dopamine or endorphins... from our pleasure center in our brain ... a bad addiction is simply defined as one that causes harm to yourself or others yet you do it any how. A good addiction gives you the same chemical release and improves or helps you and others. We all have addiction big or small the important thing is to identify them monitor and keep them in check it is all about balance and awareness... nothing is good or bad unless it controls you instead of you controlling it. be safe have fun enjoy your healthy addictions 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 16, 2019 3 hours ago, Thecoach said: It is all about the chemical released by the action that makes it a craving for more dopamine or endorphins... Always have liked releasing my chemical. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 17, 2019 OP, Wander on over to sexaholics anonymous. I’m sure they can shed some light on the questions you seek to answer. Good luck! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 18, 2019 I have attended sex addict groups that deal with this addiction. It is real. Their agenda is much like AA. Both men and women suffer from this and are obsessed with having many sex partners. Many of their stories are sad as they can’t quit. Many become addicted to the process and the adrenaline rush. There’s the excitement of going through profiles, making contact, setting up the rendezvous and then the opening of the door revealing a sexy lady ready to please us. I found it to be addictive and have struggled with it. I’m currently trying to refocus my energy and interests. I do love the gals here. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 19, 2019 I don't think I'm addicted to this, but am very fond of it. This has been my release since getting divorced, and I've had a blast. I do enjoy the board, the ads, participating in the forums. I thoroughly enjoy the research, the excitement, the variety, the thrill of encounters with lovely ladies. So far, it has not damaged anything in my life (other than my bank account). And I've met some great folks. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 19, 2019 2 hours ago, average1 said: I don't think I'm addicted to this, but am very fond of it. This has been my release since getting divorced, and I've had a blast. I do enjoy the board, the ads, participating in the forums. I thoroughly enjoy the research, the excitement, the variety, the thrill of encounters with lovely ladies. So far, it has not damaged anything in my life (other than my bank account). And I've met some great folks. This pretty much applies to me too, in fact not sure I could have said it better. However, I sometimes think I'm walking the thin line between great interest and addiction. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 19, 2019 Is sleep an addiction? Food? Water? I would submit they are hardwired basic needs, and that so is sex. You can survive without adequate amounts of any or all, but it will not be a healthy, happy, worthwhile existence? I think not. Can you sleep, eat or drink water too much for your own good? Yes, that is why most of us were given a brain! But I fail to see any logic to calling any of these an addiction. No perfectly OPTIONAL things like alcohol, gambling, etc. that are pleasurable but totally NOT necessary to life ......... those can be addictions. All just my opinion. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 19, 2019 One can become addicted to sleep, food, etc. as well. Things become unhealthy addictions when we focus our lives on them, to the exclusion of other needs. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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