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It is pretty shitty but anyone w/ intelligence or experience knows that AM and similar sites are bs and packed w/ bots. Most experienced hobby-enthusiasts know this already. Newbies might be enticed thinking they can have something for free; but after they waste their time and money talking to bots, they will quickly return to TOB and look for something guaranteed with even more enthusiasm. Think of AM as a gateway drug for men needing an affair. I was stupid enough to believe AM almost a decade ago and quickly learned of their scheme. Started using TOB and never looked back. TOB is the real deal to find a real time. I wouldn’t sweat it too much but I see why you would worry …

I've been in the hobby for almost 10 years now and in the past have been very active. Nowadays it's very few and far between and have always done plenty of research and chosen well reviewed providers but recently had a terrible experience. Read enough reviews and you'll see it's kind of common-place, even for well established providers: the rushed 1/2 hour when you donated for an hour. This is truly one of the worst things a provider can do to a client. Most of the time, the actual main-event is secondary to the experience as a whole. As a client and as a man, we want to feel desired and attractive and feel worth the providers time. Many men don't have that validation at home and spend several $$$ in donations to feel that from a beautiful, sexy and kind woman. So for a provider to rush through 1/2 hour of companionship when the donation was paid for an hour, goes beyond feeling ripped-off money-wise, but is quite the blow to confidence and ego (the very thing we want to help by spending time w/ a hot companion). Figured since I don't like to write negative reviews, I'll ask the forum for advice. Like I said I did my research and the provider was well-established with only one negative review and most hour reviews specified msog. I was kind and respectful upon entering but got rushed vibes 5-10 minutes in. She explained that there would only be one round and as disappointed as I was, I didn't argue or put up a fuss. I tried to last longer than I normally would in a msog environment, but was quickly told to stop slowing myself down and to just finish. Afterwards she handed me towel, put on clothes and lied on the other bed and played with her phone. I felt so low, like I was nothing - and on top of that, ended up paying more than her advertised 1/2 an hour. I wasn't rude at any point and not sure if she was having an off-day or what ... Instead of being on Cloud 9 on my drive home, I felt like shit. Like some desperate creep who couldn't even get the attention when paying for it ... and then you feel distrustful and angry. I've had many amazing experiences with amazing women and I'm telling myself that not everyone is like that ... but so hard to get it out of your head. Makes me hesitant to see other providers. And of course today, a provider I tried to initially contact texted me telling me she was coming into town and on top of that sent me a couple of unsolicited photos of herself. Of course I want to see her but after getting my wallet and ego bruised so recently, I'm gun-shy to see someone else so quickly. Have you had this happen to you? What do you do to get yourself back on the horse? I know I could always see a provider I've already had a great experience with, but my favorites have mostly retired (that and I love new girls and new experiences, just not bad ones) Any advice?

Lately noticing a lot of providers are starting to use the platform and was seeing how they've been able to make it work for them. Are you selling a lot of content or just using it as a way to promote the hobby business?

WOW! The English teacher in me is reaching for my red pen. Bad punctuation, poor capitalization and numerous misspellings ... yet you use the correct form of “too” twice. I give it a D-

So as I sit in my car with my heart in my throat waiting for my ultimate date to text me their room number, I start to ponder the idea of sex addiction? Is it a real thing or just something we’ve made up as an excuse for our depraved sexual appetite? What are your thoughts out there as a hobbyist or as a provider? What are the factors for addiction and can we apply it to sex? Remember, that I’m not just counting sex, but masterbation and pornography use as part of the umbrella term of sex addiction. Let your thoughts roll. Maybe you can help self-diagnose me 🤪

So as I sit in my car with my heart in my throat waiting for my ultimate date to text me their room number, I start to ponder the idea of sex addiction? Is it a real thing or just something we’ve made up as an excuse for our depraved sexual appetite? What are your thoughts out there as a hobbyist or as a provider? What are the factors for addiction and can we apply it to sex? Remember, that I’m not just counting sex, but masterbation and pornography use as part of the umbrella term of sex addiction. Let your thoughts roll. Maybe you can help self-diagnose me 🤪

Well not everyone is as amazing as Kandi Apple. Maybe that’s the core of the problem. Providers like you set the bar too high 😍😘😍

Well thanks for thinking that me being hot and making the provider nervous might be a possibility ☺️

Like a Marvel movie ...

So my last two experiences on the hobby have been extremely disappointing (I don’t put up negative reviews) to me. Not saying they were bad but I have extremely high expectations when it comes to the hobby. I have a lot of good to great sex in my regular life so when I do venture in the hobby world I expect my experiences to be phenomenal. Like I mentioned the last two were far from it. One was when I was out of state I saw a girl last minute with no reviews. Though she was super-hot she was also super lame. My next experience I put some thought into and saw one of my bucket list girls i’ve wanted to see for a couple of years. Great reviews with menu items that matched my taste but when I saw her she had changed her rules and didn’t allow something that I love to do in a session. So now 6 months removed i’ve Booked a session with a well-reviewed duo with reviews that only say this might be the greatest session ever (and I’ve been with some hot duos). Do I get excited and have the highest hopes or do I try to keep low expectations? I mean, isn’t this hobby something that’s supposed to bring excitement to our lives? But with such high expectations, are sessions able to live up?

The gorgeous Kandi speaks the truth. More time usually means more rounds (but not always). You should never expect multiple rounds w/ a hh but most good/quality providers will allow them with an hour or more. Some providers might be ok with you texting that question (after you’ve passed references), but some won’t be. You can look at reviews or message the provider or other clients she has seen on TOB. Btw, Kandi - you’re unbelievably hot !!!

I’m with Mountainrider33. MSOG is totally necessary with the HR and haven’t had any providers have a problem with it. I never have trouble going a 2nd round and ladies are happy to make me happy

Glad to see you’re still around. Thought you were moving back to Cali ... hope you’re doing well, Sexy.

When I was married and the SO went away for a few days, I thought the same way (mine was from laziness and didn’t want to make a DTC drive); I hosted and did everything i could to make sure that her presence afterwards could not be felt. But always, something happens and she lost her pink belly button ring somewhere in the bedroom. We looked everywhere for it but couldn’t find it. She left without it and maybe a month later, my SO brought it up during dinner. Luckily I played it cool and dumb and it was forgotten about. I’m divorced now for other reasons but it could’ve been that one right there. Don’t risk it ... unless you want to be single (worked out great for me)

Amy Andersen - but I might be partial since I got to live out my fantasy 3 years ago and sleep with her when she came through Denver ...