Posted May 23, 2016 I decided to be nice, and allow one of my long time clients to text me about an appt. My reason for not doing it before was it is time consuming, it goes through my personal phone unless I go directly through google voice on my computer, and miscommunication. I thought I would break the rule cause I have known him forever, and I was being nice. It bit me in the derriere! We confirmed the night before, and all was good. I told him to call at the time of appt. Well, an hour before appt, I had something come up and knew I would be late by 15 minutes and texted him this as I was around nosey ears. When I got back, I texted him to tell him to come in cause I didn't see a phone call nor a text. As soon as I did that, I get a succession of texts 20 minutes before this that he is there, why am I not replying, and other stuff how I am basically standing him up. Somehow, he didn't get the text and it shows it was sent, and somehow, internet wasn't doing its job...sending me his texts. I wrote him an email with an explanation, called him, and texted him with a reason, and he is not talking to me. So I have just lost someone that knows this is not how I run my business and am bummed. This reason right here just solidifies why I don't text. For one, with a phone call...things could have been rectified, and we could have had a good time. Two, it is a headache to go back and forth over a lengthy time when it could have been done in less than two minutes. Another, now I am questioning who was in the wrong when honestly, it was neither AND both our faults for different reasons. I know a bit of a rant, but I feel it is a lesson learned, and something to share for some that have dealt with this too. Also, maybe this helps answer to clients why the providers say DON'T TEXT in their ads! Sometimes, technology sucks! :-/ xoxo, Samantha Sheppard 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 23, 2016 Translation: I suck at modern technology, so I require guys to use a rotary phone. Correction: Texting is ancient by now. I mostly communicate via WhatsApp. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 23, 2016 I've had similar problems texting, specifically with Google voice. I sent a verification text for an early AM appointment, but it never got through. I ended up waiting at the appointed place for someone who stood me up because she thought I was standing her up. Sometimes this stuff just doesn't work right. Mix the fact that wireless providers don't give any sort of priority to text messages with spotty data coverage and there's no way to guarantee the message will get through. Somehow, though, I always get the text that says "go out of your way to get something on your way home." 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 23, 2016 1 minute ago, 2Big said: Translation: I suck at modern technology, so I require guys to use a rotary phone. Correction: Texting is ancient by now. I mostly communicate via WhatsApp. Whatsapp is pretty awesome. Fully-encrypted communication is the way to go. They apparently have a desktop client so you don't have to use your phone, too. I haven't tried it yet. I'm going to go download it right now! 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 23, 2016 20 minutes ago, daaacz said: Whatsapp is pretty awesome. Fully-encrypted communication is the way to go. They apparently have a desktop client so you don't have to use your phone, too. I haven't tried it yet. I'm going to go download it right now! ...the big drawback with Whatsapp for me is that it requires my real phone #. For me that is not an option. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 23, 2016 2 hours ago, SultryKitten said: Well, an hour before appt, I had something come up and knew I would be late by 15 minutes and texted him this as I was around nosey ears. This is a reason to text, not a reason to give it up. The key is to not text with people so uptight that they blow you up over being 15 minutes late. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 23, 2016 You dont like to text but u did cuz it was more descreete at the time. Bingo! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 23, 2016 I hate texting as well. Ok, let me clarify. I hate texting with clients on my flip phone that doesn't have texting ability like a smart phone. I can't text numbers, or anything, so I turned it off. In my ad and signature it says I don't have texting ability. Guys can't read when they have a hard on and they're Dicks have taken over. So, instead of taking responsibility for their little friends, they blame us ladies. Can't blame them really, I hate fighting with a dick also. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 23, 2016 Smart phones can be a problem too.... if auto-correct is on, you can get some truly mangled messages from them.. I do agree that speaking is preferable to text. The added benefit to speaking is; hearing a sexy women's voice in your ear (even on the phone) is a little extra foreplay... 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 23, 2016 1 hour ago, daaacz said: I've had similar problems texting, specifically with Google voice. I sent a verification text for an early AM appointment, but it never got through. I ended up waiting at the appointed place for someone who stood me up because she thought I was standing her up. Sometimes this stuff just doesn't work right. Mix the fact that wireless providers don't give any sort of priority to text messages with spotty data coverage and there's no way to guarantee the message will get through. Somehow, though, I always get the text that says "go out of your way to get something on your way home." Exactly! This is why I have the phone call...then I know where we both stand. I am kicking myself for thinking that things would go smoothly the one time I relent. Murphy's Law... xoxo, Samantha Sheppard 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 23, 2016 Geeze, it's so hard to keep track, one lady demands voice calls, one lady demands texts, one lady demands P411 private messages, one lady demands e-mails, it's so hard to keep track! Frankly, I wouldn't bother except the rewards are so great. Two of my current ATFs prefer texts, and I have never had any kind of communication failure, and two prefer setups by e-mail, switching to texts as I approach - again, no problems. My phone is a disposable Trac Phone (with a QWERTY keyboard - very nice), and I have to say that it provides great service, I think it simply uses Verizon towers. None of my ATFs seem to like voice phone calls (I have discerned that because they don't answer the phone or timely return voice mails). I guess the message here is to find out which kinda "connection" the lady likes, and stick to it. (Notice the clever cross-thread pun?) BTW, if you are going to demand voice contact, please keep one thing in mind: "Answer the damned phone!" 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 24, 2016 (edited) Despite 2Big's sarcastic troll, I think text, email, or text apps, are a HUUUUGE waste of time. A two minute phone call can make an appointment, confirm the details of where to meet, and answer any questions, if that's needed. Compared to 10 text messages, taking 15 minutes. You know if a phone call doesn't go through. You NEVER know if a text or email has been received, until you get a response. I'll do whatever the girl wants (text, PM, email, call) but phone conversations are the MOST efficient means of communication. Translation: Modern technology sucks. Edited May 24, 2016 by pfunk 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 24, 2016 4 hours ago, Badboy said: Geeze, it's so hard to keep track, one lady demands voice calls, one lady demands texts, one lady demands P411 private messages, one lady demands e-mails, it's so hard to keep track! Frankly, I wouldn't bother except the rewards are so great. Two of my current ATFs prefer texts, and I have never had any kind of communication failure, and two prefer setups by e-mail, switching to texts as I approach - again, no problems. My phone is a disposable Trac Phone (with a QWERTY keyboard - very nice), and I have to say that it provides great service, I think it simply uses Verizon towers. None of my ATFs seem to like voice phone calls (I have discerned that because they don't answer the phone or timely return voice mails). I guess the message here is to find out which kinda "connection" the lady likes, and stick to it. (Notice the clever cross-thread pun?) BTW, if you are going to demand voice contact, please keep one thing in mind: "Answer the damned phone!" What's a timely response to a voice mail? Do you leave a window in which it's ok to call back? Preferring phone calls doesn't mean a lady sits on her phone and waits for it to ring. I miss lots of calls, life is busy. I am in the shower or on my bike or cleaning house or just doing stuff. I also don't answer calls from new peeps often, I like to test their seriousness and see if they leave a voice mail. Some ladies are notoriously bad at answering the phone but there are many that don't answer right away for a reason. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 24, 2016 Text is also my least favorite but no method is totally foolproof. If I'm unsure if messages are getting through, I'll try to reach out with an alternate method (voice, email, text) if available and accepted. And, Melissa, some smartphones are as cheap as flips. I got tired of T9 texting and got a cheap smartphone. Sucks for voice calls but I really only use it for text. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 24, 2016 3 hours ago, pfunk said: Despite 2Big's sarcastic troll, I think text, email, or text apps, are a HUUUUGE waste of time. A two minute phone call can make an appointment, confirm the details of where to meet, and answer any questions, if that's needed. Compared to 10 text messages, taking 15 minutes. You know if a phone call doesn't go through. You NEVER know if a text or email has been received, until you get a response. I'll do whatever the girl wants (text, PM, email, call) but phone conversations are the MOST efficient means of communication. Translation: Modern technology sucks. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 24, 2016 I've done an efficient job of compartmentalizing work/personal with Google voice on my smartphone. Of course, there is always that possibility that I will one day accidentally call my brother from my hobby # or a guy from my personal number. Those both could suck ass in outcome, but if I have to choose...definitely prefer the latter! Emails are truly harder for my screening process, so the text contact is actually required by me. Its mainly out of sheer laziness, I mean who has time to pull out the tablet for any reason? Everyone but me, I'm guessing :-D 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 24, 2016 11 hours ago, MrFister said: And, Melissa, some smartphones are as cheap as flips. I got tired of T9 texting and got a cheap smartphone. Sucks for voice calls but I really only use it for text. True but I'm cheap. Look at this thread a little closers and you can see the generation gap. I grew up with rotary phones still in use. My high-school didn't have computers until 98. I graduated in 93. Technology for me sucks and I think we're too dependant on it. I didn't "get on line" until 99. When I first started escorting, I had a second line put in my house because cell phones were still expensive. I'm old school and I'm not willing to spend money on something I don't need. For me, I need to hear someone's voice, it's a safety thing. Plus, all my extra money is spent on school. Part of the connection you get in these appointments starts with hearing the personalities. Too many things get lost in translation in text. But I grew up in a different time. It's funny, everyone is in such a hurry, but they spend so much time on their phones communicating. Save time, talk on the phone. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 24, 2016 I agree Melissa, I am old school too. Connection is a MUST for me, without it, I won't see any client regardless they have stellar references. It is nothing against them...I just want us to both enjoy our time and if we are not a fit, that makes it a long hour and I hate nothing more than to have to withstand an hour with someone I am not "clicking" with. I also feel it isn't fair for them to wste their hard earned money with someone that doesn't want to be with them. About voice calls, I do my best to answer as many as I can, but I will not answer when I am in an appt, around nosey ears, when I am occupied with cleaning, cooking, etc., and various other reasons. I do this not for being picky, but for safety reasons for me and my client. Also, if you do not leave a voice mail, and I can't get back to you within the hour...I don't call back. I do not want to call and get someone else, or get someone who gets lippy for calling them back. The more you are in this business, the more you learn about what works best to limit problems, and I feel this is one of the best solutions. Most of us ladies are not sitting around waiting for the phone to ring eating chocolate bon-bons, and watching Days Of Our Lives. ;-) xoxo, Samantha Sheppard 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 24, 2016 (edited) Samantha- I have to quote Melissa Sterling here (just luv her!)- "I hate fighting with a dick also." LoL ! This is so fucking true! Hopefully the dude will see your post on this and relent. But it sounds like his little guy was doing the decision making there. ;-D On the plus side of texting I do use it. It is great for the dudes sending there exact address when going to them. Nothing is lost in the translation this way. And it can be very discreet way of communicating as long as one is diligent with deleting . However, it is also time-consuming when one is in a hurry and trying to get out the door. Edited May 24, 2016 by Jez UaBriain 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 24, 2016 1 hour ago, Jez UaBriain said: Samantha- I have to quote Melissa Sterling here (just luv her!)- "I hate fighting with a dick also." LoL ! This is so fucking true! Hopefully the dude will see your post on this and relent. But it sounds like his little guy was doing the decision making there. ;-D On the plus side of texting I do use it. It is great for the dudes sending there exact address when going to them. Nothing is lost in the translation this way. And it can be very discreet way of communicating as long as one is diligent with deleting . However, it is also time-consuming when one is in a hurry and trying to get out the door. I just texted you "Nice new pic Jez!" LOL. I'll also simply follow directios, says No Text I don't text. Personally I try and keep phone calls to a minimum. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 25, 2016 4 hours ago, Jez UaBriain said: Samantha- I have to quote Melissa Sterling here (just luv her!)- "I hate fighting with a dick also." LoL ! This is so fucking true! Hopefully the dude will see your post on this and relent. But it sounds like his little guy was doing the decision making there. ;-D On the plus side of texting I do use it. It is great for the dudes sending there exact address when going to them. Nothing is lost in the translation this way. And it can be very discreet way of communicating as long as one is diligent with deleting . However, it is also time-consuming when one is in a hurry and trying to get out the door. I have to disagree...I love giving dicks a "hard" time! ;-) LOL! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 25, 2016 24 minutes ago, SultryKitten said: I have to disagree...I love giving dicks a "hard" time! ;-) LOL! The reason he never texted you back... 5 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 25, 2016 2 hours ago, Kashmir said: Perfect. Hilarious and true. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 25, 2016 16 hours ago, Kaduk said: The reason he never texted you back... Sorry a little sidetrack here. So, a man's pecker is 3 times the length of his thumb? Bullshit!!!!!!! Just like you guys trying .to tell us your pecker is 12 inches. It is more like this- He said, we thought, but can you imagine..... No wonder women and men can't guestimate inches very accurately. We've been fooling ourselves for years. Back to this thread topic. I have used voice to text before . And you have to speak very clearly, and precisely. Casein point- My wingwoman I call Ethyl as a nickname. One day it put "asshole" in place of Ethyl. Good thing I proof read it before I hit send. As in all things you just have to be on top of your game instead of like most of us normally are. And that is trying to cram extra hours into a 24 hour format. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 25, 2016 (edited) I love texting. It doesn't require an immediate response and it's discreet. I use my TracPhone T9 burner for the hobby. That having been said, just last week... Receive a text from a young lady I'm quite fond of. "I miss you" There was a good chance we were meeting each other in a non-hobby sort of way and I was looking forward to it. I figured she had reached our rendezvous spot a little earlier than I when she sent the text. I thought to myself, "How sweet." Gave me the warm fuzzies. Then I started to overthink it. Our relationship is mostly platonic. What does she mean by, "I miss you"? Is she developing deeper feelings for me? Are these the tentative first steps to a more meaningful relationship? Down the rabbit hole I went. So, I decided to send her a text in kind, pretty safe but leaving the door open for further exploration: "Aw. I miss you as well. <3 <3 <3" Send text. Notice I have one unread message. Paraphrasing: "Hi Kaos! Blah blah blah not going to make it blah blah blah I'm sorry if" tl/dr Girl sends longish text. TracPhone formats it into two messages. I get end of message before beginning. "I'm sorry if I miss you" is quite a bit different than "I miss you". FML Edited May 25, 2016 by Kaos 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 25, 2016 5 hours ago, Kaos said: I love texting. It doesn't require an immediate response and it's discreet. I use my TracPhone T9 burner for the hobby. That having been said, just last week... Receive a text from a young lady I'm quite fond of. "I miss you" There was a good chance we were meeting each other in a non-hobby sort of way and I was looking forward to it. I figured she had reached our rendezvous spot a little earlier than I when she sent the text. I thought to myself, "How sweet." Gave me the warm fuzzies. Then I started to overthink it. Our relationship is mostly platonic. What does she mean by, "I miss you"? Is she developing deeper feelings for me? Are these the tentative first steps to a more meaningful relationship? Down the rabbit hole I went. So, I decided to send her a text in kind, pretty safe but leaving the door open for further exploration: "Aw. I miss you as well. <3 <3 <3" Send text. Notice I have one unread message. Paraphrasing: "Hi Kaos! Blah blah blah not going to make it blah blah blah I'm sorry if" tl/dr Girl sends longish text. TracPhone formats it into two messages. I get end of message before beginning. "I'm sorry if I miss you" is quite a bit different than "I miss you". FML That's super adorable btw. Texting is always best for me. Rarely can I pick my phone up in that split 15 seconds it rings. Plus, even if I can it is not always appropriate so you either get silenced or declined. With texting, there is no ignore button and read receipts are an option. Call me a cliché but I'm a gal that likes to be warned I'm going to get to talk to you 😉 #textbeforeyoucallgirl 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 28, 2016 next time use smoke signals, if that doesn't work consider morse code. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 28, 2016 Most of my communicyations even with my work colleagues is via WhatsApp - fast, efficient, and you always know whether the other party has read your texts. I bet most of the AARP crowd here can't find the on off switch on their computers, still running windows xp. -1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 28, 2016 I am definitely a member of the AARP crowd, but I text a lot. It is usually great, but sometimes they don't go through until a day or two later. I don't know why. I've gotten texts that were 3 or 4 days old. That is just one reason I don't like text for appointments. I also don't like a paper trail of my activity electronic or not. Just ask Tiger about it. 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
