TrystinTrimble

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  1. Advice Please.

    Let me tell you a story. I met a fella on here once, he set an appt, I went. Turned out to be from my home city like me, was very nice and the chemistry was off the charts despite him not being my type physically AT ALL. After the festivities I drifted off to sleep and work several hours later when he was getting up to go to work. Get to leaving, and my keys are locked in my car, he took the time to help me get into the car and get them so I didn't have to pay a lockout service. from there he starts hitting me up about once every week or two for an appointment, always being respectful of my personal space as well as my time. After a couple of months this organically turned into more and I started hanging out as house when he wasn't there and stopped the business part of it with him meaning that there was no longer payment involved. I chose to do this because I felt very cared for around him and the sex was intense and full of feeling. He was apparently into me as well and didn't give me a hard time about this job or guilt me. Our time together and schedules left us apart 3-4 nights a week and it seemed to be satisfactory to both. After several months of casual hanging out, I was really catching some feelings for him and was ready to see if he had a label he wanted to slap on it. Not relevant yet, but at this time I was struggling like hell financially, not working enough, and spending lots of downtime with him. Downtime I really couldn't afford to have in any capacity but I had it and enjoyed spending plenty of it with him. Whatever... One morning maybe 5 months in, I packed up my bag and left while he was asleep. Went to an appt. and got home several hrs later which was not close to his home. Opened my backpack to grab my charger and saw that his phone was attached to it. Well fuck, I feel bad and he's already headed to work. I hit button to unlock screen and it was 100% unlocked. Use message screen to text his relative who lives with him and inform her I have his phone so she can tell him. Wish I could say that was all, but by the time I reurned his phone to him I had learned through the frequent notifications that he was seeing various providers almost every damn time my back was turned and paying way more than almost any guy can afford to. Too many, too often and too many times lied to me about his plans and whatnot. We weren't exclusive, but he told me he saw only me and I saw no one else privately myself. He was lying to me about that and constantly. Meanwhile, he sat there and watched me worry about the lack of work and watched me lose lots of sleep over the money shortage and my problems were really piling up. I never asked him for help and he never offered it. I assumed he was strapped too, but to learn that he was taking his extra resources to anyone who was NOT me and letting me believe he was my man and hiding the numerous women from me was too much of an insult for me and I was extremely hurt to be of that little importance to him. Knowing that I was not more than a piece of action he felt no need to pay like he did a half dozen others was unacceptable and I felt horribly dissed. Did not speak to him anymore after returning the phone. I'm sure he knows why, and I wish I was not so easy for him to fool and do in such a way. I miss him quite severely but the lack of loyalty was just too hurtful and the fact that I'm a provider probably makes it easy to rationalize other partners. I get that, but the complete lack of vital information and letting my feelings build up based on what I thought we were was totally unacceptable. It kills me even now to know he did not love me at all and that I'm even surprised it turned out to be such a letdown to me and it was nearly something I never would have learned or suspected and I needed to find out. Still, it was hard to process and it left me quite depressed and down on myself. I now can't become interested in guys who show interest in me because it seems like I'm just too easy to pass up, not easy to see as a serious part of someone's life, and not respectable enough to treat like my feelings matter. I hope the blow to my self image was worth his gain and I dont see how his gratification was worth my hurt but he was fine with it I gather. He took only what I gave him and he left only doubts that I can't stop having about anyone and there's no end to what someone who will date us will think we deserve to NOT be told. Just be careful, if you've never met a guy and he is after you for dinner, I would assume that he doesn't respect you enough to even make your job easier because he's not even able to see that the only way to do this is to meet you and not that way either. He's making your job less lucrative for his own entertainment and I don't see how any of us could be anything but a victim to someone who wont even make one appt yet wants to take us out. I'm gonna say he is being kinda creepy and should be told to take his entitled ass approach and fuck off. You owe no one your consideration just cause they want it and you would not be a bitch to be pissed at people who come at you that way out of thin air. Also I doubt he's amazing enough to say you might miss out. What's amazing is his nerve and self important behavior ...
  2. A lesson the Hateful Ladies and Men...

    I did my due diligence on p411 as well...but admittedly 10+OKs is enough for me. The worst I've ever had to deal with with those guys is having to hang out with somebody who had a flat personality for an hour and one guy whose profile picture was a picture of his own ass you are probably should have not seen based on that alone but I did. He was a tremendously chauvinistic and unlikeable dude but not dangerous. Just watch out for that picture that guy's a jerk...
  3. A lesson the Hateful Ladies and Men...

    I am way in favor of the p411 route for guys. As much as I find myself annoyed with their spotty notifications long after theyre relevant to me anymore....I've never once had a grievous incident with one of those guys. The ones who are experienced, give no info whatsoever, and refuse to even pay for p411--they're genreally the exact guy I do not want anywhere near me. Like...seriously, if a gentleman Is that entitled before I've met him then I can assume he will shit all over me because he is asking me to bend backwards with no effort on his end. Fuck that, that culture and attitude of the entitled slobbyest and the girl who is expected to stfu and put up with it is something that I will never accept as my duty. As for the subject at hand...this has happened to me. He dimed me out and it caused my life to fall the hell apart. My family and friends know and have known...and it was still devastating because it got me under the county's thumb. Despicable and born of nothing but a grandiose ego I refused to feed. I got to sue too, but it was on an injury. Obviously he was a bit of a problem and I could die happy if that snitch lost his ass to my bank account. That might make me feel better
  4. A lesson the Hateful Ladies and Men...

    So, does that mean you ARE a p411 member? That is the one and only thing that trumps my one hard requirement which is an actual number and nothing else. If you are intent on being neither p411 or giving ANY info then you are just someone who is asking me to trust you blindly and completely to be alone with me, yet assuming I am a loose cannon who is a threat to your entire family. Funny as hell to hear that they are worried about ME being inherently problematic when often they are refusing to just share the damned number with me so I can clear them in 30 seconds...then turning right around and having me come to their house where their wife will be in 3 hrs and where their children play. Not saying you fit that category, at all, but the guys who think im itching to fuck their lives up are forgetting that their wives would blame ME no matter what the facts were. She'd start trying to unravel MY ball of twine since I clearly am some sorceress who used mind control to make her husband do things he'd never do in a million years, except that I made him ruin his wonderful marriage due to the fact that I dont want his business anymore...clearly I am a bad witch and this bad witch has her heart set on...washing her husbands socks and watching her kids. YUP--that was my plan all along, ya GOT ME:) I mean...that number being real is one thing that I can say is effective in a real way to make me ask usually nothing else. I cannot take on ALL the risks in an encounter, especially when the first thing the person has done is disregard a very simple and very unnegotiable directive withut which I have clearly stated in the ad that I am not interested in accommodating that particular person. l Blows my mind that someone would even call me and then say that since THEY super double cant risk me getting their respect and cooperation, I should let him be alone with me after he assures me that HE IS SO NICE that he just isnt gonna have to screen like the
  5. I'm not sure what to do these days...

    My availability is varied, I am inclined to work a little bit of all the times. Days have been more like people wanting in when I'm outs only, and vice versa. All around, I'd say very few seem to be reading the ad. When they do, I am pretty much just stoked cause I can always tell when they have or haven't. If not that, Then I ended up waking up to a bunch of missed calls because I had to sleep at some time and that time was right when people were getting anxious to see me. It's like a National Lampoon''s flick except that it's real and not very funny :-p
  6. I'm not sure what to do these days...

    I wish I had any good news yet...but no. Just spent all night at a rented in call fielding prank phone calls and getting stood up repeatedly. Not one face was seen, again. I miss the days when I could confidently say "oh there's no way I'll go days on end being left hanging. " Those days are apparently gone to stay :/
  7. Maybe I'm trippin....

    I love it when I am asked in a sneering tone "so how many men have you fucked already today?" ...said no one ever.
  8. I'm not sure what to do these days...

    And Trystin loves each and every one of you
  9. I'm not sure what to do these days...

    Oh I do see the nice guys...and they're the ones that never once tell me "hey, I'm a NICE guy! Don't lump me in with those jerks!" Funnily enough, this statement is most often tacked on to the end of something crass, entitled, or plain mean. It's so they feel better about their own indifference towards my boundaries.
  10. I'm not sure what to do these days...

    Don't you just love how they are always "working their way" towards you? For like...4 days?
  11. I'm not sure what to do these days...

    That's one respectable response we are all human and I'm sure you didn't mean it to be insulting...
  12. I'm not sure what to do these days...

    It's just not that friendly to say that the best solution is for me to get a job where Im not such a second class citizen. Imagine if we made a friendly suggeston for minorities to just move to the back of the bus. Or...imagine if the guys who don't think they should shape up...suddenly decided to talk to us/deal with us like we were someone's wife/sister/daughter. I can handle a certain level of assclownery but it''s being constantly seen as people who aren't worth...well...people that makes it not my place to just change it all for. It's simply not my responsibility to make way for their behavior to continue on more absorbent people. I can't just let those unacceptable ones run me off.
  13. I'm not sure what to do these days...

    The only reason our business "sucks" as you so elegantly said it...well it's because of all the guys who patronize our business yet think we should not be considered a business and that it's not a real job. It's not the right thing to do, for me to jump ship and be the one who's gotta just throw it all out. In a perfect world, the women who do this rather neat thing for guys who want such excitement would not be subjected to as much disgusting language, dodgy bullshitting, and mostly just the general attitude of "I dont have time to read ANY of your ad, but I expect to be alone with you and trusted completely... but Really you should just get a job that gives you full recourse to hold me accountable or I am gonna be as unfriendly to YOU as I WANT to be to ALL women because you can't really do much about it. But hey let's DO THIS, BABE. IF I even show, that is." In a perfect world though...
  14. I'm not sure what to do these days...

    Why don't you take some time off and see how your dependents fare from it?
  15. I'm not sure what to do these days...

    I'm not worried about the ones I've posted, they can have those if they want and I forgot to protect em. It's more the ones who go as far as to make a confirmed appt with me and cause others to be turned down, only to then turn around and tell me that they're going to need face and or even more explicit photos or they are not going to go through with the appointment. I do not ever under any circumstances cater to those requests as I feel very disrespected by such Behavior and they have no reason to go through the appointment anyway if I do send them those photos they ask for. As a matter of fact sending a face pic to someone pretty much ensures that I will never meet them so I don't take my chances on anybody. I guess I should have said attempted pic stealing...