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Johnny, fckin AGREED! Now im not at all the type to believe that simply being older than a person I'm interacting with makes me entitled to immediate and unquestionable deference; but I get sick of finding myself in a position where I'm having to defend my viewpoints because the chick that is literally HALF my age that is talking down to me like I'm entirely too stupid to function without her to guidance; won't stop trying to push her opinions onto me like they're facts. The shelter director was middle-aged like me, but the girl working the front reception there was exactly that type that you just mentioned, and now I know where she got it from if that woman's her boss 😄 I'll go ahead and admit, it's extra infuriating getting a snap judgment from a stranger when that stranger could literally be my daughter. Part of what made this situation sucks so much was that the woman basically passing judgment on me with no point of reference, did it in front of a room full of people and those people were all that young type that you just described. It's really not for the best that she just taught 10 people that she's a leader of, the worst way to deal with a person as a professional. For a person who has a leadership role, everything she said to me was all the worst things for them to be taught as correct, not to mention very humiliating for me.

Oh yeah, I'm willing to give her all the time that she needs. The main thing that I was unhappy about in this situation was the dishonesty on the part of the director for the shelter and not being genuine about allowing me to adopt the second one. I also thought it was awfully crappy of her to try to have the first one taken away from me when I told the public about how she treated me. I love animals and would never mistreat one. She just wanted to punish me for letting people know that she is a liar if they happen to read the reviews for the place before they go or adopt. But I told no lies in my review and she earned it fair and square!

This topic I'm about to bring up is not hobby related. I love hearing y'all's perspectives on things and that's why I'm posting it here. The story I'm about to relay is something that is currently happening to me and all firsthand. All organizations involved will be left unnamed just in case of blowback. So here goes: So, I recently decided I was ready to seek out a new pet after having lost my last one two years ago to death. I wound up in a nonprofit shelter that operates in this state, a smaller one. After a couple weeks of visiting I found two animals I was interested in, and after having my application approved, started the adoption process. One animal was ready to be taken and I was told the second one would be ready inside of a week and I was promised both animals as no one had placed the other one on hold yet. With the understanding that I was going to adopt both of them, I went ahead and adopted the first one and took it home with me. Once I got the first one home, I got them settled in with their needed supplies and let them free in the house to explore their new surroundings. Once I was a few days in, I was starting to see problems with the the first one that were unexpected. Long story short, I don't think the story I was given about the animals history with people is true and aside from their eating and bathroom habits being normal and acceptable the animal was behaving as if it had zero acclimation to people and was/is extremely fearful of my partner and I. Disappointing, but not the end of the world I guess. They did bite me full on and drew blood on my hand simply from being offered a treat. They also are hiding as if their life depends on not being found or seen. Anytime I do seek them out just to make sure they are okay, they are immediately tearing off to a new place to hide. At this point I did not intend to bring them back to the shelter because I do respect an animals individual feelings and needs and they aren't being destructive or aggressive other than that one bite I received when I approached them. So I decided to give it time and stayed in contact with the shelter to get the other animal adopted as well. The second one and I had connected instantly and I was looking forward to having them join our home too.... However, the shelter director began changing her story to me, and now all of a sudden she was telling me that the second animal was no longer going to be adopted to a home with any other animals. Since the first one seems to be basically feral, I indicated to them that these things were going on and as such, why not have me bring the first one back so I could proceed with the second one since I had really had my heart set on the second one primarily and had adopted the first because I was also promised the second? At this point she got real snippy with me and said returning the first one would make me ineligible to adopt any other animal, period. I guess that would seem appropriate in most cases. But since I had been told the first animal was acclimated to people and that wasn't true, I didn't feel that I was wrong for requesting that arrangement. I even had offered to pay a new adoption fee so that the first one could be adopted out for someone less fortunate if they wanted him, or it could count as just an extra donation to them. Still not good for her though and I got her to say flat out that the real deal was that she had no intention of letting ME have THAT animal and that she had the power to say whatever she wanted to me and owed me no follow through. At that point I expressed my disappointment and said I didn't appreciate being manipulated and lied to and told her I wouldn't have taken the first one if I knew it would hinder me getting the second one and that I feel tricked about the first one. She said she didn't care and then said I should bring back and forfeit the first one if I didn't really want it, to which I replied that I would go ahead and keep them since it's not their fault the shelter director is a liar and they aren't causing problems anyway so I'll give them all the time they need to be my pet and get comfortable. But, omw out I did make it known to her that I was offended by the dishonesty and that she had intentionally misrepresented the one I did take home knowing full well she was gonna renege on in the second because she knew what I wanted to hear that day. But whatever. I left and left a negative review on the shelter about my experience with this woman and warned others not to believe what they were told without evidence or getting it in writing. We have freedom of speech in this country and reviews are what keeps a company accountable to the public and keeps their behavior in check. The review I wrote is 100% the truth but not a good look for the director herself. I was certain that she would read it and that she would probably not like our conflict being made public, but the review was definitely well earned. Well, you guys know what this person has done in the wake of that review? She has made a formal complaint to animal protection alleging my abuse of the animal I DID take home! They showed up at my home today and left a callback note. When I called back they informed me of the allegation of abuse and they were told the animal is in imminent danger under my care and not being treated humanely and they WILL be returning tomorrow to enter my home for an inspection and to examine the animal for injury or neglect. I'm not worried about that visit because I am not abusing the animal and it is actually eating better than the people in my home do! But. Obviously I am pretty pissed about the fact that this awful woman who runs that place not only lied to me several ways. But is now trying to get my animal taken away from me and trying to have my name placed on an animal abuser list! This is a clear instance of a vindictive person retaliating against someone who exercised their freedom of speech to review their organization after being wronged and being subject to bad business. I am confident on my end and will be giving the officer full access to my home and my pet to clear my name. But this is a new low I have seen. This individual has clearly not been stood up to for awhile and isn't qualified to judge me or any other person given that she has done nothing but lie to me since we met. What should have been a great experience is now a pretty negative one and has soured my feelings about shelters. I would imagine I won't be using a shelter at all in the future and may have to appeal my name being added to a list just because this lady is vindictive. People are really out there sometimes! Has anyone else had a similar experience when they adopted an animal, or left a negative review on a place? I can't be the only one that something like this has happened to to some extent. Just thought I would get some other perspectives on it...

I wasnt actually charged however I was threatened with an escorting charge if I filed the report, and strongly discouraged from completing the report. I would say report at your discretion, but it didn't go swimmingly for me.

It's true that this law has been passed, however in practice it is not necessarily being observed. I've already tried to benefit from it, and was denied when I tried to see it in action.

It rarely has consequences when the person being threatened is a provider. I've tried to report threatening and even VIOLENT behavior to LE only to be told to scram before they charge me right along with whoever is messing with me. They literally could not care less, and they see our lives as worth LESS. so of course when it happens, we are correct to feel we have nowhere to turn. Just going off of History.

Hey Gals, I have had a surge of inquiries the past few days of people coming at me weird and shady. Trying any and every way they can think of to get around my screening. BS made up references that don't check out. Sweet talking, false info, pretending to be a repeat or a well known trusted person,.and when that doesn't work, straight up telling me that I'm making things horribly complicated for them and hoping I'll second guess my own instincts and knowledge for their anonymous convenience. Guilt trips too. Y'all know all the weird ways bad actors try to get us alone and avoid accountability while making us feel we are totally safe anyway. Some of them are pretty smooth talkers and I can't be the only one seeing a barrage of this nonsense recently. The guys who will see this post aren't the ones I'm warning about, so know that im only posting this to remind the lovely ladies on here and not ripping into all guys at all. I know the vast majority of you fellas are nice guys and not a problem. That said ... Ladies, just a reminder that your safety is the most important thing. Your instincts are there to save your life and you're not crazy for having a bad feeling if you have one. Your needs as far as info to check out a new person are not insane, stupid, or too much to ask of someone who wants alone time with you in person. Please don't let some chucklehead tell you how to look out for your life and livelihoods or ignore your boundaries. You are worth the steps taken by them, to be cleared for an appointment with you. If you have any doubts as to the authenticity of someone claiming to have seen you before, make sure you verify again if you must. Anyone with good intentions will be fine with putting you at ease and assisting you in feeling safe. Don't let some slick stranger trick his way past your safeguards with inappropriate familiarity, cause there are some weird things hitting my DMs lately and I'd hate to see someone run into a problem with some weirdo! Just putting that out there, if in doubt, check it all the way out! Safe Playing for all! 😁

Fixing to be... 40! This is now my tenth year as a Coloradan and my 22nd year um...how does Jez say it again? That right. Surfing the dick pool! So. About 40, and the same 5'7 155 I've been for many years now, save for the nine months I spent making a human during the lockdown. No hooker math required here, I've always been spot on and honest about both my age and my size. I thought about googling a picture using that exact phrase but honestly I'm just too old for that shit now.

I won't go into exactly how I screen publicly, but I have written a how to on screening that I periodically update and distribute among the provider community, and it's considered legit far and wide. But the synopsis of it is that I require a very minimal amount of RW info 100% of the time. I am trying to determine a few things but can dig deeper if needed: 1)is this caller likely or unlikely affilliated with LE? 2)is this caller a real person who intends to give me their business, or is it someone screwing with me for some reason? And 3)if I have seen this person before, did they do straight biz, or were they scandalous? If I cannot definitively answer those three as unlikely, yes, and straight biz, then I can never book them. Plain and simple.

Yeah it's going better...

Yeah it's always a bummer when I spent 30 minutes going back and forth with somebody planning out a meeting on an out, only for them to tell me right as I'm about to leave "car date?" And of course I'm like, you got to be freaking kidding me. It's a good thing I give a damn about my safety my freedom and all that stuff because clearly he doesn't give a damn about mine or his. Any place where the cops can just walk up on me is a no punting zone that's all there is to it. Remind you I am not saying this next thing as to denigrate people who do car dates, on the provider side of it. But, what I will say is that there are levels to this s***, as some famous trap rapper once put it whose name I don't remember now. To me the levels change when the risk of trouble goes up significantly and person inquiring about my ad who knows what's what knows that that's not the level I'm on and not to even ask. There's literally like two people in this entire State who I will do a car date with on an ongoing basis. One of those is someone who literally brings his house to where I may be, parks it, and doesn't give me an ounce of grief or cause any problems with drawing attention or shenanigans. Never haggles. And the other, is someone I've met previously, and without fail we'll will be done in the time it takes us to go through an automatic car wash which I think is not too much to ask on my end to keep us from being spotted and basically sitting ducks. So. You have to have met me previously with zero problems or stress from you, and then on top of that you have to either be in complete and total Minuteman who does whatever I say, or or literally an RV owner driving your whole ass house to my neighborhood to mitigate the risk and inconvenience on my part. I. f you ain't easy as all hell to blow the gasket, and I don't know you why on Earth would I risk it, especially when those very same people who were sending me messages that says nothing but car date? Are also the ones who are using the fact that it's a car date to justify paying me as little as humanly possible. Like not only do you want a risky ass public car session at 2:00 a.m. in front of the Target on Sheridan or something crap like that, but you want to pay me less than half my full rate and you want me present the exact minute you want me there, and you think there's going to be foreplay? Please. When I lay it out like that, it actually being a police sting almost sounds no worse or possibly better. It's just a big ol bag of "fuck that."

Hey everyone. So, I had an appointment early this morning at like 5:30 in the morning, that went pretty terribly wrong and took a dangerous turn. I want to know what my next move should be because I don't feel like I should do nothing or say nothing but I know my options are limited...as follows: I took an appointment from a client this morning even though he lacked the usual information I required to screen through I took alternative information and decided to see him, despite having a feeling that something was up. I'm mad at myself a bit because I rarely ignore my intuition but I did this one time and look what the hell happened... So I show up at the house which is in one of those cookie cutter neighborhoods in Littleton, expensive enough house and so the part of town wasn't sketchy or anything. I didn't know who what the guy looked like or how old he was and when I showed up I was surprised to see that he was a pretty young guy with sort of a gangsta vibe. For the moment I'm going to intentionally leave the race/ethnicity out so don't ask. Had kind of a cocky air to him and I immediately just didn't like him very much, but I went in anyway because everything else looked okay. House was nice it was in order he had a homie asleep on the couch but whatever I don't really care about that very much so we go upstairs, do they session, and he had hit my venmo with my payment up front but mistakenly I did not check it cuz I haven't had anything happen in a long time and was honestly just not thinking that would happen. But we do the session and he finished a little sooner than I guess he wanted to, but whatever I was ready to go then as I am getting ready to go I noticed the shortage, and it's by nearly all of it. He starts walking me down and out to the door and I go back in the room and tell him like no you need to pay me right now don't tell me you're a man of your word and then don't pay me and think I'm just going to walk out of here and not say anything about it. He comes back in there and tells me to quit tripping and I told him quit trying to rip me off especially when I got my butt out there almost immediately after he called. All over the house he then tells me he's going to send me a third of my rate, citing that I didn't have to do any work as he put it, because he didn't last long. I explained to him that I am not subject to being docked because of that. I offered to do a half hour great which I don't normally do on an outcall but I figured it was better than getting nothing so he's walking me down and he still telling me he's going to send me a third of my rate and I went back into this room and said kind of loudly that he can't just do that and that he better effing pay me NOW. AT THIS POINT HE OPENED THE BEDROOM DOOR BACK UP, THEN OPENED A DRAWER ON HIS DESK REVEALING A LARGE AUTOMATIC WEAPON LIKE A MACHINE GUN OF SOME SORT. AND HE JUST LOOKED AT ME ALL SERIOUS AND SAID IN A REALLY LOW VOICE "DO YOU REALLY WANT TO GOING BACK AND FORTH OVER A LITTLE BIT OF MONEY IS IT WORTH IT TO YOU? OR DO YOU THINK MAYBE IT'S A GOOD IDEA FOR YOU TO GO NOW?" SO I SAID "OHHH, SO ITS LIKE THAT." AND HE at this point just said get your ass down the stairs and take the $100 because I'm sick of f****** hearing you talk and you weren't even worth the money anyway because you're ugly as f***. I went ahead and took that as my cue to leave, obviously. ....And obviously I was pretty pissed about it and pretty upset and felt pretty victimized and he knew that he was doing this with someone who in his mind has a little recourse basically someone who has no one that can go to for help and maybe he's right. But I don't feel like I should just leave it alone. I know we have safe reporting laws but I don't really feel comfortable taking advantage of that because I highly doubt that there would be no trouble for me whatsoever. Just because it says that we have immunity doesn't mean that they're not going to find something else to get me for or just completely not believe me or refuse to deal with it all together. I don't want to talk to the police about it, but the fact that a gun was involved and that he clearly lives at the house and doesn't really give a damn that I know where he lives and his full name and all that makes me feel like I should say something to somebody or do something about it and not just keep my mouth shut. Before you respond please understand that I know where I made mistakes I know what not to do in the future now and I know to listen to my damned intuition at all times for the millionth time. So no victim blaming. I don't want to hear it at all. What I'm looking for here specifically is advice on when how if I should proceed with following up on this, with the understanding that I'm not interested in recovering my money at this point I'm interested in preventing future violence and the guy lives in a residential area with kids and stuff. I absolutely think he will do it again even though I wrote a blacklist on him. What the hell do I do now?

I gotta say, that this actor in the lead role is intriguing to me and I'd love to see him become the next big thing after this role. He's not magazine hot, but the front facing personality seems great and he is heavy on charisma. This is my first celeb crush I've had in years 😆😍

It's about this late night talk show and it's host and they are doing a Halloween special and have a variety of interesting guests...set in 1977.

It was kinda fucked up. Id say I liked it though. Definitely some unexpectedness and the ending was interesting to say the least!