Anyone ever fall for a provider?

[Dimmsdale]

This is new to me but there is a provider I see that I have incredible chemistry with. Sometimes, well most of the time when I see a girl I pretend I'm in love with her just to enhance the experience. But this actually took hold. I even had a dream about her which never happens. I was wondering if anyone let themselves fall a little.

[Flanker]

This is new to me but there is a provider I see that I have incredible chemistry with. Sometimes, well most of the time when I see a girl I pretend I'm in love with her just to enhance the experience. But this actually took hold. I even had a dream about her which never happens. I was wondering if anyone let themselves fall a little.

Yes, I have, and very recently. Not a good idea, I discovered for my emotional well-being. I do have "wishes" about this, though.....

[Nusa]

This is new to me but there is a provider I see that I have incredible chemistry with. Sometimes, well most of the time when I see a girl I pretend I'm in love with her just to enhance the experience. But this actually took hold. I even had a dream about her which never happens. I was wondering if anyone let themselves fall a little.

Roleplay is one thing and it is fun. Don't lose sight that only seeing someone for a a few hours total, even in the best of circumstances, does not mean you know them very well at all. The providers discuss high rates of dropping clients who have fallen too much in love with them. Some providers already have S.O.'s and despite how positively they interact with you, they are not looking for a relationship. If you are too much in love that can be a hard fall when/if they break contact with you.

There is a lot of deception in this world and that makes trust take much longer to earn if you can ever get it. People say mean things in this world like "See how much she loves you when you are not paying", but there is some truth to that statement as you are contracting her to make you feel good and that does not mean she feels the same as she acts.

I'm not saying any of this to be mean, just sending some thoughts to keep things in perspective.

[Guest]

Well, good for you. BUT I would like to point out that if she does not feel the same as you, you better play your cards very carefully because if she finds out about this it is going to creep her out if she does not have the same kind of feelings for you (which she probably does not, sorry). If this is something that she does not know about you might want to keep it to yourself because she may cut you off if she suspects that you are in love with her. It's a tough situation to be in.

[Doug28]

Love is easy when its only the really really good stuff.

Sixty minutes of weekly connection and passion love is easy.

Try to remember shes not bitching at you seven days a week, shes not making your life a living hell seven days a week. And you aren't messing with her head seven days a week.

Stay grounded, shut your mouth, enjoy what you have and don't fuck it up.

Easier said than done.

[Dimmsdale]

Oh no, please don't misunderstand me. I am not an idiot. I have no intention of saying anything to her or doing anything about it. I'm no creep, just a romantic who is just a little too involved. I don't need advice I was just curious if there were a few others with some cool stories that's all. I would take her out on a date but I know that would probably be as far as it could go.

[Guest]

Whether you are seeking advice or otherwise, any time you start a thread you are opening it up for discussion. If it is not the type of discussion that YOU like or that YOU expected, well, that is the nature of an open DISCUSSION forum. Thanks for telling me you did not need advice, I am going to offer you some more anyways. If you want to "take her out on a date" make sure it's a PAID date.

Oh no, please don't misunderstand me. I am not an idiot. I have no intention of saying anything to her or doing anything about it. I'm no creep, just a romantic who is just a little too involved. I don't need advice I was just curious if there were a few others with some cool stories that's all. I would take her out on a date but I know that would probably be as far as it could go.

[Songdog57]

I try to stay real clear on why I’m seeing providers. There are a few ladies that I really click with, and that’s a good thing! I think finding someone you can relate to and feel comfortable with enhances the experience a great deal. I have a lot of affection for some of the ladies and I enjoy their company on more than a sexual level. I consider myself lucky that I can call them friends. That doesn’t mean that I want to run off and play house with them, or that they want to do that with me. It isn’t about that at all.

Here’s the thing. I think paying the contribution is just as important for the client as getting the contribution is for the provider. Call me crazy, but there it is. What the providers give me has value to me and the contribution keeps it clean and honest. It helps keep it where it should be in my head. I get to spend time with some wonderful women and all I have to bring to the table is a contribution, respect, and some manners. Oh yeah, I have to clean up real well, too!

If you click with someone enjoy the hell out of it! But don’t burden yourself or her by making it something it ain’t.

Just my two cents worth.

[Pirate]

One of the reasons I see providers so seldom is because sexuality is more than physical to me: there is an emotional and spiritual component as well. Due to this, on several occasions, even though I paid for an hour session I ended up declining to go all the way because it didn't feel right . . . by which I mean I'd rather throw a couple hundred bucks away than either get too close to that person or deal with the drama of walking out.

I respect boundaries. The reason I see providers is because I like the option of being with a woman without a solid commitment. But twice I did fall for a provider and the feeling seemed to be mutual for a while as both stopped charging me and I started to think of them as girlfriends. But life is complicated and people are dishonest and neither relationship lasted more than a few months.

I would be EXTREMELY cautious dating another provider, and as Nusa said you should be careful to keep things in perspective and expect it not to last long.

[mj76]

No, I wouldn't let myself fall even a little. That's not why I'm here and I think that might take the fun out of it for me. That's just one of the reasons I see lots of different ladies.

[urfan]

nope never happened to me . . not even a little bit . . not even once . .

[nairobi09]

If you are in control and truly 'letting it happen' then I do not see the problem. But since deception is involved this is not an easy route to take. More likely your feelings are influenced by the act. Unless you are really experienced in this terrain you are on her turf.

The easiest way to deal with the potential 'problem' is to see a few (or many) women. But as has been suggested, some of us want the emotional connection so we take the risk. I will admit that I have been hurt at least once. But I learned from it.

[limey]

Its been close in my hobby life. It does feel spectacular when you have that connection.

Always remember you pay money to get that connection. You pay money for that lust to be so wonderfully satisfied. If you keep the money in front, as she does, the needed emotional distance will be there. Any emotional moves must be hers.

Twice I got close. Not bad, but a lot as you describe. Both times ended badly. One was my fault and one was not. Great memories tho. Now, a comfortable distance is required by me.

[Paul Pudenda]

One of the biggest mistakes I ever made.

[Guest hgritstoo]

The money. The money. The money.

Songdog is right....it's just as important for the client as it is the provider. I fall in love a little bit every time I see a provider. Fortunately, it wears off after a few days. I really think it's the way evolution wired us guys.

The money is a vital part of the ritual to remind the male brain that this is BUSINESS.

The ladies all fall in love with me, too.

LOL....yeah.......Wheres that sarcasm font?

[Whatdah]

well most of the time when I see a girl I pretend I'm in love with her

yikes.

see the post from hgritstoo, read it. then read it again. especially the part about this being a business.

[boink36]

The money. The money. The money.

Songdog is right....it's just as important for the client as it is the provider. I fall in love a little bit every time I see a provider. Fortunately, it wears off after a few days. I really think it's the way evolution wired us guys.

The money is a vital part of the ritual to remind the male brain that this is BUSINESS.

The ladies all fall in love with me, too.

LOL....yeah.......Wheres that sarcasm font?

Grits, I fixed your post.

[parkercole]

i fall in love all the friken time!!!! i kid i kid........

[Guest mario66]

One of the biggest mistakes I ever made.

+1 Same here, so I'm in love for that one hour is all

[defendingbluelines-5503]

Have I fallen in love with a provider? No - I have not. I have made what I consider to be good friends with very well defined boundaries exactly 3 times. But none that I would consider love. Could it happen - yeah, maybe. If all the stars aligned, the earth shook, and the heavens sang.... Sure it could happen.

[louisville42]

When I first started this, years ago, there was a woman with whom I really clicked, and that was mutual. As soon as I started to feel that little tug at the heart, tightness in the chest, that comes in the initial stages of a crush, I stopped seeing her for a few months and went elsewhere until I was sure I had that shit under control!

[Ashley]

Hi Dimmsdale!

As a former provider, I have had more than a few guys genuinely fall for me, as I'm sure all ladies do. That's a whole other Oprah, though lol

There were only 3 gentlemen who I returned those feelings for. I dated one of them a couple of times but because of timing, it didn't work out.

I dated another one for 5 years. It was instant chemistry the 1st time we met, but he could not handle my escorting in the end and I could see our relationship was going nowhere. As much as I would have loved to quit escorting for him, circumstances did not allow me to.

I married the 3rd client. I had seen him for a few years and because the stars aligned on both of our parts, we fell in love and have been happily married for 6 years. He was truly my knight in shining armor, and that is why I am now retired.

There have been many client/provider relationships. Some work out, some don't. It just depends on the situation and the timing. I would say to take a chance and tell her how you feel. You never know!

Ashley xoxo

[Flanker]

Hi Dimmsdale!

As a former provider, I have had more than a few guys genuinely fall for me, as I'm sure all ladies do. That's a whole other Oprah, though lol

There were only 3 gentlemen who I returned those feelings for. I dated one of them a couple of times but because of timing, it didn't work out.

I dated another one for 5 years. It was instant chemistry the 1st time we met, but he could not handle my escorting in the end and I could see our relationship was going nowhere. As much as I would have loved to quit escorting for him, circumstances did not allow me to.

I married the 3rd client. I had seen him for a few years and because the stars aligned on both of our parts, we fell in love and have been happily married for 6 years. He was truly my knight in shining armor, and that is why I am now retired.

There have been many client/provider relationships. Some work out, some don't. It just depends on the situation and the timing. I would say to take a chance and tell her how you feel. You never know!

Ashley xoxo

Thanks for what you said....I appreciated hearing it very much.

[Dimmsdale]

Hi Dimmsdale!

As a former provider, I have had more than a few guys genuinely fall for me, as I'm sure all ladies do. That's a whole other Oprah, though lol

There were only 3 gentlemen who I returned those feelings for. I dated one of them a couple of times but because of timing, it didn't work out.

I dated another one for 5 years. It was instant chemistry the 1st time we met, but he could not handle my escorting in the end and I could see our relationship was going nowhere. As much as I would have loved to quit escorting for him, circumstances did not allow me to.

I married the 3rd client. I had seen him for a few years and because the stars aligned on both of our parts, we fell in love and have been happily married for 6 years. He was truly my knight in shining armor, and that is why I am now retired.

There have been many client/provider relationships. Some work out, some don't. It just depends on the situation and the timing. I would say to take a chance and tell her how you feel. You never know!

Ashley xoxo

Thank you for your honesty and bravery in posting this. Takes a cool person to do so and likewise for your husband.

I'd like to hear some other stories if anyone else is brave.

[ImJustAvg]

One of the biggest mistakes I ever made.

+2 - and most expensive one also

[Old_Timer]

This is new to me but there is a provider I see that I have incredible chemistry with. Sometimes, well most of the time when I see a girl I pretend I'm in love with her just to enhance the experience. But this actually took hold. I even had a dream about her which never happens. I was wondering if anyone let themselves fall a little.

Hey, this happens a lot with women who are kind and generous. This is why I don't hobby when I'm in a working, committed relationship.

More dangerous is the desire to "rescue" a provider. If you ever start feeling this way, do yourself a favor and move on. Do not pass Go; forget about the $200.

[Mustang87]

I tend to fall for one about every 2-3 weeks. However, I usually get over her about an hour later.

[blowmar]

No, but I'm being stalked by one...

[passiondog]

This reminds me of a poster I saw once, hell it may have even been posted here, I am trying to remember exactly what it said but the jist of it is there was this incredibly hot babe I think she was coming out of a pool and the caption said, Somebody somewhere is tired of putting up with her shit. Classic.

[Nusa]

passiondog said:

This reminds me of a poster I saw once, hell it may have even been posted here, I am trying to remember exactly what it said but the jist of it is there was this incredibly hot babe I think she was coming out of a pool and the caption said, Somebody somewhere is tired of putting up with her shit. Classic.

One of many out there.