What do you tell your SO when she finds your hobby phone?

[Guest PaulsBack]

Like many on this board, I have a hobby phone that I keep out of sight until needed, such as on the top shelf of a bookcase. Several times in the last few weeks, just by chance, my SO almost came across it. I've decided that I need to have an explanation ready if she should happen to find it. Problem is I can't think of a good reason why I would have an extra cell phone. Any suggestions? Secret agent/government spy is the best I can come up with.

[*Merlin]

Like many on this board, I have a hobby phone that I keep out of sight until needed, such as on the top shelf of a bookcase. Several times in the last few weeks, just by chance, my SO almost came across it. I've decided that I need to have an explanation ready if she should happen to find it. Problem is I can't think of a good reason why I would have an extra cell phone. Any suggestions? Secret agent/government spy is the best I can come up with.

You got PM.

[Guest kelso1342]

Oh, I have a good one. Because lord knows she's going to find it eventually (and in my case she's proven me right). Women get in everything.

I actually told my wife that I have another phone and showed it to her. It gets kept in the glove box of my car for emergencies, like if I get in a wreck and forgot my other phone or my regular phone gets ejected from the car (this can actually be a thing, I've heard). My excuse was so believable that I bought it too, and use the phone as such. With records deleted, of course.

[kymalex]

emergency phone if your service get turned off or if u get bad service in certain areas. tell her that phone is for emergencys only.

[meganrae28]

The correct response is to:

1. Admit Nothing i.e., silence, evasive comments

2. Deny Everything i.e., "I've never seen that phone."

3. Make Counter-Accusations i.e., "Are you cheating on me? Is this your boyfriend's phone? He sure does have a lot of other girlfriends. We should use condoms from now on."

[urfan]

this probably isn't the answer you were looking for but here goes for what is known these days as a 'teachable moment.'

i use a trac phone as my only cell phone. about 2 years ago, my s.o. started fishing through the contact list and deciphered my thinly veiled code for numbers of some ladies here. when she confronted me, i decided to man up and tell her the unvarnished truth - plus i'm a terrible liar.

that admission blew up my 24-year marriage but it did lead to a positive outcome. instead of concocting all sorts of b.s. and passive-aggressively hanging onto a doomed relationship at any cost, i realized that it was time to come clean with her and be up front about where i was at in the long, slow, painful disintegration of our marriage. i moved out and moved forward.

i must say in hindsight it was a blessing in disguise. not that many others would choose this difficult path, but as it relates to a recent thread here, why are you cheating on your s.o. with escorts anyway? if you're that unhappy, at least be honest with yourself. and just maybe you owe it to the s.o. to be honest with her also.

[lilithia]

Not sure is what the old married farts want to hear. So my question for you is if she would not have found out of your double life would you still be in the doomed marriage. And why did you stay in it ?

lilithia

[Ghost_Rider]

The correct response is to:

1. Admit Nothing i.e., silence, evasive comments

2. Deny Everything i.e., "I've never seen that phone."

3. Make Counter-Accusations i.e., "Are you cheating on me? Is this your boyfriend's phone? He sure does have a lot of other girlfriends. We should use condoms from now on."

Nice.....and add one more: 5. "I found this phone by your car, I've been meaning to ask you about it but just didn't want to mess up a good thing".

And then you tell her......."The truth is, I'm not about to let something like this screw up 20 years of marriage and the lives and future of our wonderful children, through a very messy, expensive and painful seperation/divorce, just because you wanted a little happiness and/or variety in your life".

I'm also mature enough to realize that if I treat you like sh*t for long enough, you will look elsewhere for happiness, even if it's a temporary high. Furthermore, selfishness for our own well being and/or happiness is meaningless, compared to the happiness and future of our kids, no matter how miserable we may be. So for right now.....we will let this go, at least untill the kids are grown." .

And that's what you say to her

[meganrae28]

Yes, this would be my alternative advice. There is truth to "the truth shall set you free." I recently "outed" myself to a close relative because my "strange" behavior, which was really just me hiding my life as a provider, concerned her so rather than lie I simply told her the truth.

This did not go over well initially. I felt awful. She felt awful.

As time passed, very awkwardly, the shock faded, the guilt faded, and communication became better. Now I actually have her approval. In a million years, I would have never thought this would be the outcome of something I had feared for so long.

I know this likely doesn't apply to a marriage. My point is that going through the painful consequences of telling the truth can be worth it for everyone in the end.

i must say in hindsight it was a blessing in disguise. not that many others would choose this difficult path...

Edited August 9, 2012 by meganrae28
bad grammar

[Bigguy]

I don't have a hobby phone. I just don't keep provider numbers and erase my history every so often whether I have seen anybody or not and for sure right after seeing someone. since I no longer get a paper bill listing calls made it is all very innocent.

[jackg720]

No hobby phone here either. I don't snoop in her shit and she doesn't snoop in mine. Although if I did have one I'd leave it in my car with the "its a coworkers" excuse or in the pistol safe that she doesn't have access to.

Though in my line of work I get 2nd phones from employers for on call stuff so its easily passed off as that if i wanted.

[Fritzie]

I would tell her you found it and cant get figure out how to return it to the owner. Make sure you have no numbers stored and that call history is kept erased.... At least think of a better place to hide it for starters... geeeze.

[Ryann]

SORRY?

[2Big]

Like many on this board, I have a hobby phone that I keep out of sight until needed, such as on the top shelf of a bookcase. Several times in the last few weeks, just by chance, my SO almost came across it. I've decided that I need to have an explanation ready if she should happen to find it. Problem is I can't think of a good reason why I would have an extra cell phone. Any suggestions? Secret agent/government spy is the best I can come up with.

There is an entire story line on Breaking Bad, with Walter White trying to explain to his wife why he needs a second phone.

You're fucked.

[2Big]

I would tell her you found it and cant get figure out how to return it to the owner.

Sounds like a great plan. And for safe-keeping, you decided to put it on top of the book shelf.

[Guest RomaPhobos]

The correct response is to:

1. Admit Nothing i.e., silence, evasive comments

2. Deny Everything i.e., "I've never seen that phone."

3. Make Counter-Accusations i.e., "Are you cheating on me? Is this your boyfriend's phone? He sure does have a lot of other girlfriends. We should use condoms from now on."

This had me rolling.

Thank you.

[mrvegas63]

On a similar bent, if one has an iPhone, this app could give one a pseudo burner phone: maybe a little easier to explain away a burner app?

http://www.techhive.com/article/2000281/burner-for-ios-lets-you-make-disposable-phone-numbers.html

[Guest Jake]

I guess the most obvious question to ask is...if this has happened several times over the past few weeks...why are you still keeping it there:eek:

Like many on this board, I have a hobby phone that I keep out of sight until needed, such as on the top shelf of a bookcase. Several times in the last few weeks, just by chance, my SO almost came across it. I've decided that I need to have an explanation ready if she should happen to find it. Problem is I can't think of a good reason why I would have an extra cell phone. Any suggestions? Secret agent/government spy is the best I can come up with.

[dangle]

Sounds like she's got your number

[parkercole]

secret agent/goverment spy would be your only logical answer if you get caught with a second phone, really! i suppose the bigger question is if she'd be that big of a sucka to buy it?

not trying to be holier than thou. but i did get caught, and i had no explanation what so ever!

the only advice i can give from my experience is date exclusively and be sexually loyal. or don't get in a serious relationship and hobby to your hearts desire!

if you do engage in duplicitous activities keep it minimal (second phone to me is a bad idea if dating) and cover your tracks!!!!

best of luck!

[Krokus]

Like many on this board, I have a hobby phone that I keep out of sight until needed, such as on the top shelf of a bookcase. Several times in the last few weeks, just by chance, my SO almost came across it. I've decided that I need to have an explanation ready if she should happen to find it. Problem is I can't think of a good reason why I would have an extra cell phone. Any suggestions? Secret agent/government spy is the best I can come up with.

The fact that you mention she ALMOST ran accross it several times and you have yet to move the phone and you are looking for us for an excuse just in case she finds it leads me to belive you get what you desirve if she finds the phone,.. move the fucking phone

　

Keep it in the trunk of your car under the matt

Safety deposit box at the bank

Get a po box and mail yourself a letter in a 8x10 envelope and keep your phone there in the envelope

go to the po box pick it up use it and put it back in the 8x10 when you are done

(i have a po box and sometimes do not check but once a month post office do not care about the mail that sits in your po box)

Keep it at work in your desk

Keep it in you gym locker

Keep it in your garage maybe up in the rafters

it is not rocket science

[Bit Banger]

...

Get a po box and mail yourself a letter in a 8x10 envelope and keep your phone there in the envelope

go to the po box pick it up use it and put it back in the 8x10 when you are done ...

A very novel idea. Me like!

Just one problem. What do you do when she finds the paper trail to the PO box?

Edited August 12, 2012 by Bit Banger
Added 'paper trail' remark

[Guest hgritstoo]

Do you shoot? Do you reload?

You know that big box of fired 44 mag brass you've been meaning to get to for a long time?

Yeah...put it there. At the bottom.

[FatDog]

tell her its my hooker phone.

[Krokus]

A very novel idea. Me like!

Just one problem. What do you do when she finds the paper trail to the PO box?

what paper trail? you pay in cash and throw the recipt away in the trash can

on the way out the door or don't ask for one .....you pay once a year

there is NO PAPER TRAIL

[Lovely_Leigh]

I always hide things in plain site because it's easily explainable. Watch an episode of "Doomsday Preppers" and decide to buy a few things you might need if there is a disaster such as a 200+lm, water proof matches, and a tracfone with $20 worth of minutes. Keep it in your "junk drawer" in your kitchen. Do you have children? Give them a toy phone you "found in the 7/11 parking lot and hey! it's got a few minutes left on it." The emergency phone in the glove box is a good idea and is beyond plausible. Also the attic and duct tape are your friends. I would hope this goes without saying but don't leave numbers and call logs on your phone.

[mtnman2000]

You could do a gantt chart on this...

If your phone is in your house or car, it's possible to get caught. If your phone is somewhere she can't or won't go, then your safe.

Whether you want to get caught is an entirely different issue.

One idea is a post office box. So so idea. A private mail box is slightly better.

A private humidor at a cigar store.

A private locker at a health club.

Safe deposit box but this does have a paper trail and not simple.

Can you wipe clean your phone tracks via an app? Or use an app for phone calls such as Skype?

[A-rod]

1) Slowly start complaining about minor annoyances with your main phone.

2) Miss an occasional call from wife or drop the call intentionally.

3) Mention you are going to take your phone in to store to have it checked...

4) Suggest you think you need a cheap (disposable) backup phone in case your phone is actually dying. Mention how cheap they are and it's "just in case".

5) Show the replacement phone, leave it around a bit.

6) "Find" a rom update for your primary phone that you apply which solves you phone issues...

Now you have an excuse for that other phone that may be found somewhere at some time...

[kevluvsflex]

That's when you go all caveman on her.

"Bitch, you don't question me. This is my house!"

[Guest]

Are you Italian by chance?

lmao

I chose to do the

"its an Italian thing" route,

and then say that in order to protect them,

its better that he know nothing.

It worked for awhile... until "supplies" were found.

Then the SO asked if I was fuckn my boss.

The truth eventually came out....

For the guys who do have a SO

keep your play phone at work or

in the garage hidden.

Bookshelf isn't to sneaky lol

Edited August 22, 2012 by ShellyReed
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