Posted December 28, 2018 Most people associate intimacy with sex. In reality intimacy is about truth and trust. Intimacy is knowing you can allow not just the good but the bad and the ugly be seen by your partner. Intimacy is allowing them to know your weakness. Intimacy is knowing they will never exploit any of that and that they will accept you and love you. 16 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 28, 2018 2 minutes ago, oldertruckguy-9225 said: Most people associate intimacy with sex. In reality intimacy is about truth and trust. Intimacy is knowing you can allow not just the good but the bad and the ugly be seen by your partner. Intimacy is allowing them to know your weakness. Intimacy is knowing they will never exploit any of that and that they will accept you and love you. +1000 👍 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 28, 2018 6 minutes ago, oldertruckguy-9225 said: Most people associate intimacy with sex. In reality intimacy is about truth and trust. Intimacy is knowing you can allow not just the good but the bad and the ugly be seen by your partner. Intimacy is allowing them to know your weakness. Intimacy is knowing they will never exploit any of that and that they will accept you and love you. I think there is no opposition. Your definition is great, and it's because of what you say that intimacy is especially expressed and shared during sex. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 28, 2018 5 minutes ago, oldertruckguy-9225 said: Most people associate intimacy with sex. In reality intimacy is about truth and trust. Intimacy is knowing you can allow not just the good but the bad and the ugly be seen by your partner. Intimacy is allowing them to know your weakness. Intimacy is knowing they will never exploit any of that and that they will accept you and love you. I agree. Yet I am stuck on intimacy and being intimate. Intimacy is for the long term commitment type. Being intimate is something I share with a provider. I will shut up and return to the football game. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 28, 2018 19 minutes ago, oldertruckguy-9225 said: Most people associate intimacy with sex. In reality intimacy is about truth and trust. Intimacy is knowing you can allow not just the good but the bad and the ugly be seen by your partner. Intimacy is allowing them to know your weakness. Intimacy is knowing they will never exploit any of that and that they will accept you and love you. very well said intimacy is the ultimate in Trust 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 28, 2018 "Intimacy" when googled returns all kinds of hugging, touching & Cuddling..... 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 28, 2018 17 minutes ago, Kaduk said: "Intimacy" when googled returns all kinds of hugging, touching & Cuddling..... All that mushy gushy love stuff 😋 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 28, 2018 1 hour ago, oldertruckguy-9225 said: Most people associate intimacy with sex. In reality intimacy is about truth and trust. Intimacy is knowing you can allow not just the good but the bad and the ugly be seen by your partner. Intimacy is allowing them to know your weakness. Intimacy is knowing they will never exploit any of that and that they will accept you and love you. Beautifully put! 💓 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 28, 2018 Intimacy is a "womens' word". She tells you she does not just want to have sex, but to share intimacy. She begins to tell you many thoughts, feelings, experiences...and prompts you to do the same. You share some too. Then comes the magical moment! She looks deeply into your eyes...opens her lips and say...." Let's just be friends." ..........stupid intimacy....... 5 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 29, 2018 Great topic. I love your definition, Oldertruckguy. I have said this many times before, but probably not here: Intimacy does not equal sex. Sex does not equal intimacy. The words have been used interchangeably and should not be. You can have great sex w/o intimacy. You can have intimacy without having sex at all. When you have both together, it is a magical & powerful combination. Break the word down: Into-me-see, and it tells you what intimacy is about. 5 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 29, 2018 3 hours ago, milehijas said: ... Break the word down: Into-me-see, and it tells you what intimacy is about. Another great explanation. 👍 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 29, 2018 (edited) 17 hours ago, Admiral C said: Intimacy is a "womens' word". She tells you she does not just want to have sex, but to share intimacy. She begins to tell you many thoughts, feelings, experiences...and prompts you to do the same. You share some too. Then comes the magical moment! She looks deeply into your eyes...opens her lips and say...." Let's just be friends." ..........stupid intimacy....... There it is. Not sure if the OP was referring to the hobby, in which I have met a few great providers, perhaps not the right one but, intimacy is not something I have and don't believe can experience in the hobby where, after all is said and done, it's all about the Benjamins. Edited December 29, 2018 by Hobby Hobbit 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 29, 2018 2 hours ago, Hobby Hobbit said: There it is. Not sure if the OP was referring to the hobby, in which I have met a few great providers, perhaps not the right one but, intimacy is not something I have and don't believe can experience in the hobby where, after all is said and done, it's all about the Benjamins. Type Type Type.... Delete Delete Delete... Type Type Type.... Delete Delete Delete... Type Type Type.... Delete Delete Delete… "I learned long ago, never to wrestle with a pig. You get dirty, and besides, the pig likes it." George Bernard Shaw 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 29, 2018 1 hour ago, BeenHereDoingThis said: Type Type Type.... Delete Delete Delete... Type Type Type.... Delete Delete Delete... Type Type Type.... Delete Delete Delete… "I learned long ago, never to wrestle with a pig. You get dirty, and besides, the pig likes it." George Bernard Shaw Then peck along little chicken 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 29, 2018 So what does this have to do with the price of tea in China? 🤔 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 29, 2018 19 minutes ago, Mr.Pink said: So what does this have to do with the price of tea in China? 🤔 That depends on how fast your schooner is. A nice cuppa tea can lead to intimate conversations. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 30, 2018 3 hours ago, Bit Banger said: That depends on how fast your schooner is. A nice cuppa tea can lead to intimate conversations. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 30, 2018 4 hours ago, Bit Banger said: That depends on how fast your schooner is. A nice cuppa tea can lead to intimate conversations. 34 minutes ago, pfunk said: SS Bit Banger #Ifixditforyou 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 30, 2018 I think there are different levels of intimacy and connection, depending on the relationship. I have good intimate relationships with some friends because we feel free to share things that may be off limits with others. I had an incredible intimate relationship with my ex-wife for many years, which was on a whole different level. I have a sense of connection and some intimacy with some in the hobby, but in different ways than with other relationships. Emotional intimacy is great. Physical intimacy is wonderful. When those are combined, it is quite special and not easily found. Intimacy has a sense of vulnerability and feeling safe is important. Intimacy means letting the other know about you...warts and all, not just the "good things". As has been said, there has to be some level of trust involved. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 30, 2018 Oh how I love words, I am so into her and she is "So into me, see". Sorry, couldn't help myself...such a dork. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 30, 2018 On 12/28/2018 at 1:43 PM, oldertruckguy-9225 said: Most people associate intimacy with sex. In reality intimacy is about truth and trust. Intimacy is knowing you can allow not just the good but the bad and the ugly be seen by your partner. Intimacy is allowing them to know your weakness. Intimacy is knowing they will never exploit any of that and that they will accept you and love you. I love this and thank you for sharing. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 3, 2019 Intimacy and vulnerability can be a weakness within itself. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 3, 2019 Oldertruckguy is, of course, correct in his definition. I'd only submit that the word is a euphemism often employed to file off the rough edges when referring to the more physical aspects of the hobby. I've used it a lot in reviews and believe most of us could agree that 'being intimate' sounds better than, omitting the four letter terms, 'getting sticky'. And yes, if nothing else, this blog proves I also have a dictionary. LOL 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites