Posted November 2, 2012 Here is my take on this... What separates a decently successful hobbyist (sometimes gets the girl he wants, strikes out as often as he hits, expends a lot of cell minutes trying to hook up)...from the hobbyist who quietly and confidently enjoys the sensual delights of his absolute favorites? After years in this delicate dance, I've seen the good, the bad and absolutely unforgivable. In the process, I've learned a few things myself. So here is my take.... 1. Highly Effective Hobbyists PLAN AHEAD. Would you wait for the night of the Prince concert to call TicketMaster? OK, then. 2. Highly Effective Hobbyists OFFER THEIR CREDENTIALS. If the provider doesn't know you, a one-line email stating, "Hi, I'm Joe, Are you available tonight?" is going straight into the trash. Most reputable providers offer fairly easy screening shortcuts through Date-Check, RS2K or Preferred 411, Would you let a nameless, potentially nefarious stranger into your bedroom? OK, maybe if her tits were big enough. But the girls have tits of their own. 3. Highly Effective Hobbyists DO THEIR RESEARCH. 4. Highly Effective Hobbyists LEAVE THEIR EGO AT THE DOOR. Confidence is sexy.... arrogance is as fowl as bad breath. This goes too providers . 5. Highly Effective Hobbyists LEAVE Providers WANTING MORE. You wouldn't linger at the party till the exhausted hosts stagger off to bed. So when you're enjoying the lady's company, be equally aware that when the party's over, it's over. Providers should feel regretful that you had to leave after only an hour... not that they had to drag your ass to the door after you camped out for an extra 30 minutes, sloooowly tying your shoes. That's what loafers are for. 6. Highly Effective Hobbyists LIKE WOMEN. As odd as it may sound, some of their clients resent providers, look down on them, and simply don't have their best interests at heart. These are the fellows who quiz them on their private lives, ask real names, disclose confidential details to other parties, or gossip about them to others 7. Highly Effective Hobbyists KNOW IT'S JUST A HOBBY. Yes, we love being together for an hour or two... and when you're genuinely nice, many providrs will often have very fond feelings for your presence in their lives. But understand guys it's not going anywhere beyond that last encounter.... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 2, 2012 Excellent list, Yukon. All I can add is: 8. Highly effective hobbyists ENJOY THE GAME and the variety, but also RECOGNIZE OUTSTANDING TALENT that can benefit from further 'investigation'. Strike a nice balance and feel free to delve into a longer-term partnership when that chemistry is there. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 2, 2012 BRAVO! Well stated. Treat her and her time with respect. You will be rewared next time. It's a hobby, its supposed to be fun, for both of you. Excellent words of wisdom. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 2, 2012 Even though I am new to this, I have quickly realized your words of wisdom. Many apply to civilian life as well. Great post! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 2, 2012 WOW a guy who gets it. Excellent post, just excellent! Thank you for your observations and for posting them. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 2, 2012 Great post! A lot of excellent advice. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 2, 2012 Great post. I like Chunky's addition, and there are probably a few others, but for a first 7 - great job. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 2, 2012 Really good post! Add: Control your expectations it will help avoid disappointment. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 2, 2012 Very nice post. I guess I'll have to settle with 6 out of 7 . I've never had the luxury of planning ahead, (probably never will). The times I've tried only ended in a cancellation call (which is even worse than last minute scheduling in my eyes). 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 2, 2012 9. Highly Effective Hobbyists always go in with a positive attitude. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 2, 2012 9. Highly Effective Hobbyists always go in with a positive attitude. Definitely. Great advice for life as well as the hobby. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 3, 2012 10. Treat the young lady with "respect". 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 3, 2012 I always tell those folks starting a new job that if they follow 3 rules, they will succeed: 1) show up. (on time!) 2) follow directions. 3) smile. Judging from the many posts on this board, it seems that a lot of hobbyists have trouble with these....particularly number 2. Every lady seems to like it a bit different....and I'm not talking about the "fun stuff." It doesn't take that much time to read a ladies ad and/or webpage to learn her protocols. It's not brain surgery. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 3, 2012 Here is my take on this... What separates a decently successful hobbyist (sometimes gets the girl he wants, strikes out as often as he hits, expends a lot of cell minutes trying to hook up)...from the hobbyist who quietly and confidently enjoys the sensual delights of his absolute favorites? After years in this delicate dance, I've seen the good, the bad and absolutely unforgivable. In the process, I've learned a few things myself. So here is my take.... 1. Highly Effective Hobbyists PLAN AHEAD. Would you wait for the night of the Prince concert to call TicketMaster? OK, then. 2. Highly Effective Hobbyists OFFER THEIR CREDENTIALS. If the provider doesn't know you, a one-line email stating, "Hi, I'm Joe, Are you available tonight?" is going straight into the trash. Most reputable providers offer fairly easy screening shortcuts through Date-Check, RS2K or Preferred 411, Would you let a nameless, potentially nefarious stranger into your bedroom? OK, maybe if her tits were big enough. But the girls have tits of their own. 3. Highly Effective Hobbyists DO THEIR RESEARCH. 4. Highly Effective Hobbyists LEAVE THEIR EGO AT THE DOOR. Confidence is sexy.... arrogance is as fowl as bad breath. This goes for providers too. 5. Highly Effective Hobbyists LEAVE Providers WANTING MORE. You wouldn't linger at the party till the exhausted hosts stagger off to bed. So when you're enjoying the lady's company, be equally aware that when the party's over, it's over. Providers should feel regretful that you had to leave after only an hour... not that they had to drag your ass to the door after you camped out for an extra 30 minutes, sloooowly tying your shoes. That's what loafers are for. 6. Highly Effective Hobbyists LIKE WOMEN. As odd as it may sound, some of their clients resent providers, look down on them, and simply don't have their best interests at heart. These are the fellows who quiz them on their private lives, ask real names, disclose confidential details to other parties, or gossip about them to others 7. Highly Effective Hobbyists KNOW IT'S JUST A HOBBY. Yes, we love being together for an hour or two... and when you're genuinely nice, many providrs will often have very fond feelings for your presence in their lives. But understand guys it's not going anywhere beyond that last encounter.... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 3, 2012 http://discovertabu.blogspot.de/2007/07/7-habits-of-highly-effective-hobbyists.html 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 3, 2012 So Yukon, are your really Taboo? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 3, 2012 http://discovertabu.blogspot.de/2007/07/7-habits-of-highly-effective-hobbyists.html Good catch! Plagiarism...it's what's we read here. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 3, 2012 So Yukon, are your really Taboo? Probably. Definitely a provider. The mods should look into this. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 3, 2012 Probably. Definitely a provider. The mods should look into this. pffft I've seen this before on this board and in the outside world. Most recently - http://www.rollingstone.com/movies/news/friday-night-lights-creator-calls-out-mitt-romney-for-using-show-mantra-20121012 (and people, don't hijack this into a politics thread). My point is.. .. people cite sources all the time and may infer that it's their own, because: - it makes them feel better - they want to establish themselves as original and thought-provoking - they're truly of the same belief of what they cite - they just don't think it through In the literary world, it's a no-no. On the product board I moderate, it becomes laughable and there is either back-tracking or sales/reputation fallout. In the TOB world.. f that. View the situation FWIW and to how it may affect either your hobbying or booking. So either Yukon is the original writer, or had Romnesia. I for one, won't "look into" anything unless it affects my responsibilities within board moderating guidelines. I will follow any request by the original writer if submitted... .. but if I step back and re-read.. there are some (it's common sense, granted), good points for noobs to follow. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 3, 2012 oh hell i plagiarize all the dam time. i do have some original thoughts on things but by and large there's thoughts already out there that fit sometimes and better put than i could do it. nothing wrong with that. after all we're not following strict rules of <ahem> journalistic ethics on this little escort blog. it's just a good addition to the hobby for both sides i think and makes it that much more enjoyable 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 4, 2012 Really ....Plagiarism is the biggest worry in this hobby??? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 5, 2012 Really ....Plagiarism is the biggest worry in this hobby??? Of course not - spelling and grammar are. Have you not paid attention? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 5, 2012 Highly effective hoobyists also tip. You tip the waiter but not the escort What is more important????? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 5, 2012 A waiter/waitress works for less than minimum wage so I think tipping them is more important. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 5, 2012 A waiter/waitress works for less than minimum wage so I think tipping them is more important. My general policy involves who sets compensation. If the establishment, not the individual, sets rates, tips are warranted. If the individual sets the rate, tips for exceptional service only. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 5, 2012 Highly effective hoobyists also tip. You tip the waiter but not the escort What is more important????? To Insure Proper Service I also tend to determine tips based on who sets the rate of a bill. When a diner automatically adds the gratuity to my bill, I absolutly do not add additional, even though the added amount is usually less than I would offer. Any tip that the provider gets is for something OVER and ABOVE the expected service. I do not tip a waiter when all they do is bring me my food and the drink I ordered..... their tip is dependant upon the "extra" that they do to make my meal memorable. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 11, 2012 You my dear should write the first Hobby hand book. Standing Ovation. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 12, 2012 "Say it ain't so Shoeless Joe." 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 26, 2012 http://discovertabu.blogspot.de/2007/07/7-habits-of-highly-effective-hobbyists.html Dont know if this is on here but please smell nice, bathe , use mouthwash and not too much cologne . 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 27, 2012 I love how you frame this and the supporting comments as well! I would add one thing - highly effective hobbyist take their time - which I guess goes to planning ahead and doing research! I have very seldom ever met a lady the same day. Plus - I always bring a gift - just my personal preference - candles, wine, chocolates etc - and it is always about having a good experience - but that goes into the planning phase! Even if people have heard this before - it is always a good reminder since we heard so many things about hobbyists who have bad experiences! Well done Yukon! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
