Anyone have luck with the sugar daddy sites?

[diggitydawg]

Seeing if anyone here has had experience on one of the sugar sites. I've thought about giving it a try. Any advice?

[Alex Majors]

I have been on Seeking Arrangements for a little over a year. It costs me $90 a month to message without a photo. You can get on and  see girls or build up a bunch of numbers. Then stop the auto-renewal but keep your profile up,  until you want to start paying again. 

First there are some really nice college age or 20 somethings on there. Some think they can charge what the big traveling girls do. I get numbers from $400 to even $1000. Sometimes they will negotiate the rate down,  if you tell them no. $500 seems to be most common. Almost all expect you to host them, so you have a cost of a room added to their rate. They usually aren't clock watchers, so you can get 90 min to 2 hrs out of most. There are country girls and will drive a couple hours to see you, for a few extra bucks for gas. Some want to fool themselves that they aren't escorting. So it can also include a dinner date. I can be seen in public, so it is nice.  I have had good success with girls who charge $250-$400 pay per meet. There really aren't many providers in my area, in the 18-25 range. You will also recognize some providers utilizing the site also.

Downside is it is a lot of work. Most won't come out and tell you what they are willing to do, unlike here. So you can message over several days, then they quit responding. They are also flaky. You can be ghosted after setting a time or getting a room. I guess cold feet or a better offer. Unlike the TOB  girls here who are all business.There are also a lot of scammers who never intend to meet. Set up fake profiles with stolen photos. They will want to sell pics or videos. Give you some sob story and their cash app account number. Hoping to get you to just send them money online. Some think they can get large sums just talking on the phone, texting or going out on platonic dates. Some will want the old give me something up front. Like gas money. It is only $50 and I will come see you. Also expect to provide a pic or two. I suggest some off your FB or another online photo. Just incase you need to provide a alibi. Say someone stole your photos. Also you need to make sure you bring your own protection. In my own experience, I would say about half will bareback you.

 

 

[pfunk]

11 hours ago, Alex Majors said:

It costs me $90 a month to message without a photo. 

$500 seems to be most common. Almost all expect you to host them, so you have a cost of a room added to their rate. They usually aren't clock watchers, so you can get 90 min to 2 hrs out of most. 

Downside is it is a lot of work.

Also you need to make sure you bring your own protection. In my own experience, I would say about half will bareback you.

I can't see any advantage over escorts. In fact, I'd say escorts are far easier, and economical. for me. 

However, if you have few escorts in your area, I understand the attraction.

[Alex Majors]

You are right about escorts being more economical. They are and you know by reviews what to expect. It is that there very few,  if not any at all in the 18-25 range here.  Plus these girls are low volume and truly the girl next door.  Most don't hang around for long. Constant turnover.

[Inu2]

   I've been on SB for a few years and it's a crap shoot for sure.  I was fairly lucky at first, but this last year has been full of scammers and flakes.  After chatting with a few they all of a sudden want a down payment or allowance without even meeting.  I tell them I don't give up the $$ without a meet and they usally disappear, so I block them.  SB was better at the beginning as they showed how long the girl has been on SB and when they were on last.  They also showed if your message was read but now it costs you points to know if it was read.  (BS is you ask me).  When I"m out of points, I will flush them as it's just not worth the hassle with all the flakes and scammers and the changes that they made toward paying clients to make them pay more. 

Bottom line:  Just do the providers as they deliver what you want without all the work and discouragement. 

[oldertruckguy-9225]

I am on "Seeking Arrangements" as well. Just over three years. I have been more then satisfied with the results. Yes, it can be "work" but, for me, so what. I am retired. I typically spend a total hour maybe an hour and a half emailing and or texting over the course of a couple of days to get results. Yes,  I have been ghosted. I have been stood up. I have certainly met my share of flakes. I have had a couple of ladies try to scam me..  But honestly, on the whole, the monthly fee and the time spent communicating with a young lady have paid off nicely for me. The evening usually starts with dinner, sometimes a movie or concert or play then off to my house for playtime. I am fortunate that I can entertain at my house. Overnights are common, even if the evening did not start out with that  expectation. The the compensation is on par with what I would expect to offer on this or other escort sites. Plus, I make sure she enjoys one hell of a breakfast!!

As with every dating site, escort site, companion site, your satisfaction is directly tied to your patience. Good luck!

[mustang]

22 hours ago, pfunk said:

I can't see any advantage over escorts. In fact, I'd say escorts are far easier, and economical. for me. 

However, if you have few escorts in your area, I understand the attraction.

SOME believe that L.E. entanglements are far less likely. 

[amcbl1]

11 hours ago, mustang said:

SOME believe that L.E. entanglements are far less likely. 

At $90/month to stay a member, I can understand why L.E would be reluctant to join. I doubt their chief would approve such expenditures with few chances of obtaining their quota.

[MyraGold]

I never felt safe using that site, that’s why I came here. It was actually dangerous and I wouldn’t wish that on anyone. Just from the sugar baby point of view. 

[Alex Majors]

True, the screening process usually gets skipped there.  You take a leap of faith. Everyone tries to be just as anonymous. Unlike on the boards, where you could ask around to any references we provide. But the truth is there is no guarantee, the last girls experience might be totally different than yours.

[MyraGold]

True. I didn’t know anything about screening then, I doubt most of them would comply. But I did meet one nice gentleman on there. 

[Skg]

I’ve had some good luck on Seeking Arrangements and Seeking Benefits. I’m still concerned if you read the terms of agreement on these sites that the sites  have the right to create fake profiles. Some girls have ridiculous expectations. Many gals aren serous and waste your time. Many are very leery of the guys.  It takes a lot of time and I feel addicted to it by always checking for  messages from the gals. TOB is best but I wanted more if a dating/companionship  so chose a SB site. 

[Bit Banger]

Looks like Seeking Arrangement amongst others might want to up their age verification procedures

washingtonpost.com/local/public-safety/arlington-2020/11/20/_story

[1hapyfeller]

Locanto is free,  plenty of SB, most are scammers and want money for gas up front thru Paypal, CashApp, etc. There are some on Instagram looking for daddy situation. Same experience as Locanto girls,  it's really a numbers game.  Men can post ads for free at Locanto, some providers will contact you directly. again. be wary of the money situation. 

[oldertruckguy-9225]

My experience with the screening practices of the "Seeking Arrangements" ladies varies widely. I will say that within the past year the screening by the ladies seems to have tightened. Still not to a point of  intolerable or overly intrusive. I don't think I am unique or an exception but I have never objected to screening. I agree that most of the ladies are very low volume, even first timers. I agree the turnover is constant. I consider that a good thing. Typical of the ladies with whom I have made arrangements would be the young lady who joined the site and created a profile so that she could fund a week long trip out of country  to be in her friends wedding. We agreed to a mutually beneficial arrangement, had a lot of and she has not been on the site since. Yes, she could be posting elsewhere. TOB is my 1st choice.  But for me, Seeking Arrangements, TOB, STG, Tryst and a site dedicated to a unique lifestyle are  all sources that provide me a pretty wide variety of ladies. I will say again that patience, common sense and trusting your gut will generally produce positive results no matter what site is used.

[Alex Majors]

On 11/21/2020 at 6:27 PM, Bit Banger said:

Looks like Seeking Arrangement amongst others might want to up their age verification procedures

washingtonpost.com/local/public-safety/arlington-2020/11/20/_story

I wouldn't want him as my lawyer. Age of consent in Virginia is 18. He will be looking at some serious time.  He might have to make an arrangement on the inside. Lol.

[Igno]

I've tried several sugar daddy and other NSA-type sites with very little luck/success. I live in a very rural area, the nearest major city is 2 hours away. I am also older. If they contact you, it's a scam. I would assume that if I lived in a major metropolitan area there is more chance of success. But for me, driving a couple hours, booking a hotel, and having a no-show is a drag. With providers, and I mean women who advertise their services as opposed to, "I'm honest and looking for someone to spoil me" BS, you're more likely to get what you need/want. That's been my experience.

[Maclovin]

On 11/15/2020 at 8:10 PM, oldertruckguy-9225 said:

I am on "Seeking Arrangements" as well. Just over three years. I have been more then satisfied with the results. Yes, it can be "work" but, for me, so what. I am retired. I typically spend a total hour maybe an hour and a half emailing and or texting over the course of a couple of days to get results. Yes,  I have been ghosted. I have been stood up. I have certainly met my share of flakes. I have had a couple of ladies try to scam me..  But honestly, on the whole, the monthly fee and the time spent communicating with a young lady have paid off nicely for me. The evening usually starts with dinner, sometimes a movie or concert or play then off to my house for playtime. I am fortunate that I can entertain at my house. Overnights are common, even if the evening did not start out with that  expectation. The the compensation is on par with what I would expect to offer on this or other escort sites. Plus, I make sure she enjoys one hell of a breakfast!!

As with every dating site, escort site, companion site, your satisfaction is directly tied to your patience. Good luck!

 

I need to check that out. Zero providers in SW CO but we do have a college. Maybe??? I'd be down with a "mutually beneficial arrangement".

[Leena_rose]

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[oldertruckguy-9225]

Polypeptide Pops. That's me!!!!! 

13 hours ago, Leena_rose said:

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[Joanna Jaxxx]

I’ve had luck over the years when I lived in the Midwest. The problem on those sites is guys seem to want a ppm. If I wanted that I’d post an ad. I tend to block/ ignore users who say they’ve seen me on escort sites. I’m not seeking a client on those sites. Maybe I’m one of the few. 

My successful arrangements were with men who knew what the site is used for. It’s not an escort site, yes there’s escorts on there, but for me, I’m seeking allowances, shopping , diamonds, cars, exotic vacations, school, surgeries, credit cards, rent paid for etc... An actual sugar daddy not a salt/splenda daddy 😂 And yes, I’ve found this more than once  and it takes time. 

It’s nice to go on actual dates rather than a guy wanting to just meet at his place or my hotel room, as I said, I can just post an ad for that.  

I got banned off one of the sites for posting the definition of a sugar daddy yet it’s a sugar daddy site  😂🙄 

 

[zman999]

Meh hit and miss honestly. 9/10 times I'll be completely ignored or ghosted so its a lot like dating sites and then another 9/10 of the 10% that answer are wanting cash for pics, texting, or just because they think they deserve it and maybe they do who am I to say otherwise.  I've had one good relationship come out of it and am still friends with her (we know each others names, etc). The rest are mostly forgettable. I have much more fun with the ladies here than I did with any of them off the sugar sites because I feel like both sides know what's up before I even pick up the phone.  As others have mentioned I think some of them are in denial about what the arrangements are even if you define them up front.  Had one that lady wanted a text/pic setup and I thought why not see how it goes but she ended up wanting more than I was willing to agree to for just pics (no face non nudes).  Then tried getting to know her more and get into the text/sext part but she told me her sex life was none of my business.  Pretty much tossed in the towel after that 😂.  Who knows maybe I'm just not smooth enough for that (I did have several sext relationships back in the day with some friends but who knows).  But like everything ymmv right? 

[JessicaJonesing]

Those sites are a huge waste of mens' time, you're as likely to be talking to a 'bot as a real woman.

 

Ashley Madison passed the Turing Test for AI. 

Debated and debatable, but by default since hundreds of thousands of men were none-the-wiser about paying to talk exclusively with a "chatbots" I think it's a de-facto win for AM. Unscrupulous balls of toecheese that they are notwithstanding...

With the confluence of Ethereum becoming un-minable with 4GB cards and the open-source release of trainable OpenAI GPT-2 models, been kicking around the idea of re-order the machines with only 8GB or 4GB cards in my mining farm and re-purposing the 4GB ones to a chatbot service for unlimited VoIP/text "sexting"... ...be some twisted-arse words if me and those I know were "training" it..

F me, my geek is showing.

Back to the topic: At least escorts are real women, adept at social interaction and easy to both meet and talk to...

[Skg]

I had to get off the SD sites as I became addicted waiting for the ladies responses. I was checking my phone way to often. The site is free for the gals so many are just curious but not really interested and I find they drop off the site after a week or so. It’s a great idea if you can stick with it and get a “hit”. 

[glassonion]

Haha. @JessicaJonesing is l33t!

[jaski111]

On 11/14/2020 at 5:09 PM, diggitydawg said:

Seeing if anyone here has had experience on one of the sugar sites. I've thought about giving it a try. Any advice?

Hi Digggity,

I am currently seeing an amazing lady from Secret Benefits. But wow do you have to wade through the muck to find the diamond. I think I got crazy lucky. I am on both Ashley Madison and Secret Benefits, but both currently suspended since i met my SB. Several things for both sites be prepared to drop a few hundred on each if you want to truly find someone. Give it time and be patient.

On AM, its a total crap shoot and a TON of catfish. If you start messaging someone you actually want to meet get a pic or a video with the days date and your name. Move to WhatsApp or KIK to actually talk.

There are a TON of SB's on Secret Benefits and I think they all message you, but I would only focus on that add you to their favorites. Also be precise on what you are looking for ie. monthly meet up, weekly dinner dates, travel. etc. If you are going to spend the coin on one message just get it out of the way early as to not lead each other on. Again move the convo to WhatApp or KIK to actually talk.

Also I recommend focusing on ladies 25 yo and higher, the closer in age to you the better. They usually know what they want and know exactly how much allowance they need to make them happy. Lastly if you find someone special spoil the hell out of them.

Good luck. ~J

[Juskiddng]

I've never attempted one of these sugar sites but from all of the comments here, they seem like a lot of work and money for something that is essentially availble on TOB or other such sites with much less hassle.

Edited December 15, 2020 by Juskiddng

[JessicaJonesing]

On 12/13/2020 at 6:49 PM, glassonion said:

Haha. @JessicaJonesing is l33t!

I had to google that, I'm soooo out of touch!

@Juskiddng Well said. 

Let's all remember some history, with @jaski111 as an example:

MariaDB->SELECT * FROM aminno_member WHERE nickname LIKE '%jaski111%';

Nope, you weren't on Ashley Madison in 2015. Which was when their entire database was dumped, leaked via TOR and enterprising women loaded up the 13GB mysql nee mariadb database and were able to search by almost every real-world item used in credit card authorization (including home address and even Lat/Longitude), by "nickname" as most men seem inordinately attached to their hobbyist "handles"...

I would never trust any such site -- including the current ones  -- with any personal data. In the case of AM, the leak supposedly came internally from someone overly disgusted by their business practices of billing men to talk to fake women and lying about how many actual females were onboard... 

Funny that men as a whole aren't really too upset about the whole scam. I'd be pissed.

 

 

[jaski111]

3 hours ago, JessicaJonesing said:

I had to google that, I'm soooo out of touch!

@Juskiddng Well said. 

Let's all remember some history, with @jaski111 as an example:

MariaDB->SELECT * FROM aminno_member WHERE nickname LIKE '%jaski111%';

Nope, you weren't on Ashley Madison in 2015. Which was when their entire database was dumped, leaked via TOR and enterprising women loaded up the 13GB mysql nee mariadb database and were able to search by almost every real-world item used in credit card authorization (including home address and even Lat/Longitude), by "nickname" as most men seem inordinately attached to their hobbyist "handles"...

I would never trust any such site -- including the current ones  -- with any personal data. In the case of AM, the leak supposedly came internally from someone overly disgusted by their business practices of billing men to talk to fake women and lying about how many actual females were onboard... 

Funny that men as a whole aren't really too upset about the whole scam. I'd be pissed.

 

 

You right I wasn't on there in 2015 and I've only been on TOB for exactly a year. But I'm not an pup and remember all the news regarding that site and sites like them. Also you are 100% correct men should be pissed. But I can only speak for myself and everything I have done to create a profile on those sites. I am very cautious about who I see through TOB and who I choose to converse with on those sites. I cant speak for the OP but I wanted to see what else was out there.

I only responded honestly to the OP's question and replied with my personal experience. Knowing what I have been through (and spent) in order to meet my SB, would I do it again? Not sure. Because in  all honesty I was about to call it quits right before I met my SB. With what I spent on those two sites I could have spent more time with one of my favorite ladies or even met a new amazing lady through here. The women that are on here, PD, P411 & Tryst are just as amazing if not more because there are no games or extra hoops to jump through, other than verification. Everything is straight forward. But we all need to learn in our own ways.

This was my lesson to learn on my own. Hopefully my reply helped the OP decided if it was worth his time. If not he will learn his way.

[Bit Banger]

@jaski111

One of the great advantages of the legitimate YL on TOB (and a few other sites) is the lack of games. We both know what we want.