Posted May 11, 2019 (edited) I recently saw in the listings area of the board one that said as part of her description: "NO GFE", which of course is perfectly fine for many people. So, apparently the ladies can't mention what they do offer but they can mention what they do not offer. I think this is a good and honest way of avoiding unnecessary questions and indirect inquiries: if I can easily see that the lady doesn't provide what I'm looking for, then I don't have to waste her time (and mine). And, as a side effect, if everybody is on the same page, if a lady doesn't say NO GFE, then that means she is YES GFE. Just an out loud thought... Edited May 11, 2019 by Bora Bora 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 11, 2019 8 hours ago, Bora Bora said: And, as a side effect, if everybody is on the same page, if a lady doesn't say NO GFE, then that means she is YES GFE. Just an out loud thought... I would research via P411, reviews, and any other available data, before I assumed YES GFE. She may have just missed that check box. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 11, 2019 9 hours ago, Bora Bora said: I recently saw in the listings area of the board one that said as part of her description: "NO GFE", which of course is perfectly fine for many people. So, apparently the ladies can't mention what they do offer but they can mention what they do not offer. I think this is a good and honest way of avoiding unnecessary questions and indirect inquiries: if I can easily see that the lady doesn't provide what I'm looking for, then I don't have to waste her time (and mine). And, as a side effect, if everybody is on the same page, if a lady doesn't say NO GFE, then that means she is YES GFE. Just an out loud thought... Not supposed to mention or even imply either direction. Please report those listings when you see the use of rates, services, acronyms in any possible way. This will help ensure TOB stays up and running. 6 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 11, 2019 Might want to double check with admin but I believe this also includes words like specials and fbsm. Thanks so much for starting this thread as a reminder for all of us to do our part to keep TOB safe. 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 11, 2019 11 hours ago, Bora Bora said: I recently saw in the listings area of the board one that said as part of her description: "NO GFE", which of course is perfectly fine for many people. So, apparently the ladies can't mention what they do offer but they can mention what they do not offer. I think this is a good and honest way of avoiding unnecessary questions and indirect inquiries: if I can easily see that the lady doesn't provide what I'm looking for, then I don't have to waste her time (and mine). And, as a side effect, if everybody is on the same page, if a lady doesn't say NO GFE, then that means she is YES GFE. Just an out loud thought... Bora, an interesting observation....good eye. I am glad to know when a lady is not GFE. However, for me, if it not stated "No GFE", I want to be careful, do my research, read reviews, etc. because I don't want to assume offerings that are not on the table. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 11, 2019 2 hours ago, Laci French said: Might want to double check with admin but I believe this also includes words like specials and fbsm. Thanks so much for starting this thread as a reminder for all of us to do our part to keep TOB safe. Laci, you are so right. We need to stick together as a community (a very fun community) to keep TOB safe and do what we can to make our meetings as respectfully enjoyable as possible...for all of us. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 11, 2019 As Laci has stated, we all need to our part in keeping our community safe. Any listing using acronyms, code words, mentioning doubles, specials, rates, etc need to be reported to the mods. The less that is said helps keep TOB safe. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 11, 2019 14 hours ago, Bora Bora said: ...And, as a side effect, if everybody is on the same page, if a lady doesn't say NO GFE, then that means she is YES GFE. Just an out loud thought... The elephant in the room is what GFE means to each lady. While the masses of ladies and gents can/should know what NO GFE means, we still would need a baseline of what GFE means to each lady. 6 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 11, 2019 28 minutes ago, BigBaldBlk said: The elephant in the room is what GFE means to each lady. While the masses of ladies and gents can/should know what NO GFE means, we still would need a baseline of what GFE means to each lady. You are spot on with that! GFE is so obtuse to begin with, nobody has a clue what the hell NO GFE means....might just as well add...." No unusual activities". 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 11, 2019 (edited) I don’t understand why GFE is so confusing for people. It’s just another acronym to describe certain activities without needing to list them all out. Maybe even a not very clever way of hiding the listing of those activities? Same with PSE and VIP. If they have any of those acronyms in their ad, I have some rudimentary expectations. The reason I think so many ladies list this and have no idea why or when to do so is because of the veil of mystery many of us keep pulling over it. No wonder those ladies are so confused. As to your point though, Bora I think in the current environment, less is better and maybe that info should be gleaned from reviews on several sites, not just this one, and private chats. I agree with pfunk though about doing your research before finally pulling the trigger. Unfortunately as a result of the ambiguous nature I feel we helped culture, I have to assume nothing anymore. Edited May 11, 2019 by Vassago Need clarification 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 11, 2019 I have to agree with bald and admiral. who knows how to translate GFE. on 411 they have a menu listed but there is some interpretation required. I once inquired with a lady on 411 who listed kissing in her activities but when I called texted her and asked about the extent of such she said she doesn't do that and to read her menu as she did not list it but it was and still is listed. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 11, 2019 2 hours ago, BigBaldBlk said: The elephant in the room is what GFE means to each lady. While the masses of ladies and gents can/should know what NO GFE means, we still would need a baseline of what GFE means to each lady. Absolutely nailed it big guy!! It is quite possibly the most irritatingly vague and useless term in the whole list of acronyms. Wish it would go away entirely. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 11, 2019 40 minutes ago, Vassago said: I don’t understand why GFE is so confusing for people. It’s just another acronym to describe certain activities without needing to list them all out. Maybe even a not very clever way of hiding the listing of those activities? Same with PSE and VIP. If they have any of those acronyms in their ad, I have some rudimentary expectations. The reason I think so many ladies list this and have no idea why or when to do so is because of the veil of mystery many of us keep pulling over it. No wonder those ladies are so confused. As to your point though, Bora I think in the current environment, less is better and maybe that info should be gleaned from reviews on several sites, not just this one, and private chats. I agree with pfunk though about doing your research before finally pulling the trigger. Unfortunately as a result of the ambiguous nature I feel we helped culture, I have to assume nothing anymore. OK. I will bite WTF does VIP mean?? Had a lady who has been around a bit swear up and down, argue and call me ignorant over my not believing it means what she insisted it means (I will not slant results by stating here!). So, y'all ..... what does it mean?? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 11, 2019 21 minutes ago, gr8owl said: OK. I will bite WTF does VIP mean?? Had a lady who has been around a bit swear up and down, argue and call me ignorant over my not believing it means what she insisted it means (I will not slant results by stating here!). So, y'all ..... what does it mean?? To me it means either a lady who offers massage and Escort but doesn’t want say “Escort” in her ad or a lady who likes Bavarian pastries. I do notice that both TNA and Eccie have do’s/donts and likes/dislikes in their profiles. My main point is I shouldn’t have to ask a lady anything other than when are you available after I have given her my references. Less is more. And these days, I agree GFE listed is absolutely pointless. If I can’t find out what she is offering and all the other basic forms of info through my own research via her reviews/website/profiles, I will pass. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 11, 2019 It’s also important to note WHEN you receive your responses about what the acronyms mean. The answers I got 10 years ago were significantly different than the ones I got in recent years. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 11, 2019 On 5/10/2019 at 10:11 PM, Bora Bora said: I recently saw in the listings area of the board one that said as part of her description: "NO GFE", which of course is perfectly fine for many people. So, apparently the ladies can't mention what they do offer but they can mention what they do not offer. I think this is a good and honest way of avoiding unnecessary questions and indirect inquiries: if I can easily see that the lady doesn't provide what I'm looking for, then I don't have to waste her time (and mine). And, as a side effect, if everybody is on the same page, if a lady doesn't say NO GFE, then that means she is YES GFE. Just an out loud thought... I've been told that we cant mention services at so I'm not taking chances, and just because a girls doesn't mention it on her ad does not mean that she is or isnt gfe, so I would not assume so. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 11, 2019 How about nothing in the pooper? 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 11, 2019 "Hmmm... I'd like to know more about this beautiful lady... let me go over to her website and get all the details I need for what she wants me to know!" 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 11, 2019 15 minutes ago, Audrey Astor said: How about nothing in the pooper? Or just a tattoo on your ass that says “Exit Only” in your photos? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 12, 2019 13 hours ago, Laci French said: Not supposed to mention or even imply either direction. Please report those listings when you see the use of rates, services, acronyms in any possible way. This will help ensure TOB stays up and running. I get what you are saying but the Listings clearly state Escort, FBSM, Tantra, Dom, etc. Perhaps this is the worst kept secret. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 12, 2019 Yes fosta has made this more difficult for both sides to figure out who to see but even before that and since there is not a manual for either side it has always been interesting to navigate all the various definitions. It always left to interpretation. Just looking at the different online resources you will not find a complete concenus on a words meaning. Yes we have to put some effort into making everyones experience enjoyable. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 12, 2019 20 hours ago, Vassago said: To me it means either a lady who offers massage and Escort but doesn’t want say “Escort” in her ad or a lady who likes Bavarian pastries. Well, that is kinda my point because those are two hugely different things!! As to the latter, damn, don't make me tell her the dreaded YAR .......... lol 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
