Posted October 11, 2013 (edited) Why is it that when guys tell you they're interested in seeing a regular provider, they turn into intake administrators who need to ask some questions for your file? Seriously, guys, if you want a regular type of thing, [snip} Don't drill me with a million questions. Amirite?? Edited October 11, 2013 by boink36 Advertising removed. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 11, 2013 (edited) Why is it that when guys tell you they're interested in seeing a regular provider, they turn into intake administrators who need to ask some questions for your file? Seriously, guys, if you want a regular type of thing, [snip} Don't drill me with a million questions. Amirite?? Just out of curiosity, what's a couple examples of intrusive questions? Edited October 11, 2013 by boink36 Quote edited. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 11, 2013 Just out of curiosity, what's a couple examples of intrusive questions? I'm happy to answer most general questions... it's not the NATURE of the questions so much as the VOLUME of the questions. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 11, 2013 I'm happy to answer most general questions... it's not the NATURE of the questions so much as the VOLUME of the questions. I would hate that too. Generally in life, I never ask people personal questions and instead let them tell me naturally if they want. Certainly, someone in your position would want that kind of thing also. I just asked in case there was anything comical you wanted to share. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 11, 2013 (edited) I don't see how you can establish that via a set of questions. Maybe their definition of "regular" and mine are different. Usually, it is obvious before the meeting is over whether there is the right energy or whathaveyou to indicate if even a return visit is a good idea. Again, I don't know how you can establish that before seeing someone. (That's my interpretation of what Disco's saying.) Why is it that when guys tell you they're interested in seeing a regular provider, they turn into intake administrators who need to ask some questions for your file? Seriously, guys, if you want a regular type of thing, [snip} Don't drill me with a million questions. Amirite?? Edited October 11, 2013 by boink36 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 11, 2013 Why is it that when guys tell you they're interested in seeing a regular provider, they turn into intake administrators who need to ask some questions for your file? Just remember, these are the same guys that are "big-time reviewers" that can "really help your career." 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 12, 2013 I don't see how you can establish that via a set of questions. Maybe their definition of "regular" and mine are different. Usually, it is obvious before the meeting is over whether there is the right energy or whathaveyou to indicate if even a return visit is a good idea. Again, I don't know how you can establish that before seeing someone. (That's my interpretation of what Disco's saying.) Well put and I agree. If both parties feel there is a mutual "click", then repeat visits are in order. As long as shared information doesn't get too personal and heading toward a "relationship", I'll keep returning. One must remember that this is a business and keep it as a client/provider arrangement. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 12, 2013 Why is it that when guys tell you they're interested in seeing a regular provider, they turn into intake administrators who need to ask some questions for your file? Seriously, guys, if you want a regular type of thing, [snip} Don't drill me with a million questions. Amirite?? What the crap do you expect us to drill you with, a penis? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 12, 2013 Well put and I agree. If both parties feel there is a mutual "click", then repeat visits are in order. As long as shared information doesn't get too personal and heading toward a "relationship", I'll keep returning. One must remember that this is a business and keep it as a client/provider arrangement. way to keep it in perspective there, Sixties. it's not totally unlike other client/provider relationships like female: attorney doctor accountant electrician plumber insurance agent 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 12, 2013 way to keep it in perspective there, Sixties. it's not totally unlike other client/provider relationships like female: attorney doctor accountant electrician plumber insurance agent Except that my incredibly hot insurance agent never gave me a mind-blowing bbbj. Its hard not to like a gal that does that! So no, its not like that. This hobby requires a certain amount of cognitive dissonance. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 12, 2013 Except that my incredibly hot insurance agent never gave me a mind-blowing bbbj. .... No, but I have had my hot doctor fondle "the boys" 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 12, 2013 Two possible motives for such questioning come to mind: 1. They need/want to believe that there is something more than a pure business relationship. 2. They want to avoid being 'misled' or feeling later like they just were fooling themselves about what was going on. Sad to say (?) but sensing whether there is a connection is not always as easy as some of the commenters here seem to imply. Pathetic admission: A few years ago I decided to ask my 'regular provider' a few questions just as a 'reality check.' These included: You do remember my name? You do remember what I do for a living? A couple of others that I do not recall. She did not remember any of those. That stung a bit. At least she was honest enough to answer and I was glad that I asked. Now it is true that by 'regular' I mean 'once a month' which I know some here will say is not being a 'regular' at all but rather a 'repeat client.' Fair enough but that is beside the point. BTW: She did not call me 'John.' 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 12, 2013 Two possible motives for such questioning come to mind: 1. They need/want to believe that there is something more than a pure business relationship. 2. They want to avoid being 'misled' or feeling later like they just were fooling themselves about what was going on. Sad to say (?) but sensing whether there is a connection is not always as easy as some of the commenters here seem to imply. Pathetic admission: A few years ago I decided to ask my 'regular provider' a few questions just as a 'reality check.' These included: You do remember my name? You do remember what I do for a living? A couple of others that I do not recall. She did not remember any of those. That stung a bit. At least she was honest enough to answer and I was glad that I asked. Now it is true that by 'regular' I mean 'once a month' which I know some here will say is not being a 'regular' at all but rather a 'repeat client.' Fair enough but that is beside the point. BTW: She did not call me 'John.' Sometimes, a cigar is just a cigar. Another possibility: The guy is interested in you as another human being. I confess to being one of those guys "who need to ask some questions for my file." I like to know what makes people tick. And, so, I'm likely to ask some pointed questions. And I fully expect that from time to time the answer will be "none of your damned business." So be it. I had a recent conversation at the end of a session with a lady that was amazing, all starting from a question directed at one of her postings. It turned our 60-minute session into well over two hours. (neither of us had anything scheduled past our session together) She talked about her past, overcoming addiction, living "the life", her personal insecurities, her fears, the things driving her life, her hopes and aspirations; while I just pretty much sat there and listened. And, I'll probably see her again. In addition to being fun in the sack, I found out she's an interesting person Now, it may all have been lies. I know that the ladies like to have a "life story" rehearsed and ready to give when asked. And that's ok, I understand the reasons why. And, while somewhat sentimental and soft-hearted, I'm no fool. I know exactly why I am doing this and she is doing this. But that doesn't mean I can't reach out to another human being and express interest in them. If they don't want to share.....ok. But if they do, it's possible both of us could learn something. As to your "pathetic admission," don't feel bad. I suspect we all like to think that people in the world are far more interested in us than they really are. That's one of the reasons you and I are posting our deep thoughts on an adult service provider board. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 12, 2013 No, but I have had my hot doctor fondle "the boys" You are lucky, my hot doctor has only stuck her incredibly short extremely fat finger up my bum. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 12, 2013 You are lucky, my hot doctor has only stuck her incredibly short extremely fat finger up my bum. Were they really fat fingers? I always heard girth was more important. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 13, 2013 ...This hobby requires a certain amount of cognitive dissonance. The theory of cognitive dissonance in social psychology proposes that people have a motivational drive to reduce dissonance by altering existing cognitions, adding new ones to create a consistent belief system, or alternatively by reducing the importance of any one of the dissonant elements. --Wikipedia [because it was the first result from Googlemachine]) Hgritstoo nailed except that "certain amount," in my case, means 100% since one of the reasons for seeing a provider includes a need for too much of a connection (or emotional) component. There is a reason one of the mantras around here is "Remember this is a business." Since I am prone to minimize or flat out ignore this, it causes no shortage of mental gymnastics to try dampen the dissonance. One thing is that I know I'm not in the White Knight mindset, no desire to "rescue" anyone, but more into deluding myself by thinking that the lady would spend "naughty" time with me even if there wasn't a transaction involved. The technical term for that, I believe, is "Being an Idiot." But, for whatever reason, I keep thinking that it just might true. There are probably unflattering and embarrassing reasons why I need to go this route, but my that would involve some serious navel gazing to figure out. Instead, I spend my energy in denial or avoidance of some hard truths rather than coming to terms with reality. I'm sure it will end well... (I have enough sense and discipline not to wear this on my sleeve. But, it is unlikely I'm fooling anyone.) . 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 18, 2013 A courtesan will always strive to make you feel that you are the centre of her universe while you are together. Maybe you are not such an idiot. Some escorts strive to be courtesans others go for PSE, GFE, centrefold, nympho whatever. Cross examining a provider shows a lack of gallantry and sophistication. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 19, 2013 Yeah Babe, your right. So, here's my rant. Why is it when I want a regular provider I have to listen to the most mondane bullshit for an hour before... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 19, 2013 simple Cali - see my definition of typical 'hobby horse douche bag' sprinkled throughout discussion. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 20, 2013 It absolutely amazes me how hard it is to give my money away. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 21, 2013 It absolutely amazes me how hard it is to give my money away. Really?!? I see people on every other corner asking for money. They won't take your?!? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 22, 2013 A lot of guys will say they are going to be regulars to try to get a discounted rate...it's a scam. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 23, 2013 Bargaining a fee down? I wonder if that could have impact on the lady's attitude? If it did have an effect i wonder if that effect would be positive or negative? As a freelancer i just love cheap clients! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 28, 2013 Business is business no matter what line of work you are in. But sometimes I found an attraction to a woman regardless her business. My test if it was mutual was to ask her if she'd like to have lunch or dinner with me. If she said yes and we shared a good time, we'd do it again. Such women became my business regulars. And they did well with me on their business side too. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 28, 2013 I love having a regular, preferably utr provider. Beats constantly dealing with new girls. When I was living on the East Coast, I had a regular chick. Asian, with huge all-natural tits. Pretty rare for an Asian girl. Plus, she told me I was the only one who was allowed to fuck her in the azz. Uh, yeah, sure, whatever. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 28, 2013 Well said. Especially for a redneck geek. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 29, 2013 Just remember, these are the same guys that are "big-time reviewers" that can "really help your career." Big time Bull sh!tters... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 29, 2013 and here i always thought he was jest a redneck ol' coot 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 31, 2013 Welp, wouldn't worry about it much now. Why is it that when guys tell you they're interested in seeing a regular provider, they turn into intake administrators who need to ask some questions for your file? Seriously, guys, if you want a regular type of thing, [snip} Don't drill me with a million questions. Amirite?? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 31, 2013 A lot of guys will say they are going to be regulars to try to get a discounted rate...it's a scam. This. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
