Weird

[Calisurfgirl]

So as a provider I have been on here since 2017 and whenever we ladies listing post (as I am sure many providers would agree) we get a plethora of calls or text messages. So today like any other day since some of us are on auto repost my listing goes up. What I find strange is that I have gotten four texts. Normally a provider if she is a reputable one can post once for two weeks and get numerous texts, as this has been the case until this week. Ladies or gentlemen what is going on. The vibe is strange. Can anyone else relate. 

[sb1212]

If I read this right, your standard ad generated far fewer responses this week than usual. Correct? Anything I might offer here would be an uneducated  guess, so I will withhold input until those wiser than I offer explanations. 

[Calisurfgirl]

Thank you for your input, I just find it strange because as of lately numerous inquiries have been odd, like crazy replies when you state that you require screening for your safety. Or the photo for photo type of text. I could understand if a provider is new without an established status on TOB but when you are established but those questions are asked it’s strange. I wonder if any other provider is also seeing similarities, etc. 

[MeganMarie4u]

Lol I don't know if you're aware... but we are still in a pandemic.  Also I know you were away for a while (welcome back!) So it may seem like you had an influx of requests just like you're a new provider! Which is always fun like going to a new city! It's also the end of the month. Unemployment is going away. Eviction moratorium ended... I'd say it's not just you.  Just people having to plan more than the past few months. 

 

Xo

Megan

[TrystinTrimble]

3 hours ago, Calisurfgirl said:

Thank you for your input, I just find it strange because as of lately numerous inquiries have been odd, like crazy replies when you state that you require screening for your safety. Or the photo for photo type of text. I could understand if a provider is new without an established status on TOB but when you are established but those questions are asked it’s strange. I wonder if any other provider is also seeing similarities, etc. 

I am just super sick of the photo for photo thing.  Always the same talk that goes in circles: guy-can we trade face pics to verify one another? I’ll go first! Me-Sending a photo somebody isn’t gonna verify anything whatsoever Except that my phone is sending photos correctly and they are reaching the recipient. Also, I didn’t ask you for a photo but you want me to feel like I owe you one. I have 47 reviews and a dozen pics posted as it is anyway. Guy-I get that and I’m  not trying to overstep your boundaries I just really need to verify you aren’t a scammer so please send me a pic of you with a hotdog up your nose so I know you aren’t trying to rob me. Me———-ummmmm…….

 

I don’t care how many of those dumb ass photo grubbing wannabe tricksters I get in a row. I don’t play that shit and that’s a mountain I am willing to die upon. 

Edited August 31, 2021 by TrystinTrimble
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[Calisurfgirl]

4 hours ago, TrystinTrimble said:

I am just super sick of the photo for photo thing.  Always the same talk that goes in circles: guy-can we trade face pics to verify one another? I’ll go first! Me-Sending a photo somebody isn’t gonna verify anything whatsoever Except that my phone is sending photos correctly and they are reaching the recipient. Also, I didn’t ask you for a photo but you want me to feel like I owe you one. I have 47 reviews and a dozen pics posted as it is anyway. Guy-I get that and I’m  not trying to overstep your boundaries I just really need to verify you aren’t a scammer so please send me a pic of you with a hotdog up your nose so I know you aren’t trying to rob me. Me———-ummmmm…….

 

I don’t care how many of those dumb ass photo grubbing wannabe tricksters I get in a row. I don’t play that shit and that’s a mountain I am willing to die upon. 

I feel the exact same way, I am already established. Have a good amount of time on the site, generally good outlook and consideration for the hobby and for the providers. Now I find asinine obstacles, for instance the other day I wanted to verify a reference, the provider I contacted wanted $100 to verify a potential guest of mine. That’s crazy, seriously how about as a provider you just care about another providers safety. I guess common courtesy is a thing of the past for some. 

[MaddoxBlue]

I think it has a lot to do with the pandemic and the unemployment ending to be honest. I tour quite a bit and it's pretty steady for me, but since the rise of Delta it's been a lot of guys asking for pics and just not wanting to screen. So this is something that's happening to a lot of people all over. 

[mustang]

5 hours ago, Calisurfgirl said:

I feel the exact same way, I am already established. Have a good amount of time on the site, generally good outlook and consideration for the hobby and for the providers. Now I find asinine obstacles, for instance the other day I wanted to verify a reference, the provider I contacted wanted $100 to verify a potential guest of mine. That’s crazy, seriously how about as a provider you just care about another providers safety. I guess common courtesy is a thing of the past for some. 

FAR too often people go for the money.  Courtesy and consideration are out the window IF some folks smell the money.  I guess I would be interested in knowing just who the provider was that wanted to charge for providing the reference.  For my way of thinking charging for a reference is the same as providing a service free in exchange for a positive review.  NEITHER is acceptable.  

[TrystinTrimble]

17 hours ago, Calisurfgirl said:

I feel the exact same way, I am already established. Have a good amount of time on the site, generally good outlook and consideration for the hobby and for the providers. Now I find asinine obstacles, for instance the other day I wanted to verify a reference, the provider I contacted wanted $100 to verify a potential guest of mine. That’s crazy, seriously how about as a provider you just care about another providers safety. I guess common courtesy is a thing of the past for some. 

Omg, f a whole bunch of that! That sounds to me like a scam they’re in together possibly. If she needs that 100 bucks he should pay it LOL

[Coflyfshr83]

On 8/30/2021 at 10:43 PM, Calisurfgirl said:

Thank you for your input, I just find it strange because as of lately numerous inquiries have been odd, like crazy replies when you state that you require screening for your safety. Or the photo for photo type of text. I could understand if a provider is new without an established status on TOB but when you are established but those questions are asked it’s strange. I wonder if any other provider is also seeing similarities, etc. 

I know personally I am looking here a lot less lately and not frequenting providers as often. No change in my situation but it seems rates Denver ladies are charging has increased close to double in a lot of cases the past year. The increases have been enough to where I personally start to consider other things I could do with the money. I think ladies should charge what they see fit, but I can’t help but think this is a factor for other gents as well. 

[zman999]

I know for me personally, I have had a string of let's call it bad luck with ladies messaging me back.  Past few new ladies I have reached out to have either completely ignored my message here or ghosted me while texting.

Yes I always use her preferred method of communication if she posts one (if not I usually default to PM here with references already shared).  I am always polite, I always introduce myself, and I never ask any red flag questions. When I need to know some specifics that aren't listed on her details I'll ask "what should I bring for you" or " what sort of options are available" to keep it vague but get the pertinent details.  I ones who ignored me I chalked it up to just wasn't the right fit but it has made me rethink reaching out to ladies that are new to me.  

So naturally I just gravitated back to the favs of mine which happen to all be touring ladies at the moment and I often wait until they pas back through and reach out to them. My local lady I was seeing just retired.  

I know guys can be serious tools sometimes and maybe this has affected the ladies replying back to general messages which maybe then puts off some potential clients (no one likes being ignored)?  Idk just tossing out ideas. 

[Calisurfgirl]

35 minutes ago, zman999 said:

I know for me personally, I have had a string of let's call it bad luck with ladies messaging me back.  Past few new ladies I have reached out to have either completely ignored my message here or ghosted me while texting.

Yes I always use her preferred method of communication if she posts one (if not I usually default to PM here with references already shared).  I am always polite, I always introduce myself, and I never ask any red flag questions. When I need to know some specifics that aren't listed on her details I'll ask "what should I bring for you" or " what sort of options are available" to keep it vague but get the pertinent details.  I ones who ignored me I chalked it up to just wasn't the right fit but it has made me rethink reaching out to ladies that are new to me.  

So naturally I just gravitated back to the favs of mine which happen to all be touring ladies at the moment and I often wait until they pas back through and reach out to them. My local lady I was seeing just retired.  

I know guys can be serious tools sometimes and maybe this has affected the ladies replying back to general messages which maybe then puts off some potential clients (no one likes being ignored)?  Idk just tossing out ideas. 

Talk about a string of bad luck or unfortunate and unforeseen events. I posted a topic a couple weeks ago about involvement from hobby to personal relationship because I wanted honest feedback regarding this subject because I did just that with a hobby member. Personally I can say that I did not post without the already having the “bump” option (auto repost) so I can without “Exaggeration”, tell you that being accused everyday of seeing someone if you are getting your nails done, working your legitimate employment any/and every moment that we were not together (which we were pretty much everyday) I was being accused of this or that. To the measure that if someone even viewed my profile he would reach out to them and state in a dm, “ Have you seen calisurfgirl?” I found out yesterday that this has happened to numerous persons/members that was just taking a look. Then he got clever and decided to create other hobby profiles. SO IF ANYONE GETS A MESSAGE INQUIRING IF YOU HAD SEEN ME AND THE MEMBER HAS RECENTLY ESTABLISHED OR JOIN TOB , “AUGUST 2021”. Personally like other advanced members or providers that have and utilize a good working knowledge of relaxed environment with the freedoms to create either intimate relationships or friendships, understand and respect that. When either a hobbyist or provider defaces that it is not okay. Gratefully, when have excellent admin that respond and research issues and content within this site. I am grateful for the connections and friendships developed on this site that have extended beyond that. I hope other appreciate it too.  

Edited September 1, 2021 by Calisurfgirl
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[jalanp]

On 9/1/2021 at 11:17 AM, Calisurfgirl said:

Talk about a string of bad luck or unfortunate and unforeseen events. I posted a topic a couple weeks ago about involvement from hobby to personal relationship because I wanted honest feedback regarding this subject because I did just that with a hobby member. Personally I can say that I did not post without the already having the “bump” option (auto repost) so I can without “Exaggeration”, tell you that being accused everyday of seeing someone if you are getting your nails done, working your legitimate employment any/and every moment that we were not together (which we were pretty much everyday) I was being accused of this or that. To the measure that if someone even viewed my profile he would reach out to them and state in a dm, “ Have you seen calisurfgirl?” I found out yesterday that this has happened to numerous persons/members that was just taking a look. Then he got clever and decided to create other hobby profiles. SO IF ANYONE GETS A MESSAGE INQUIRING IF YOU HAD SEEN ME AND THE MEMBER HAS RECENTLY ESTABLISHED OR JOIN TOB , “AUGUST 2021”. Personally like other advanced members or providers that have and utilize a good working knowledge of relaxed environment with the freedoms to create either intimate relationships or friendships, understand and respect that. When either a hobbyist or provider defaces that it is not okay. Gratefully, when have excellent admin that respond and research issues and content within this site. I am grateful for the connections and friendships developed on this site that have extended beyond that. I hope other appreciate it too.  

Correct me if I am wrong but, are you saying to transitioned to a personal relationship with a client and that person then became possessive of your time and was regularly "checking up" on you? If so, that sucks.

 

[Strange_Ice]

25 minutes ago, jalanp said:

Correct me if I am wrong but, are you saying to transitioned to a personal relationship with a client and that person then became possessive of your time and was regularly "checking up" on you? If so, that sucks.

 

 

On 9/1/2021 at 11:17 AM, Calisurfgirl said:

Talk about a string of bad luck or unfortunate and unforeseen events. I posted a topic a couple weeks ago about involvement from hobby to personal relationship because I wanted honest feedback regarding this subject because I did just that with a hobby member. Personally I can say that I did not post without the already having the “bump” option (auto repost) so I can without “Exaggeration”, tell you that being accused everyday of seeing someone if you are getting your nails done, working your legitimate employment any/and every moment that we were not together (which we were pretty much everyday) I was being accused of this or that. To the measure that if someone even viewed my profile he would reach out to them and state in a dm, “ Have you seen calisurfgirl?” I found out yesterday that this has happened to numerous persons/members that was just taking a look. Then he got clever and decided to create other hobby profiles. SO IF ANYONE GETS A MESSAGE INQUIRING IF YOU HAD SEEN ME AND THE MEMBER HAS RECENTLY ESTABLISHED OR JOIN TOB , “AUGUST 2021”. Personally like other advanced members or providers that have and utilize a good working knowledge of relaxed environment with the freedoms to create either intimate relationships or friendships, understand and respect that. When either a hobbyist or provider defaces that it is not okay. Gratefully, when have excellent admin that respond and research issues and content within this site. I am grateful for the connections and friendships developed on this site that have extended beyond that. I hope other appreciate it too.  

I just don't get it.... you know who she is and what she does, if you start a relationship then you should be willing to accept ALL of her. You can not expect or even ask the other person to change. Guys that get into a relationship with a provider and expect them to stop and make them the only one in my opinion are retarded. You know what/who you are getting involved with so you should take them how they are and if you can't then you shouldn't pursue them at all. It's just not right to get involved with a provider and then get paranoid or controlling in any way, nor can it be healthy at all.

[lustybustygina]

5 hours ago, Strange_Ice said:

 

I just don't get it.... you know who she is and what she does, if you start a relationship then you should be willing to accept ALL of her. You can not expect or even ask the other person to change. Guys that get into a relationship with a provider and expect them to stop and make them the only one in my opinion are retarded. You know what/who you are getting involved with so you should take them how they are and if you can't then you shouldn't pursue them at all. It's just not right to get involved with a provider and then get paranoid or controlling in any way, nor can it be healthy at all.

Most men think they can handle it .But in the end they can't !!

[Prayforrain]

9 hours ago, lustybustygina said:

Most men think they can handle it .But in the end they can't !!

Couldn’t agree more. These are purely “transactional” relationships. As a one who’s experienced the infatuation and fantasy of having an actual relationship with an escort, I’ll say, “Don’t do it for love, because your idea of love ain’t the same as theirs. Go for it if you have plenty of money to burn and don’t care if she don’t care”. There’s a lot of wealthy men who want to enjoy the luxury of a woman’s company and body, without the trappings of mutual exclusivity and commitment. 

[Caressa Duval]

14 hours ago, Prayforrain said:

Couldn’t agree more. These are purely “transactional” relationships. As a one who’s experienced the infatuation and fantasy of having an actual relationship with an escort, I’ll say, “Don’t do it for love, because your idea of love ain’t the same as theirs. Go for it if you have plenty of money to burn and don’t care if she don’t care”. There’s a lot of wealthy men who want to enjoy the luxury of a woman’s company and body, without the trappings of mutual exclusivity and commitment. 

Correct. Most men will stay in whatever relationship will wipe their butts in the end. I will say it over and over. Their SO may have stopped years ago, but they can't and won't replace social status, someone to do the laundry, someone that's cleans house, someone that even walks the dog. That they would be proud of to carry out to their real life. And again she carried my offspring and she will wipe my ass in the end. Not giving that up ever

Edited September 9, 2021 by Caressa Duval

[HeavenlyBellaCO]

On 8/30/2021 at 10:43 PM, Calisurfgirl said:

Thank you for your input, I just find it strange because as of lately numerous inquiries have been odd, like crazy replies when you state that you require screening for your safety. Or the photo for photo type of text. I could understand if a provider is new without an established status on TOB but when you are established but those questions are asked it’s strange. I wonder if any other provider is also seeing similarities, etc. 

I have. Then getting harassed all day by the same individual with different numbers…. It’s sad that someone had nothing better to do with their time then harass others🤣😂 I’m glad there isn’t a limit on how many people you can block🙏🏼 Good luck out there 💋

[Guest]

This all sounds horrifying! Not for me, to be sure. If I could be so bold, please just respond to my inquiries, don’t cancel while I’m already in the car with my pill in my belly, let’s get together and I promise not to fall in love! Deal?

[parkercole]

On 9/7/2021 at 10:41 PM, lustybustygina said:

Most men think they can handle it .But in the end they can't !!

This is my "Weird" experience. And I will say in my experience it was the opposite! I dated a provider for two years. The first year was great. She was bi-sexual. We had threesomes with other ladies in and out of the business. We also use to swing. We traveled a lot with each other for vacation. It was fun. The Second year things started to changed. Here is the weird part. It was her that got controlling of me. She didn't want~then didn't allow me to have a regular, ATF. She would go through my phone when I was sleeping. She looked for repetitive numbers I called. Of course she looked through my texts. She would call numbers she thought were suspect to her. It was a friend who informed me she called him. As I was clueless to her even doing this. I finally pulled the plug when she figured out my email password and started probing into my emails! I always thought it was odd she mentioned events or things that I knew I talked to other people about. Then I realized she was looking through my emails.  I was angry! I felt she violated and overstepped all boundaries!  

We met in this subculture. I knew how she made her income. I was perfectly ok with it. We had a schedule with our relationship. I was flexible if she needed me to be. Also I worked long consistent hours Mon-Fri. I also made it clear that I still wanted to see escorts. Seemed like everything was ok. I know her behavior has nothing to do because she was a provider. What I discovered after things went south. It had everything to do that she was insecure with men and men she had dated before. She was not OK with me seeing other ladies. I suppose the first year we had lots of threesomes that it worked out. She also created that narrative by setting up many of the dates. I mean no complaints on my end. We also said in the beginning what we did in our private time was private. Curiosity got the best of her and she started to search who I was seeing. She became obsessed. Even admitted it to me. She wanted me to only be be physically exclusive with her in the end. I'm not trying to say I was perfect. But I was a healthy partner who was always open to discussion regarding our relationship.  I later understood what she wanted in the relationship, and I would have never got into a relationship with her knowing that she wanted me to be only exclusive to her. Especially then. I was not wanting to be monogamous during that time of my life!  

When getting into relationships. If you proceed to get involved sexually with other people. Things usually get muddy. I get it. We're human. Emotions get involved and meshed. Now when I poon, I poon. And when I date, I date. This is what works best for me. Never ventured into the polyamorous world. Always curious though.........

[zman999]

On 9/7/2021 at 10:41 PM, lustybustygina said:

Most men think they can handle it .But in the end they can't !!

Long ago one of the hottest experiences I had was what can only be described as a swap. Was drinking way too much once and ended up watching my buddy bang my gf at the time and I took a turn with his wife.  Was nothing hotter that going at it with his wife while watching someone do my girl.  Could I handle it long term idk but I'd like to think I could ...I also find myself pretty open minded in general and can also keep my feelings in check when need be. Have had several quirky relationships that were purely physical and was able to keep it that way.  

In the end, going in with your eyes wide open helps.  Knowing what you both want (communication) is key to having happy fun that ends well and let's be honest it almost always ends sometime. 

[TrystinTrimble]

On 8/30/2021 at 10:43 PM, Calisurfgirl said:

Thank you for your input, I just find it strange because as of lately numerous inquiries have been odd, like crazy replies when you state that you require screening for your safety. Or the photo for photo type of text. I could understand if a provider is new without an established status on TOB but when you are established but those questions are asked it’s strange. I wonder if any other provider is also seeing similarities, etc. 

Yeah. Right there with y'all. I'm getting numerous texts, just none that result in a thing. SO MANY refusals to screen while they simultaneously give me a home address to make the refusal look super dumb to boot. Lots of nevermimds when I'm 16 miles into a trip out. Had someone flat out answer their door this morning and act like I was some nut job and they had no idea who I was. Was def them being awful people. Some intentionally screwing with me and trying to convince me they know me irl and how cute it was that they were being mysterious. As in "creepy." People asking for disgusting crap. People telling me what great people they are while they wasted my time and then called me names and told me to go get a real job. There is seriously some defective ones right now and they are just relentless with all the nonsense. And in the picture for picture text, which for me means play bitch games win bitch prizes because I don't play that shit.

if I didn't know any better I'd say that the crazy notion that women and providers are also people Is being met with some uncalled for pushback. Weirdos need to go back beneath the rocks from which they came, with a quickness. 🤯

[coloradoguy75]

Wow, interesting posts. This game has to be about mutual respect.  Many ladies I have reached out to have either completely ignored my message or ghosted me while texting back and forth setting things up. Strange. 

[lustybustygina]

On 8/30/2021 at 8:46 PM, Calisurfgirl said:

So as a provider I have been on here since 2017 and whenever we ladies listing post (as I am sure many providers would agree) we get a plethora of calls or text messages. So today like any other day since some of us are on auto repost my listing goes up. What I find strange is that I have gotten four texts. Normally a provider if she is a reputable one can post once for two weeks and get numerous texts, as this has been the case until this week. Ladies or gentlemen what is going on. The vibe is strange. Can anyone else relate. 

I was in Denver last week and only got 1 pm from TOB and when I told him I would be contacting his refes make sure he was a good guy he went MIA .. 

[Audrey Astor]

Thank gosh for regulars, and friends with regulars who like to include friends.😝

[TrystinTrimble]

On 9/1/2021 at 9:27 AM, Coflyfshr83 said:

I know personally I am looking here a lot less lately and not frequenting providers as often. No change in my situation but it seems rates Denver ladies are charging has increased close to double in a lot of cases the past year. The increases have been enough to where I personally start to consider other things I could do with the money. I think ladies should charge what they see fit, but I can’t help but think this is a factor for other gents as well. 

Actually my rates are the exact same as they were when I first came here eight years ago. I've yet to bump em up and have bumped em down at times, but I just can't anymore. 

[Elle Blake]

On 8/30/2021 at 9:46 PM, Calisurfgirl said:

So as a provider I have been on here since 2017 and whenever we ladies listing post (as I am sure many providers would agree) we get a plethora of calls or text messages. So today like any other day since some of us are on auto repost my listing goes up. What I find strange is that I have gotten four texts. Normally a provider if she is a reputable one can post once for two weeks and get numerous texts, as this has been the case until this week. Ladies or gentlemen what is going on. The vibe is strange. Can anyone else relate. 

I can relate.  A whole entire month of wasted time on texts, driving, bs addresses.  I have not had this happened in a long time.  And I’ve been around twice as long as you.  It happens.  I found the last time though, it was someone I knew on a personal level, that was just messing with me.