Posted September 12, 2014 Menfolk: If you're getting a BJ or HJ what do you like to be done to you while you are actually coming? Keep it the same? Lay off the head? Etc. ? Womenfolk: Same question for oral/finger stimulation. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 12, 2014 I like it exactly the way you do it, sweetheart 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 12, 2014 Yeah but which way? Make sheep noises and bang it like a ketchup bottle? Or open my umbrella and put on my parka? I need to refine. Need more specifics. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 12, 2014 Thank you for asking! As I'm cumming, slow and stop the motion, but keep a slight suction going as I fill your mouth with the fruit of my loins. Don't swallow when I'm done. C'mon up here and share a bit wet gooey kiss! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 12, 2014 What a great question. Slow way down but don't stop. Grab a hand full of balls and keep working well after the pump is dry. Once you feel the body relax switch from mouth to hand and two hand the balls and cock with firm long strokes. Big kiss, cover him up, climb on and get yours. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 12, 2014 Menfolk: If you're getting a BJ or HJ what do you like to be done to you while you are actually coming? Keep it the same? Lay off the head? Etc. ? Womenfolk: Same question for oral/finger stimulation. Good question! For me, continuing the motion that got me to come, but a little faster, is ideal. I did a lot of FSBMs before I stepped it up to FS and I was amazed at how poorly some of the gals's HJ technique was. Some pumped so fast, like they were trying to start a fire; one gave attention to the shaft and stopped the action below the head, and some stopped as I came, which is the exact time you want continued action. The HJ and BJ should be done to replicate real fucking, with slow steady action on the shaft/head that builds to a finale. Don't ever stop the friction at the moment of ejaculation. My favorite BJ technique is a combined use of the hand on the shaft with the mouth concentrating on the head. And as we're on the topic of BJ technique, the gagging/DT thing is a pure porn visual that, IMO, doesn't feel special, and watching the lady gag is not a turn on, but a distraction and gross. Just a male porn humiliation thing that guys into power/dominance get off on. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 12, 2014 What a great question. Slow way down but don't stop. Grab a hand full of balls and keep working well after the pump is dry. Once you feel the body relax switch from mouth to hand and two hand the balls and cock with firm long strokes. Big kiss, cover him up, climb on and get yours. ^^^ YES!!! ^^^ Slow down and just keep doing what you were doing to get me there. The real key is "Don't stop!" until I finally stop quivering or tell you to stop. I will continue having aftershocks for quite some time. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 12, 2014 I agree with the slowing down some and milking that thing with long strokes. A technique a girlfriend used to use on me was she would stroke me nicely with one hand while cupping my balls. Her mouth around me with a little suction but the magic came from her tongue. She would use her tongue right at that spot on the bottom of the shaft right below the head. Sometimes while her lips where around me and sometimes just her tounge flicking up and down right on that spot. Once she made me cum just from doing that. Man she edged me for like 15 min before she pushed me over edge. The biggest thing though is do NOT stop. That's basically a ruined orgasm and some guys and gals have a fetish for it but I want the full ride. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 12, 2014 This is interesting info. I think what got me more curious was having a guy or two that seemed to prefer stopping any friction while it's spouting out. Though it seems to me most guys do like the same or faster motion that got them there. I do usually lay off when the aftershocks come so maybe I won't now. Seems like the best thing to do is to keep going and he can just indicate stopping. Someone PM'd me and said no ladies are answering the question so I will start: If I am coming from oral then there is already a finger in me. I'm only a g-spot comer, thus far. What gets me to cum is having the finger in about two inches and crooking it up -- like making a "come here" gesture. Once I actually start to come I do like a very different motion, all out finger pounding. Also, having one hand, his not mine, on my lower abdomen and pushing down seems to heighten the experience. For me, and maybe other women are like this too, there are varying degrees of orgasm. And what varies it is what happens while I'm coming. It's tricky, not gonna lie. If he does the finger pounding thing too early it really messes me up. Basically once he feels my pussy contracting he should finger bang. Long story short. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 12, 2014 If they prefer you stop you might want to just push all the way down and squeeze and release in time with them. Kinda like if you where around him and contracting on him. Just another technique. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 12, 2014 Best two handjobs ever ? Both were slow and teasing ,not yanking like they were milking a cow,they were gentle...not rough or fast. One was in an adult video,the other by a civilian who had a husband that liked to watch. ( He owned a strip club at the time and threw great swing partys with his employees,his wife was the hottest one in the club ) 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 12, 2014 I agree with "don't stop". If you keep doing, what you were doing, to get me there, that's perfect for me. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 12, 2014 I agree with "don't stop". If you keep doing, what you were doing, to get me there, that's perfect for me. Agreed. I once saw a popular FBSM provider who did the longest, slowest, most sensual HJ -- the build up was fantastic, and I was about to climax really hard. When she saw I was coming, she sped up & started pounding like a jack-hammer. Not good. At the moment of truth, keep the speed & pressure steady - or go even slower. At that point, it's all about maximizing the pleasure, not achieving the goal. The goal has already been reached. And when the spasms start to subside, lighten the pressure and go even slower - it gets really sensitive. If you time it we'll, the guy will think you're a mind-reader. Guaranteed return client. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 12, 2014 http://youtu.be/d55bIYcrHKQ 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 12, 2014 I rarely finish from a BJ alone but if it's going to happen, a prostate massage and continued motion work for me. And no, I don't leave stains on the bed either. Good to know! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 12, 2014 Depends, it can be so intense, I prefer all action stopping. Giving to a woman, I noticed continuing on the G spot is desirable and helps intensive the effect. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 12, 2014 As Megan pointed out, there are so many varying types and degrees of orgasm for me that I'm not sure I can say what I like someone to do when I'm having one, or just after. It changes and I like a lot of different things! I'm lucky to not really have a traditional refractory period, so I usually don't need someone to lay off after I've cum unless I came really, really hard. But even then I only need about a 30 second or minute break. That said, if I've had about 5-10 cascading orgasms my body will usually just stop having them after that, or it will become a lot harder to make it happen. I like to be fingered during oral. I like g-spot and clit stimulation at the same time- those are the best orgasms. I like 2 in the pink and 1 in the stink if you're gentle and use lots of lube. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 12, 2014 The ending should be different for a HJ as opposed to a BJ. If you keep stroking during a HJ after the guy cums you might end up doing some POT as shown here: http://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=0c840215e3572cf5a352 I'm a little into this put think most guys probably are not. Upon finishing a BJ I definitely like lite sucking to continue during and right after I finish cuming, along with some light stroking of the shaft and tugging of the balls. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 12, 2014 The best BJ I ever had was from a provider no longer around. Getting me to climax was a great experience as her mouth seemed to caress and make love with my member. Very sensuous. But the part that set her apart from all others was after climax. She slowed down, and held my dick in her mouth until I pulled it out. It extended the orgasmic sensation a long time. No matter how long I waited to pull out, her mouth caressed and held my dick for as long as I cared. She was special. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 12, 2014 ^^^ YES!!! ^^^ Slow down and just keep doing what you were doing to get me there. The real key is "Don't stop!" until I finally stop quivering or tell you to stop. I will continue having aftershocks for quite some time. +1 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 12, 2014 (edited) as many different preferences as there are guys. just be sure to communicate to your provider what you like. some of my clients have stayed even though it took a long long time to know each other. seems as though with more comminication, we could have shaved some time off of the learning curve. some clients have to have me stop altogether at that moment even if i had been going slowly to begin with, others like speed and fast action the entire time. just please communicate. as for me...like everything too but theres a little spot next to my clit that gets me everytime. Edited September 12, 2014 by lola edit 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 12, 2014 What a great question. Slow way down but don't stop. Grab a hand full of balls and keep working well after the pump is dry. Once you feel the body relax switch from mouth to hand and two hand the balls and cock with firm long strokes. Big kiss, cover him up, climb on and get yours. Yes, this is lovely, but most can't make it and have to TAP OUT. lol There are some real troopers out there though. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 12, 2014 ^^^ YES!!! ^^^ Slow down and just keep doing what you were doing to get me there. The real key is "Don't stop!" until I finally stop quivering or tell you to stop. I will continue having aftershocks for quite some time. +2. I hear the "all men are different" argument, but this is what I like. And definitely don't speed up when I am at the edge of climax. Just keep it steady, and maybe slow down a little. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 12, 2014 For me just keep doing what you were doing to get me there but slow down a tad. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 13, 2014 Slow down and don not stop. Once I am over the edge keep it going for awhile and if you are staying the course that got me there but going slower with more deliberate motions that are nice and slow that seems to intensify the experience for me. A HJ is different for me. I like you to increase the pace until the point of no return, once I start shooting juice I like to be held at the bottom of the shaft so it feels like I thrust myself in as deeply as possible to have my O. Then I like to have it slowly stroked again to milk it for all I got and to see the provider enjoy this and my juice running over her hand is a nice sight that adds to the experience. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 14, 2014 Hold the head in your mouth, use your tongue, firm grip on the shaft, slow stroke. I also like prostate massage but I've found few women have the feel for it. Over the years with my SO, I've been able to achieve 1 to 2 minute orgasms w/o ejaculation. I have enjoyed some great BJ and HJ technique in the hobby, though. I just don't expect the long orgasms. I'm also not interested in the time and money it would take to "train" a partner for that. What doesn't work... My glans get very sensitive so any excess stimulation is (eventually) painful. Pumping, hands or mouth or both, without any regard for what is actually happening is boring. With a slow technique I believe you can feel what's going on and control arousal, extend pleasure, etc. I know I'm guilty of not "listening" to a woman's body, especially when using my mouth or hands. I try but most of the time I can't tell what's going on. I suppose that's why it's so much more fun when my partner orgasms easily - it takes the pressure off and I stop worrying about technique. I've had success using the techniques Kitten and Megan describe. That's always a lot of fun. FIV is a no-no for some providers though 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 30, 2014 Can't believe I'm the first one to say that my favorite is when the girl takes my cock out of her mouth so I can paint her face white. Maybe I'm the only one who likes that? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 30, 2014 Can't believe I'm the first one to say that my favorite is when the girl takes my cock out of her mouth so I can paint her face white. Maybe I'm the only one who likes that? Talk about --- Interuptus! What an unpleasant feeling 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
