Outside event with an ASP?

[Porto]

Anyone ever been to an outside event with a provider? Dinner, movie, concert, etc? How did it go? How do you find one that actually might enjoy the activity or event you choose? PM's might be better for this topic. Would like responses from both sides.

[MAG]

Anyone ever been to an outside event with a provider? Dinner, movie, concert, etc? How did it go? How do you find one that actually might enjoy the activity or event you choose? PM's might be better for this topic. Would like responses from both sides.

Wouldn't do it.

Let's say you're at a concert, and before it starts you run into a friend of yours who shakes your hand and says Hi Bill! How are the kids? how's your new job at Google going?

Now the hooker has your first name & knows where you work and knows you have kids, all of which can be used against you.

[2Big]

Would never do it. Too risky. 1) She dresses inappropriately, 2) Can't hold polite conversation, 3) Starts soliciting other guys at the event, 4) etc. The possibilities for disaster are endless.

I like to keep it simple:

Working girls = sex without strings.

Girlfriend/Date = Socializing, dating, etc.

[geecue2]

Went to a rockies game with a provider, after an appointment. Had a real good time. Talking with her found out she liked baseball.

[Bit Banger]

I haven't been to too many social events, but quite often I'll take my date out for dinner. The key is finding someone you trust to behave (dress, discretion, conversation, etc.) in an appropriate manner, so this is not usually a first date activity. Needless to say, this is not something for the WBTYM bimbo.

(WBTYM = Wham, Bam, Thank You, Ma'am - the good kind of 3G)

[Guest hgritstoo]

Ok......I've gone to dinner twice, with two different ladies in two different cities.

I had seen both ladies several times before, so I knew that we got along well.

Contrary to above opinions, the ladies dressed ok, provided enjoyable and intelligent conversation, and never once tried to hit on the guys at the next table.

It is true that there's always a chance someone will bump into you. For most casual encounters, you can have a simple story ready. Don't push it by bringing her to business functions or the types of places/events friends and family are likely to attend.

In a metro area with 500,000 to a million plus, I like my odds.

[pfunk]

Wouldn't do it.

Let's say you're at a concert, and before it starts you run into a friend of yours who shakes your hand and says Hi Bill! How are the kids? how's your new job at Google going?

Now the hooker has your first name & knows where you work and knows you have kids, all of which can be used against you.

You should just change your handle to AVH8TR. Are you really afraid that a girl who charges you just to put up with your vapid commentary, moronic philosophy, sad appearance, and lame jokes, is going to blackmail you? What could you possibly have that's so important? You're not rich, or famous, or even smart.

Apparantly, you are afraid of escorts, though. (Ooooo, scary!)

I say, if a guy finds a girl he likes, take her out, have fun, and don't worry about what other people think. They probably won't care.

[Guest]

Would never do it. Too risky. 1) She dresses inappropriately, 2) Can't hold polite conversation, 3) Starts soliciting other guys at the event, 4) etc. The possibilities for disaster are endless.

Social dates with your mom don't count.

[AaBrenly]

Have gone out twice (both times same person). She knew of my current status at the time. Went well and had a good time. Definitely not for everyone and there are things that could go wrong. For me what I found out is she is very comfortable in social situations, can read a situation clearly and react accordingly and is a lovely date and makes the time more special.

[FatDog]

Would never do it. Too risky. 1) She dresses inappropriately, 2) Can't hold polite conversation, 3) Starts soliciting other guys at the event, 4) etc. The possibilities for disaster are endless.

You must be picking up crackheads.

[MAG]

You should just change your handle to AVH8TR. Are you really afraid that a girl who charges you just to put up with your vapid commentary, moronic philosophy, sad appearance, and lame jokes, is going to blackmail you? What could you possibly have that's so important? You're not rich, or famous, or even smart.

Apparantly, you are afraid of escorts, though. (Ooooo, scary!)

I say, if a guy finds a girl he likes, take her out, have fun, and don't worry about what other people think. They probably won't care.

It's not just hookers -- people in general can be untrustworthy, even people you've known for years.

But when johns allow prostitutes access to their personal information, it opens them up to trouble.

By all means, if your life is an open book, take as many hookers out in public as you want. the fact that you're fucking one of them outside of the business doesn't invalidate my viewpoint.

[NaughtyNiceGuy]

I have been with several providers at outside events as friends but I knew them fairly well before. I would never invite someone unknown. But know that you are going to be noticed when you are with someone half your age and way out of your league.

[Guest]

All the time....

Dinner, happy hour, concerts, games, travel; ect..

Do you think that because were pro's were socially inept lol?

[Velvet Valentine]

All the time....

Dinner, happy hour, concerts, games, travel; ect..

+1....I also attended a very large Sweet 16 party for a clients daughter last year. It was a very special night for him, and I am happy that he invited me.

And once had another client who invited Beverly and I to his wifes funeral. I was out of town for that one, but Beverly went. He was a long time friend. His wife knew what he did and she felt we were family. Wierd as it may seem, this comforted him. Of course he knew some gals 10+ years. (Don't be a flamer)

Obviously lots of people know who they can trust, and it doesn't deter their time.

[lilithia]

Dinners and movies are nice to enjoy with a date. With Hookers you need to have an open wallet. And then we start marking it down how many times and hours I(we) spent with you so when I am down some cash you owe me.

Sad but true, its a real struggle to separate our time from money.

Even if you do pay her for her time it is never enough because I gave you 10 minutes more then you paid me for. CRAZY

lilithia

[Bit Banger]

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Sad but true, its a real struggle to separate our time from money.

Even if you do pay her for her time it is never enough because I gave you 10 minutes more then you paid me for. CRAZY

lilithia

On a 1hr session, I keep pretty close track of time and try to leave between the 55 & 60 minute marks.

That being said, any YL who keeps track of the minutes when we're on an extended evening date will not get invited for another date. When booking I use that term, "an evening", as we discuss the tariff, not some specific period of minutes or hours.

[Krokus]

Would never do it. Too risky. 1) She dresses inappropriately, 2) Can't hold polite conversation, 3) Starts soliciting other guys at the event, 4) etc. The possibilities for disaster are endless.

Thats the differance between the girls here TOB, or the backpage V.S. the girls 2big I mean 2small meets on colfax or 5 points

[Jez UaBriain]

Obviously lots of people know who they can trust, and it doesn't deter their time.

These words are so true. I think most of us employ rates that fit the situation, and the client. If you are going to a public function you will want to be sure that the provider you choose is socially capable for the type of function you are attending. You don't want her to be a embarassment on your behalf. Imagine a ghetto talking girl at a black-tie affair. Just like taking one of us on vacation, public functions are also open to scrutiny. So fit the occasion and the type of provider whom you want to spend time with.

[Hassey]

These words are so true. I think most of us employ rates that fit the situation, and the client. If you are going to a public function you will want to be sure that the provider you choose is socially capable for the type of function you are attending. You don't want her to be a embarassment on your behalf. Imagine a ghetto talking girl at a black-tie affair. Just like taking one of us on vacation, public functions are also open to scrutiny. So fit the occasion and the type of provider whom you want to spend time with.

[SarynMonroe]

Social dates with your mom don't count.

Right? Providers can be trashy, or they can be very classy. It all depends on who you're working with. Maybe if you put a little effort into screening, you wouldn't have so much to worry about.

[Kaduk]

Went to a rockies game with a provider, after an appointment. Had a real good time. Talking with her found out she liked baseball.

I took a provider to Water World once;

Afterwards she said "that was so hot and I made her Wet"............

[oldguysrule45]

Many, many times over the past 4 years. I am single, so that problem is not there. At times have included the ladies children. Been to formal dinners, staff parties, private dinners at friends homes, piblic events, charity fund raisers, probably well over 100 meals in restaurants, client gatherings, sports events, concerts, and extended vacations. Never had an issue. All were extremely classy, dressed for the occasion and fit in well.

This would not work for everyone, but all the ladies I meet are classy and mature.

[lola]

I presented at an international conference that he organized. does that count?

To quote alf above, formal dinners, staff parties, family events, holiday events.

[Pirate]

I've taken a few girls out for a ride on the motorcycle and treated them to lunch, but it was off the clock. Never had a problem with their attitude or behavior either. They were a lot classier than some of the girls I'd met on okcupid.

[gr8owl]

Hmmm. Lemme see, I have attended public and family events with both girl friends and "hookers" over the years and though I can remember being embarrassed multiple times by girl friends over the years I honestly cannot recall being embarrassed even once by a "hooker" in those situations - at least not until after they achieved SO or spouse status!!! So I would say know her first, choose carefully and should be no problem. (and i only use the term "hooker" cause the post i'm responding to did - don't much care for it, fwiw)

[Guest bn722]

Wouldn't do it.

Let's say you're at a concert, and before it starts you run into a friend of yours who shakes your hand and says Hi Bill! How are the kids? how's your new job at Google going?

Now the hooker has your first name & knows where you work and knows you have kids, all of which can be used against you.

This is overly paranoid. If the historical bust data is anything to go by, lots of very prominent people hobby. Trust me, many ladies have regulars that are wealthier and more publicly prominent than you are--and the ladies have those clients' real info. Also I don't think that people know just how easy it is to get information nowadays. Public records info has never been easier or cheaper to obtain. We have read stories on this very site about ladies writing down clients' license plate numbers during incall appointments. We know that lots of hobbyists book outcalls to their homes. There are also lots of ladies who provide incalls out of their own homes. If you hobby a lot, you probably aren't as anonymous as you think. The hobby relies upon discretion in both directions.

To answer the OP, I have gone on multiple lengthy dates with ladies. My advice would be to go on one with someone you've met before and select someone who actually mentions lengthy date options on her website. The reason for the first suggestion is obvious. The reason for the second is to ensure that she knows what she's getting into and knows how to behave. Don't get paranoid about the information exchange...she's trusting you with her information too. (For example, let's say you have a lady travel to see you for an overnight. She's going to be carrying her ID with her and it will be in her purse at night. She's trusting you to not rifle through her stuff while she's sleeping.)

[Kelly French]

I took a client to my company christmas dinner once. We had a great time! He was a perfect gentleman; dressed appropriately, carried intelligent conversation with my colleagues, and never once called me by my "work name"