What do you prefer? Variety or loyalty?

[jlc6089]

Just curious what the average person thinks? I have seen profiles for some very beautiful women. Some, with a bit lower jumping off point. But I recently had a date with a gorgeous woman and cannot wait to see her again. I know what I'm going to do, just curious if variety is preferred by others? Oh, this is my first posts, please by kind if this is a stupid question.

[urfan]

hey jlc, not a stupid question at all. there have been several threads in the past on very similar topics. just one person's experience here, but when i first started hobbying it was all about the variety. later when i met a fantastic provider and it was obvious she was going to be my atf i embraced it and enjoyed every minute. good luck whatever your decision is.

[pfunk]

I like each appointment to be a new adventure. It doesn't have to be a new girl, but it often is. I like routine in my day to day life, but not in this "hobby"!

[inkspot]

I perfer to see someone on a regular basis if she is what I am looking for. I saw my ATF for years before she retired. Getting to know the person, their like and dislikes, and her knowing what you like means more in my book than than screwing every pretty thing that comes along. ( Which isn't bad either).

Meeting someone several times establishes a comfort level between the two.

I have learned that relying on reviews of even highly rated escorts can still result in a train wreck.

Personality, charm, and being reliable count more than variety.

[Guest hgritstoo]

I straddle the fence on this one. I think you can pursue both strategies.

I have found a few providers that always give exemplary service. They’re getting to know me : my likes, desires, limitations. That means a lot to me, and adds to the enjoyment of the session. These ladies are a known quantity to me……sort of like my favorite beer. Well balanced, full-bodied, great head. A bit hoppy. I will return to them again and again.

But sometimes, you’re thirsty for something a bit different. Something with a bite. Something spicy. Maybe even dirty. And that’s ok too. Go and enjoy, knowing full well that your favorite is still there.

[fork]

Pretty much the same for me.... pursue both.

I love the thrill of seeing someone for the first time, the mystery and excitement. Most girls I only ever see once. But I also have a few favorites.

[Guest Tinman]

Having an ATF is a healthy thing. Having variety is a more healthy thing.

[jlc6089]

Thanks for your perspective. I don't know what I would do, should I remain active in this long term, but I can't stop thinking of this lady! I know it's all fantasy, but I can't stop thinking if this lady! I am not expecting the same results as in "Pretty Woman," but damn that would be awesome! I want to see her today! But I also wan to wait a bit longer to ensure I have the drive, stamina and desire to enjoy the entire date!

[Guest hgritstoo]

Thanks for your perspective. I don't know what I would do, should I remain active in this long term, but I can't stop thinking of this lady! I know it's all fantasy, but I can't stop thinking if this lady! I am not expecting the same results as in "Pretty Woman," but damn that would be awesome! I want to see her today! But I also wan to wait a bit longer to ensure I have the drive, stamina and desire to enjoy the entire date!

Whoa there cowboy.

Be very careful that you are not confusing "really good customer service" with "feelings."

The ladies have us at a disadvantage. We have been programmed by evolution to want to care for and protect the ladies we lay with. After and during sex, your poor brain is being flooded by all kinds of chemicals. It's a great feeling, but you have to recognize it for what it is. And I know it doesn't help when some of these ladies....like my favs....are just really cool people to be around.

Develop coping skills. The path you are on leads to madness.....

[jlc6089]

Thanks, yes it is very easy to forget what is actually happening. I had to keep reminding myself. It's fun to live in the fantasy an the what if, but I am keeping it straight. It's hard though thinking with te right head. I am very new at this. Only been with a couple before her and they were really good at what they do. But I had no problem getting back to reality after them. This time is it taking some effort.

[fork]

I can't stop thinking of this lady! I know it's all fantasy, but I can't stop thinking if this lady!

After 1 visit? Don't get too excited, because I've had this experience then gone back for second helpings and found it wasn't as good as the first time.

But then again, sometimes it's better. Stop thinking and make the call.

[Guest]

I think this very same question could be asked of the ladies when applied to shoes.

While I do own an absolutely fabulous pair of shoes that no other shoe can come close to in comparison, which I usually slip on at least once a day (my loyalty shoes), I would be absolutely brokenhearted and mortified if they were the ONLY pair of shoes I had to wear.

Even though I usually regret it later, the six-inch stilettos HAVE TO be visited with regularly , even though those sexy bitches are not very loyal to me. This reminds me of guys taking one for the team on unknown quantities on backpage.

If I am going for a hike, my ATF shoes are definitely not right for the mood (unfortunately, like many of the best lessons learned in life, I learned this the hard way).

If I just need to run outside to check the mail, I only need a (quickie) slip on sandal.

In conclusion, when comparing escorts to shoes, I could TOTALLY understand how you could value both variety and loyalty. You need both!

[AaBrenly]

Variety is the spice of life or so they say. That being said if I find someone I really feel comfortable with and I like their personality etc then I will go back and that creates a level of loyalty to some extent on my part. But the hobby being what it is I do enjoy some variety when an ad or review catches my eye or fancy. I have seen my ATF for years every time I go on my frequent trip to CA. Unfortunately she is retiring and my trips to CA are becoming less and less.

[MAG]

Just curious what the average person thinks? I have seen profiles for some very beautiful women. Some, with a bit lower jumping off point. But I recently had a date with a gorgeous woman and cannot wait to see her again. I know what I'm going to do, just curious if variety is preferred by others? Oh, this is my first posts, please by kind if this is a stupid question.

Whatever floats your boat. If your insides are all twisted up in anticipation for a couple days before the appointment, then you've made the right choice for you.

Personally for me, this hobby is for variety. If I'm going to see the same hooker more than once or twice, there had better be some serious variety *within* than context. Otherwise, it just gets boring. If I want to be bored in the bedroom, I'll get married.

[jlc6089]

I 100% understand your POV av8r, and I have thought about that, but when you know you like roast beef, why take a chance on sushi. I know I will definitely see her again, we well see where my preferences lie afterwards. Who knows, on top of everything she has to offer, maybe I'm just a bit too lazy with having to set up an appointment, get my references in line, or direct them to my p411 account. Also, I met a beauty that I know is true to her pictures, and not going to put me in handcuffs ( well at least if I don't ask her to). I'm also hoping the second visit will be better than the first, though that would be a difficult task. I know there are things I'll do differently to enhance the experience, not sure what she can do to improve it:) ill keep you all posted. Who knows, maybe a little roast beef an sushi at the same time may also be a treat!

[MAG]

I 100% understand your POV av8r, and I have thought about that, but when you know you like roast beef, why take a chance on sushi.

I hear ya. When I go to a restaurant I'm familiar with, I usually order the same thing. And there's a lot to be said for wanting to go back to someone that you know you like. There's always the potential for "wasting" money on someone who turns out to be a little disappointing.

I've always liked having 2 or 3 ATF's, so I could still have reliable options and yet have the variety I like so much.

Good luck.

[geecue2]

I prefer variety, but seeing someone you click with is just as nice.

[mustang]

I have found that for me, variety is smartest. I have seen a couple ladies repeatedly, but I have to keep reminding myself that the "loyalty" is usually one sided.

[Guest]

I'm still trying to figure out that part of the by-line that asks, "Variety or loyalty?"

Loyalty to what?? Loyalty is fidelity and faithfulness. Seems that with but one date under your belt with this lady, you're getting way ahead of yourself, or you're using the wrong word. Perhaps "Variety or exclusivity" better characterizes the choice that you're contemplating....dunno.

[inkspot]

After 1 visit? Don't get too excited, because I've had this experience then gone back for second helpings and found it wasn't as good as the first time.

This is very good advice. The second time she whispers in your ear that you have this special effect on women, you then realize she says it to all the guys.

[jlc6089]

Perhaps "Variety or exclusivity" better characterizes the choice that you're contemplating....dunno.

Ok, good point. That's a better word choice. Hell, I think I eventually will go variety, I'm just impressed that my very first thred post ever has received so much feedback with lot's of sound advice.

1) I will difinetely see her again.

2)Depending how long I choose to entertain this fun, I probably will seek vatiety

3)When/if I ever get into another long term or committed relationship I will stop this fun and quite addicting habit and give my SO my loyalty (this time right word)

4) A lot of people have commented that I'm way over thinking this after one visit, let it be clear, though mini-me has a lot of input as to where it chooses to play, I am quite clear as to what is really happening. I understand that this is a transaction, for lack of a better word, she is very dedicated and quite good in her hospitality profession and it is her job and objective to make me want for no one else. She would surley win employee of the month. But I am all clear on that. I know the minute the door closes reality sets in again. As I mentioned, I am quite new to this whole thing, but I think I can handle it. And if not, it will be a fun and wild ride.

5) Only give her my PIN number of my debit card if she asks nice (JK)

6) Go to Urban Dictionary and see what ATF actually stands for

Really appreciating these forums, feedback and tips.!!

[chunky4096]

I think this very same question could be asked of the ladies when applied to shoes.

While I do own an absolutely fabulous pair of shoes that no other shoe can come close to in comparison, which I usually slip on at least once a day (my loyalty shoes), I would be absolutely brokenhearted and mortified if they were the ONLY pair of shoes I had to wear.

Even though I usually regret it later, the six-inch stilettos HAVE TO be visited with regularly , even though those sexy bitches are not very loyal to me. This reminds me of guys taking one for the team on unknown quantities on backpage.

If I am going for a hike, my ATF shoes are definitely not right for the mood (unfortunately, like many of the best lessons learned in life, I learned this the hard way).

If I just need to run outside to check the mail, I only need a (quickie) slip on sandal.

In conclusion, when comparing escorts to shoes, I could TOTALLY understand how you could value both variety and loyalty. You need both!

Great post, Destiny. Love the analogy.

EB/p411=Shoe store. Try 'em all on for size, comfort and style :-)

[leglover]

Variety that way I won't get attached to one lady and then have her retire or move away.

[Guest Tinman]

That's EXACTLY why variety is a more good thing. Many of us have been down that road and if you gotta go there, then you gotta go there, but believe me it will not end like Pretty Woman.

[mj76]

Why not have both? When I first started it was all about variety but then I found an ATF that I see regularly. In between visits with her I see ladies I haven't seen before. It works out nicely because if for some reason the new lady cancels or I have problems scheduling I just call my ATF and she always gets me.

[Boricua7]

Why not have both? When I first started it was all about variety but then I found an ATF that I see regularly. In between visits with her I see ladies I haven't seen before. It works out nicely because if for some reason the new lady cancels or I have problems scheduling I just call my ATF and she always gets me.

And here is the answer to your question.

Stay thirsty my friends.

[Bit Banger]

Why not have both? When I first started it was all about variety but then I found an ATF that I see regularly. In between visits with her I see ladies I haven't seen before. It works out nicely because if for some reason the new lady cancels or I have problems scheduling I just call my ATF and she always gets me.

And here is the answer to your question.

+1

While I tend to see YL I've visited with before, each year I see a few gals who are new to me. Some are one-time visits, and some become the first of many.

[macho]

Seeing an escort is a lot like a women. You have to start at the top and work your way down. Or is it the other way around? Sounds a lot like love tell this women how you feel. Don't be afraid.

[jlc6089]

Ok, since I posted this I think I have rethunk my original POV. I will continue to see my ATF, as my budget provides but I do see the fun in variety. I know I will never TOFTT, sorry, but there are definitely a couple ladies out there who I really want to see, one in particular. So I will go the route of variety. I can't wait to see my favorite again, and I have already scheduled my next date, but I will see others. Thanks for the advice all!!

[ImJustAvg]

I prefer exclusivity ONCE I find someone I click with! With a new lady there is some getting to know you time before any action starts. With someone that you have seen many times before the action starts right away!

Pros:

1. Know what each other likes.

2. Eventually after you have seen each other several times, it is more like a date.

3. Grandfathered on rate increases - normally.

4. Normally a priority on session availability.

Cons:

1. More drama - as you get to know each other, you hear more of the problems and I even had to bail an exclusive out of jail one time. That is drama!

2. Can lead to them taking advantage of your "friendship" and want favors on top of the donation.

3. When it ends - no referral to see other ladies and have to start over

I wouldn't recommend loyalty if you are married because then there is danger that you or her take it beyound client/provider and that could lead to some bad scenes.