Who Gets The Better End of The Deal?

[Guest]

The escort or the client? Or is it a 100% mutually beneficial relationship? Why?

[muckleskelpin]

With the right match it is always 100% mutually beneficial. It may be that different needs are met for each, or it may be that both truly enjoy the physical intimacy and pleasure that rises up to meet you both. If the match is wrong, try again another time.

[The Dawg]

Ill chime in on this one. In my humble opinion, at least from my perspective at least I get the better end of the deal. Let's face it, if a young lady is willing to spend some time with me, pamper me and give me something I would otherwise have to do without then I most definitely walk away getting the better end of the deal. Let's face it, being much older than the ladies I choose to see all of them over the past year or so,unfortunatly hasn't been that often, have gone out of thier way to treat me well.

[Guest hgritstoo]

Provider: Younger, Attractive, Confident in dealing with men, sexual experience and talent, either tired of the business world or not able to succeed in it, probably needs more money.

Me: Older, Not attractive, Not confident in dealing with women, not particularly well endowed or sexually talented, very successful at my job & as a result have a non-too-modest disposable income.

Yep...looks like a barter opportunity to me.

As a relative newbie in this hobby, the hardest thing for me to remember has been that $$$ is the only thing I have to bring to the table.

[Audrey Astor]

I think that it is mutually beneficial the majority of the time. It is interesting to see the guys responding that they come out on top. Sometimes I feel that way, when I find a really good deal, or get an exceptional massage, so it makes sense to me.

If I ever feel like I am coming out on the bottom or it is not mutually beneficial, I will have to fine a new career. If I were to feel resentful, not having a good time anymore, etc. it would come out in my level of service. It just would

So, for now..... thank gosh, it is fun and beneficial!

[Happymon]

The escort or the client? Or is it a 100% mutually beneficial relationship? Why?

As the old Navajo woman said when told that a stranger had got expensive wine for her husband, "Good trade.";)

[MrReindeer-9515]

+1 to the 50/50, mutually beneficial relationship, but channelling "stevie":

Girls got it, they sell it, and they still got it (italics mine)!

[Songdog57]

I think I get more, and by a pretty good margin. I've said it before and it still holds true for me, almost all the ladies I've seen have given me much more than I ever gave them.

Note: The above should in no way be taken as encouragement to increase donations by any providers! I’m just a poor working boy from a small town in Virginia who is trying to get by in the big city as best he can! Besides, I make a huge donation to the Retired Adult Service Providers (RASP) organization every month! Huge, I say!

[irisheyes]

I never thought I would come out on top in this hobby. All I know, is I get what I want, the provider gets what she wants, and sex is had by both. A win-win

I am not even too old or that bad looking. I'm educated, I make good money. Hell, I'm in a relationship and have had enough FWBs on the side, or, no trouble meeting others out and about. For me, it just fills a rush, it eliminates any dry spells I might have, and, believe it or not, I feel like I can relate to providers in certain ways.

There are always many many factors that come into play why people are in this hobby (not all are desperate, and not always about money). Let's face it, a lot of guys would do the same if they could, a lot of guys try, but women just have it easier. So if the provider gets what they are looking for, I get what I am looking for..............even steven, and, even if it is not the "best" experience..............a part of the end game is still met.

[lewd5050]

As i stand here looking in the mirror, i can, with absolute certainty tell you that i'm getting the better end of the trade. My only hope is that after i leave the lady doesnt feel she needs to run to the bathroom for a rosewood type scrub down. And hopefully they can say, "well, at least he was polite."

[Exiled]

Hmmmm....A loaded question with more than one answer IMHO. I think with the professional ladies such as here on TOB and EB it's a pretty good give and take. Like others have said, I look in the mirror and wonder how the providers put up with me LOL. But all in all I have had some great sessions with beautiful women where they've run past time because we got to chatting and having non intimate fun. SO here I'd say even. But on the other side are the 3G's and cash and dash who obviously take us clients for advantage. All in all, when I've done my homework on who to see, things seem pretty even....a win-win situation

[Wendy Whitney]

As a relative newbie in this hobby, the hardest thing for me to remember has been that $$$ is the only thing I have to bring to the table.

Shut up and go to time out - you are wrong!!!

[Wendy Whitney]

I think I get more, and by a pretty good margin. I've said it before and it still holds true for me, almost all the ladies I've seen have given me much more than I ever gave them.

You're wrong too - go to time out!

[Wendy Whitney]

50/50 -

[dipper]

I believe I get the better end of the deal. I have had the pleasure of meeting some VERY interesting - not to mention gorgeous women with whom I have had great (my opinion) experiences. Simply would not have happened without "The Deal". Thank you ladies, for it has been my pleasure!

[Guest hgritstoo]

Shut up and go to time out - you are wrong!!!

You're wrong too - go to time out!

Hey Songdog: wanna go halvsies on a christmas present for Wendy? We can get her a whip.

To the OP: WHAT IS YOUR POSITION ON THIS? Providers are obviously in this for money, as it is their profession. What other things of value do you, as a provider, get from the exchange?

[Exiled]

Originally posted by wendyluvsfun

You're wrong too - go to time out!

Hmmm....Can I go to time out With you ?

[gr8owl]

I'd have to say that any lady stuck having sex with someone as ugly as me is definitely getting the shaft! Pun not intended but gladly accepted. But then again in dim light the glow given off by the franklins makes me almost cute - so maybe 50/50.

[Doug28]

50/50 with the edge going to the provider. The ideal session incudes big fun and a connection. Everybody is happy.

If the session is less than ideal you are sad but the provider still gets paid. She still got what she expected $.

If both of you had a great time then you both win. She still gets paid.

Advantage provider 51%/49%

[Songdog57]

Hey Songdog: wanna go halvsies on a christmas present for Wendy? We can get her a whip.

Sure! As soon as this damn time out is over!

[pitbull]

I'm curious as to the opinion of the OP on this matter, because it's an interesting question.

[2Big]

I'd say the working girl.

Escorting is probably the only "profession" a girl with average looks, no talents, or education, can walk into, and right away make cash and keep all of it.

There are few upfront costs, almost no overhead, etc. You don't need to spend a lot of money on advertising. Uncle Sam doesn't take out any taxes, either.

[lola]

Shut up and go to time out - you are wrong!!!

Wendy, I've never seen this side of you before.....you go girl.

And by the way, plus one. Grits if all you're bringing is money then it's a no go.

[lola]

I think that it is mutually beneficial the majority of the time. It is interesting to see the guys responding that they come out on top. Sometimes I feel that way, when I find a really good deal, or get an exceptional massage, so it makes sense to me.

In one of my last encounters I got the best massage I'd ever had. Maybe it was the angle as I was still on top of him but he f'n massaged for over an hour. I massaged him back and we ended up having a 3 hour session. I decided that when he calls me again that I'd walk out wo my gift. He was that good at EVERYTHING he did. Cute too.

[urfan]

i'll have to buck the trend here and say the providers get the better end of the stick - so to speak

i submit the following list (with the caveat, of course, that there are obvious occupational pitfalls)

THEM:

1. the women get to be with as many, or as few, men as they want - or need.

2. they get to work for themselves as independent contractors, which allows them to have more control over their time to live their own lives outside of the profession (and take a week off every month guilt-free).

3. the money's good.

4. they get to go places and have experiences that they wouldn't ordinarily have (or so i read in reviews) and maybe even fulfill their own fantasies once in a while.

5. occasionally, they get to know guys as regulars that they enjoy being with and look forward to the appointment.

6. depending on the client, they can get huge boosts to their ego and self-confidence from sessions, not to mention the occasional 'o' from a really good fuck.

7. guys buy them presents (hint, hint, xxx-mas is coming).

8. they feel wanted, needed and desired (and what woman doesn't love that?).

9. it's not always about the business.

10. the women who love this job really love it.

11. they'll have some great stories to tell around the thanksgiving dinner table.

US:

we can get laid, more or less the way we want, whenever we get the itch and can scrounge up the entry fee.

[Guest hgritstoo]

I'd say the working girl.

Escorting is probably the only "profession" a girl with average looks, no talents, or education, can walk into, and right away make cash and keep all of it.

There are few upfront costs, almost no overhead, etc. You don't need to spend a lot of money on advertising. Uncle Sam doesn't take out any taxes, either.

2Big.....I hear through the back channels you're a nice guy, you've got lots more experience than I, and most of your posts are intelligent, witty, and thought provoking. But if I were one of the ladies, I'd be insulted by your post. Was this your intent?

While I agree that any woman with no talents at all could ATTEMPT to be a provider, many of the skill sets associated with good customer relations, good psychoanalysts, good sexual therapists, and above all good ACTRESSES, are required to be a successful ASP. Only the pay is probably better than these other fields. To dissmiss them as no-talent parasites that are lucky to have a pussy attached does them....and YOU....a dis-service.

If all I wanted was an orgasm, I don't need to spend hundreds of dollars for that. The presence of a living, breathing woman fills an emotional need as well. That need won't be met if the ASP does not have the right skill sets.

That said.....I am still waiting to hear from the OP, or any other ASP for that matter, what else they get out of this barter BESIDES $$$. That will help in the determination of who is getting the better deal.

[urfan]

hey grits,

you have to have figured out by now that 2b uses the forum here like a bolshevik uses a Molotov cocktail.

[Guest hgritstoo]

hey grits,

you have to have figured out by now that 2b uses the forum here like a bolshevik uses a Molotov cocktail.

I respectfully disagree. I view 2Big as another experienced client that I can learn a lot from. He has a world-view that I frequently disagree with....but still don't fully understand.

Everyone brings something of value to the table. Me? I'm the poster child for "don't be that guy."

[Songdog57]

Wendy, I've never seen this side of you before.....you go girl.

Don't encourage her, Lola! Grits and I are STILL in time out!

[urfan]

and i respect your right to disagree . . . respectfully

but insipid, insouciant and intransigent is no way to go through life, son.

(to paraphrase 'animal house')