Posted November 11, 2012 What are you trying to say? That you are hoping that you can find love with an ASP? You can meet some quality women here and feel good, maybe better than you are feeling othewise in your personal life (how would I know), but hopefully love is not why you are here. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 11, 2012 Everyone wants to love someone and be loved. But if you are looking for a LTR in this community, you better be 110% committed to and comfortable with your SO bangin lots of nice, sweet, sexually talented guys with better looks and bigger dicks than you. If not, then this is a place to have fun, but not seek love. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 11, 2012 oh nairobi i wouldn't be too quick to discourage macho. i think the hobby thrives to fill the void for lonely hearts as well as the merely sexually adventurous. besides, 'love' can take many forms and exist at many levels because everybody's feelings are unique. love doesn't necessarily imply ltr and even those come in lots of flavors. another thread pretty thoroughly dissected the whole making love/fucking gfe/pse thing. for me, i'm here for the combination of purely physical experience combined with sincere caring and passion. it's mind-blowing. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 11, 2012 This sand box is an escape from reality. Keep this life separate from your other and keep it in perspective. We all want some affection. This is not where you come for love. The affection you are looking for can be purchased an hour at a time. Then poof, it is gone and you have that empty, flat feeling you had before. Keep it in perspective. A few here have developed relationships. That is not the norm. There is a fine line between seeking more than a friendly business relationship and being a weirdo stalker. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 11, 2012 We all want that. But be careful. We've seen a number of threads where things didn't quite work out so well. One can "love" someone without being "in love" with that person. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 11, 2012 Exactly right. I love almost every lady i've met, and a few i havent. But that me, i love to love. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 11, 2012 you're looking in the wrong place. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 11, 2012 Who feels the same way? http://youtu.be/1KCem_Za9TY Some of my favorites to keep everything in perpective tell me "love ya babe". 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 11, 2012 ... "love ya babe". I'm looking for the lollypop(*), GQ. (*) A Kojak reference 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 12, 2012 Unfortunately, you won't find "love" with the GFE. You must have an actual GF for that. Love requires taking chances and living with the possible heart break. ASPs are not the place to find love. Perhaps affection, kindness, and caring -- but love is deeper than all of those. Love (usually) can't thrive in the wake of a financial arrangement. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 12, 2012 Me love you long time. Which is about an hour or so. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 12, 2012 http://youtu.be/1KCem_Za9TY Some of my favorites to keep everything in perpective tell me "love ya babe". What perspective does it keep things in? Truly I am curious, this is something I have never really understood. In the escorting world it seems dangerous to use 'love' and 'you' in the same sentence when speaking to a client. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 12, 2012 Coming to providers for "love" is somewhat unstable IMO. However, I have a ton of guys who I truely adore as very good friends. But that's it. Do I believe one can find love here? Sure I do, but it's rare, and special and needs to happen naturally. I think if you are activly seeking that here, you are in the wrong place , and set up to get hurt. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 12, 2012 In the escorting world it seems dangerous to use 'love' and 'you' in the same sentence when speaking to a client. The use of "ya" combined with "babe" roughly translates to.."that was not so bad, maybe call me again the next time you have $300". 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 12, 2012 hey Luce, me being a man of the 20th Century and used to the Oxford Standard for everything, my only guess is that people here tend to use the Urban Dictionary definitions of everything. So here goes from that inimitable source fwiw: 'love ya' A phrase used mostly by guys, who don't want to commit to true love. Ya is used instead of YOU, to make clear it is not for "real". It really means: "I like you", nothing more, nothing less. Nowadays often used in txt messages or in emails, or an evening hanging out. [like a session perhaps?] and/or The phrase your girlfriend/boyfriend says to you after you break up but still want to be "just friends." In other words, they're just saying it because they have to. They don't really still love you. They replace the "you" with "ya" to make it casual, and not serious. It makes things awkward - especially if one of you guys still likes each other but you realize this whole "unserious" thing. [like a client/provider thing perhaps] but really i suspect it's more like: The phrase your provider says to you indicating a degree of affection without implying the real meaning of love as it is commonly and frequently used in the 'civilian' world. if your provider has true feelings of love, i'd suspect she will say something like, "i'm firing you as a client because i think i love you and i want to see you in my personal life outside the escort world here." them's the words that have no ambiguity, duplicity or any other 'ity' in 'em. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 12, 2012 The use of "ya" combined with "babe" roughly translates to.."that was not so bad, maybe call me again the next time you have $300". Context I suppose is everything. 'Babe' to me has always been very affectionate and something reserved for those that I am in relationships with. I have just always felt that the more terms like that are thrown around the more they lose their meaning. As a client I would feel devalued and maybe a little objectified if a lady said that to me, chances are she is saying it to more than just you and it is just really superficial. Maybe I am too straight forward I would rather just tell a friend that I had a great time with him and would like to see him again. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 12, 2012 'Babe' to me has always been very affectionate and something reserved for those that I am in relationships with. As a client I would feel ... maybe a little objectified ... I think this is a Mars/Venus thing. Guys use babe just in case we've forgotten your name...and many of us would love to be objectified. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 12, 2012 (edited) It goes like this as long as you are buying my time to hang out with you I can see us together and in love. If you want us ASP to hang out for a dinner and a movie in hopes the relationship will grow into LOVE LOL, Well Fill in the blank_____________. Pretty Women this is not although a lot of ASP and Jons believe this can become reality. Can it happen sure but odds are not in our favor. The ASP's and Jons are not deprived of SEX in this business so while the money fills some of the void for the ladies the JONS are able to fill thier void with sex and more sex. Which still does not answer the op question or desire to want to find love. Buying sex is not the way to find love or to build a relationship on. Lilithia Edited November 12, 2012 by lilithia spelling 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 12, 2012 Who feels the same way? ... and ran with so far. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 12, 2012 As a client I would feel devalued and maybe a little objectified if a lady said that to me, chances are she is saying it to more than just you and it is just really superficial. Does not bother me in the least, yes there is no true love in the hobbying expierence. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 12, 2012 Well...when you post it on a hobby board...I guess people are going to read a little more into it:D So...to answer the OP...Yes...that is all I really want. To answer the masses...I come here to fill the voids until I can find what I'm looking for. ... and ran with so far. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 15, 2012 Who feels the same way? I do. And last time I checked, so does everyone else in this world. Next question... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 15, 2012 as much, if not more so, as wanting to be loved by someone 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
