Posted September 20, 2012 I have heard many times from my clients that the reason that they see escorts is because their wife is not interested in sex anymore (for whatever reason). I was wondering if the shoe was ever on the other foot so to speak. As in do you guys ever lose interest in having sex with your wife or is it always the wife that loses interest in having sex with the husband? It seems to me that this could go either way because I can't understand why only women would lose interest. Are there any of you guys out there that just are not interested in having sex with your wife anymore? If the answer is yes, why? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 20, 2012 I wouldnt say i've lost interest, but her sex drive is much higher than mine. She would like to do it 5-7 times a week, i'm more of a once a week type guy. She's great. Still beautiful, and in her mid thirties, looks mid twenties. She's an absolute animal in bed. Still, after 17 years i am looking for a little variety. I really wish i had a higher sex drive. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 21, 2012 I wouldnt say i've lost interest, but her sex drive is much higher than mine. She would like to do it 5-7 times a week, i'm more of a once a week type guy. She's great. Still beautiful, and in her mid thirties, looks mid twenties. She's an absolute animal in bed. I am sure the majority of guys wish their sex life was this rough 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 21, 2012 I have heard it a thousand times yes my wife still likes sex but I need and want variety. Women think that if they have a sex desire thier man won't stray. Wrong, So if you don't please her what or where or whom does she get to scratch her itch.So a women is dam if she does or doesn't. Lilithia 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 21, 2012 "The change" when women dry up and no longer want sex sucks. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 21, 2012 Sometimes it is not a matter of interest in one's SO. There may be other factors such as medical reasons. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 21, 2012 Thats why hookers work so well. I know I would not want a hot dog that doesn't get hard even when it has been cooked. It kills me to think women think their man is happy jacking off in the shower and has no other needs. I know when I was married I did not want sex with my SO and it didn't have to do with the change, I was no longer attracted to him. Old school women were devoted to thier husbands and the marrige, we younger ladies not so much. Lilithia 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 21, 2012 Thats why hookers work so well. I know I would not want a hot dog that doesn't get hard even when it has been cooked. It kills me to think women think their man is happy jacking off in the shower and has no other needs. I know when I was married I did not want sex with my SO and it didn't have to do with the change, I was no longer attracted to him. Old school women were devoted to thier husbands and the marrige, we younger ladies not so much. Lilithia Hmm, so your husband was damned if he did or didnt. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 21, 2012 Haven’t had an SO since just before starting this little hobby thing. Right before it ended things had gone flat as far as sex was concerned. We’d still do the one thang, but I think it was getting pretty tiresome for both of us. It was taking us forever once and I asked her if she was having a hard time thinking of someone else too. I’m dumb like that sometimes. If I was still in a relationship and she was stepping out? Man, I don’t know. Had that happen with a wife once and it wasn’t pretty for anybody. Lots of hurt wrapped up in that one. I get the whole good for the goose good for the gander thing, but it might be best to get that out on the table beforehand. For both parties. I think I might be able to get my mind around it if she was honest about it. It would require a whole new level of trust though. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 21, 2012 Yep, I lost interest. First, it just got boring. It's like it is scripted and never changes. I did something a little different one time and she accused me of cheating and that was way before I ever even had thoughts of chaeating. Second, she likes to pick fights with me over really stupid things and then she wants sex later. That's not gonna happen. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 21, 2012 I have heard many times from my clients that the reason that they see escorts is because their wife is not interested in sex anymore (for whatever reason). I was wondering if the shoe was ever on the other foot so to speak. As in do you guys ever lose interest in having sex with your wife or is it always the wife that loses interest in having sex with the husband? It seems to me that this could go either way because I can't understand why only women would lose interest. Are there any of you guys out there that just are not interested in having sex with your wife anymore? If the answer is yes, why? The wife lost most of the interest then I lost the rest. She tells me she was more into it at a young age and I believe her. Was one of many things which killed the marriage. Timing is almost everything. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 21, 2012 My wife and I had great sex for longer than most people are married. After the change she started to lose interest. As time went on she started to suffer from a variety of physical ills that I would not wish on anyone. Due to a variety on reasons she has no libido-a fact she laments. We are very close in very other way, but it was definitly her who lost interest. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 21, 2012 +1 My friends and I have concluded.. men like varity. Take care of us and do whatcha gotta do... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 21, 2012 Your description of your wife sounds a lot like me Lewd lol 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 21, 2012 I wouldnt say i've lost interest, but her sex drive is much higher than mine. She would like to do it 5-7 times a week, i'm more of a once a week type guy. The solution seems simple: call someone to take care of your wife. Send a picture. Maybe I'll volunteer. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 21, 2012 Good for you! Sex can keep a marriage interesting...but it's not what makes it work. My wife and I had great sex for longer than most people are married. After the change she started to lose interest. As time went on she started to suffer from a variety of physical ills that I would not wish on anyone. Due to a variety on reasons she has no libido-a fact she laments. We are very close in very other way, but it was definitly her who lost interest. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 21, 2012 Are there any of you guys out there that just are not interested in having sex with your wife anymore? I think I am at that stage now in my life. I was pushed away again and again over the years. I asked her if she wanted me to get a girl friend. Boy, that set off the tears. I wish I knew what her problem was but she will not talk about it. No need to talk about it because there is no problem. You throw in the towel. If I never had sex with my wife again, it would be OK. Sometimes I feel like the puppy that got kicked. What did I do? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 21, 2012 My husband did his own thing and I was right behind him. Marriage is a farce to me. I have no trust or belief in marriage. Men think they are entitled to have their cake and eat it too. So that is a mute point. This is why hookers work so well and we make $$$$. Hobby On Lilithia 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 25, 2012 I am convinced that this hobby has saved some marriages. I was facing the prospect of very little if no sex in my future as a married man, by the time I found the hobby it was too late to save my marriage, but I often wonder if I had this hobby earlier would I have been able to stay married. Perhaps, because my biggest complaint was my ex's total asexual attitude, she just didn't care anymore. As far as losing interest, I did not however, i stay in shape in fact I am probably in better shape in my 50's than I was in my 30's, yet my wife let herself go, so when that happens they wonder why their men had an affair. That works both ways I know, if the guy becomes a fat pig then he should not wonder either why the wife stepped out. I think you owe it to your partner to take care of yourself and try to look good for him or her. Anyway, thank you girls for being. You are more important to many of us than you know. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 26, 2012 Oddly for me, I like the thrill. It doesn't matter if I am with someone or not. My number one fantasy is actually seeing a provider. I can't really explain, but I will try. First off, I am very much a giver and I put a lot of effort into having sex, so much in fact that most of the time I fail to really enjoy it as much as I want to. Don't get me wrong I do enjoy it but physically not as much as I wish I could. With a provider I can actually relax and enjoy everything for myself (which is a serious relief) Second, seeing a provider IS my sexual fantasy. Making the call, finding the location, meeting someone and being with a total stranger. The whole process seems extremely taboo, secret and shady. Almost every time I have ever been with a woman I have had a stamina problem as in it takes way to long to climax. I have faked it more than half the time. The excitement of living my fantasy all but reverses that. I love it. It doesn't matter if I am with someone or not, there are some fantasies that can't be filled at home, by anyone. Which is both good and bad, I have been with some beautiful women in my life and lot that were amazing in bed but honestly only a few have excited me as much as a provider. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 26, 2012 There may be other factors such as medical reasons. That's why I said "for whatever reason". This thread wasn't directed that way. I was curious if men lose interest in their s.o. Not if there was a medical issue. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 27, 2012 My husband did his own thing and I was right behind him. Marriage is a farce to me. I have no trust or belief in marriage. Men think they are entitled to have their cake and eat it too. So that is a mute point. This is why hookers work so well and we make $$$$. Hobby On Lilithia Difficult point here.............I don't think marriage is a farce, but people change after they marry, and THAT can be a catylist for many issues to either work through, accommodate or walk away from. BTW, did you mean "moot" instead of "mute"? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 27, 2012 So that is a mute point. i think you mean moot point. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 27, 2012 So that is a mute point. i think you mean moot point. I thought she just meant she wasn't going to talk about it. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 27, 2012 Are there any of you guys out there that just are not interested in having sex with your wife anymore? If the answer is yes, why? Fortunately, my wife and I are still pretty constantly interested in having sex with one another Plus escorts. Plus pretty much anyone we get along with. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 28, 2012 To Lewd: perhaps you should turn her on to the Hobby and with asex drive like that and her being an "animal in bed" she could make a fortune at this! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 1, 2012 I think I am at that stage now in my life. I was pushed away again and again over the years. I asked her if she wanted me to get a girl friend. Boy, that set off the tears. I wish I knew what her problem was but she will not talk about it. No need to talk about it because there is no problem. You throw in the towel. If I never had sex with my wife again, it would be OK. Sometimes I feel like the puppy that got kicked. What did I do? Wow, sounds just like my life. We didn't have much sex before marriage and I chalked it up to her being a "good girl". Then after marriage the excuse was "we can't afford to get pregnant and have kids yet", even though we were using birth control. Then once we had our two kids, then it was "you think I'm fat", when I didn't think that at all. Just another way to keep me away. When I tried to talk about it or asked to go to counseling, she would respond that we didn't have a problem. After twenty years of once a year sex, I finally gave up and then had to hear about how I didn't want to have sex with her! I came up two days shy of 26 years. I'm so glad that I got out of there! Just not soon enough. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 3, 2012 For me it isn't the loss of interest at all. I consider myself a kid in a very large candy store and boy do I love candy. By enjoying this industry I minimize the risk of having "emotions" enter the picture as I sample the sweets that abound around me. My wife and I enjoy a great sex life and even invite friends to join in. Variety really is the spice of life!! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 3, 2012 I have yet to get my feet wet in the hobby, but the biggest reason why I want to My S.O. is an alcoholic (in denial cuz she doesn't drink before 5 P.M.) who thinks we should be having drunken sex for hours all night long, like how we used to before we had kids and a house and all the responsibility that goes with it. While I used to be able handle getting drunk every night and having sex all night long then show up to work 2 hours later, it gets old real fast, especially after having a kid. While I still am attracted to my S.O. There are many things that turn me off about her as well. Its not attractive when the woman you are with gets so drunk that she doesn't even remember having sex with you last night. Why should I have sex with her if shes not even gonna remember it. Then to have to listen to her complain about our sex life and everything else that she is unhappy with, and have her tell me that I'm the one who's not happy. Then if I don't have sex with her, she thinks I'm cheating. If I do have sex with her, she thinks I'm doing it because I feel obligated not because I want to. No matter what I do, I end up being the dickhead. Sex should not be so complicated. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 3, 2012 Wow! What a story. I am sorry to hear that your marriage is in such a complicated state. That is really a tough situation that you are in but honestly I think that you sound like the perfect candidate to see escorts. I don't think that seeing escorts will solve the problems in your marriage but it might help you by giving you an outlet to get away and enjoy a beautiful woman without the complications that you are experiencing in your marriage. Even though it is only one hour at a time you will be able to forget your worries and just enjoy yourself for the moment. As far as your marriage goes, I would strongly recommend counseling or trying to get your wife some help somehow. But the truth is, if you do get her help, she has to want it in order for it to work and from what you described (her not thinking she's an alcoholic because she only drinks after 5 PM) it doesn't sound like she's ready for help. Your story makes me sad. I wish you the best my friend and I hope that things get better soon. I have yet to get my feet wet in the hobby, but the biggest reason why I want to My S.O. is an alcoholic (in denial cuz she doesn't drink before 5 P.M.) who thinks we should be having drunken sex for hours all night long, like how we used to before we had kids and a house and all the responsibility that goes with it. While I used to be able handle getting drunk every night and having sex all night long then show up to work 2 hours later, it gets old real fast, especially after having a kid. While I still am attracted to my S.O. There are many things that turn me off about her as well. Its not attractive when the woman you are with gets so drunk that she doesn't even remember having sex with you last night. Why should I have sex with her if shes not even gonna remember it. Then to have to listen to her complain about our sex life and everything else that she is unhappy with, and have her tell me that I'm the one who's not happy. Then if I don't have sex with her, she thinks I'm cheating. If I do have sex with her, she thinks I'm doing it because I feel obligated not because I want to. No matter what I do, I end up being the dickhead. Sex should not be so complicated. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
