Posted July 23, 2012 (edited) I was going to make this a "Are ASP's sexually intimidating?" but I decided to make it a little more general. So here is the back story on this question. I have been "dating" a few different guys recently. They all know what I do for a living and are fine with it. So anyways.. Im used to guys who sleep with me once and fall off the planet, happens all the time. So I meet this guy right and we talk for awhile then we finally meet. We go on like 3 dates and on the 4th it gets somewhat sexual. (Seriously I rarely make it to 4 dates without having sex so this is unusual from the start) So all that ended up happening is I gave him a HJ. Best damn HJ the shmuck has ever had (and yes I did just say shmuck). Anyways he falls off the planet. Now I would expect this from a man who got some actually sex, but this was just a hj!! I posed the questions to other about why would you just go away after a damn hj? Can a hj really be that satisfying? Well the response I got back is that I am intimidating. Sexually intimidating because Im good at what I do. So here is the question. Do you as men find providers to be sexually intimidating? What about other woman who happen be skilled in the sexual arts? What is it that makes these woman intimidating? For the ladies, Have you ever been told you are intimidating? Do you think this is something you can change or is it just a part of who you are and they just need to suck it up? Edited July 23, 2012 by Kaduk Typo!!! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 23, 2012 ...So here is the question. Do you as men find providers to be sexually intimidating? What about other woman who happen be skilled in the sexual arts? What is it that makes these woman intimidating?...When I first started out, I would say some ladies were perceived intimidating. Since I was a newbie, I'd say some ladies larger than life board personas made it somewhat intimidating. After I got more confident in myself on the board (and BCD), then my perceived worries went away. BTW, that must of been one helluva HJ sampler you provided. I'd call him a schmuck too for not wanting to taste the whole buffet!! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 23, 2012 I have never felt sexually intimidated by any provider, but have been intimidated by a few of the ladies beauty. I don't think your "smuck" was intimidated but released the reality of dating a provider is not the fantasy he imagined it would be. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 23, 2012 "Sexually intimidating" translates to: Jesus, how many guys has she practiced this on? No dude wants to think of his girlfriend as "that famous bukkake pornstar". 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 23, 2012 Tina, as you know, you are a spectacular lady and provider. There is a possibilty that he knows his "skill" set doesn't measure up to your's - that may be why he is intimidated. He knows you are better in bed than he is! Just another possibility! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 23, 2012 So here is the question. Do you as men find providers to be sexually intimidating? Is the pope catholic? I can't speak for others, but I am very intimidated. I have a very nerdy, whitebread, vanilla past. Before I started hobbying I had been monogamous for a loooong time, and had few experiences before then. To add to it, I ain't exactly porn star material either, if you get my drift. You recently posted about a great O a client gave you. But it isn't just you. A lot of the reviews mention getting the provider off. And, to me, a very important part of the experience is giving your partner pleasure. Or at least, believing you have. Now, put poor lil ol whitebread me in a situation where he has not only his own standards to live up to......but those of all the previous men a provider has seen, and, well, yeah. You ladies scare the hell out of me. Fortunately I love a challenge, and even though I may keep on failing I'll keep on trying. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 23, 2012 Tina, Yep totally get what you are saying, I never thought of it in those terms though. hmmm... I have found myself holding back on my "skills" in my personal dating life trying not to be intimidating. Then I started thinking WTF??? If they really can't handle all this, then they shouldn't. It's a package deal. I think it just comes down to men are men. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 23, 2012 (edited) Yes I used to feel intimidated some especially with my first encounter with a $300 an hour princess. I feel more comfortable with ladies I have seen before. My SO was, like me, quite active in her early life. I now have the mind set that what she and you ladies have learned in the past just makes me more happy and i get great pleasure from all of you ladies. I think though its like one of the previous posters said, it depends on how much experience you have to set your comfort level. I am no Don Juan but I can hold my own when the equipment works but i had years in the navy tp work on my skills so that makes me feel comfortable even though I know I could still improve. Edited July 23, 2012 by 2small spellim 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 23, 2012 i have to say that, rather than being intimidated by a more experienced and skilled woman, i find it incredibly hot. having not had that may partners myself, the thrill of feeling things i've never felt before at the hands of a wanton woman in the throes of passion far outweighs any self-consciousness feelings relative to the disparity in number of sexual encounters. i feel like i benefit from her having 'been around the block' which often also translates into her knowing her own body better and being able to direct my efforts to the most effective techniques for mutual satisfaction, essentially schooling me on being a better lover. now who could be against that? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 23, 2012 i have to say that, rather than being intimidated by a more experienced and skilled woman, i find it incredibly hot. having not had that may partners myself, the thrill of feeling things i've never felt before at the hands of a wanton woman in the throes of passion far outweighs any self-consciousness feelings relative to the disparity in number of sexual encounters. i feel like i benefit from her having 'been around the block' which often also translates into her knowing her own body better and being able to direct my efforts to the most effective techniques for mutual satisfaction, essentially schooling me on being a better lover. now who could be against that? I agree urfan. At 41 i feel the same way. The 25 year ol lewd5050 though, that was a different story. As a younger gent i was completely intimidated by experienced women. I shyed away from many sure thing sexcapades with beautiful women just because i was afraid i wouldnt perform as well as they would. Of coarse back then i wouldnt admit that even to myself. Now i can see how stupid that was and know enough about myself to realize what i was doing back then. I would tell myself to pass on this situation or that situation because the girl must be a slut. It was easier to put the lady down than it was to admit to myself how stupid and insecure i was. What a complete asshole i was. Now with my life most likely more than halfway over, i love the idea of a woman knowing how to please me, and knowing how to tell me to please her. It turns me on to no end when a lady tells me exactly what to do that allows her to reach climax. As im sure is the case with most of us, i wish i could go back and explain all of this to that tall, handsome, chiseled, young lewd5050. He did well enough with the ladies, they were just the wrong ladies. Youth is wasted on the young. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 24, 2012 Tina, Yep totally get what you are saying, I never thought of it in those terms though. hmmm... I have found myself holding back on my "skills" in my personal dating life trying not to be intimidating. Then I started thinking WTF??? If they really can't handle all this, then they shouldn't. It's a package deal. I think it just comes down to men are men. Is this not a little like saying all blonde women are stupid? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 24, 2012 From a handjob??? I think I can confidently say that he's had way more experience...unless he was born without thumbs. Tina, as you know, you are a spectacular lady and provider. There is a possibilty that he knows his "skill" set doesn't measure up to your's - that may be why he is intimidated. He knows you are better in bed than he is! Just another possibility! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 24, 2012 No shit....and I mean...really...who actually gives thought to what the world is gonna be like after they cum anyhow:rolleyes: Is this not a little like saying all blonde women are stupid? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 24, 2012 No shit....and I mean...really...who actually gives thought to what the world is gonna be like after they cum anyhow After I cum the world is full of one woman wanting to talk while I'm trying to sleep. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 24, 2012 I use -humor and being light hearted- Gotta have a stick in yer ass/ God Complex/ or F*ggot to take me so seriously... ehem. I agree with Hustler saying -Its just Sex!- 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 24, 2012 +1 Angela Sex is supposed to be fun and regardless of 1 person's opinion.... Using humor and being silly tends to put a person at ease and make them more comfortable. Then there isn't an intimidation factor. Many moons ago I was dancing at a lower level club and was being ignored not making much money. Finally I started a friendship with one of the customers there and he told me that men were too intimidated to approach me for dances. I realized that what I thought was classy and being a lady (well as much as one can in this biz) was coming across as stuck up and intimidating especially when they heard pornstar attached to my name. I began being my smart alecky self and having fun at my own expense and guys saw that I wasn't as intimidating as they originally thought. That's harder to do here when its just a picture and a few written words. But I always do my best to put all clients at ease and to know I'm still that nerdy honor student with the big glasses and braces at heart. Kisses, Kyla 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 24, 2012 Honor Student???? Now I'm intimidated!!! +1 Angela Sex is supposed to be fun and regardless of 1 person's opinion.... Using humor and being silly tends to put a person at ease and make them more comfortable. Then there isn't an intimidation factor. Many moons ago I was dancing at a lower level club and was being ignored not making much money. Finally I started a friendship with one of the customers there and he told me that men were too intimidated to approach me for dances. I realized that what I thought was classy and being a lady (well as much as one can in this biz) was coming across as stuck up and intimidating especially when they heard pornstar attached to my name. I began being my smart alecky self and having fun at my own expense and guys saw that I wasn't as intimidating as they originally thought. That's harder to do here when its just a picture and a few written words. But I always do my best to put all clients at ease and to know I'm still that nerdy honor student with the big glasses and braces at heart. Kisses, Kyla 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 24, 2012 +1 Angela Sex is supposed to be fun and regardless of 1 person's opinion.... Using humor and being silly tends to put a person at ease and make them more comfortable. Then there isn't an intimidation factor. Many moons ago I was dancing at a lower level club and was being ignored not making much money. Finally I started a friendship with one of the customers there and he told me that men were too intimidated to approach me for dances. I realized that what I thought was classy and being a lady (well as much as one can in this biz) was coming across as stuck up and intimidating especially when they heard pornstar attached to my name. I began being my smart alecky self and having fun at my own expense and guys saw that I wasn't as intimidating as they originally thought. That's harder to do here when its just a picture and a few written words. But I always do my best to put all clients at ease and to know I'm still that nerdy honor student with the big glasses and braces at heart. Kisses, Kyla +1 Nerdy honor students are kinda hot! Never had braces, but "thick glasses, really skinny, and always in the library" qualifies me as simpatico here. Thank God for contact lenses ... Even now that I'm more "Hawaiian Tropic" than "Honors Thesis," there is a direct link between my brain and my physical self. I can't find someone of inferior intelligence attractive, no matter how hard I try. I am truly blessed, as I've found what I was looking for, but temptation beckons from time to time, and here's to brainy and beautiful... PM me if you want to go hang out at the library together. I have heard that I'm a pornstar too, you know. Mere conjecture, I'm sure. I won't be posting here as discretion mandates such stuff, but someday I hope we all can be truly free to be our nerdy and sensual selves. P.S. Intimidating partners is not something I've ever experienced, nor is having them fall off the planet. Maybe an anomalous gravitational attraction is responsible, I really can't say. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 24, 2012 They all know what I do for a living and are fine with it. Maybe. Then again...maybe not so much. Lots of guys will say they are fine with it and even believe it on some level. Deep down I don't think most guys are wired this way. Sure, it can be an ego boost to be with a girl that other guys have to pay to be with...but hell yes it can be intimidating too. I mean, seriously, no one is offering to pay us for sex, right? Unless we're talking about the Morman lol... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 24, 2012 Miss Young...you've always been an outstanding student, but recently...you're grades have dropped significantly, and you've taken a obsessive interest in boys. I'd like to see you in my office after class. [quote=kylayoungxxx;319896 But I always do my best to put all clients at ease and to know I'm still that nerdy honor student with the big glasses and braces at heart. Kisses, Kyla 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 24, 2012 Anyone who knows mes knows that im probably the least intimidating person they have ever met. Its a few guys who are intimidated by me sexually because "you just know what your doing very well and for some guys thats intimidating" Im just girl whos obsessed with Superman, can recite the periodic table and just happens to be a horny, kinky freak. If thats intimidating then wtf ever I guess, his loss not mine. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 24, 2012 I can't find someone of inferior intelligence attractive, no matter how hard I try. Wow. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 24, 2012 intimidating no. i love a lady who likes to explore her sexuality and is experienced! i have the same experience dating ladies who are in the civilian world. the relationship may be great and sex is generally ok, but some dates end up lacking the kink that get's me really worked up. i don't ever want to sound like a complete freak either to a date in the beginning. so i really value the experience with ladies in our world. the best thing is when i'm able to connect with a lady on most levels and not just a sexual one. i'm very fortunate to have recently experienced this. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 25, 2012 I was going to say something cute in here but don't want to get in trouble for taking this thread somewhere it shouldn't.......like the bedroom lol Kisses to Jake (I have honors in other "subjects" too) Jennifer you rock! I totally agree and I'll meet you behind the Fantasy section where we can write an awesome book together I hear you and I would totally have fun and be un-intimidating together! But back to the OP subject at hand...see you guys forgot all about being intimidated when you get to know the real US. All escorts are fun, out-going girls or we couldn't be in this line of work. So no need to be nervous or intimidated, we are just your everyday bookworms! kisses Kyla 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 25, 2012 So here is the question. Do you as men find providers to be sexually intimidating? No Except for one time . . . In the middle of an extremely "active" session with an uber-hot young hardbody, she gets up, runs to her bag and pulls out a strap-on. She starts putting it on and says "you seem like you're open to a lot of things, how about this??!!!??" The intimidating part was it looked like it was made from a mold of Johnny Holmes. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 26, 2012 No Except for one time . . . In the middle of an extremely "active" session with an uber-hot young hardbody, she gets up, runs to her bag and pulls out a strap-on. She starts putting it on and says "you seem like you're open to a lot of things, how about this??!!!??" The intimidating part was it looked like it was made from a mold of Johnny Holmes. If you are trying to imply she never got to use it on you, we know better. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 26, 2012 I have never been intimidated by any woman or her sexual skills. I simply think "what can you show me that I haven't already seen, and on the flip side, what can I show you". No offense Tina, but if it ended with just a hand job for me I probably wouldn't call you back either. Or I just wasn't interested and fully invested from the get go. Don't take that as being mean, there is somebody out there for everybody, but I have gotten up before during things like that, or not called back just the same. Jennifer of Denver, some people would hate that you just said that, I love it 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 26, 2012 I know I wouldn't be intimidated. I would be thinking, "Here's a great woman who is blessing me with her time & even giving me a hj. Do I like spending time with her?" and all the other questions that come with dating. And if the answers lead to yes then I would make sure to contribute to making a great relationship with her. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 26, 2012 +1 Nerdy honor students are kinda hot! Never had braces, but "thick glasses, really skinny, and always in the library" qualifies me as simpatico here. Thank God for contact lenses ... Gosh that kind of reminds of me of the 'steamy' library scene in 'Threesome' the movie. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nrI6hQ2OEGA MtnDew P.S - there are two good library scenes in this movie but I can't find the other clip on CopyrightTube. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 26, 2012 Can't say I've ever been intimidated. On first meets, I give my partner full rein to learn her boundaries and get a glimpse of what she likes. After that, it's a case of do we click in what we like to give and take and what our physical chemistry is like. I've never liked forceful, dominating women in or out of bed, anymore than I put up with alpha males in daily life. I can get real hostile towards such individuals, so obviously the dominatrix side of the industry carries zero interest for me. I can see where some guys might be intimidated by jaw dropping beauties. When my jaw drops in those rare cases, it's because I can't believe I've gotten so lucky and given the opportunity to attempt to please (sexually) such a beautiful woman. Watching a magnificently beautiful woman, someone I'd otherwise stand a show-ball's chance in hell to ever be with in real life, walk away smiling in total satisfaction after we've exchanged intimacies pretty much defines me. But a big part of that satisfaction lies is the 'walking away' part. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
