Posted August 24, 2019 On 7/19/2019 at 5:40 PM, decafnaetd said: Whoa whoa whoa. Hold on a second. I was taught that when she catches me she would get all hot and bothered and want to join in! Are you guys telling me that the the movies aren't true? Is porn just a great big lie??? My world is shattered. WAY back when I was in my early 20s, I arrived a couple hours early from work. Caught my girlfriend enjoying another woman. Had no choice ! Got hot and bothered and joined them. No porn cameras present. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 27, 2019 I’m very new to this. So new I fact, I have actually gotten into the game yet. I’m curious about both men and women’s points of view on this. Married or single aside, it seems safer from a legal aspect to host at home, which might make the experience more comfortable. Is that an accurate assumption, or just foolish? On the other hand bringing someone you don’t know into your home also seems like an invitation to lose some things. No judgement against any of the women here. From a new to the game stand point, what would you (men and women) suggest for a first meeting? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 28, 2019 On 7/13/2019 at 7:32 AM, pfunk said: It still amazes me how stupid our dicks make us. We'll risk relationships, homes, savings, family, and even our lives, to get new pussy! Believe me, I've been there, done that, and lived to regret it! At least you've learned your lesson P FUNK 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 28, 2019 10 hours ago, Curious said: I’m very new to this. So new I fact, I have actually gotten into the game yet. I’m curious about both men and women’s points of view on this. Married or single aside, it seems safer from a legal aspect to host at home, which might make the experience more comfortable. Is that an accurate assumption, or just foolish? On the other hand bringing someone you don’t know into your home also seems like an invitation to lose some things. No judgement against any of the women here. From a new to the game stand point, what would you (men and women) suggest for a first meeting? You make reference to "lose some things..." if you host in your own home. I assume this references to the potential for theft by the provider. If you are married and get caught hosting a provider (a hundred ways for that to occur), you stand to lose roughly half of every thing you own, access to your kids, the respect of those important to.you and much more. IMHO, the safer scenario is a private residence incall with a well-reviewed provider. There is always risk in this hobby. Your responsibility is to minimize the risk and still have a fabulous hobby life. It can be done without too much difficulty. Lots of good folks on this forum willing to help. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 28, 2019 On 8/24/2019 at 2:29 PM, JRWolfe said: WAY back when I was in my early 20s, I arrived a couple hours early from work. Caught my girlfriend enjoying another woman. Had no choice ! Got hot and bothered and joined them. No porn cameras present. it is not often that the story you started ends that way. i got as far as 'arrived home a couple hours early' and thought....damn.....poor guy... then i read the rest and must say... congrats, that is how you want to see that story go! 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 12, 2019 (edited) On 7/13/2019 at 11:28 AM, Tantis said: I totally understand the thrill in this! Like being 16 again and your parents catching you but a lot more on the line now than being grounded and missing Shelby's pool party next weekend. Funny and treasured memory. Parents arrived home very early, on a Sunday morning, while my high school sweetheart and I were still asleep. ( Both 17, Summer time) Heard dogs outside, thought older sibling stopped by, and saw parents car in driveway! ( Oh shit! We were sleeping in upstairs guest room, across from theirs) Got dressed, wandered into kitchen, ( Dad reading Sunday paper, Mom cooking breakfast), made small talk as to why came home early, trying to act like nothing's up. Mom asked if I was hungry, and I said " Yeah, let me go brush my teeth and throw a shirt on. " As I'm walking out of kitchen, Mom, without breaking stride, asked if my girlfriend was hungry too? My girlfriend and I ate in total silence, totally embarrassed, and got out of there quick! My older siblings died laughing over this!! Edited September 12, 2019 by Imyrhklbry 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 12, 2019 On 7/13/2019 at 9:55 AM, Audrey Astor said: You didn’t ask for the ladies opinions, but I have to agree with the sentiments of the other guys who have responded. It can be difficult to be focused and at ease while nervous. The other thing is that it can make some of us uncomfortable. I’ve had situations like this where we were confined to the sofa or game room, then rushed because they are so nervous . I’m always overly cautious with my belongings etc., but I always hope my guy is as cautious. This being said, I like going to visit others. It’s exciting and I like getting out. Best wishes however you decide to go. Thoroughly enjoy your visits to my home 🤗🤗 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 12, 2019 On 7/13/2019 at 2:27 PM, lustybustygina said: I'v been to a lot of married homes and I dress like I'm just a visitor , make sure who you pick knows how to dress down and comes after dark and slips in unnoticed , ask her to not bring but what see needs to provided and no driver or friends along , same as when going to a hotel for appt . Just be smart pick a WOMAN who can fit in .. I'm not married, but do enjoy the lady coming to my place. Am very grateful for them arriving dressed very casually ( jeans, sport top/ t shirt, workout clothing / sweats ) , plus I usually schedule later evening get togethers, less noticeable. Same when traveling out of town, and coming to my hotel room. Appears more like an acquaintance / friend. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 12, 2019 If you do this you better be sure about who you invite over. Hopefully you have seen them before and can trust them. Even so, there are still many many scenarios where something may go south. Try to contain your fun to a certain area. Do not use your bed you share with your wife. Make sure any glass ware is void of lipstick. Same with towels. Check trash cans for tissues etc. Do not leave corners of condom wrappers on the ground. Again be sure you choose someone you met before and TRUST. You have been warned by many of us.... 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 13, 2019 I once got busy in a Burger King bathroom. It was EPIC. Songs were even written about it. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 13, 2019 2 minutes ago, Phil-anderer said: I once got busy in a Burger King bathroom. It was EPIC. Songs were even written about it. Doin' the humpty dance, eh? 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 13, 2019 52 minutes ago, Phil-anderer said: I once got busy in a Burger King bathroom. It was EPIC. Songs were even written about it. Did she let you have it your way? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 13, 2019 1 hour ago, BadBoy said: Did she let you have it your way? Yes. Two all beef patties. I added the special sauce. Thankfully, there was no cheese. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 10, 2020 On 7/13/2019 at 0:11 AM, decafnaetd said: With the SO out of town for a few days, I've had this fantasy of being able to host for once. However there are still family members around, so my encounter would have to be at the height of discretion. But that kinda ads to the adventure of the whole thing. I don't think I'm brave enough to actually try that. Anyway actually done something risky like that? Just curious how close to the edge you've played. Just curious how you would host if you had family members around? Did you end up trying it? 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 10, 2020 On 7/15/2019 at 10:43 AM, gr8owl said: Unless this is a passive aggressive way to sabotage a marriage you want out of but can't tell her straight out, this is an incredibly ill advised "fantasy" with high odds of blowing up in your face. Even if you get away with - seriously? in same bed you share with "significant" other? That is cold. My opinion only. Is there a difference in degrees of "cold"? If you're in a relationship and hobbying on the side anyway, what does it matter WHERE you are hobyling? Thats like an alcoholic ripping on someone who is addicted to pot. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 10, 2020 If you want to get caught...go for it. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 10, 2020 On 9/12/2019 at 2:12 PM, rhood said: If you do this you better be sure about who you invite over. Hopefully you have seen them before and can trust them. Even so, there are still many many scenarios where something may go south. Try to contain your fun to a certain area. Do not use your bed you share with your wife. Make sure any glass ware is void of lipstick. Same with towels. Check trash cans for tissues etc. Do not leave corners of condom wrappers on the ground. Again be sure you choose someone you met before and TRUST. You have been warned by many of us.... When first starting in the hobby, I did my due diligence for homework. Read and studied many reviews on several different ladies, and followed protocol for getting screened. I also open up a casual conversation with ones I'm interested in , to invite over, therefore getting a feel on who they are. Once I've visited a few ladies, I now have a list of ATFS who , I feel trust me also. Some have actually texted me in advance to see if I'm available, or just to say hello or wish me happy birthday, etc ... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 18, 2020 On 12/10/2020 at 6:27 AM, Bravo1 said: Is there a difference in degrees of "cold"? If you're in a relationship and hobbying on the side anyway, what does it matter WHERE you are hobyling? Thats like an alcoholic ripping on someone who is addicted to pot. I would argue -- yes, there's vastly different degrees. Men have a biological imperative to ejaculate, it's going to happen one way or the other. Relationships start hot and heavy then can tend to cool without mutual consent of both parties. Eventually it seems a majority of wives just give up on sex -- again a one-sided decision -- which means giving up on intimacy, and become controlling over it with their husbands. Given that guys need to ejaculate, and wives shame them for even masturbating let alone watching porn... should the husbands them shame their wives for eating candy, fries, pizza, anything extraneous to basic survival and gaining weight over the years? They don't, as it would be socially unacceptable, while porn/sex shaming is part of our oft-crappy culture... Many men choose to stay in the familial system to provide for a stable home to a wife they otherwise love dearly, while doing everyone the favor of just keeping "stepping out" to themselves. Escorts are available long-term for such needs, aren't going to get emotionally involved (usually!) and push for divorce, etc etc. It's that emotional involvement that destroys lives, not so much the sex... Doing that hobbyist/provider thing in the family home, let alone the marital bed? HUGE difference of interpersonal space and trust -- bringing an unwanted person (by one party) into a mutual living space is a whole 'nother level, and is disrespectful to "doing what you have to" to keep a stable home. Of course so is hobbying, just not as much, IMHO. FWIW, while I can see how it looks like I am, I'm not busting on Bravo1; he's officially on my A+ list, just a opinion... 7 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 18, 2020 If you REALLY want the thrill of hosting an outcall but want to reduce the risks, maybe rent a hotel room for a day and have the lady join you there? Adds to the expense a bit but cheaper than losing half your stuff in a divorce, and also helps to protect your privacy. For me, though, Incalls remain the only way I feel safe participating in this hobby. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 19, 2020 6 hours ago, Fenrir373 said: If you REALLY want the thrill of hosting an outcall but want to reduce the risks, maybe rent a hotel room for a day and have the lady join you there? Adds to the expense a bit but cheaper than losing half your stuff in a divorce, and also helps to protect your privacy. For me, though, Incalls remain the only way I feel safe participating in this hobby. This makes a lot of sense (unless you are a high risk thrill junkie....). My start in the hobby was about six yrs ago. At that time I was travelling heavily for business, and entertained in my hotel room. I didnt hobby at all here in Denver. Was still married (barely) so I wasn't having anyone in my house, and felt a little uneasy about visiting on someone else's "turf". Now it's all changed. No more business travel, no more wife and my visits are all in-calls at private residences or hotels here in Denver. One provider in particular (probably can't mention her here) helped significantly in raising my comfort level regarding private residence in-calls. Those are now my preference. It's not impossible, but less likely that a sting is happening at the provider's one bedroom condo. Still wont have anyone at my house. Neighbors watch (we're all home, right?) and the adult kids pop in from time to time unannounced. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 20, 2020 If I were still married, or betrothed, seeing someone in a committed relationship.... NO WAY would I host. Even now, I really prefer a private incall (and rarely, a hotel). I feel safer, and my impression is that the women feel safer, as well. I know there are risks with clients knowing where someone lives (for the ladies), which is why some do hotels, and I totally get that. For me, private incall is my preference, and even though it's 'safe' at my home, that doesn't fit for me, at least right now. Perhaps at some point, that is after my body recovers from Covid. God only knows when that will be. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 19, 2021 On 7/13/2019 at 5:42 AM, sb1212 said: The hobby has enough inherent risk. Creating a scenario that unnecessarily adds anxiety is, for me, not conducive to a joyful encounter. I want to have my fun and not have to worry about anything (or, not much...) before during, or after. I may not have the requisite credibility since I have never hosted at my home, but I can't think of enough rewards to off-set the risks. Not even close.... An uneasy encounter is never fun when both the hobbyist and possibly the provider might be nervous the whole time during the session not being able to relax at a hotel or wherever unlike at a private incall location where you can feel more comfortable and safe and not have to worry about anybody else. On 7/13/2019 at 9:55 AM, Audrey Astor said: You didn’t ask for the ladies opinions, but I have to agree with the sentiments of the other guys who have responded. It can be difficult to be focused and at ease while nervous. The other thing is that it can make some of us uncomfortable. I’ve had situations like this where we were confined to the sofa or game room, then rushed because they are so nervous . I’m always overly cautious with my belongings etc., but I always hope my guy is as cautious. This being said, I like going to visit others. It’s exciting and I like getting out. Best wishes however you decide to go. I’m comfortable in my own space and can make sure it’s comfortable for anybody. I'd rather not feel nervous or rush, would rather not do the appointment at all. I want to be able to relax and not have to worry about anything else during the time spent together. On 8/27/2019 at 2:17 PM, Curious said: I’m very new to this. So new I fact, I have actually gotten into the game yet. I’m curious about both men and women’s points of view on this. Married or single aside, it seems safer from a legal aspect to host at home, which might make the experience more comfortable. Is that an accurate assumption, or just foolish? On the other hand bringing someone you don’t know into your home also seems like an invitation to lose some things. No judgement against any of the women here. From a new to the game stand point, what would you (men and women) suggest for a first meeting? I agree with hosting at home / private incall. In my experience, the sessions go smoother that way and the guys enjoy it more. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
