Posted November 7, 2016 Guys... Out of curiosity is it just as important for you to supply a provider with an orgasim or is that secondary to your enjoyment? 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 8, 2016 #1 on my list is to give as much pleasure as I receive. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 8, 2016 I'm turned on more if I know the lady is getting enjoyment as well. I usually like to lead the session so I take great pride in my oral skills in order to give a woman an orgasm. After that is is even easier for me to get off 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 8, 2016 I always do my best to give them a toe curling, bell ringer. Its what they give to me. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 8, 2016 Or at least give it my best effort. 😊 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 8, 2016 My orgasm is the primary reason I visit a provider so anything else is secondary. I defiantly try to be a pleaser and it makes the session much better if it happens or she pretends it happens. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 8, 2016 I enjoy giving pleasure as much as receiving pleasure. I think many gents are too intimidated to ask a provider what gives her pleasure.. selfishly, I think the other unfortunate flaw in male hobbyist's thinking is that its all about them and lose sight of the fact that if one invests the time necessary, is considerate and willing to give pleasure, it comes back 10-fold! 5 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 8, 2016 1 minute ago, cowboy said: I enjoy giving pleasure as much as receiving pleasure. I think many gents are too intimidated to ask a provider what gives her pleasure.. selfishly, I think the other unfortunate flaw in male hobbyist's thinking is that its all about them and lose sight of the fact that if one invests the time necessary, is considerate and willing to give pleasure, it comes back 10-fold! From a female hobbist prospective take the time to build some kind of a intimate connection with the lady. Having a good understanding of both of your expectations of the the session don't be afraid to ask what she would like to have happen. This can take time to develop that's why I always try to do a longer session I feel it pays off in the long run if the lady is enjoying our time together rather than just going through the motions. Even as a female I to find it hard at times to know if I'm hit the right buttons but that's why I keep practicing lol, be safe out there guys and gals. 5 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 8, 2016 This ia great! I think you make an important point; connection, communication, and a degree of intimacy can take an ordinary experience to an extraordinary experience. Thank you! Xo 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 8, 2016 Her pleasure comes in a very close second. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 8, 2016 I see a provider for ME. However, I get off better and am more excited when I can give the provider some pleasure. When I can get the provider to climax it really gives me a thrill and makes me feel like a man. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 8, 2016 Remember that scene from "The Princess Bride" where Westley is wrestling with Fezzig the Giant? After much effort and grunting and groaning, Westley asks "Are you just playing with me, or what?" Fezzig responds "I just want you to feel like you are doing well!" Yeah. It's like that. I am not attractive, endowed, or skilled, so I know it is always an act, but its nice that some of the ladies do their best to make me feel like I am doing well. It makes the session more enjoyable for me. I can remember a post that Gina made a couple years back....something to the effect of (and I paraphrase) "the most annoying clients are the ones that insist on pleasing you." And I have taken that to heart. Since I am not a sexual god....I will settle for being clean and not annoying. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 8, 2016 31 minutes ago, Laplace said: Yeah. It's like that. I am not attractive, endowed, or skilled, so I know it is always an act, but its nice that some of the ladies do their best to make me feel like I am doing well. It makes the session more enjoyable for me. REALLY??? I beg to differ. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 8, 2016 14 hours ago, cowboy said: I enjoy giving pleasure as much as receiving pleasure. I think many gents are too intimidated to ask a provider what gives her pleasure.. selfishly, I think the other unfortunate flaw in male hobbyist's thinking is that its all about them and lose sight of the fact that if one invests the time necessary, is considerate and willing to give pleasure, it comes back 10-fold! It excites me to give her pleasure as almost as much as her reciprocating. As Laplace said, "it is always an act", however if it is a convincing act, that also pleases me. On the other hand, if the provider is screaming like some grade Z porn star, that makes it almost a turn off, since their acting methods leave much to be desired. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 9, 2016 Providing great pleasure for my partner not only gives me tremendous pleasure, but it helps me to build into my own excitement allowing me to last A LOT longer. Equals more fun for all! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 9, 2016 I like to give and receive. I try to communicate with the lady and see what she likes. I find it more enticing when she is having a good time. I will also communicate and let her know what I like. No sense in either one of us not enjoying ourselves. I am sure that any one of us would like to have a good day at the office so why not try to make her day. Won't always happen but fun trying. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 9, 2016 Getting a lady off is a huge turnon for me. The ladies I tend to visit multiple times are the ladies that seem to enjoy themselves during my visit. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 9, 2016 Personally, I love making a woman cum. I haven't always been the most confident guy, so this gives me the ego boost I crave. Fake it and make it look good if you have to. I will still be happy. It's just like flattery. It doesn't really matter if you have to lie about it; it's the effort that matters. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 9, 2016 20 hours ago, Laplace said: I am not attractive, endowed, or skilled, so I know it is always an act, but its nice that some of the ladies do their best to make me feel like I am doing well. It makes the session more enjoyable for me. Since I am not a sexual god....I will settle for being clean and not annoying. ^^THIS^^ When a provider enthusiastically participates in the session and doesn't watch the clock or kick me out earlier than the duration of our agreed upon length of the session, I consider it a WIN. I'll continue to try my darndest to achieve the illusion that She can actually Get Off too but as Laplace said "...I know its all an act..." I will go further and add that this is all a fantasy anyway and I can only hope the provider(s) I'm fortunate enough to see enjoy my company even if its just a little and don't just see me as a walking, breathing ATM. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 10, 2016 I don't know what you guys are talking about. The ladies aren't acting or pretending - I know for sure that all of the sporting companions I have spent time with have all enjoyed multiple back-arching, hard panting, hip twisting, over-the-moon orgasms every time I visit them. They couldn't possibly be acting or pretending, I am just that gosh-darned good. And that is why I enjoy this sport so much - it's so real. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 10, 2016 I'm all about giving a lady an orgasm!!! It turns me on and it's what I think about days later. I've had a lifetime of my own orgasms now so they're not really that interesting to me anymore. Don't get me wrong, the release is the ultimate goal but to have a mutual pleasure visit is what I love the most about this hobby. Plus, DATY tastes so damn good!!! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 10, 2016 11 hours ago, MrBigShot said: ^^THIS^^ When a provider enthusiastically participates in the session and doesn't watch the clock or kick me out earlier than the duration of our agreed upon length of the session, I consider it a WIN. I'll continue to try my darndest to achieve the illusion that She can actually Get Off too but as Laplace said "...I know its all an act..." I will go further and add that this is all a fantasy anyway and I can only hope the provider(s) I'm fortunate enough to see enjoy my company even if its just a little and don't just see me as a walking, breathing ATM. I hope it happens, I try to make it happen, but I'm there for me and she's trying to make it about me, and I'm sure it's worse for a gal that doesn't feel enough attraction/connection/technique but sees the guy getting frustrated trying and failing to make her cum. Instead I try a bit but don't worry. Don't get me wrong though! If you donate $2-300ish an hour for my time, making you cum and have an amazing time will be my number 1 priority, well behind how I feel 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 10, 2016 Others mentioned that "mutual enjoyment" is important and I agree. I think "pleasure/enjoyment" for a provider can be vastly different than for a client. She'll potentially have multiple opportunities in a week, I'm lucky to have multiple opportunities in a year. So an orgasm has different value to each side. I try to keep in mind that being on-time, respectful, clean and easy-going could provide a a great deal of enjoyment for her, if she's had a day or week where that's been missing. (Based on providers complaints about the job, that seems to be a common thing.) In session, I prefer sessions where she's honest about what's happening on her side physcially. I'm a bit of a pleaser, so faking is a bummer. I get that sometimes it is just not going to happen at all, so then it is about me. That's (obviously) fine / great. Just let me know. Sometimes she's feeling good and it still isn't going to happen which is also fine. It all varies. I saw a woman very often and we always just clicked. It was always mutually awesome. (Sadly, she retired.) Another "ATF" was very, very open about her mood when we met and which direction the session would go, so we worked from there and it was great. Once she flat out said I was being used a sex toy that day. Giddyup! She also has retired. Another friend, yes we've become friends, and I hit it off great socially and such, but it tends to be somewhat clunky and clumsy when we have a session. I have no idea why, but I enjoy her company a lot and so continue to visit. Life is like a box of chocolates... 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 10, 2016 Take time to talk and get to know your provider. Talk during your session let know what your thinking and what pleases you.... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 11, 2016 Yep, very important to ensure a good time for both. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 11, 2016 On 11/7/2016 at 4:40 PM, Eliana said: Guys... Out of curiosity is it just as important for you to supply a provider with an orgasim or is that secondary to your enjoyment?I I'd love to sound all noble, but bottom line is, my hour better mostly be about me. Sometimes that will be either the appearance or reality of getting you off. Sometimes not so much. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 11, 2016 23 hours ago, Yogi said: Others mentioned that "mutual enjoyment" is important and I agree. I think "pleasure/enjoyment" for a provider can be vastly different than for a client. Well said. In my experience, the more enjoyment she has (and not always limited to sex), the more pleasure I receive in return. For reference, see all the other posts about respect, cleanliness, etc. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 12, 2016 I guess it depends upon what you are looking for. Personally - I am looking for the occasional full GFE which includes something mutually satisfying. If a provider likes the client - doesn't she feel good when she makes the him feel good? However, I don't think it is fair to expect a provider to relax to this degree right away with every client but its awesome when it happens!!! ... or... um... appears to happen(?). 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 12, 2016 On 11/7/2016 at 2:40 PM, Eliana said: Guys... Out of curiosity is it just as important for you to supply a provider with an orgasm or is that secondary to your enjoyment? It is very important to me to help my lady achieve orgasm! I think it enhances the entire experience if we both are satisfied! AND it's icing on the cake if I can help her multi-release! I can stay down there as long as she can take it! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 12, 2016 (edited) I enjoy to give as much as I receive. I love being able to make a lady orgasm. But then again I am sure I have been snookered more than once. If that's the case then I choose to stay deliriously delusional because I am enjoying it. ✌️ Edited November 12, 2016 by Running with Scissors Spelling 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
