Posted September 19, 2016 Hey everyone, so I had something really strange happen to me today and maybe you can tell me if I did something wrong or not it if this is normal. I've had my eye on a girl who isn't from here but travels here somewhat regularly. She's been on my list to see for a while. she screened me by alternate screening methods since I don't have any references. All seemed to check out and I texted her asking if she was free this morning. She said yes. Everything was all good to go, At the session time she texted me saying she's so sick and needs to go to the doctor. I understood and even asked if she needed help. No text back. Later on I go look through the ads and she had posted her ad up , 5 minutes before she texted me saying she was so sick. I thought this was strange so I texted her from another number asking if she was available today. I got a text right back saying yes she was. Obviously for some reason she decided she didn't want to see me today. Does this kind of stuff happen regularly? What did I do wrong? Did she decide because I didn't have any known references that I was too risky? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 19, 2016 What do robots dream of? If a tree falls in the forest, does it make a sound? What do women think? The point is that there are certain unknowables in the universe that are a waste of time to ponder. Move on, try again with someone else. Some actual advice: Don't badmouth her, don't do a no-show review, don't take any action at all, just keep it moving folks, nothing to see here. 6 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 19, 2016 1 hour ago, johnthompson said: she screened me by alternate screening methods since I don't have any references. Do you mean she screened you with real world information? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 19, 2016 Who knows why she did not want to see you, just move on. She found something she did not care for about you. Do not take this personal, move on. I have had this happen before. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 20, 2016 48 minutes ago, Nikki Holiday said: Do you mean she screened you with real world information? Yup. Why did I do it? Because I'm an idiot. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 20, 2016 3 hours ago, johnthompson said: Hey everyone, so I had something really strange happen to me today and maybe you can tell me if I did something wrong or not it if this is normal. I've had my eye on a girl who isn't from here but travels here somewhat regularly. She's been on my list to see for a while. she screened me by alternate screening methods since I don't have any references. All seemed to check out and I texted her asking if she was free this morning. She said yes. Everything was all good to go, At the session time she texted me saying she's so sick and needs to go to the doctor. I understood and even asked if she needed help. No text back. Later on I go look through the ads and she had posted her ad up , 5 minutes before she texted me saying she was so sick. I thought this was strange so I texted her from another number asking if she was available today. I got a text right back saying yes she was. Obviously for some reason she decided she didn't want to see me today. Does this kind of stuff happen regularly? What did I do wrong? Did she decide because I didn't have any known references that I was too risky? It sounds like she turned you down in a polite and safe way and maybe you feel it's personal. Maybe it is but she gave you an explanation and I wouldn't read any more into it than that. I wouldn't advise that you use multiple numbers to contact providers, it kinda makes you look fishy. Trying to book again to confirm a suspicion is creepy IMO. She canceled on you, whatever the reason is you should accept it and move on. 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 20, 2016 (edited) 3 hours ago, johnthompson said: Hey everyone, so I had something really strange happen to me today and maybe you can tell me if I did something wrong or not it if this is normal. I've had my eye on a girl who isn't from here but travels here somewhat regularly. She's been on my list to see for a while. she screened me by alternate screening methods since I don't have any references. All seemed to check out and I texted her asking if she was free this morning. She said yes. Everything was all good to go, At the session time she texted me saying she's so sick and needs to go to the doctor. I understood and even asked if she needed help. No text back. Later on I go look through the ads and she had posted her ad up , 5 minutes before she texted me saying she was so sick. I thought this was strange so I texted her from another number asking if she was available today. I got a text right back saying yes she was. Obviously for some reason she decided she didn't want to see me today. Does this kind of stuff happen regularly? What did I do wrong? Did she decide because I didn't have any known references that I was too risky? 1 hour ago, johnthompson said: Yup. Why did I do it? Because I'm an idiot. 2 hours ago, Badboy said: What do robots dream of? If a tree falls in the forest, does it make a sound? What do women think? The point is that there are certain unknowables in the universe that are a waste of time to ponder. Move on, try again with someone else. Some actual advice: Don't badmouth her, don't do a no-show review, don't take any action at all, this just keep it moving folks, nothing to see here. She should tell you, I am sorry I am not willing to see you. You move on. She moves on. Next..... Suggestion you should get a p411 account. Then you don't have to worry about the fact you gave out your real world information. Edited September 20, 2016 by Nikki Holiday 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 20, 2016 I don't plan on taking any action. I never even thought of posting a negative no show review. To be honest I'm really just bummed, I wanted to see if I did something wrong. She was one of the few girls that as soon as I saw her pictures I decided she must be one I visit. That's why I offered to help her if she needed it. Then I read her many many glowing reviews and had to see her. And now I can't. So to say the least I'm bummed... I'll be looking into p411 more seriously now. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 20, 2016 (edited) 2 hours ago, Lucy Kitten said: She canceled on you, whatever the reason is you should accept it and move on. Good advice! It happens to all of us at some point. Life goes on! It may have nothing to do with you personally. You'll probably never know why. Edited September 20, 2016 by pfunk 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 20, 2016 Also, sometimes the postings are handled automatically and the lady in question may not have been aware that a post was going to go up even though she was under the weather and not interested in seeing anyone. The reality is that TOB and P411 are not necessarily real time. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 20, 2016 5 hours ago, johnthompson said: ..At the session time she texted me saying she's so sick and needs to go to the doctor. I understood and even asked if she needed help. No text back. Later on I go look through the ads and she had posted her ad up , 5 minutes before she texted me saying she was so sick. I thought this was strange so I texted her from another number asking if she was available today. I got a text right back saying yes she was. Obviously for some reason she decided she didn't want to see me today. Does this kind of stuff happen regularly? What did I do wrong? Did she decide because I didn't have any known references that I was too risky? I don't think it happens regularly, but I do believe you are entitled to some type of reason she changed her mind at the time she did. I don't know if you drove around the corner or miles away, but you too have time and money vested when a date didn't take place. You may never receive it like others have said, but it's still pretty shitty what she did. 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 20, 2016 12 minutes ago, BigBaldBlk said: I don't think it happens regularly, but I do believe you are entitled to some type of reason she changed her mind at the time she did. I don't know if you drove around the corner or miles away, but you too have time and money vested when a date didn't take place. You may never receive it like others have said, but it's still pretty shitty what she did. Why is canceling shitty? The last time I told a guy I didn't want to see him because of him it didn't go well. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 20, 2016 Here's my thoughts on this. While I agree with bad boy about not bad mouthing the lady, I don't agree that what she did is perfectly ok. It's never ok for a provider to wait until the appointment time to cancel. I've heard providers say how shitty it is when we do it to them, but somehow it's ok for them to do it to us?? DTC is at least an hour drive from where I live. So if I see a lady in DTC, by the time I shower and make myself presentable, then drive to DTC, I've shot at least a couple hours of my day. Imagine doing an out call and you drive an hour to get to my house only to get a text when you pull into my driveway that something came up and I had to leave so iam no longer home. In my opinion, that's a shitty thing to do. Now had she text him before he made it all the way to her in call that would be a different story. I know some of you providers won't see this my way, but going to see you at your incall costs us time and money too. 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 20, 2016 10 hours ago, Lucy Kitten said: Why is canceling shitty? The last time I told a guy I didn't want to see him because of him it didn't go well. How would you feel if you were ghosted by someone, in "real" life? Don't tell us it wouldn't bother you. There's your answer. He did nothing wrong. She was rude. 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 20, 2016 To the OP...don't spend another moment trying to figure out why the YL canceled. Move on to the next provider on your list and don't look back. This happens to everyone from time to time...nbd. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 20, 2016 12 minutes ago, MAG said: How would you feel if you were ghosted by someone, in "real" life? Don't tell us it wouldn't bother you. There's your answer. He did nothing wrong. She was rude. He wasn't ghosted, he was canceled on and given a reason that he doesn't want to accept. He also tried to book her from another number because he couldn't accept no for an answer but sure let's make this about the gal who canceled and gave reason. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 20, 2016 Don't sweat it, John. She probably just got cold feet and canceled. Just be thankful she contacted you first. It could be due to anything from something you said while communicating with her to something she saw on the news that made her feel uncomfortable. It's a risky business and sometimes we (both sides of this equation) just have to go on intuition. Sometimes it's right and sometimes it's not. Now stop fretting and go have some fun. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 20, 2016 Perhaps it would be less confusing if the original post had not been significantly altered which it was. The original contained enough information to identify the specific provider which seemed like a passsive aggressive way to slam her without review. I understand why mods edited. But also edited was the part about "i texted her for exact address" That combined with no references or reviews after posting 411's here for 9 months probably spooked the hell out of her. But the original post as best i recall did not sound like a true appointment was set before you spooked her. Move on and do things better next time. 😏 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 20, 2016 49 minutes ago, Juanmotai said: Here's my thoughts on this. While I agree with bad boy about not bad mouthing the lady, I don't agree that what she did is perfectly ok. It's never ok for a provider to wait until the appointment time to cancel. I've heard providers say how shitty it is when we do it to them, but somehow it's ok for them to do it to us?? DTC is at least an hour drive from where I live. So if I see a lady in DTC, by the time I shower and make myself presentable, then drive to DTC, I've shot at least a couple hours of my day. Imagine doing an out call and you drive an hour to get to my house only to get a text when you pull into my driveway that something came up and I had to leave so iam no longer home. In my opinion, that's a shitty thing to do. Now had she text him before he made it all the way to her in call that would be a different story. I know some of you providers won't see this my way, but going to see you at your incall costs us time and money too. You know I think you're golden like Ponyboy so don't take it personally. The guys that post these threads are never innocent, they come here and post because they fucked up and know that don't have anything to review. So they save face and come here and throw ladies under the bus. Last minute cancellations suck, on that we can all agree. But they're just sucky not punishable. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 20, 2016 Deathly Ill today! We are all human and sometimes we do get sick! My head is throbbing! Just sucks! ;( 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 20, 2016 (edited) Also, if you pay for multiple posting on BP...the ad goes up to the top every couple of hours and you only change that by deleting the ad. This scenario is hypothetical if someone else gets canceled and then sees the ad go up...not this scenario. If not, then yeah she was canceling, and in a way she thought would let you down gently. Some clients don't take too well to being told we won't see them. Xoxo, Samantha Sheppard Edited September 20, 2016 by SultryKitten 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 20, 2016 4 hours ago, Lucy Kitten said: He wasn't ghosted, he was canceled on and given a reason that he doesn't want to accept. He also tried to book her from another number because he couldn't accept no for an answer but sure let's make this about the gal who canceled and gave reason. What reason did she give? And how do you know why he called from another number? He seems to have been reasonably curious why he got ghosted, and his suspicions were confirmed: she was being rude. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 20, 2016 34 minutes ago, MAG said: What reason did she give? And how do you know why he called from another number? He seems to have been reasonably curious why he got ghosted, and his suspicions were confirmed: she was being rude. yawn I know you can read the OP where it claims she declined because she was sick. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 20, 2016 10 minutes ago, Lucy Kitten said: yawn I know you can read the OP where it claims she declined because she was sick. Exactly 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 20, 2016 1 minute ago, MAG said: Exactly So, you're calling the escort a liar? You don't know who she is, the OP admits playing "Dick Tracy" trying to catch her lying, and you think her possible lie is the big issue? The OP has stalker tendencies, tried to damage her reputation with this post, tried to get her address before he showed up, and you're concerned she might have lied? I think your priorities are pretty out of wack. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 20, 2016 5 minutes ago, pfunk said: So, you're calling the escort a liar? You don't know who she is, the OP admits playing "Dick Tracy" trying to catch her lying, and you think her possible lie is the big issue? The OP has stalker tendencies, tried to damage her reputation with this post, tried to get her address before he showed up, and you're concerned she might have lied? I think your priorities are pretty out of wack. Spin is not your strong suit. "Stalker tendencies" -- because he verified she was lying? "Tried to damage her reputation" -- he didn't call her out by name. "Tried to get her address" -- um, no, just tried to verify the appointment. One thing is true -- there was no need to play "Dick Tracy". The "I'm sick" excuse was a clear give-away. Just like "I was in a car accident" and "My friend needed help". The biggest mistake the OP made was giving her his real-world information. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 20, 2016 (edited) 32 minutes ago, MAG said: Exactly Plus 1, We still have yet to hear from her. So based on his side of the story... he reached out to her. She pulled a last minute cancellation she was sick. She got caught. The op admitted he called her from a different number, she was available. Her advertisement was freshly reposted 5 minutes before his date with her. When we post our ads it's either Manuelly done, and if it's automatically reposted we select a time for that to happen. i find it much easier to just tell the guy the truth, look I changed my mind I'm not fucking you. there's no need to make a bunch sorry ass excuses. Let him book another hooker who show him good time. Edited September 20, 2016 by Nikki Holiday 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 20, 2016 1 minute ago, Nikki Holiday said: i find it much easier to just tell the guy the truth, look I changed my mind I'm not fucking you. there's no need to make a bunch sorry ass excuses. Let him book another hooker who show him good time. Bingo. "I don't feel safe with you. Please call someone else, best of luck to you. Have a nice day". That's not so difficult, is it? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 20, 2016 If av8r was coming back the least someone could do was tell me so i could get more popcorn. I have kinda missed his responses that started "gr8owl, i have never liked you much, but ......" As i have said before dont believe anyone with a number in their handle. 😏 But to the point - why argue about what happened when you weren't there and the description of what happened has been changed? And as to provider coming on to explain her side - wtf???? She would be certifiable if she did lol. Now how about a nice rate thread to argue about or ... I know .. a screening thread!!!! 😄 Can we get back to point at hand .... getting laid and having fun?? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 20, 2016 38 minutes ago, gr8owl said: But to the point - why argue about what happened when you weren't there and the description of what happened has been changed? gr8owl, I've never.....oh, never mind You've made a good point about the OP being changed. I'd like to know why the mods didn't just use {snip} to indicate the parts that were changed. The way it stands now, different people have read different versions, apparently. Anyway, what were you saying about screening & rates? 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
