Posted February 6, 2015 I like Melissa's atitude on this topic. It's a lot more fun when you know the lady you are going to meet with is nice and outgoing. A quick phone conversation and it's pretty easy to figure that out. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 6, 2015 In 2009 on an alpha/numeric keypad - yes. FCC testing used to require 13 words/minute(wpm) for a ham license. A competent Morse operator can handle about 25wpm. A really good operator with a speed key can send upwards of 50wpm, while a trained receiver with a typewriter can copy upwards of 60wpm. After 3mo of training, I could send & receive 15 coded groups (5 random letters) per minute. A year later I could handle 20+ gpm, but only about 15wpm in clear text. No problem sending faster, but when receiving I kept listening to the message instead of just writing it down. But that was over 40 years ago. Today I doubt if I even remember all the codes. I've seen some folks with flying thumbs, but you start pushing keyboard response and anti-bounce circuitry at these speeds. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 7, 2015 By cracky, I remember back in the old days when a phone call was just about the only way to hook up with a fine lady. I liked it then and I like it now. I'm not interested in a 45 minute discussion but I've been on the phone more than once with someone who was drunk or high, or just an angry person. Now days a phone call is a lot less likely. And I personally think it's a shame. As for it wasting the gals time, I've had more girls waste my time than vice versa. They want to tell me their life story, about their bad boyfriend, where they went to dinner last night, etc. My .02 and worth most of that..... Vic 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 7, 2015 Thanks for the great responses (you too Nikki, I get where you are coming from)! What I take away from this is that it is generally acceptable to ask to visit on the phone before a first-time meeting. I haven't participated a lot in the hobby so I might be extra cautious the first time, particularly in Pueblo. I think this particular time was a case of both parties being extra cautious. I live in Pueblo so I decided I should keep these activities in the Springs anyway. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 7, 2015 Actually had some appts where the first time I hear the ladies voice is when she opens the door. Never have cared too much for those type of meetings,so as others have stated I also prefer a little chat before seeing a lady. If I have seen her before then no conversation is fine. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 7, 2015 Chemistry is important to me and I would like to speak to a first time provider before I seal the deal. Texting and email is ok for the details but I would like the opportunity to visit with a new provider on the phone before we actually meet. I just think you can gauge chemistry a bit better when speaking with someone. I was in the process of lining up a meeting with a new provider in Pueblo and she got really "scared" when I asked her to call me with the address. Let me know your thoughts. Thanks! Like they say don't ask for an address it makes you seem like s stalker. Anyways it's always ok to speak to a provider. Even if she says blah blah blah stop wasting time. Just think of it as she doesn't know any better and just impress her over phone with your personality. I mean it's a value you have. Don't let people change it just because they don't get it. So don't worry be happy. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 7, 2015 Sounds like your ready to bite... start screaming.... lol. We have several ladies who advertise please text or email only. Some of the girls never give out a phone number. Every escort has the right to operate anyway she wants too. This isn't a problem for me with text...BTW you can get scammed by a phone call. A phone call doesn't mean shit until the guy shows up. No different then text or email. Any one who requests "a visit via phone" as the OP mentioned. Sounds like a long conversation to me. All I said was I don't want endless conversation. BTW There are many ways to to close the sale without even a single call. While working in brothel the guy comes in, picks you, says what he wants, you say how much... either its within his budget or it not. There is no calling...there is no long conversation unless he is paying for it. Its really simple. The only thing that gets screened is his junk! lol Sorry folks, I have to agree with Nikki on this one, in principal. The initial call or text, or even email, should be all that is required to set up an appointment. After thorough screening and directions given, that should be all that's needed until that first meeting. I know that for me, if I don't get a good feeling from that 1st call, text or email, I'm not seeing that person. I am sure this is the same for the ladies. Even so, any establishment of a conversation thereafter is mutually agreeable. I've been through the one and done, TOFTT, and the NO way Jose, I'm outta here, kind of meetings. I consider my self a good judge of my comfort level & safety when visiting or being visited. Anything less than my little voice in my head (the big one) saying "It's okay", and I'm outta there. Chance meetings with some people have led to friendships and long relationships, but that is not the norm for everyone. To each his own. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 7, 2015 Perhaps requesting meeting at a neutral location would have been less threatening to her. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 7, 2015 What I take away from this is that it is generally acceptable to ask to visit on the phone before a first-time meeting. I live in Pueblo so I decided I should keep these activities in the Springs anyway. ok, there is some hope Wow. What you should take away from all of this: 1. Every lady has different preferences - text, phone, email, etc. Each will usually state their preference in ads or website if it is that important to them. Do as she asks in this regard. Not good for you? Move on. 2. Ask for address of her location before even setting appointment?? Yikes!! <slamming head on desk> Only Heidi called you on this?? Gotta think this would freak most ladies out. If you read reviews, you will frequently encounter "standard two call system". Means after booking you get general location when you call to confirm, and specific location when you call again from the near vicinity. There are variations, but ........ before booking? No. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 7, 2015 Use your feminine wiles and "ask" to talk so you can get a feel for the guy if you think it necessary. "Requiring" me do do something to spend my money comes across as rather abrasive and arrogant. How would a provider respond if the OP "required" her to speak to him before scheduling? One has to remember my time is just as important as yours. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 7, 2015 Wow. What you should take away from all of this: 1. Every lady has different preferences - text, phone, email, etc. Each will usually state their preference in ads or website if it is that important to them. Do as she asks in this regard. Not good for you? Move on. 2. Ask for address of her location before even setting appointment?? Yikes!! <slamming head on desk> Only Heidi called you on this?? Gotta think this would freak most ladies out. If you read reviews, you will frequently encounter "standard two call system". Means after booking you get general location when you call to confirm, and specific location when you call again from the near vicinity. There are variations, but ........ before booking? No. Thanks for the feedback. I guess I should have put more detail into my post (I hope your head and your desk are ok). I am familiar with the "standard two call system" (note, it's not called the two text system). We had already set the appointment time and the length of appointment via texting. She had already given me the general location. It was when I arrived at the general location that I asked her to call me with the address. Even after she indicated she was scared she texted me her address. Once I arrived at the location she backed out and I respected her decision and wished her a good night. This was going to be my first meeting in Pueblo (which me and my wife have lived our whole lives here) so I suspect I came off as overly cautious which may have put her on guard. I agree that these meetings are to be on the lady's terms and if the terms are not good for me then move on. Thanks again for everyone's replies. I think I got my question answered and then some! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 7, 2015 Wow. What you should take away from all of this: 1. Every lady has different preferences - text, phone, email, etc. Each will usually state their preference in ads or website if it is that important to them. Do as she asks in this regard. Not good for you? Move on. 2. Ask for address of her location before even setting appointment?? Yikes!! <slamming head on desk> Only Heidi called you on this?? Gotta think this would freak most ladies out. If you read reviews, you will frequently encounter "standard two call system". Means after booking you get general location when you call to confirm, and specific location when you call again from the near vicinity. There are variations, but ........ before booking? No. Aloha from Sunny South Florida I'm going to add my 2 cents as you've said 2 different things here. 1), you want to have a conversation BEFORE sealing the deal, AKA, before you book. BUT, 2), you also stated someone freaked out when you asked f or a phone call for address. My question, if you didn't have a set/confrimed date, why are you asking for an address? You said you where in the process. I don't know of any provider who'll just give out her address when date is NOT lined up yet. I'm just wondering. Most of us will have no problem give a general location if that will help with you finalize date. Now phone calls. It depends on the Lady and Your intentions. Are you looking to have this heart to heart for like 30 minutes OR are you looking to just say Hi, I'm Ox from TOB, just wanted to introduce myself and let you know I'm looking forward to meeting you. Most Ladies will have no problem with the latter. Only a minority, a very small minority have Zero phone contact. Anyway, hope all the feedback helps you Aloha PS If your phone call is to inquire if Lady WILL PROVIDE/GUARANTEE a check list of services, you will get Shutdown. Thanks Heidi. Sorry I wasn't very clear in my post. Via text we did have a set time and length for the appointment. She had even given me her real name and general location. My agenda for wanting to speak to the provider was to briefly introduce myself and to get a brief measure of chemistry; maybe a 30 sec conversation. For me at least there is a certain level of anxiety when meeting a provider for the first time and actually speaking with a provider first can ease that anxiety. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 7, 2015 (edited) Use your feminine wiles and "ask" to talk so you can get a feel for the guy if you think it necessary. "Requiring" me do do something to spend my money comes across as rather abrasive and arrogant. How would a provider respond if the OP "required" her to speak to him before scheduling? One has to remember my time is just as important as yours. since it seems you are referring to my requirements, then i'll respond to this part of your posting. i do not require anything of you to spend your money, i do quite well without it. but to spend time with me, i require cleanliness, manners, the refrain from illegal discussions, and comfort. the manners, and comfort i get from a phone call that will happen before he and i meet. never has someone ever scammed me through a phone call, and my practice has never steered me wrong. bottom line is, because of the tens of thousands of potential clients and only hundreds of providers, i have the luxury of setting my standards, disregarding all the contacts who dont meet them....and leave with gifts, my safety, and my dignity. i'm so lucky. Edited February 7, 2015 by inkspot ... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 8, 2015 FCC testing used to require 13 words/minute(wpm) for a ham license. A competent Morse operator can handle about 25wpm. A really good operator with a speed key can send upwards of 50wpm, while a trained receiver with a typewriter can copy upwards of 60wpm. After 3mo of training, I could send & receive 15 coded groups (5 random letters) per minute. A year later I could handle 20+ gpm, but only about 15wpm in clear text. No problem sending faster, but when receiving I kept listening to the message instead of just writing it down. But that was over 40 years ago. Today I doubt if I even remember all the codes. I've seen some folks with flying thumbs, but you start pushing keyboard response and anti-bounce circuitry at these speeds. Sorry guys but my hobby phone is one of those cheap flip phones so texting is pretty slow for me. What was I thinking!? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 8, 2015 ... 2. Ask for address of her location before even setting appointment?? Yikes!! <slamming head on desk> Only Heidi called you on this?? Gotta think this would freak most ladies out. If you read reviews, you will frequently encounter "standard two call system". Means after booking you get general location when you call to confirm, and specific location when you call again from the near vicinity. ... I have no problem with not getting the exact address, but I want the general location before I commit to an appointment. Two(2) hours of driving for a one(1) hour appointment can be a problem. I may not have a 3-4 hour window in my day. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 8, 2015 Sorry guys but my hobby phone is one of those cheap flip phones so texting is pretty slow for me. What was I thinking!? Better slow and safe than fast and sloppy. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 13, 2015 I actually agree w/Nikki. I used to didn't mind the small intro chat however every single intro chat was NEVER a small intro chat. The guy(s) never wanted to hang up and always continued on to ask 100 questions etc. I don't bother w/the chats anymore 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 14, 2015 Now that you've gotten every answer in the book, I hope the answer is obvious: You have your rules. She has her rules. If they are compatible, you can get laid. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 14, 2015 ... You have your rules. She has her rules. If they are compatible, you can get laid. In a nut shell! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 14, 2015 [it ranks right up there with calling me "Hun" because you will never hear from me again. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
