Posted January 7, 2015 Serious question for the folks on the board: If you walked into an appointment & saw some bruises would you still want to continue with the session? Now before Captain Save a Hoe swoops in and tries to beat up my Pimp Cat and whisk me away, I shall explain. Been debating about going back into MMA training, not saying just yet to get back into competing, but I really miss the sparing, dedication, adrenaline and overall lifestyle of it. It's an aggressive sport. Not every day you get bruised but there is always the potential for bruises or random injury. Now to add to that; would it be in the best interest to forewarn the gentleman if I do end up with a crazy bruise? (ie: black eye) Ladies: Have you ever had some random injury/bruise that you felt you needed to forewarn about and if so, how did you tactfully do so? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 7, 2015 IMO, most bruising would be a turn-off. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 7, 2015 Not a problem as long as you explained it properly. Hell, the body you get from that workout would be, well, awesome (and your body is already awesome, but I digress). I did MMA for six years, twice a week, and got quite a few injuries. The injury thing is the only danger. After all, you use your body in your job, so injuries could cut into your income. After six years, I finally said: "All this self defense is killing me." 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 7, 2015 (edited) I'm no doctor...https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g-4-gLlF0uw, but there are a lot of different kinds of bruising and some just look unhealthy vs. a contact type. In the latter case, I think a quick explanation should suffice. (I know I've had occasional visits while sporting a few nasty bruises from hockey and folks seem to be okay with it, but things are different in that regard for a dude.) Try to be the puncher rather than the punchee? (PimpCat = awesome) Serious question for the folks on the board: If you walked into an appointment & saw some bruises would you still want to continue with the session? Now before Captain Save a Hoe swoops in and tries to beat up my Pimp Cat and whisk me away, I shall explain. Been debating about going back into MMA training, not saying just yet to get back into competing, but I really miss the sparing, dedication, adrenaline and overall lifestyle of it. It's an aggressive sport. Not every day you get bruised but there is always the potential for bruises or random injury. Now to add to that; would it be in the best interest to forewarn the gentleman if I do end up with a crazy bruise? (ie: black eye) Ladies: Have you ever had some random injury/bruise that you felt you needed to forewarn about and if so, how did you tactfully do so? Edited January 7, 2015 by Boardmember addition 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 7, 2015 Facial bruising would be disconcerting for me. Aren't safety headgear used in MMA? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 7, 2015 Now to add to that; would it be in the best interest to forewarn the gentleman if I do end up with a crazy bruise? (ie: black eye) Yep. Just let them know you do MMA and sometimes bruises happen. Might turn off some guys. But the truth is better than them thinking your pimp (or the last guy you saw) did that to you. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 7, 2015 Facial bruising would be disconcerting for me. Aren't safety headgear used in MMA? Thanks everyone for the honest responses! Schools require different levels of safety gear for different events. Headgear is worn for Boxing/Kickboxing/Mauy Thai (mostly *stand up* contact). MMA/BJJ is ground work and the headgear would get in the way. I've only gotten 1 black eye and that was while wearing headgear. It wasn't a crazy bruise but I was actually proud of it. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 7, 2015 Something like this??? Bruises being a normal result of human activities they would not usually bother me. Besides all the physical things people like to do for fun some people are just clumsy, bumping into things all the time. I've seen bruises on ladies I've visited before and never gave them a second thought about being pimp inspired. There would be a point though when they would start to bother me; it's a variable point determined by size, number, location, color and the fact that bruises look worse on light skinned people so I can not give you a blanket yes or no on the topic. I can say yes to telling the potential clients beforehand and letting them decide if they want to proceed. Most men being visually oriented if the bruises in the pictures were around the face it could be a big turn off. Where they are located might not be as visually distracting but I would worry that any additional pressure might reinjure or compound the already existing injury or cause additional pain. That's what bruises represent damaged muscle tissue and BCD activities with escorts are often physically demanding. Good topic...I'd also like to hear from other providers on how they handle telling potential clients about such things. ...Happy Hobbying... ...Crazy Horse... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 7, 2015 was on crutches once from a sprain. explained it ahead of time and we decided to give it a try. no pain..no problems. when i told others about the sprain and that it didnt hurt as long as i didnt stand on it, they were game. didn't affect sessions at all except that we discovered some new positions. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 7, 2015 (edited) Justine, I can appreciate your wanting to do MMA. But reading the responses here from the gentlemen, tells me that major bruising is a turn-off. While I was trying for roller-derby I sported more then a few pretty colored bruises. And I was providing then also. The fact that I had to provide full coverage medical insurance stopped me from joining the team. I never had too many comments about the bruises because they were mainly legs and butt . Also while a few bruises are normal , if you are a good skater and don't fall often or get knocked down allot ,bruising is minimal. And when you say-roller derby it explains the few dark bruises you have. Sexual bruising however as Aurora Mike stated is a entirely different story. Our clients know they are not the only guy we see, but they don't particularly care for that kind of a reminder. A good physical workout is good for our health and our well being. But if we are providing, we have to take our clients sensibilities into consideration. wI think the real key here however is that e can be tough as nails, and yet our clients don't need to know this. Edited January 7, 2015 by Jez UaBriain context 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 7, 2015 Bruises are a big turn off. Lovely skin with a bruise in any form is not good. I once had an appointment with my ATF. She had hickeys inside both of her thighs. Kind of hard to get into the session when you have signs of a previous visit. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 7, 2015 Justine, I can appreciate your wanting to do MMA. But reading the responses here from the gentlemen, tells me that major bruising is a turn-off. While I was trying for roller-derby I sported more then a few pretty colored bruises. And I was providing then also. The fact that I had to provide full coverage medical insurance stopped me from joining the team. I never had too many comments about the bruises because they were mainly legs and butt . Also while a few bruises are normal , if you are a good skater and don't fall often or get knocked down allot ,bruising is minimal. And when you say-roller derby it explains the few dark bruises you have. Sexual bruising however as Aurora Mike stated is a entirely different story. Our clients know they are not the only guy we see, but they don't particularly care for that kind of a reminder. A good physical workout is good for our health and our well being. But if we are providing, we have to take our clients sensibilities into consideration. wI think the real key here however is that e can be tough as nails, and yet our clients don't need to know this. Wait a minute and stop the presses...This hot news just in...The ladies of TOB are NOT delicate wilting flowers in need of strong tough men to take care of them. Well hell's bells I learn something new everyday. I know you don't have to be big to be tough and us Irish are as scrappy a lot as you'll ever run into, but seriously Jez how does such a tiny person as yourself keep the opponents from doubling over in laughter when you go to body block them into the rails. ...Happy Hobbying... ...Crazy Horse... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 7, 2015 If you walked into an appointment & saw some bruises would you still want to continue with the session? Bruises don't matter to me. I would not mind seeing a woman with bruises and scars from being active, staying fit, and having fun. If it's from her pimp beating her, that's a different story. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 7, 2015 We've been talking about bruises on the YL. How about turning the tables? What about bruises on our manly men? After a recent bout of mattress mambo, I noticed as I reached down to remove the cock ring that the L side of my shaft was PURPLE! Eek! A few days later there was still a dime sized spot. Blood thinners seem to enhance this special effects look. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 7, 2015 Bruises don't matter to me. I would not mind seeing a woman with bruises and scars from being active, staying fit, and having fun. If it's from her pimp beating her, that's a different story. I'm with Fork. I had an ATF for two or three years who I stopped seeing abruptly because I could no longer believe her stories regarding bruising on her body. Bruises appeared more frequently as time went on, along with other red flags. I can't live with that shit on my conscious. As for you, Justina, only met once but it's obvious you're independent and take great care of your body and mind so a few bruises wouldn't bother me in the least. Any chance you'll be offering sparring, grappling and ground fighting in future sessions? If so, sign me up! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 7, 2015 We've been talking about bruises on the YL. How about turning the tables? What about bruises on our manly men? After a recent bout of mattress mambo, I noticed as I reached down to remove the cock ring that the L side of my shaft was PURPLE! Eek! A few days later there was still a dime sized spot. Blood thinners seem to enhance this special effects look. While things like bruised cocks are not out of the ordinary for even healthy people blood thinners always make things more complicated. When you're on them any such bruising needs to be monitored and mentioned to the Dr. on your next visit. It's not the bleeding you can see you need to worry about as much as that you don't see. Hang in there ol' stud. There'll be lot's of unhappy ladies if you have to retire due to medical reasons although it is much harder to bruise a tongue. ...Happy Hobbying... ...Crazy Horse... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 7, 2015 Thanks everyone for the honest responses! Schools require different levels of safety gear for different events. Headgear is worn for Boxing/Kickboxing/Mauy Thai (mostly *stand up* contact). MMA/BJJ is ground work and the headgear would get in the way. I've only gotten 1 black eye and that was while wearing headgear. It wasn't a crazy bruise but I was actually proud of it. Damn, you are my kind of woman. BJJ (as I'm sure you know) tends to yield fewer bruises, so perhaps you could do a bit more grappling instead of the stand-up. After all, for self defense purposes, in your line of work, submission holds would probably be best for self defense. Some lucky bastard is going to get to grapple with Justina for free. I'll never forget a ground session where I got paired with a 19-year-old college girl. It was intense, vaguely sexual, sweaty, intimate, and went on for a solid hour. As far as the bruises thing, as Inkspot mentioned, it just may be that this is more of a turnoff than I suspected. Some guys would inevitably think you were being abused, and that makes any decent fellow mad, sad, and not the least bit turned on. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 8, 2015 (edited) [snip} Speaking of sadness, I have also seen the results of abusive relationships. A one-time ATF had four "finger prints" on her fore-arm from some gorilla with a "jealous grip" on her. I certainly did not want to meet this guy. Would I be OK with a provider who immediately explains her bumps & bruises. Yes, provided she meets my sanity check. One lady actually showed me her blood thinners that set her up for easy bruising. Hell, I take aspirin every day and it does the same to me. A flabby lady who says she's in Cross-Fit training does not pass my check. And, Justina: YOU GO GIRL (of my dreams)!!! Someday we'll meet... Edited January 9, 2015 by boink36 Forbidden topic removed. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 8, 2015 (edited) Wait a minute and stop the presses...This hot news just in...The ladies of TOB are NOT delicate wilting flowers in need of strong tough men to take care of them. Well hell's bells I learn something new everyday. I know you don't have to be big to be tough and us Irish are as scrappy a lot as you'll ever run into, but seriously Jez how does such a tiny person as yourself keep the opponents from doubling over in laughter when you go to body block them into the rails. ...Happy Hobbying... ...Crazy Horse... That's the wonderful thing about being short, and irish as hell. They (big people)don't have to be body blocked into the rails. Wee people can maneuver easily into the best positions to do just that. Think jammer,not blocker. *Wink*Wink** Someone here mentioned fingerprint bruising from a "jealous gorilla" his term, on his ATF's forearms. The possibility exists that it was just a really good tango between the sheets, rather then a jealous client. (Clients jealous? Oh NO!) Fingerprint bruises are a unfortunate side effect of tango-ing in bed. And unfortunately can't always be kept out of sight of our clients. However, I find them far easier to deal with then hickeys -which I deplore. And they seem to come off as an territorial mark instead.. Edited January 8, 2015 by Jez UaBriain Addition of yet another "profound" Lol! comment. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 8, 2015 MMA is just one of my favorite sports. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 8, 2015 I'm glad that you brought this up Justina! I tend to get some pretty wicked bruises on my right thigh from working out. I'm right hand dominate and I have heavy hands, bad combo. The endorphins kick in when I'm teaching and I tend to get a little carried away with vigorous cueing. I slap my quad so hard that it sounds like a hand clap lol. I did have a gent ask me about it after a session and I told him about my part time job. I was worried that he might think someone had roughed me up. I imagine as my teaching schedule ramps up along with the killer workouts my new trainer has been putting me through that I will have plenty of 'splaining to do 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 9, 2015 [snip} Speaking of sadness, I have also seen the results of abusive relationships. A one-time ATF had four "finger prints" on her fore-arm from some gorilla with a "jealous grip" on her. I certainly did not want to meet this guy. Would I be OK with a provider who immediately explains her bumps & bruises. Yes, provided she meets my sanity check. One lady actually showed me her blood thinners that set her up for easy bruising. Hell, I take aspirin every day and it does the same to me. A flabby lady who says she's in Cross-Fit training does not pass my check. And, Justina: YOU GO GIRL (of my dreams)!!! Someday we'll meet... just leave an open mind for those in the beginning of their training and may still be flabby. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 9, 2015 It depends on where the bruises are. I saw a lady several times who I knew was training in self defense. She had bruises on her thighs all the time. I knew about this, and she said it is where she bruises most easily. If I were to walk into a session where the yl had brusies on her face, or upper body, I might be concerned. Justina, I think if you explain you will be fine. Most guys like that a lady can handle themselves....Good on you. If I do not F&^% with you then you will not need to F&*( with me. Rules to live by. If I start seeing busted up ribs and face, I may inquire as to what the hell is going on. Other than that, well she could be clumbsy or bruise easily. I thinkk most guys can tell a work out to a beating. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 9, 2015 Wouldn't bother me a bit. I used to do krav and my little ass got the shit kicked outta me, I understand how bruising and even cuts can happen when training! I have no worries about you getting roughed up Justina. Your as tough as they come, that wouldn't even cross my mind! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 9, 2015 if she were new to me - probable turn off due to uncertain history... if I had seen her before and believe where she claims the bruises came from - and it was something like you say here - no problem... I can say this because I have been on both sides of this fence and the bruising that sent me away came with the 'I just fell, I'm such a clutz' story - which would have meant she fell out of a very big tree - I left half the donation and told her I hoped she would find a safe place... the other was an atf who just got spanked - and lord it sent us off on a perverted tangent that I will never forget... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 10, 2015 I did my first pole dancing class today and the backs of my knees and thighs are already bruised! thank goodness for Dermablend or people might think I have Lerprosy 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 10, 2015 I don't mind small bruises but the bigger concern is if there is any pain associated. Touch or no touch zones because of the bruises. Explainations go along way here. But the big ugly yellow and green ones are a no go for me. Just don't want to see those. I now there are reasons, but I don't want to see. Hate to be that graphic but yikes those look bad. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
