Should I lose my virginity to a provider?

[Guest]

GO FOR IT WITH A PRO! Repeat. Often. Learn what ladies like and what you like. Big and small, try em all.

I would probably have never gotten married if I had started this hobby and realized the wonderful ladies in it.

BTW, it is much cheaper to hobby than to marry.

So, GO FOR IT. Find a lady you are attracted to and make an appointment. Then another. Then another. Have a great time!

[pfunk]

Once you start down the dark path, forever will it dominate your destiny

That's simply not true. Everyday you choose what to do. Choose to see an escort, or not.

Also, there is no "dark path" here.

To OrangeSmile: If you wanna do it, do it. It really won't affect anything, unless you choose to let it. These girls are safe professionals, mostly. It'll probably be fun!

Good Luck!

[Guest Mr. X]

They NEVER do it with a client uncovered,

I don't wish to derail the topic but this is simply not true. I agree in general most ladies use protection but a small percentage don't. I've been offered it as an upgrade a few times now. One of them a very prominent lady on EB.

I limited the activities those times for my own protection and will never return to see those ladies again. Too bad actually.

[kusanku]

WHY are you asking us? Do you not have the ability to make your own decisions? Perhaps your question explains precisely why you haven't already "lost" it.

[csm007]

Once you start down the dark path, forever will it dominate your destiny

Master Yoda would have said instead "Down the dark path once you start, forever will it dominate your destiny". Joking aside, for someone to start hobbying in their early 20s is too early in my opinion unless he's fat, ugly, and/or disabled or with some kind of psychological problem(s). OP: get yourself a hot and young girlfriend...you will save money in the long run.

This hobby is very addictive and can empty your wallet very quickly. I have been a hobbyist for more than 13 years. Half of my total spending was in the last 4 years. The more I made, the more I spent. Does this sound like an addict to you? My new year's resolution is to cut down hobby spending by 50%

[NaughtyNiceGuy]

Why are asking a bunch of johns when you xan guess the majority answer will be? Do what works for you. Based on your story it sounds like this is not the path you want to take but are hoping for a way to justify your actions.

[pitbull]

Master Yoda would have said instead "Down the dark path once you start, forever will it dominate your destiny". Joking aside, for someone to start hobbying in their early 20s is too early in my opinion unless he's fat, ugly, and/or disabled or with some kind of psychological problem(s). OP: get yourself a hot and young girlfriend...you will save money in the long run.

This hobby is very addictive and can empty your wallet very quickly. I have been a hobbyist for more than 13 years. Half of my total spending was in the last 4 years. The more I made, the more I spent. Does this sound like an addict to you? My new year's resolution is to cut down hobby spending by 50%

I don't think he is truly wanting to "go down the hobbying path," I think he just wants to get the monkey off of his back. It is perfectly plausible that after a few visits, he will find a real girlfriend and never go back to hobbying. I agree that early 20s is probably too young for "hobbying," but this is different.

He stated he merely wants to pop the cherry and get some experience. For that, a pro can perform a great service for him. It will be a weight off of this guy that he does not need to carry around. As for finding a girlfriend, there is someone for everyone -- even the fat and ugly guys.

[Bit Banger]

... for someone to start hobbying in their early 20s is too early in my opinion ...

With the lack of youths passing through our military training, this rite of passage seems to have slipped into 'the dark side'. What every happened to 'shore leave'?

[Sennagig]

"I would stop feeling like a loser since society indoctrinates people into thinking they're fucking lepers if they're virgins in their 20s"

I've got news for you, bro. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 26. I was never treated like a leper. It just means you'll have to play catch up.

"Maybe having sex will make me realize how fucking awesome sex is and give me more motivation to seek out female relationships which could greatly enhance my satisfaction with life"

Or you could get addicted to hobbying. Either way isn't a bad way to go.

"I could catch and STD and have to worry about the Herp haunting me for the rest of my life."

Two kinds of people in this life; sitters and shitters.

"When you're 60 and divorced having herpes isn't a big deal since you're probably not getting laid anymore unless you pay for it with or without and STD"

I wouldn't knock older men. Lots of guys in their 50's at the gym hittin' it with younger girls. Why? They're in better shape than you give them credit for. They have money. They are generally classier than a frat boy. Oh, and did I mention they have money.

All in all, I'd say no. Don't see a provider to lose your virginity to. This is somewhat hypocritical of me because my first time was with a stripper who was older than me. However, looking back, I realized I had a very frustrating time hooking up with 'normal' girls afterward because most of them were terrible in bed. If you're a virgin, you don't actually realize you've had lousy sex until later, when you eventually find your dynamo.

Just my advice.

[Bit Banger]

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All in all, I'd say no. Don't see a provider to lose your virginity to. This is somewhat hypocritical of me because my first time was with a stripper who was older than me. However, looking back, I realized I had a very frustrating time hooking up with 'normal' girls afterward because most of them were terrible in bed. If you're a virgin, you don't actually realize you've had lousy sex until later, when you eventually find your dynamo.

This is perhaps the most compelling argument against losing your virginity to a professional.

On the other hand, it could be the most cogent argument for it. You could find an instructor in the fine art of pleasure. Which would make you a stand-out in a crowd of virgins, In addition to being able to please your partners better, you would be able to educate your partners in how to please you.

Two virgins fumbling in the dark is a curse of the righteous. Life is much better when one of them has a candle.

Does anyone remember the scene near the end of Revenge of the Nerds where the sorority queen discovers the advantage of dating nerds instead of self-absorbed jocks

[Guest]

This is perhaps the most compelling argument against losing your virginity to a professional.

On the other hand, it could be the most cogent argument for it. You could find an instructor in the fine art of pleasure. Which would make you a stand-out in a crowd of virgins, In addition to being able to please your partners better, you would be able to educate your partners in how to please you.

Two virgins fumbling in the dark is a curse of the righteous. Life is much better when one of them has a candle.

Does anyone remember the scene near the end of Revenge of the Nerds where the sorority queen discovers the advantage of dating nerds instead of self-absorbed jocks

"All jocks ever think about is sports. All nerds ever think about is sex."

And then there's the running gag in Big Bang Theory about Leonard being the king of foreplay to overcome his self doubts.

Stereotypes aside, while I believe a professional would make for a mind blowing first experience, they would be poor instructors in the art of lovemaking. Not that they COULDN'T, but the providers I have seen have been more focused on telling me what they thought I wanted to hear, rather than give accurate guidance on what pleases them.

Let's face it. She is probably not attracted to me, but as a professional she is going to give me a good experience. This requires lies. Just the way it is.

If the OP's goal is to learn the art of sex, he should find an older civilian lady who is willing to teach him.

[Guest Mr. X]

I don't wish to derail the topic but this is simply not true. I agree in general most ladies use protection but a small percentage don't. I've been offered it as an upgrade a few times now. One of them a very prominent lady on EB.

I limited the activities those times for my own protection and will never return to see those ladies again. Too bad actually.

No private emails please.

[Bit Banger]

If the OP's goal is to learn the art of sex, he should find an older civilian lady who is willing to teach him.

Not a bad suggestion. Trading "boy toy status" for an education sounds like a fair deal. Besides, that way he may also get an education in how travel in different social situations.

[MAG]

Pros

-My first time would be guaranteed to be mind blowing since most of the girls on here have stellar skills due to their experience.

Don't bet on it -- you're assuming that because they are "pros", they are good at it.

-It would likely help my confidence and prepare me better for when I get with a girl who I actually have feelings for

Seeing a hooker isn't going to do much for your confidence, either way.

-I would stop feeling like a loser since society indoctrinates people into thinking they're fucking lepers if they're virgins in their 20s

Much of society would think you're a loser because you're paying for it.

-Maybe having sex will make me realize how fucking awesome sex is and give me more motivation to seek out female relationships which could greatly enhance my satisfaction with life

I don't think you need to HAVE sex to know that it's awesome, or to motivate you to date.

Cons

-I could catch and STD

You don't think you could catch an STD from a "civilian"???

-I could end up completely disassociating physical intimacy from emotional intimacy. This could be a pro or a con depending on how you look at it.

It's neither a pro nor a con. Sometimes sex is physical, sometimes more. The act of having the first kind doesn't render you incapable of the second kind, or vice-versa.

-I could get arrested by LE and end up getting ass fucked in prison by a large black man named "Ray Ray." This is definitely the worst scenario imaginable; you wake up thinking you're going to get laid by a rad women and end up getting rammed from behind by a burly dude that night in prison. I also imagine having solicitation on my record could severely limit my future job prospects.

Paranoid much?

-I could end up regretting it for the rest of my life because my first time wasn't with "someone special."

Oh, gawd, give me a break.

Hey, if you want to get a hooker, do so. You don't need our blessing. They way you've over-analyzed this, I doubt anyone could say anything to influence you. Your horny as hell and wracked with guilt over the mere idea -- that's a recipe for eternal indecision.

[passiondog]

[quote=OrangeSmile;367014 When you're 60 and divorced having herpes isn't a big deal since you're probably not getting laid anymore unless you pay for it with or without and STD QUOTE]

I'm in my 60's (no STD though), and while I admit I'm slowing down a bit, I still get laid 3-5 times a week. AND, on those few occasions I chose to pay for it, I consider it frosting on the cake.

I think, with your overall warped view of self and others, you should not get laid at all until you are at least 50 and have hopefully developed the maturity to handle and appreciate the human sexual experience.

Ditto that partner. I am just outside of 60 but I have been laid more since turning 50 than I have total from 17 to 49, by women of all ages, young as 25 old as 56 and women are just as horny as men and the older they are the more skilled they are. I have no fears that after 60 it will end up the only chance I have is if I'm paying. Like is good.

[RunRun]

What the hell get a provider.

[fanxxx]

Interesting read... lot of good replies. So orangesmile did u end up in loosing the v card?

[BrettArch]

I'm sure i'm going to get racked over the coals for this but, here we go.

So i though about whether I should reply to this post even thought it is a few months old, I was actually in the exact same position as this guy,around the time he posted about it , but i am 28 years old, If it helps one person It has served its purpose, and i hope someone can find it useful. I have no idea if orange smile went through with his quest, all I know is i did, woot woot,

These are my opinions, and every body is different.

But I would like to thank all they Guys and Girls for all help with getting it done, I have met some of the young ladies on here, and one in Particular was awesome, I could have not done it without all your help. To think about it if this board was not here, i would still be a virgin, I dont know who owns or runs this board and the reviews, but a huge thanks to them for keeping it going.

Pros

-My first time would be guaranteed to be mind blowing since most of the girls on here have stellar skills due to their experience.

you would think, It was good but not mind blowing, i was a bit nervous but it was still fun. BTW I never told her kinda feel bad, but i was to shy to.

-It would likely help my confidence and prepare me better for when I get with a girl who I actually have feelings for

Absolutely it increased my confidence ten fold, and yes it will prepare you for when you actually like a girl, but and a big but, Its going to take lots of girls and lost of time, one time will help, Rome wasn't built in a day

-I would stop feeling like a loser since society indoctrinates people into thinking they're fucking lepers if they're virgins in their 20s

This is a hard question, did i feel like a looser, yes , should I have, probably not, but society, media, these days are all about sex and sex sells.

Obviously stopped feeling like a looser, you will see the world in a whole new way, actually have something to get up for in the morning

-Maybe having sex will make me realize how fucking awesome sex is and give me more motivation to seek out female relationships which could greatly enhance my satisfaction with life

We all know how fucking awesome sex is, but there is so much more to sex than just fucking, For me I don't think its given me more motivation to get a girl friend or hookup with girls, it has given me confidence, which will allow thoes things to happen.

Cons

-I could catch and STD and have to worry about the Herp haunting me for the rest of my life. When you're 60 and divorced having herpes isn't a big deal since you're probably not getting laid anymore unless you pay for it with or without and STD Having an STD in your 20s though is a major problem though because it could severely limit your ability to get other young women to sleep with you

Easy question, If you pick and choose a well reviewed lady the chances are very low, from my experience 99.9% of them are very safe when it comes to this. Real world observations prior to loosing it, was very eye opening when it comes to safe sex, Just go hang out at beta night club for a night with friends, friend takes chick home, they fuck, no condom, think about that. Yes their is a change but we take chances everyday in every aspect of our lives, it just about how we minimize the likely-hood of it happening.

-I could end up completely disassociating physical intimacy from emotional intimacy. This could be a pro or a con depending on how you look at it.

Can't really answer that, i have no experience with it, for me its just what it is, their time for a donation, nothing more and nothing less.

-I could get arrested by LE and end up getting ass fucked in prison by a large black man named "Ray Ray." This is definitely the worst scenario imaginable; you wake up thinking you're going to get laid by a rad women and end up getting rammed from behind by a burly dude that night in prison. I also imagine having solicitation on my record could severely limit my future job prospects.

I can say i was scared of this, I would say go with a well reviewed lady, keep off backpage unless they have reviews, use your best judgment. I did and it all worked out.

-I could end up regretting it for the rest of my life because my first time wasn't with "someone special."

Nope, not me. I was kinda waiting until about my 21st, but after that its just became a burden, I wake up every morning and just smile when i think about my first time, its been about a month now, and i'm still smiling.

Its up to you, not really a tough call for me, it was about having the guts to actually get it done, I woke up one day, decided my life, my friends, my college major was not working so i said fuck it, so i changed my friends, changed my major and actually just found a escort and got it over with,

was i nervous, hell yea, Is my life better because of it, yes it.

I was in this position because i have not taken enough chances in my life.

so i say yes. Sometimes we forget women a just people too.

It's definitely changed my life, my outlook on things, and there are lots of things i did not expect to happen because of this.

It's a tough call. I need you wise ladies and lads of the hobby to give me some guidance and advice. Should I just say "Fuck it" and get it over with? Should I keep holding out? I feel like I'm losing a lot of prime years of sex by waiting but will I end up abhorring myself if I loss my virginity this way? If I decide to go through with this, who would be a good candidate for such an experience? I need you wise old sexual sages to help me out.

[pfunk]

So i though about whether I should reply to this post even thought it is a few months old, I was actually in the exact same position as this guy,around the time he posted about it , but i am 28 years old, If it helps one person It has served its purpose, and i hope someone can find it useful. I have no idea if orange smile went through with his quest, all I know is i did, woot woot

I'm really glad you had a positive experience. I hope you continue enjoying the company of women, as escorts, and otherwise! Congratulations!

[pitbull]

BrettArch: You obviously did the right thing, and thank you for sharing your story. The obvious next step, perhaps after a bit more experience in the sack with pros, is to find a REAL girlfriend and fall in love. There is nothing like your woman purring in your ear, "I love you so much" while she's on top and about to hit an orgasm. A provider will never say that. And yes, you ultimately get to toss away that condom and make love as it was intended.

It's true that many of us are here on this board because the physical side of our relationships has gone. But would I trade the times I had (and still have) with my woman? No. Do I regret our relationship? Do I regret the forbidden topics we are raising? Not for a second. I hope to get the physical side of the relationship back some day, and I keep trying with all my heart. Until that time, we have these ladies, these angels of mercy, who help us out -- whether we be virgins or otherwise.

[Lucy Kitten]

I'm sure i'm going to get racked over the coals for this but, here we go.

So i though about whether I should reply to this post even thought it is a few months old, I was actually in the exact same position as this guy,around the time he posted about it , but i am 28 years old, If it helps one person It has served its purpose, and i hope someone can find it useful. I have no idea if orange smile went through with his quest, all I know is i did, woot woot,

These are my opinions, and every body is different.

But I would like to thank all they Guys and Girls for all help with getting it done, I have met some of the young ladies on here, and one in Particular was awesome, I could have not done it without all your help. To think about it if this board was not here, i would still be a virgin, I dont know who owns or runs this board and the reviews, but a huge thanks to them for keeping it going.

This was so adorable! Thanks for sharing.

[lilithia]

Spoken like a true sage. I am in total agreement Urfan. Being in this business pros or cons truly dulls the emotions.

Lilithia

[lilithia]

After reading all these replies from our esteem jonhs, I am a firm believer in keeping it real and business like.

So to the op make a choice and don't look back. But choose wisely because you may end up like the rest of us here filled with regret and sorrow.

The art of love making cannot be taught, brought or sold. What was that color beige yes beige oh no it was green yes I like green.

lilithia

[Guest Likenthrope]

I wonder if I could rededicate myself and become the wizard guy.

[pitbull]

[snip]

No one raising forbidden subjects could post this "meter" -- that is for sure.

Edited June 18, 2014 by The Oxymoron
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[BadBoy]

Jeez, OP, you think too much, which is probably why you are still a virgin. A certain well-known provider offered about 10-15 posts up to eat your virginity for breakfast. Save up your money, give her a call and have some fun.

Whatever you do, do not try to fake it! Just tell the selected lucky lady that you are a virgin and she will take it from there.

100 years ago this is the way everyone lost their virginity.

[harpo]

The OP posted in February, and by now he is not fucking virgin.

[Pittbull]

By now I would most certainly think that this young man has solved his problem. I think it’s a good idea for him to go this rout and there are providers that are virgin friendly. I believe that if you want to do it this way you need to find a woman and converse your issues and tell her you want to have her as a teacher and book multi hour sessions. I wish that I would have had this opportunity 38 years ago it would have given me the confidence and I wouldn’t have been a shy and extremely horny 22 year old that the young lady had to take the reins and push herself on me. I hope that if there are other young men like this this hobby helps them out.