Male massage for the ladies?

[Boricua7]

Good morning ladies,

I like a good massage (shoulder issues) once in a while to relieve pain and stress. I browse through backpage at the ads listed and sometimes see male ads show up.

Would you gals consider contacting a male massage provider (non CMT) for a massage?

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Just curious on your thoughts on this. Would you even consider this or just laugh and move on?

Edited May 7, 2013 by Kaduk
removed info which could be construed as Advertising.

[brookeramey]

To be perfectly honest, I probably wouldn't consider it. Oh sure, the guy would come massage you but then invariably would expect sex in return, to the point of possibly even disrespecting your boundaries and refusing to leave. Just what I'm imagining, anyway. I have some male friends who would do it for me with no expectations if I asked, or I'd just end up going to Massage Envy or somesuch.

[Boricua7]

That was my thought as well. I enjoy giving massages to providers when asked, but I don't see myself posting an ad on BP. Just seems kind of wierd and just gives off a bad vibe. Same with male escorting on BP.

[brookeramey]

That was my thought as well. I enjoy giving massages to providers when asked, but I don't see myself posting an ad on BP. Just seems kind of wierd and just gives off a bad vibe. Same with male escorting on BP.

That brings up a loophole, though, at least for me as a provider: If it's a normal appointment where a client wants to give me a massage and then move on to other things, that's totally fine. Sounds like a lovely time, even.

[urfan]

lol - dude's obviously trying desperately to be a playa - he mentions being sexy 3 times including the headline. and what's up with offering gals to 'feel like you're young again' anyway? obviously lookin for a cougar suffering from jungle fever. he ain't a cmt so gee, whatever would the pro quo be for his quid?

[rachelsonoma]

I once paid for a massage from a good looking male who advertised FBSM or therapeutic massage for ladies. He had a good rep. I made it clear that I did not want anything sensual. I wanted strictly therapeutic. He gave me a great massage, never breaking touch. His hands were strong. But he messed up at the end, when I was face-up. He put oil on my yoni and tried to touch it. I had to repeat myself, that I did not want to be touched there. I felt frustrated and disrespected. I have since paid women for thera massage. No problems. And I met a male CMT since then, who I trade with, who would never disrespect my wishes.

[pitbull]

I once paid for a massage from a good looking male who advertised FBSM or therapeutic massage for ladies. He had a good rep. I made it clear that I did not want anything sensual. I wanted strictly therapeutic. He gave me a great massage, never breaking touch. His hands were strong. But he messed up at the end, when I was face-up. He put oil on my yoni and tried to touch it. I had to repeat myself, that I did not want to be touched there. I felt frustrated and disrespected. I have since paid women for thera massage. No problems. And I met a male CMT since then, who I trade with, who would never disrespect my wishes.

Interesting story. Your male CMT was probably all hot and bothered and just figured you must be too. So not true.

And I have never seen the word "Yoni," but that does not surprise me. We have countless words for the things we value.

[urfan]

maybe she should have said "yoni cat"

[brookeramey]

That's a new one on me...'yoni' has never been part of my vernacular but it will be now. Much better than 'hoo-ha', at any rate.

[lilithia]

No

Lilithia

[urfan]

agreed.

"Much better than 'hoo-ha', at any rate"

always a challenge what to call it in certain situations and that euphemism has run its course

[Jez UaBriain]

agreed.

"Much better than 'hoo-ha', at any rate"

always a challenge what to call it in certain situations and that euphemism has run its course

Or, how about va-va-jay, gads, that's Oprah W, term. I kinda liked South Park's calling it a "snook" on their episodes about Hilary and Oprah/ I wouldn't use the term to describe mine , but it was funny.

[SLOHANDS4XTC]

Good morning ladies,

Would you gals consider a male (non CMT) for a massage?

I was young when I was taught by an older Lady (A Couger by todays standards:p)

that, both before you begin or inbetween your ongoing orgasms, massage is wonderful

form of forplay.

So I practiced and learned well from her.

As an Ice Breaker I will always offer it at the beginning of sessions and

only suggest that if she enjoys it, that it should not be concidered as time.

I have had alot of complements and also quite a few that anticipate my return visits.

To me, it can't hurt to ask because it is just treating a Lady like a Lady and showing her

much respect as well.

Of course YMMV, depending upon your ability.

Dennis M.

[2Big]

To be perfectly honest, I probably wouldn't consider it. Oh sure, the guy would come massage you but then invariably would expect sex in return, to the point of possibly even disrespecting your boundaries and refusing to leave. Just what I'm imagining, anyway. I have some male friends who would do it for me with no expectations if I asked, or I'd just end up going to Massage Envy or somesuch.

I once paid for a massage from a good looking male who advertised FBSM or therapeutic massage for ladies. He had a good rep. I made it clear that I did not want anything sensual. I wanted strictly therapeutic. He gave me a great massage, never breaking touch. His hands were strong. But he messed up at the end, when I was face-up. He put oil on my yoni and tried to touch it. I had to repeat myself, that I did not want to be touched there. I felt frustrated and disrespected. I have since paid women for thera massage. No problems. And I met a male CMT since then, who I trade with, who would never disrespect my wishes.

These two responses vividly illustrate the differences between men and women. Substitute "he" with "she" in the above post and see how absurd this would sound to a guy.

Dude 1: I went to get a therapeutic massage and the girl accidentally touched my shlong. I was offended!

Dude 2: You must be gay.

[brookeramey]

Let me unpack that a little further for you 2Big, because you're right, but there's a point to be made here.

The 'difference' is that the men in these situations (I am not saying all men everywhere) feel they are entitled to accessing women's bodies for sexual purposes, regardless of the boundaries that have been established by the women beforehand. This is something women put up with ALL THE TIME so you can imagine the profound annoyance in encountering it when you are in a vulnerable position (i.e. laying on a massage table just trying to relax for once).

[NaughtyNiceGuy]

Then why go for a fbsm rather than a legitimate massage?

[Pittbull]

On 5/9/2013 at 3:58 PM, rachelsonoma said:

I once paid for a massage from a good looking male who advertised FBSM or therapeutic massage for ladies. He had a good rep. I made it clear that I did not want anything sensual. I wanted strictly therapeutic. He gave me a great massage, never breaking touch. His hands were strong. But he messed up at the end, when I was face-up. He put oil on my yoni and tried to touch it. I had to repeat myself, that I did not want to be touched there. I felt frustrated and disrespected. I have since paid women for thera massage. No problems. And I met a male CMT since then, who I trade with, who would never disrespect my wishes.

Obviously he thought that he had done a great job and had made you extremely horny and he was entitled to touch you in a way in which you expressed thoroughly in the beginning that you didn’t want. This action is the action of a male that’s father had taught him that you can just take anything from a woman that you want. I was lucky enough that my mother taught me that no matter what you need to get permission to touch any woman in a sexual way (this includes your wife) and you can not sexually assault a woman whenever you want and this is exactly what I believe that this pig did. If you don’t have enough respect for a woman or even a man to respect their wishes then you should not even put yourself in that situation to begin with. I hope I don’t offend anyone by jumping on an old post and I hope I don’t get into trouble for expressing my opinion. 

[MeganMarie4u]

4 hours ago, Pittbull said:

Obviously he thought that he had done a great job and had made you extremely horny and he was entitled to touch you in a way in which you expressed thoroughly in the beginning that you didn’t want. This action is the action of a male that’s father had taught him that you can just take anything from a woman that you want. I was lucky enough that my mother taught me that no matter what you need to get permission to touch any woman in a sexual way (this includes your wife) and you can not sexually assault a woman whenever you want and this is exactly what I believe that this pig did. If you don’t have enough respect for a woman or even a man to respect their wishes then you should not even put yourself in that situation to begin with. I hope I don’t offend anyone by jumping on an old post and I hope I don’t get into trouble for expressing my opinion. 

You're really digging up these 10 year old posts.....? For what? 

[sb1212]

7 hours ago, MeganMarie4u said:

You're really digging up these 10 year old posts.....? For what? 

Its like reruns of old, favorite TV shows.  Given the limited number of new intriguing forum topics, I am OK with it. If you are not, simply ignore/move on. If there is no interest the topic will fade away naturally. In partial response to the topic, providing a thorough massage (hopefully mutual)  to WILLING companions is a favorite BCD warm up activity of mine.