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[Guest Adelle Ashby]

Besides getting down to business what are some of your all time favorites of sessions... Special music, drinks, conversation, ambiance?

Of all your sessions what is the best thing a provider has done to make your session all about you?

I am on a mission to make all my sessions unique to each individual because after all it is YOUR time. I feel flattered that when you want to do something for yourself you choose me to be that gift. That in and of it self speaks volume, and us escorts want your time to be of your liking. After all you are paying a decent amount to be satisfied;)

[Guest Chewie69]

The lady that ACTUALLY READS my p411 profile and follows it. I lets me know you do care. Its very sexy to have a lady set the perfect mood.

A lady that's flat out real..... No fake BS front just two people enjoying eachother.

[2Big]

I am on a mission to make all my sessions unique to each individual because after all it is YOUR time. I feel flattered that when you want to do something for yourself you choose me to be that gift. That in and of it self speaks volume, and us escorts want your time to be of your liking. After all you are paying a decent amount to be satisfied;)

Just suck the dick!

[Guest Benson]

In a recent session, the provider seemed to really enjoy that I was receiving a specific act for the first time. In this case... it was excellent Russian. It's the little things... but made it special for me.

[Guest Trefoil]

The lady that ACTUALLY READS my p411 profile and follows it. I lets me know you do care. Its very sexy to have a lady set the perfect mood.

A lady that's flat out real..... No fake BS front just two people enjoying eachother.

This is a long winded way of saying that he prefers a lady who gives a damn and approaches providing like a professional.

In my experience most ladies do the bare minimum. They don't care about what you like. They're going to go through the motions, regardless of your stated desires. About 3/4 of the ladies are disappointments. I'm completely mystified as to how they get glowing reviews. It makes me wonder how sexually experienced a lot of hobbyists are. Or maybe they're just grateful that a decently attractive women 1/2 their age will sleep with them.

[lewd5050]

This is a long winded way of saying that he prefers a lady who gives a damn and approaches providing like a professional.

In my experience most ladies do the bare minimum. They don't care about what you like. They're going to go through the motions, regardless of your stated desires. About 3/4 of the ladies are disappointments. I'm completely mystified as to how they get glowing reviews. It makes me wonder how sexually experienced a lot of hobbyists are. Or maybe they're just grateful that a decently attractive women 1/2 their age will sleep with them.

If you show up with a shitty attitude like this it's no wonder you dont have a good time. I show up very excited that a beautiful lady wants to sleep with me. I always show up smiling and expecting to have fun, and thats what happens 99% of the time.

[Lucy Kitten]

If you show up with a shitty attitude like this it's no wonder you dont have a good time. I show up very excited that a beautiful lady wants to sleep with me. I always show up smiling and expecting to have fun, and thats what happens 99% of the time.

Or sometimes the truth is harsh on the ears. It may not have been the most tactful of posts but there certainly is a modicum of truth in there. Not all ladies put forth the same effort or have the creativity to tailor situations to the individual. There are certainly enough complaints about P411 profiles NOT being read that I can really believe that this is true to a degree.

[ddog]

I enjoy some friendly chat to start and finish a session. I like to have the session be more than any act that is of mutual consent. I like to get to know the lady and hopefully she will get to know me a bit.

Other things that are nice, fire in a fireplace in cold weather, music at a pleasant level, bottled water or soft drinks, a clean incall location.

My atf made every session great by her actions during the sessions. She made sure that I was number 1 and that we were going to have fun together, she dressed sexy, but not slutty, looked like she got made up just for me, hair and makeup done nicely. She also has a great sense of humor and she also didn't fake it in bed. She would tell me what she liked and how to do it. I was able to please her as well as she could please me.

[Nightrain]

Besides getting down to business what are some of your all time favorites of sessions... Special music, drinks, conversation, ambiance?

1. Freshly showered.

2. Light perfume.

3. Tight, short skirt, preferably black.

4. High heels.

5. Smile, light kiss on the cheek at the door.

6. Shot of straight bourbon, beer chaser & muted jazz.

7. Clean bathroom, fresh towels.

8. Freshly made bed, lights low.

9. Small talk, ask about my day, my trip, my business.

10. Get down to Bidness!!

11. Clean me up.

12. 5 or 10 minutes small talk in bed about my prowess.

13. Lay down donation, discreet count.

15. Byuh-bye!

[lewd5050]

Or sometimes the truth is harsh on the ears. It may not have been the most tactful of posts but there certainly is a modicum of truth in there. Not all ladies put forth the same effort or have the creativity to tailor situations to the individual. There are certainly enough complaints about P411 profiles NOT being read that I can really believe that this is true to a degree.

Agreed. That was the reason for the 99% comment.

[Guest Trefoil]

If you show up with a shitty attitude like this it's no wonder you dont have a good time. I show up very excited that a beautiful lady wants to sleep with me. I always show up smiling and expecting to have fun, and thats what happens 99% of the time.

Lewd, I always come into a session hoping for the best. I only see ladies who get Fantastic ratings. And from my experience, only about 20-25% of them justify their high ratings. I have high standards and I won't apologize for that. After all, it's my money. The hobby is a competitive, ruthless activity that can eat up clients who don't do their due diligence. Ladies can have a successful venture despite being deceitful. My issues have to do with the lack of reliable reviews that don't adequately capture the average experience with a particular lady.

Reasons for disappointment include.

Messy incalls that don't get talked about in reviews.

Provider misrepresentations about age, background, looks, volume. I've met too many "30 year olds" with photoshopped pics that look 10-15 years older in person and too many high-priced, low-volume ladies who have revolving doors like agency gals. Too many ladies who score a 10 on looks who have some of the ugliest fake boobs you can imagine or simply aren't attractive enough to justify the lofty ratings.

Lack of organization. Finding equipment, music, and toys take awhile even though it's her incall. It's as if she wasn't expecting me.

Lack of adaptation to things that I like - kissing, eye contact, engaging conversation, bls, foreplay, snuggling - despite my verbal and non-verbal cues.

Lack of passion (the going through the motions comment). I can tell when a lady is holding back and it's a mood killer. This is my biggest gripe. If I turn the lady off, I'd rather have her end the session before it gets started so that we don't waste each other's time. It's not like I'll be back for a second appointment anyway if she's going to mail it in.

Abruptly ending a session before time is up. 1-5 minutes are really that important?

Rifling through my clothes while I'm in the shower.

Clumsy donation counting.

Things that I love.

Proper toiletries on hand for a shower - mouthwash, soap, clean towel, deodorant, etc.

A warm towel to clean me up after a round.

Choice of beverage, food, music, clothing. I like it when ladies ask me what I'd like upon appointment confirmation. Asking me after I arrive wastes precious time.

[shane]

Another vote for the little things like a warm towel and an offer of something to drink afterwards.

Cuddling & talking openly is also assumed, but occasionally either omitted or fake. If it's a really good fake, I don't mind - off days happen, etc. etc.

Knowing what's off the menu beforehand is essential, but thankfully it has only happened once and it seriously affected the rest of the time.

And actually taking the risk of affecting my ego and the probability of a subsequent visit, and telling me (show & tell is better) if something could be better for her.

YMMV applies the other way too. Even the best providers aren't mind readers (although sometimes I wonder), and I'm sure not.

[fork]

Reasons for disappointment include.

Messy incalls that don't get talked about in reviews.

Provider misrepresentations about age, background, looks, volume. I've met too many "30 year olds" with photoshopped pics that look 10-15 years older in person and too many high-priced, low-volume ladies who have revolving doors like agency gals. Too many ladies who score a 10 on looks who have some of the ugliest fake boobs you can imagine or simply aren't attractive enough to justify the lofty ratings.

Lack of organization. Finding equipment, music, and toys take awhile even though it's her incall. It's as if she wasn't expecting me.

Lack of adaptation to things that I like - kissing, eye contact, engaging conversation, bls, foreplay, snuggling - despite my verbal and non-verbal cues.

Lack of passion (the going through the motions comment). I can tell when a lady is holding back and it's a mood killer. This is my biggest gripe. If I turn the lady off, I'd rather have her end the session before it gets started so that we don't waste each other's time. It's not like I'll be back for a second appointment anyway if she's going to mail it in.

Abruptly ending a session before time is up. 1-5 minutes are really that important?

Rifling through my clothes while I'm in the shower.

Clumsy donation counting.

You need to keep in mind that some people have different priorities. For example, I'm have given Fantastic ratings for girls with messy incalls. And to girls who are disorganized. These matter but only a tiny bit to me.

However, have you really experienced "Rifling through your clothes" with someone who gets Fantastic ratings? That isn't really a negotiable item. That's bad. I hope you posted a review.

[Guest sophiarose]

Clumsy donation counting cracks me up...what are they doing? Dropping the donation? Miscounting? Maybe you should leave it in the bathroom, and that way you don't have to witness this LOL.

I agree that a lot of the things you mentioned above are a bummer, but clumsy donation counting did have me laughing for sure.

[urfan]

i'd say treating me like a sailor on shore leave has to rank right up there

[lola]

i know i have never provided food unless it was prearranged nor have i provided deodorant. i guess i am finished in this business.

[AaBrenly]

Ambiance, attitude (making me feel like you are glad we have this appointment), and energy level help start of the session well. I try to reciprocate the feeling of attitude and energy. Good Conversation adds to chemistry for the session.

[Nusa]

Besides getting down to business what are some of your all time favorites of sessions... Special music, drinks, conversation, ambiance?

Of all your sessions what is the best thing a provider has done to make your session all about you?

I am on a mission to make all my sessions unique to each individual because after all it is YOUR time. I feel flattered that when you want to do something for yourself you choose me to be that gift. That in and of it self speaks volume, and us escorts want your time to be of your liking. After all you are paying a decent amount to be satisfied;)

I've made apparel requests and shared cheeseburgers. I've had special lighting and special scheduling. I've seen birthdays and holidays .

But all the planning can't beat this definition of having chemistry with an ATF.

[gettin' up there]

I agree with the list, though I'm surprised the donation comes just before the good-bye. You may get a happier provider when the donation is set down after the greeting.

One of my pet peeves is when ladies don't clean me up after the fun. Weird to be lying there cuddling/talking with the condom loaded as I'm shrinking. One of us is going to have to take charge of the clean-up, and it shouldn't be the paying customer. Many providers do it with care and affection and return to the bed with a warm, moist washcloth. Very much appreciated!

What I like about the best GFE providers is a text/email afterwards telling me how much they enjoyed the time with me and are really looking forward to seeing me again. Once I'm a returning client, it is similarly nice when the lady says something in the set-up email/text regarding how much she is looking forward to seeing me again--something that makes me think I'm special and not just a number. It is so much more GFE to have some enticing words before and after the hour. It takes a minute but shows caring.

But by far the most important element of the session, that will allow me to overlook other peccadillos, is the provider's unbridled enthusiasm. Nothing beats this or can make up for it when it is missing.

[Guest Trefoil]

You need to keep in mind that some people have different priorities. For example, I'm have given Fantastic ratings for girls with messy incalls. And to girls who are disorganized. These matter but only a tiny bit to me.

However, have you really experienced "Rifling through your clothes" with someone who gets Fantastic ratings? That isn't really a negotiable item. That's bad. I hope you posted a review.

True. But if you're paying an above average rate, a nice ambience and good organization are to be expected IMO. Otherwise they're being unprofessional.

On the clothes issue, it's happened a few times. I've gotten used to it. That's why I take nothing but my phone to an appointment. I then turn the phone off when the fun starts. So I don't really care if the lady wants to play detective.

[2Big]

Or maybe they're just grateful that a decently attractive women 1/2 their age will sleep with them.

I show up very excited that a beautiful lady wants to sleep with me.

[Songdog57]

I’m a little deaf so music would be lost on me unless it’s very loud. I gave up the booze when it started to interfere with my cocaine use. Ambiance or environment isn’t a big deal to me as long as it isn’t mid 80’s correctional facility.

There is a great variety of personalities among the providers I see. What works well for one might be a real buzz kill for another.

Hygiene, humor, clean in-call, being on time, ability to intuit my desires, and ATTITUDE! Combine those and I’m pretty much done for.

[fork]

True. But if you're paying an above average rate, a nice ambience and good organization are to be expected IMO. Otherwise they're being unprofessional.

On the clothes issue, it's happened a few times. I've gotten used to it. That's why I take nothing but my phone to an appointment. I then turn the phone off when the fun starts. So I don't really care if the lady wants to play detective.

So you're complaining about insufficient ambiance and organization, but you "really don't care" about the lady attempting to rob you?

Maybe I need to hold my tongue and go back to my earlier statement about different strokes for different folks. But if a girl attempted to rob me I would be posting it loud and wide on review sites, hoping to get her run out of dodge.

[urfan]

i once showed up at an amp pretty unkept. after a dip in the hot tub, my masseuse lathered my face up and gave me a really great shave. afterwards, i got to eat lunch with 'the girls' backstage. that still stands out as an all-time great time.

[Guest Trefoil]

So you're complaining about insufficient ambiance and organization, but you "really don't care" about the lady attempting to rob you?

Maybe I need to hold my tongue and go back to my earlier statement about different strokes for different folks. But if a girl attempted to rob me I would be posting it loud and wide on review sites, hoping to get her run out of dodge.

I never said rob. You inferred that. My sense is that providers like to know who's behind that hobby name and want to figure out who you really are by seeing your ID. It's human nature. That happens more often than you think.

And unless you are a prominent community member that both providers and clients like (think legaleagle), outing a provider for bad behavior rarely ends well for the client. You get blacklisted and the provider's crazy friends (both providers and clients) try to slander you. And heaven forbid if they have your real phone number, name, and address. I don't need that type of drama.

[fork]

I never said rob. You inferred that. My sense is that providers like to know who's behind that hobby name and want to figure out who you really are by seeing your ID.

Fair enough point.

[Guest Goodhands69]

Porn on a TV can be nice and I once enjoyed looking at some hot pictures of the lady with her before we made our onw memoies

[ynglifter69]

Like a few others here I only bring my keys and money with me to an incall. Most seam to be in hotels, so a shower before or after is always nice. Sometimes I do both. MSOG can be a deal breaker for me. If I ask for an hour I want to go twice, otherwise just sign up for 30 minutes. Personality, looks, smell, and feel are all qualities that add to the quality of the session. An ASP would have to have great reviews or just be TGTBT for me to set up an appointment.

[NaughtyNiceGuy]

For me the best sessions are those where she appears to want me as much or more than I want her. When she is ripping off my clothes as soon as the door closes is a great start to a fantastic session.

[iCool]

Freshly showered with clean shaven intimate grooming is the most important for me. I don't care about forced eye contact, fake small talk, music, drinks, candle, donation count, clean up etc etc.