To Each My Own?

[Hobby Hobbit -Banned]

No offense to the ladies, in fact, more power to ya ;), I don't know whether to respect or judge the SO (and so) that would allow such debauchery . I know I couldn't.

What say you?

[MeganMarie4u]

I think you forgot to login to your other accounts where you make no sense before posting this..... 

😂 

[sb1212]

On 9/10/2022 at 9:33 AM, Hobby Hobbit said:

No offense to the ladies, in fact, more power to ya ;), I don't know whether to respect or judge the SO (and so) that would allow such debauchery . I know I couldn't.

What say you?

Looks like you started in the middle of the story....

[Hobby Hobbit -Banned]

2 hours ago, sb1212 said:

Looks like you started in the middle of the story....

I wondered where that post went!

In my best Paul Harvey voice, the rest of the story was, providers with SO's that may (or may not) be onsite during a visit, thanking jeebus for those with common sense to separate the two.

[Hobby Hobbit -Banned]

On 9/12/2022 at 8:08 AM, MeganMarie4u said:

I think you forgot to login to your other accounts where you make no sense before posting this..... 

😂 

I doubt you think, at all because let's see. I "forgot to login" to "other accounts" (plural) where I "make no sense" so...I logged in to the wrong one where...I do, or don't?

It's nice seeing ya

[tide32]

On 9/10/2022 at 9:33 AM, Hobby Hobbit said:

No offense to the ladies, in fact, more power to ya ;), I don't know whether to respect or judge the SO (and so) that would allow such debauchery . I know I couldn't.

What say you?

Ya gotta quit smoking the shit. It's fucking up your brain!!!

[ilovewomen]

Glad to know I'm not the only one on TOB who didn't understand the OP's post.

If you ae so inclined HH, please enlighten us what your post was about.

[MeganMarie4u]

20 hours ago, Hobby Hobbit said:

I doubt you think, at all because let's see. I "forgot to login" to "other accounts" (plural) where I "make no sense" so...I logged in to the wrong one where...I do, or don't?

It's nice seeing ya

God that gave me a headache..... 

 

It's always my pleasure to contribute 😂

[Hobby Hobbit -Banned]

1 hour ago, ilovewomen said:

Glad to know I'm not the only one on TOB who didn't understand the OP's post.

If you ae so inclined HH, please enlighten us what your post was about.

Do the best you can with it

21 hours ago, Hobby Hobbit said:

I wondered where that post went!

In my best Paul Harvey voice, the rest of the story was, providers with SO's that may (or may not) be onsite during a visit, thanking jeebus for those with common sense to separate the two.

 

[Mustang87]

2 hours ago, ilovewomen said:

Glad to know I'm not the only one on TOB who didn't understand the OP's post.

If you ae so inclined HH, please enlighten us what your post was about.

My initial take was that he was judging the SO's of the clients in this hobby for allowing their husbands and boyfriends to partake. But a further reading leads me to conclude that he is judging, or considering judging, the SO's of providers who allow their wives or girlfriends to be providers, and might even tag along during their exploits. 

[Bootsce]

Haters gonna hate…

what you don’t understand isn’t something to be feared it’s something you get to learn from. 
 

sharers gonna share…

🦕

[Hobby Hobbit -Banned]

4 hours ago, Bootsce said:

Haters gonna hate…

what you don’t understand isn’t something to be feared it’s something you get to learn from. 
 

sharers gonna share…

🦕

Nice. Thanks for engaging.

Outwardly inclined to respect how others handle a lifestyle few of us partake in and is largely taboo in the society I'm a product of, I'm more honest and curious than hater. Say what you will, the fact remains, most don't share https://comparecamp.com/open-marriage-statistics/ but, I take it you do? Do you claim to love the person you share? Do you identify as a swinger or polyamorous? Or are you simply noncommittal? 

Edited September 14, 2022 by Hobby Hobbit

[Hobby Hobbit -Banned]

10 hours ago, Mustang87 said:

My initial take was that he was judging the SO's of the clients in this hobby for allowing their husbands and boyfriends to partake. But a further reading leads me to conclude that he is judging, or considering judging, the SO's of providers who allow their wives or girlfriends to be providers, and might even tag along during their exploits. 

@MeganMarie4u - this is what (critical) THINKING looks like

[MeganMarie4u]

12 hours ago, Hobby Hobbit said:

@MeganMarie4u - this is what (critical) THINKING looks like

I see your cosigners haven't shown up yet. Better login! 

[Bootsce]

Quit keeping score if you want to be free, love has ejected the referee

-Rumi as translated by M. Moezzi

 

[JessicaJonesing]

On 9/10/2022 at 9:33 AM, Hobby Hobbit said:

No offense to the ladies, in fact, more power to ya ;), I don't know whether to respect or judge the SO (and so) that would allow such debauchery . I know I couldn't.

What say you?

Love and respect to all -- a lot of anger in this thread.

Hobbit -- in the kink lifestyle "sharing is caring" is a wildly popular fetish. It requires a man of exceptional self-security, and huge impulse control -- instead of pressing his dick desires at his partner, all her friends and any live humanoid with a twat, he recognizes individual men have limited sexual capacity, and women who choose not to don't.

Thus, the "sharing" man takes pleasure in helping his girl be pleasured.

Men into "sharing is caring" understand a simple fact that evades most men: in kink, women beget women. Have a hotwife you share with other husbands? When their wives decide to "full swap swing", whom do you think they'll ask for a safe male partner? And whom would the hotwife recommends?

It's an involved process, requiring hard work, trust, a functional relationship -- and a large investment of time.

 

[Hobby Hobbit -Banned]

On 9/16/2022 at 9:12 AM, JessicaJonesing said:

Love and respect to all -- a lot of anger in this thread.

Hobbit -- in the kink lifestyle "sharing is caring" is a wildly popular fetish. It requires a man of exceptional self-security, and huge impulse control -- instead of pressing his dick desires at his partner, all her friends and any live humanoid with a twat, he recognizes individual men have limited sexual capacity, and women who choose not to don't.

Thus, the "sharing" man takes pleasure in helping his girl be pleasured.

Men into "sharing is caring" understand a simple fact that evades most men: in kink, women beget women. Have a hotwife you share with other husbands? When their wives decide to "full swap swing", whom do you think they'll ask for a safe male partner? And whom would the hotwife recommends?

It's an involved process, requiring hard work, trust, a functional relationship -- and a large investment of time.

 

It seems you've noticed, there's little happening in the way of adult communication here. When the usual suspects (cabal) don't understand or agree with a position or question, or it's clear the author lacks understanding, or is ignorant to a nuance, such as sharing is caring or, gawd forbid, posts an opposing view to their romanticized, pay-for-play world, they shoot the messenger. 

Thanks for the helpful insight, Jessica.

[Just Jos]

Swooping in to referee this one. 🤭 Making one rule pertaining to this particular thread : Any man’s negative opinion on this topic who is married but has transactional sex behind their spouses backs options do not matter, so please - Sit down. 🫠

[Hobby Hobbit -Banned]

15 hours ago, Just Jos said:

Swooping in to referee this one. 🤭 Making one rule pertaining to this particular thread : Any man’s negative opinion on this topic who is married but has transactional sex behind their spouses backs options do not matter, so please - Sit down. 🫠

Let me make sure I have this straight. With no regard for the objective approach you found to be negative, upwards of 20% https://www.healthyplace.com/relationships/infidelity/why-do-married-men-visit-prostitutes of YOUR clientele have no right to discuss, in this case, sharing spouses, and you, of all people, have every right to cancel their opinion? Got it.

99 problems and...still standing, sugar.

Edited September 17, 2022 by Hobby Hobbit

[Hobby Hobbit -Banned]

16 hours ago, Just Jos said:

Swooping in to referee this one. 🤭 Making one rule pertaining to this particular thread : Any man’s negative opinion on this topic who is married but has transactional sex behind their spouses backs options do not matter, so please - Sit down. 🫠

Am I the only one who lusts those that don't know the difference between an opinion, which usually ends with the punctuation mark we call a period, and a question? Likely not.

In other news...apparently, only 14% of men have EVER visited an escort https://www.livescience.com/28169-men-who-use-prostitutes.html, while over 90% of at least one provider's clientele are married https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a26594169/married-men-prostitutes-sex-workers-confessions/, all of whom are expected to put up or shut up, the very reason they seek outside pleasures. You heard it here first.

Dakota who?

[JessicaJonesing]

18 hours ago, Just Jos said:

Swooping in to referee this one. 🤭 Making one rule pertaining to this particular thread : Any man’s negative opinion on this topic who is married but has transactional sex behind their spouses backs options do not matter, so please - Sit down. 🫠

I volunteer to sleep with their wives -- on the up-and-up and in front of them. Look, but don't touch :-)

Wow. I'm as degenerate as a dude these days. Slinking off to hide in a dark corner with the other perverts...

[Kali Sensual Reiki]

Ladies stump OP seeing a companion who is married reminds me how very sexy Mrs Robinson was in “The Graduate.” 

[Kali Sensual Reiki]

No, Mrs. Robinson was not paid. However, she was powerful! That is what I was after with my comment. Sorry a married Companion broke your fantasy! 

[Hobby Hobbit -Banned]

4 hours ago, Kali Sensual Reiki said:

No, Mrs. Robinson was not paid. However, she was powerful! That is what I was after with my comment. Sorry a married Companion broke your fantasy! 

So not the point, I paid my respects to the married, AKA True Playa for Real providers and am not sure what you're sorry for. But since we're on the subject, how many providers that you know of are married? Bet it's slim to none!

Could be me but, with notable exceptions, I detect a lot of general, misplaced resentment towards men. Why is that? Is it those guilty as charged hate to need what we bring to the equation? Have daddy issues? See a spinster cat lady in their crystal ball, because they just CAN'T get along?

Edited September 19, 2022 by Hobby Hobbit

[Bit Banger]

7 hours ago, Hobby Hobbit said:

… how many providers that you know of are married? 

Married?  I’ve known a few.  Even got invited to one wedding.  Now that was in interesting celebration.

I’ve know even more in committed relationships.  Met & played with their partners.

If it’s ‘just sex’ for the player, why can’t it be ‘just a job’ for the workers?

[Hobby Hobbit -Banned]

2 hours ago, Bit Banger said:

..why can’t it be ‘just a job’ for the workers?

Good question. GREAT Alley-oop!

[Just Jos]

12 hours ago, Hobby Hobbit said:

So not the point, I paid my respects to the married, AKA True Playa for Real providers and am not sure what you're sorry for. But since we're on the subject, how many providers that you know of are married? Bet it's slim to none!

Could be me but, with notable exceptions, I detect a lot of general, misplaced resentment towards men. Why is that? Is it those guilty as charged hate to need what we bring to the equation? Have daddy issues? See a spinster cat lady in their crystal ball, because they just CAN'T get along?

I know a handful of married providers and another handful of providers in serious relationships. Most of us are not open with clients about our personal lives bc of the of the type of judgment your casting in this very thread. Perhaps you missed the point of my previous comment which is - people in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones. I’m sure if you are married your wife doesn’t know about your transgressions here so YOU (( or any married client)) are basically forcing her to share unbeknownst to her. So not only do you have the nerve to judge the spouses of providers who are in the know - but you do so with zero integrity. That’s why those votes shouldn’t count. Can you see the hypocrisy?  Did I dumb it down enough for you??  
 

Also - we detect lots of woman hating here also. And maybe that’s why your wives have stopped fucking you? Perhaps something to dive into in your next couple therapy session?  😘

[Kali Sensual Reiki]

On 9/18/2022 at 10:42 PM, Hobby Hobbit said:

So not the point, I paid my respects to the married, AKA True Playa for Real providers and am not sure what you're sorry for. But since we're on the subject, how many providers that you know of are married? Bet it's slim to none!

Could be me but, with notable exceptions, I detect a lot of general, misplaced resentment towards men. Why is that? Is it those guilty as charged hate to need what we bring to the equation? Have daddy issues? See a spinster cat lady in their crystal ball, because they just CAN'T get along?

I don’t know who is married or not married?  It is none of my business really! It is a very loaded question like that of religion, political views, anything else you hold close to your heart. I rather not know and I believe @JessicaJonesing explained it perfectly describing how a spouse who is mature and holds a strong marriage can move mountains! Because there is a strong understanding and bond that can’t be broken. 

As for labels? Good luck with that one too! We are all beautiful intelligent women who are able to charm the socks off our clients! ***We don’t hate men. We just get upset when perspective clients are unwilling to fallow our personal guidelines, go out of their way to fight with us, call us name, provoke anger, refuse to give vital screening information.rip us off. Ask awkward questions, ask for reduced payment arrangements, NOT Pay cancellation fee, no call/no show, the list goes on. 

Daddy issues? I miss my dad very much! He passed in 2018.

How many times must the ladies hit you over the head? Why is it so difficult for you to understand @Hobby Hobbit? 

I was apologizing for my poor attempt to describe what a sexy woman looks like going after what she was wanting. And then I remembered she was coming from another angle not an escort’s. Yet damn! She was gorgeous! 😛😛

[Hobby Hobbit -Banned]

23 hours ago, Just Jos said:

I know a handful of married providers and another handful of providers in serious relationships. Most of us are not open with clients about our personal lives bc of the of the type of judgment your casting in this very thread. Perhaps you missed the point of my previous comment which is - people in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones. I’m sure if you are married your wife doesn’t know about your transgressions here so YOU (( or any married client)) are basically forcing her to share unbeknownst to her. So not only do you have the nerve to judge the spouses of providers who are in the know - but you do so with zero integrity. That’s why those votes shouldn’t count. Can you see the hypocrisy?  Did I dumb it down enough for you??  
 

Also - we detect lots of woman hating here also. And maybe that’s why your wives have stopped fucking you? Perhaps something to dive into in your next couple therapy session?  😘

The crux wasn't that there are no married providers, but that they're "slim to none", which one in each handful definitely illustrates, especially for someone as seasoned as you so, thank YOU for the answer, however unbeknownst it may have been.

Why would an OP position a quandary, in this case, whether to respect or judge those that help others to their own and then ask for the oxymoron that is meaningful input around here, if only to judge? Seemingly not me that needs dumbing down, you might want to look in the mirror for that one.

In the context of "to each their own", I like how you prefaced the assertion that anyone is unwittingly forced to share if married to one of YOUR clients, then go on to "articulate" my situation, like you know things, or as if we've shared pillow talk, or you're NOT judgemental. NOT at all? But since we're here, have you considered the many factors affecting the 50%+ of women's low sex drive actually have nothing to do with their husbands? A good, and it's important to note, so faithful his eyes don't wander business associate/friend of mine is married to a woman whose post-menopausal vaginal dryness is so bad intercourse is extremely painful, even with lubrication, and a lot of it is in her head, and I don't mean that as a diagnosis but an observation, she is impossible to deal with, and he loves her last year's dirty panties. Talk about a handful, you might want to read more, talk less https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/loss-of-sexual-desire-in-women. ED aside, which doesn't affect desire but performance, that this rarely happens in men might better explain your clients.

You're welcome!

I see both you and @Kali Sensual Reiki juxtaposed "misplaced resentment towards" with "hate for" men but, look at you, panties all in a bunch over little old me, asking an adult question in an adult forum which, again, is not the same as to offer an opinion. I mean, what if I just wanted to learn how to share, which @JessicaJonesing actually helped me with? Gawd blessed her at birth.

As for the "woman hating" you reference, I won't pretend to know who you're around but, IDK, change it? A notable exception, the majority of those with similar body parts as my own participate in this forum by way of a popularity contest, for Gawd forbid they run out of places to make deposits, right? Well, since you're so busy spinning like a top to notice, I care not. But you shouldn't mistake not giving a fuck what you think or not allowing you to paint me into a corner with hatred! To each our own, some of us are here for the fruit, not the rinds we discard. 😘😘

Edited September 20, 2022 by Hobby Hobbit

[Just Jos]

2 hours ago, Hobby Hobbit said:

The crux wasn't that there are no married providers, but that they're "slim to none", which one in each handful definitely illustrates, especially for someone as seasoned as you so, thank YOU for the answer, however unbeknownst it may have been.

Why would an OP position a quandary, in this case, whether to respect or judge those that help others to their own and then ask for the oxymoron that is meaningful input around here, if only to judge? Seemingly not me that needs dumbing down, you might want to look in the mirror for that one.

In the context of "to each their own", I like how you prefaced the assertion that anyone is unwittingly forced to share if married to one of YOUR clients, then go on to "articulate" my situation, like you know things, or as if we've shared pillow talk, or you're NOT judgemental. NOT at all? But since we're here, have you considered the many factors affecting the 50%+ of women's low sex drive actually have nothing to do with their husbands? A good, and it's important to note, so faithful his eyes don't wander business associate/friend of mine is married to a woman whose post-menopausal vaginal dryness is so bad intercourse is extremely painful, even with lubrication, and a lot of it is in her head, and I don't mean that as a diagnosis but an observation, she is impossible to deal with, and he loves her last year's dirty panties. Talk about a handful, you might want to read more, talk less https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/loss-of-sexual-desire-in-women. ED aside, which doesn't affect desire but performance, that this rarely happens in men might better explain your clients.

You're welcome!

I see both you and @Kali Sensual Reiki juxtaposed "misplaced resentment towards" with "hate for" men but, look at you, panties all in a bunch over little old me, asking an adult question in an adult forum which, again, is not the same as to offer an opinion. I mean, what if I just wanted to learn how to share, which @JessicaJonesing actually helped me with? Gawd blessed her at birth.

As for the "woman hating" you reference, I won't pretend to know who you're around but, IDK, change it? A notable exception, the majority of those with similar body parts as my own participate in this forum by way of a popularity contest, for Gawd forbid they run out of places to make deposits, right? Well, since you're so busy spinning like a top to notice, I care not. But you shouldn't mistake not giving a fuck what you think or not allowing you to paint me into a corner with hatred! To each our own, some of us are here for the fruit, not the rinds we discard. 😘😘

You think really highly of yourself. 😆 

 

I had to stop reading your buffoonery once you tried to mansplain vaginas to me. 🙈🙉🙊 Bless your heart HH. And every woman who has to endure your company paid or not, for They are doing gods work 🙏  Bc no matter how unfuckable I think you are, doesn’t mean you are not deserving intimacy. But ladies , make sure to bring the lube as my hooker senses are telling me that this man is a definite pussy dehydrator. 😂

 

Carpe Diem !