Posted June 30, 2019 1 hour ago, Bit Banger said: Interestingly I also got the same vibe from my wife (we had a ‘keep it discreet’ arrangement) that the bar hookup or affair was better than a prostitute. I could never figure that out. I felt that an escort was the safer encounter, from both health & psychological aspects. Perhaps you have heard: What's hers is hers. What's yours is hers. Ergo, with a "whore" you are spending "her" money on another woman, not just having sex. Whole other ball game. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 30, 2019 1 minute ago, gr8owl said: Perhaps you have heard: What's hers is hers. What's yours is hers. Ergo, with a "whore" you are spending "her" money on another woman, not just having sex. Whole other ball game. Isn't he still spending "her" money on drinks, dinner, hotel, lingerie, whatever with the lady he picks up at bar, the co worker, who ever he's fucking? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 30, 2019 1 hour ago, Hunter VanDyke said: Isn't he still spending "her" money on drinks, dinner, hotel, lingerie, whatever with the lady he picks up at bar, the co worker, who ever he's fucking? Perhaps, but most guys buy lunch, dinner, drinks for lots of people they do not have sex with and are not trying to have sex with - business associates, coworkers, friends, etc.. I doubt there are too many instances of wife asking "so did you buy her a nice dinner?" But again hire a "whore" and it is up front and in her face that he is paying for something he (theoretically) could get from wife - or used to. Anyway, was just a thought. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 1, 2019 Every time there is a new post on this thread, I laugh a little. It just amuses me that someone, who was seeing escorts, was unhappy that his wife was cheating. Tee Hee! 5 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 3, 2019 On 7/1/2019 at 7:53 AM, pfunk said: Every time there is a new post on this thread, I laugh a little. It just amuses me that someone, who was seeing escorts, was unhappy that his wife was cheating. Tee Hee! This is one of the very few times I agree with you. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 28, 2019 (edited) On 6/19/2019 at 7:52 PM, jaxon71 said: Ok, so I haven’t been the most faithful man in the world, but I have always made sure that my wife and kids were taken care of on a physical and an emotional level. Hobbying has just been a release for me from the stresses of every day life. 1/2 and hour here, an hour there.....So what do you do when you find out without a doubt that your wife is having both an emotional and physical affair with another man. I know everything there is to know about the guy, and I could burn his world down, but I truly want to work things out with my wife....Thoughts....Go... I don't know what anyone had written, a first for me not to browse the additional comments by others. First, does your wife know that you are on TOB? Do you have some "arrangement" "open relationship"? If so then, your angry because it is not like this hobby where you might be exclusively looking for something that has either become redundant or non existent at home. I would normally say well that's the pot calling the kettle black but its different possibly for her because there is a emotionally connection between her and the other person. Thats the kicker. my advice is honestly come clean if you really want to work it out with her an you love her then talk and present your skeletons. You can't work on anything until you both address why both of you are cheating Edited July 28, 2019 by Calisurfgirl 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 28, 2019 Well see, here is the problem....I literally would have never gotten into the hobby if she hadn’t fucked my Brother 5 times while I was working 4 different jobs, 7 days a week to make sure the bills were paid early on in our marriage. So for all of you trying to make me out to be the bad guy, you need to know the whole story..... 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 28, 2019 On 20.6.2019 at 3:52 AM, jaxon71 said: Ok, so I haven’t been the most faithful man in the world.So what do you do when you find out without a doubt that your wife is having both an emotional and physical affair with another man. Lemme get this straight: you cheat on your wife.....then your wife says turnaround is fair play and gets rambonered on her lunch break by Jack the jacked up janitor at the local Motel 6...and you're here whining like a 3 year old about to get his shots...... There is a word for irony times 100000000..... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 28, 2019 11 hours ago, jaxon71 said: Well see, here is the problem....I literally would have never gotten into the hobby if she hadn’t fucked my Brother 5 times while I was working 4 different jobs, 7 days a week to make sure the bills were paid early on in our marriage. So for all of you trying to make me out to be the bad guy, you need to know the whole story..... Then maybe you should have told the whole story in the first place, instead of trying to sound indignant now? 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 28, 2019 11 hours ago, jaxon71 said: Well see, here is the problem....I literally would have never gotten into the hobby if she hadn’t fucked my Brother 5 times while I was working 4 different jobs, 7 days a week to make sure the bills were paid early on in our marriage. So for all of you trying to make me out to be the bad guy, you need to know the whole story..... Calling Jerry Springer now, or Maybe even Maury Povich... Time to change the title of this thread 😜 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 28, 2019 11 hours ago, jaxon71 said: Well see, here is the problem....I literally would have never gotten into the hobby if she hadn’t fucked my Brother 5 times while I was working 4 different jobs, 7 days a week to make sure the bills were paid early on in our marriage. So for all of you trying to make me out to be the bad guy, you need to know the whole story..... This is exactly why I have never bothered to get a brother, they will fuck your wife every time your back is turned. you should have known better. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 28, 2019 55 minutes ago, Keyser said: Then maybe you should have told the whole story in the first place, instead of trying to sound indignant now? I'm pretty sure this entire story is false. "Seeing escorts isn't cheating, she cheated on me first, now she's having an affair." Even if it's true, he's too childish to actually take advice. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 28, 2019 Y’all out here ignoring every red flag and I bet that’s exhausting. It only hurts yourself when you give people who won’t try to grow a million chances. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 28, 2019 I have to ask, just why did you keep this pertinent information from your initial post? How did you find out about your brother? Does she know you know about your brother? So you didn't confront her then and haven't done anything now. You have waited too long son. I think your closing the barn door after the horse has run off. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
