Posted March 15, 2016 Ok i see in reviews that a a lady doesnt want daty for reason shes to sensitive, wouldnt that be a good thing or just an excuse maybe she dont like strange men down there, shes self conscious bout herself? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 15, 2016 It doesn't matter why she doesn't want DATY. If she doesn't want it, I don't try to do it. I don't care why. That's her business. 7 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 15, 2016 Easily gotta go with pfunk here. Respect boundaries dude. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 15, 2016 (edited) Hey, I hear 41SM doesn't like giving DATY you should hook them up! Then maybe go talk to inadifferentvoice about how DATY might be considered a relationship with an escort. Okay no really guys, are you 3 all in bar coming up with this stuff, or are we all in some B movie where water has been spilled on furry creatures after midnight. (Maybe she doesn't like it. Some men don't like a finger in their ass. Why not? I have no idea to each their own) Edited March 15, 2016 by Kashmir SP 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 15, 2016 Just now, Kashmir said: ... (Maybe she doesn't like it. Some men don't like a finger in their ass. Why not? I have no idea to each there own) ROFLMAO! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 15, 2016 17 minutes ago, Bit Banger said: ROFLMAO! x2. Wow forums on a roll tonight. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 15, 2016 27 minutes ago, Kashmir said: Hey, I hear 41SM doesn't like giving DATY you should hook them up! Then maybe go talk to inadifferentvoice about how DATY might be considered a relationship with an escort. Okay no really guys, are you 3 all in bar coming up with this stuff, or are we all in some B movie where water has been spilled on furry creatures after midnight. (Maybe she doesn't like it. Some men don't like a finger in their ass. Why not? I have no idea to each their own) If your (or any other providers) hands looked anything like the way I imagine the dental work on these guys look, I wouldn't let them anywhere near my backside, either. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 15, 2016 I will admit that I am very sensitive "down under", and half the time I cringe when someone wants to go down on me. The thought has crossed my mind to make it off limits, but then I would lose the ones that are really good at it. What I do is just be honest with them, and tell them to be gentle. You would be amazed at how rough some people can get with our delicacies. Xoxo, Samantha Sheppard 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 15, 2016 34 minutes ago, SultryKitten said: You would be amazed at how rough some people can get with our delicacies. All of us guys can benefit from instruction. Book a two girl session and take a lesson. Or make friends with some lesbians and get em to let you watch 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 15, 2016 I can always tell, when a man has watched a certain instructional video on DATY. It has 2 women in it, one is a beautiful black woman...{pausing as you all are googling it}. This is maybe why I am not lesbian. If you are going to do DATY on me, I don't want to hear you whining about how you need to breathe, and bring a five o'clock shadow. Yes, I will grab your ears, and yes, I will hold the back of your head down. If I like you, I might give you a safety hand signal if you feel like you are going to pass out. I might or might not stop F-ing your face, depends on how close I am to an "O". Warning: injuries have been known to occur Again, each person is different. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 15, 2016 15 minutes ago, Kashmir said: I can always tell, when a man has watched a certain instructional video on DATY. It has 2 women in it, one is a beautiful black woman...{pausing as you all are googling it}. This is maybe why I am not lesbian. If you are going to do DATY on me, I don't want to hear you whining about how you need to breathe, and bring a five o'clock shadow. Yes, I will grab your ears, and yes, I will hold the back of your head down. If I like you, I might give you a safety hand signal if you feel like you are going to pass out. I might or might not stop F-ing your face, depends on how close I am to an "O". Warning: injuries have been known to occur Again, each person is different. LOL, yup been there done that. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 15, 2016 Ladies can be to too sensitive, stimulation is easy to achieve, or desensitized. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 15, 2016 48 minutes ago, Kashmir said: Warning: injuries have been known to occur Gotta learn to play hurt in this league 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 15, 2016 (edited) 32 minutes ago, Nikki Holiday said: or desensitized. Which is largely Mr Hitachi's fault Edited March 15, 2016 by Raoul image 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 15, 2016 2 hours ago, SultryKitten said: I will admit that I am very sensitive "down under", and half the time I cringe when someone wants to go down on me. The thought has crossed my mind to make it off limits, but then I would lose the ones that are really good at it. What I do is just be honest with them, and tell them to be gentle. You would be amazed at how rough some people can get with our delicacies. Xoxo, Samantha Sheppard 55 minutes ago, Kashmir said: I can always tell, when a man has watched a certain instructional video on DATY. It has 2 women in it, one is a beautiful black woman...{pausing as you all are googling it}. This is maybe why I am not lesbian. If you are going to do DATY on me, I don't want to hear you whining about how you need to breathe, and bring a five o'clock shadow. Yes, I will grab your ears, and yes, I will hold the back of your head down. If I like you, I might give you a safety hand signal if you feel like you are going to pass out. I might or might not stop F-ing your face, depends on how close I am to an "O". Warning: injuries have been known to occur Again, each person is different. Possible shill warning for the mods, but I do not know how to say this without folks knowing I am responding to one of these comments from personal experience. But the lady ain't just a whistlin' Dixie. Per SultryKitten, I learned to DATY gently. Starting slowly at first until I can sense which tongue motion the lady prefers around her clitoris, waiting until I am rewarded with increased moisture/lubrication, and then slowly inserting finger to find and simultaneously address the G spot. You really have to pay attention to what is happening with your subject, but I have been rewarded by a favorite with the comment "nobody eats pussy like you!" I would of course have my usual doubts, but the other signs seem to be there: texture of the Gspot, the sudden increase in moisture, the breathing, the spasms. She is also very sensitive for a bit, afterwards. And I have received similar responses and comments from two other ladies I frequent, one a civilian. So, I'm thinking to myself "yeah! I got this!" Wrong. Women are not made with cookie cutters. Bringing us to comment number two. My first date with this lady, I dove into DATY with great confidence and delight....and my usual gentle approach. I'm assuming I was so annoying that she felt the need to terminate the activity....and did....and we moved on to other equally enjoyable activities. But, I was a little confused. A wee bit butthurt. Dammit: I'm GOOD! I have PROOF! I didn't try again for several sessions. I think there was a trust thing that had to grow. But, one session, she finally let me know what she wanted by showing me. Everything she says is true. And then some. My life passed before my eyes a few times.....but I was mainly terrified I was going to injure her. Now, this is not permission to go out and attack the next pussy you see like a pack of rabid wolverines. Regardless of who it belongs to. The point I want to make is: DATY is a personal thing. No two women....or men...are identical. Some will have wildly different preferences. How do you know? The best way is to ask. Some ladies will tell you. But some will not, because they fear hurting your little feelings if you fail, or the trust level may not be great enough between you yet for this most intimate of acts to be enjoyable. Or both. So they lie. Or you guess. The outcome is unsatisfactory for all....a tragic side effect of this activity. Truly great and GENUINE sexual experiences take time and trust. Multiple sessions. An investment. Even in the world of pay for sex. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 15, 2016 17 hours ago, Kashmir said: Some men don't like a finger in their ass. Why not? I have no idea to each their own Some men just don't know how to live, I guess. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 16, 2016 21 hours ago, Kashmir said: (Maybe she doesn't like it. Some men don't like a finger in their ass. Why not? I have no idea to each their own) I don't mind a female finger, but I had to change Dr's for my physical because I was assigned to a male sports doctor who had bratwursts for fingers! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 16, 2016 8 hours ago, SultryKitten said: I will admit that I am very sensitive "down under", and half the time I cringe when someone wants to go down on me. The thought has crossed my mind to make it off limits, but then I would lose the ones that are really good at it. What I do is just be honest with them, and tell them to be gentle. You would be amazed at how rough some people can get with our delicacies. Xoxo, Samantha Sheppard Exactly! I've said it a hundred times, but I'll say it again....Eating pussy doesn't mean you actually try and eat it like we your teeth. And no matter how hard you sucky on it, those lips aren't coming off. It ain't bubblegum guys. More like cotton candy, just melts in your mouth. So if a lady says please be gentle, do that. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 16, 2016 8 minutes ago, Melissa Sterling said: And no matter how hard you suck on it, those lips aren't coming off. Damn! And there are some I would really like to take home to play with later! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 16, 2016 8 hours ago, Kashmir said: If you are going to do DATY on me, I don't want to hear you whining about how you need to breathe, and bring a five o'clock shadow. Yes, I will grab your ears, and yes, I will hold the back of your head down. If I like you, I might give you a safety hand signal if you feel like you are going to pass out. I might or might not stop F-ing your face, depends on how close I am to an "O". Warning: injuries have been known to occur Oh my! Oh yes! But ............ still no Prince Albert. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 16, 2016 The tiny OCD portion of my mostly disorganized brain was just happy to see the the first word in the title was changed from "To" to "Too"... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 16, 2016 On 3/15/2016 at 10:01 AM, SultryKitten said: I will admit that I am very sensitive "down under", and half the time I cringe when someone wants to go down on me. The thought has crossed my mind to make it off limits, but then I would lose the ones that are really good at it. What I do is just be honest with them, and tell them to be gentle. You would be amazed at how rough some people can get with our delicacies. Xoxo, Samantha Sheppard I know a lady that is hyper sensitive during the first couple of minutes and her strategy is also to be honest about that and guide you through the process until she is ready for a more direct approach. Personally this turns me on a lot! I appreciate very much to have feedback while DATY. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 16, 2016 Gotta be flexible. Gotta communicate too. Speak up (everyone) about what you like and don't like. Adjust accordingly. Good times to follow. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 16, 2016 I might or might not stop F-ing your face, depends on how close I am to an "O". Warning: injuries have been known to occur Again, each person is different. I have to say I like breathing through my ears 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 17, 2016 Im with Pfunk, always respect boundaries, but......ever think maybe the girl is doing you a favor? I reserve my cunnilingus skills for only the cleanest, prettyest, and best scented vaginas. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 17, 2016 On 3/16/2016 at 6:31 PM, Riggo said: I don't mind a female finger, but I had to change Dr's for my physical because I was assigned to a male sports doctor who had bratwursts for fingers! I am a fair woman. If you stick me with a Vienna sausage, I will stick you with one. If you stick me with a bratwurst, I will stick you with one. What is good for the goose is good for the gander, right? You have no idea how much I love bratwursts! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 17, 2016 (edited) 14 hours ago, Kashmir said: I am a fair woman. If you stick me with a Vienna sausage, I will stick you with one. If you stick me with a bratwurst, I will stick you with one. What is good for the goose is good for the gander, right? You have no idea how much I love bratwursts! It doesn't really work that way... It's more of a reciprocal relationship. If you show me a bratwurst, fear and anxiety would lead to an unveiling of a Vienna sausage. On the other hand, if you show me a Vienna sausage, it greatly increases the odds of me revealing a bratwurst. Edited March 17, 2016 by Riggo 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 17, 2016 16 minutes ago, Riggo said: It doesn't really work that way... It's more of a reciprocal relationship. If you show me a bratwurst, fear and anxiety would lead to an unveiling of a Vienna sausage. On the other hand, if you show me a Vienna sausage, it greatly increases the odds of me revealing a bratwurst. That is just sad, but here you go 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 17, 2016 On 3/16/2016 at 8:31 PM, Riggo said: I don't mind a female finger, but I had to change Dr's for my physical because I was assigned to a male sports doctor who had bratwursts for fingers! My primary care physician is extremely competent, funny and way, way out of any closet he may ever have been in. At my first annual physical, he entered the examination room with these words: "If you have any interesting concerns, I suggest you lose them, because I assure you, this is no fun for me either." 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 17, 2016 1 hour ago, Happymon said: My primary care physician is extremely competent, funny and way, way out of any closet he may ever have been in. At my first annual physical, he entered the examination room with these words: "If you have any interesting concerns, I suggest you lose them, because I assure you, this is no fun for me either." I still remember the years when my PCP was an attractive female. That portion of my annual was more pleasant. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
