why do guys cancel after scheduling ?

[Lucy Kitten]

I've had to cancel, but I always make it a point to let her know.  Blinding snowstorms on the 50-mile drive to her place, meetings set by your boss at just the wrong time -- stuff happens.  The key is to communicate -- immediately, politely.  And please, ladies, if you're on P411, check your email every few hours -- don't take 2 days to respond.  I try to schedule 2-3 days in advance, and if I don't hear back from an email or voice mail in 12 hours or so, it's on to the next lady.  The lady I've seen most often in the last five years always replies to email within an hour or so (except for the time she was in the Emergency Room - I saw the scar later) -- in addition to the fact that we really click, that's one reason I always see her when I'm in her area.

If you need to cancel pretty please don't do it via P411. Emailing is not best for immediate contact

[Lucy Kitten]

Numerous times I have used p411 to schedule appointments, only to have to wait hours or the entire day to get a response. I learned that many women ignore p411 pms unless they get actual appointment requests.

So now I schedule with multiple women and then wait for the first to reply. This means some requests sent no longer apply.

From what I've been told this is the normal way things work.

 

As for looking at reviews, I do that before scheduling, but yes, looking at reviews can cause me to no longer want to schedule with someone. 

 

 

An actual appointment request through P411 I would think is preferred and you would more than likely not get a response if you're not actually using the feature. I have seen on many ladies state on their sites that email will take a little bit longer to reply to. If a lady has a site, check for preferred methods for contact. P411 isn't direct contact and rather than send requests to a bunch of women via a middleman why not contact them directly?

[Guest]

An actual appointment request through P411 I would think is preferred and you would more than likely not get a response if you're not actually using the feature. I have seen on many ladies state on their sites that email will take a little bit longer to reply to. If a lady has a site, check for preferred methods for contact. P411 isn't direct contact and rather than send requests to a bunch of women via a middleman why not contact them directly?

Agreed.  

"HOW TO USE P411."

Step 1)  Scour the lady's ad for her preferred method of communication.

Step 2)  Phone/Text/Email/PM per step 1.  Introduce yourself. Suggest an appointment time to determine availability.  Tell her you are sending an appointment request via P411.

Step 3)  Send promised request via P411.  Allow the lady time to do enough screening to feel comfortable with you.

Step 4)  Keep the date you made.

 

Once again, not rocket science.

[SophiaDD]

I would have to agree with Nikki, I have been a provider for more years, and I think one of the most heartbreaking things since I came out of retirement is to see and hear that the ladies don't communicate as much as they should. I would be happy to volunteer in helping, put a meet and greet night together, for  those interested.

Message me if you have any interest.

 

[1hapyfeller]

I would call regardless... I don't want to be tagged as a flake client. Unfortunately making the connection with a provider makes the difference. From the 1st meeting and moving forward. I make it a point to know the woman ... to let her know I'm grateful because she does her best as the provider I want to spend time with .

 

[Guest]

I also have been getting weird calls from I think the same guy. Asking girls to come over naked and then when you're on your way or almost there even though I don't do that personally. He calls and cancels or you get all the way to his place and he makes up some lame excuse. So if some guy calls you asking you to show up to his place naked it doesn't matter how much money, I wouldn't do it. 

I totally got that call! He even provided his address before I replied to his first text. Not no, but HELL NO. 

[Guest]

Yeah, I agree, big difference.  I've scheduled appointments with ladies and have had to cancel.  I've also canceled on my dentist and barber.  Life happens.  Canceling is OK.  MCNS is a whole different thing and not OK.

Canceling is okay if done within a considerate time frame. Yes, stuff comes up, however most salons, doctors, and some restaurants charge a fee for a cancellation if they're not notified 24 hours in advance. 

I don't get worked up about cancellations. I thank them for the notice, wish them well, and let them know that I'd love to meet them another time. 

[pitbull]

One comment caught my attention: a provider wrote something like, "I may not be his priority for the day..."  Uh, on that you are probably wrong. When a guy schedules one of you ladies, it's ALL HE CAN THINK ABOUT.  Well, I should not generalize. For me, it's ALL I CAN THINK ABOUT, and certainly a priority.  I hobby maybe four times a year, so it's a big occasion, and a wonderful respite. Thank any and all deities for you ladies, but I digress.  Canceling after scheduling is an odd phenomenon, but obviously it's happening more often. That is unfortunate for the guys and the girls. There is so much sneaking around and carving out illicit time, I do think that cancelations are more apt to happen in this endeavor than other endeavors. 

[Alli]

I totally got that call! He even provided his address before I replied to his first text. Not no, but HELL NO. 

lol

[Guest]

I hear you pitbull it is a priority for me. I think about the whole day or morning or night. 

Leigh5280 I like your layed back approach. Life is short move on. 

Because I think about it all day and how my work is I like to schedule earlier In the day. We know morning traffic sucks and takes forever. When I got appointment today and she wasn't answering phone or text. Huge disappointment and waste of time but what am I going to do. Told her I hope she is okay and maybe we'll meet another day.

Edited October 13, 2015 by olgunn
grammar

[Alli]

Did you ever see that commercial where the guy's last Viagra goes out the window? 

lol. Lmao

[Alli]

its even worse when they have you drive cross town in bad traffic to a UN answered door! Happened to me this week  Some guys are just plain rude... 

I just charge it to the game and block their number when that happens. No need for that %uckery. Lol. But still very irritating. 

[Womanlover-3464]

lol. Lmao

What a great sense of humor! Go girl!

[Alli]

What a great sense of humor! Go girl!

Thanks baby !!!!!

 

[Guest]

How ironic would it be if someone in this thread "no response'd" me on P411 once? It's fine, we get over it and move on to the next one. Just pointing out that poor communication, time-wasting and no-showing run both ways in this biz.

 

Was it me who gave you the "no response"? 

Edited October 20, 2015 by Nikki Holiday

[jonnyboy2112]

I would have to agree with Nikki, I have been a provider for more years, and I think one of the most heartbreaking things since I came out of retirement is to see and hear that the ladies don't communicate as much as they should. I would be happy to volunteer in helping, put a meet and greet night together, for  those interested.

Message me if you have any interest.

 

that great idea Sophia can us hobbies be part of your meet in greet? Because I would love to sit by you 😉

[Guest]

Personally, I've asked to reschedule an appointment after scheduling with an ASP. There are several reasons for doing so, not the least of which, family emergency, auto accident, work conflict(s) just to name a few. If I schedule an appointment, I will do everything in my power to keep that appointment. However, life sometimes happens and in those rare occasions, I ask if I can reschedule after I've explained the dilemma du jour. There have been ASPs that adhere to a strict cancellation policy and have refused to reschedule with me but most have been understanding of my situation and grant me a reschedule 

[bd5671]

lol 

I believe the conversation went something like this...

Alexander Graham Bell: Watson. Come here. I need you!

Mr. Watson: Of course, Mr. Bell. Shall I schedule you for an appointment?

Mr. Bell: What? I can't see you immediately?

Mr. Watson: Oh no. I'm all booked up today.

Mr. Bell: Darn it. I really wanted to see you today.

Mr. Watson: Can we try rescheduling another day?

Mr. Bell: Grrr grumpf, *@&#%€£×!...oh fooey! I guess I'll just go home and see the wife instead!

(click)...

[Bit Banger]

Agreed.  

"HOW TO USE P411."

Step 1)  Scour the lady's ad for her preferred method of communication.

Step 2)  Phone/Text/Email/PM per step 1.  Introduce yourself. Suggest an appointment time to determine availability.  Tell her you are sending an appointment request via P411.

Step 3)  Send promised request via P411.  Allow the lady time to do enough screening to feel comfortable with you.

Step 4)  Keep the date you made.

 

Once again, not rocket science.

I usually reverse steps 2 & 3. That way the P411 request is waiting there when you call. If she's into multi-tasking, she can peruse the request while you're still on the phone.  

[Guest]

I have yet to cancel.  I usually take a vacation day from work to make sure everything will go to completion.  The only thing that would cause me to cancel would be a trigger from a supreme being of which there are only two... The boss who gives me paychecks and the boss that would take half of everything I own if I did not respond. :-)

[jhooker]

For me it's not easy to project the perfect time to meet, I do my best and try and pre book a day in adavance. Most time the planets align perfectly and all goes well, but you cant just write it on your calender "have a date with HunnyXX for 1 hr". Still have to manage a normal appearance day to day, and usually that hour needs to be cloaked, need to have a reason to be off the grid. Sometimes it falls apart. That has happenned to me a few times, while I have always managed to send a communique letting the provider know ahead of time that I cant make it, still it seems that for that provider I'm on the shelf as far as future possibilities. I once had to cancel but did manage to at least show up and pay the girl in full and leave, but that was a last minute thing. Thats how it goes. My wife is aware of my womanizing, but she gets upset if it interferes with our family plans. I do try and keep it cool. 

[mgiadarling]

I had this happen to me soooo many times today. spent most of my day watching movies and coloring while one guy after the next cancelled or just plane flaked on me. I don't take it too hard when they cancel. at least they aren't toying with me. some even go so far as to tell me they're 5 minutes away or even here... what is the kick? how could flaking out or playing games be more pleasurable than making your appointment?

[amcbl1]

If you need to cancel pretty please don't do it via P411. Emailing is not best for immediate contact

An actual appointment request through P411 I would think is preferred and you would more than likely not get a response if you're not actually using the feature. I have seen on many ladies state on their sites that email will take a little bit longer to reply to. If a lady has a site, check for preferred methods for contact. P411 isn't direct contact and rather than send requests to a bunch of women via a middleman why not contact them directly?

Unfortunately, some providers have made contacting through p411 via pm as the only method of contact. Even when confirming the appt, they do so only via email and still don't necessarily provide their phone # in case something arises to postpone or cancel the appt. These providers are few and far between but they do exist.

[mj76]

I had this happen to me soooo many times today. spent most of my day watching movies and coloring while one guy after the next cancelled or just plane flaked on me. I don't take it too hard when they cancel. at least they aren't toying with me. some even go so far as to tell me they're 5 minutes away or even here... what is the kick? how could flaking out or playing games be more pleasurable than making your appointment?

Sorry to hear that. Must be something in the water making people flaky these days. I haven't been able to make an appointment with a lady in 2 months. I either never hear anything back or they string me along all day and a few hours before the appointment they say they can't make it.

[mgiadarling]

Sorry to hear that. Must be something in the water making people flaky these days. I haven't been able to make an appointment with a lady in 2 months. I either never hear anything back or they string me along all day and a few hours before the appointment they say they can't make it.

that's awful!! Is it just one lady?

 

[mj76]

 

No, unfortunately its been several ladies. Maybe it's just me but I feel like people are getting more flaky in general and not just here.

[abigailfox]

I'm not flaky but extremely low volume. My time books rapidly as I have many regulars and prefer multihours. Then that's it. It also limits the number of no shows and cancellations I get. I warn people to prebook constantly, and I understand this is not possible for some. I am surprised that people have asp's suckered into driving across town. I dare those dumbasses to try that on me....and naked too? This is not a game of you say jump and I say how high.

[mgiadarling]

No, unfortunately its been several ladies. Maybe it's just me but I feel like people are getting more flaky in general and not just here.

agreed! People really suck nowadays