Posted February 5, 2015 Chemistry is important to me and I would like to speak to a first time provider before I seal the deal. Texting and email is ok for the details but I would like the opportunity to visit with a new provider on the phone before we actually meet. I just think you can gauge chemistry a bit better when speaking with someone. I was in the process of lining up a meeting with a new provider in Pueblo and she got really "scared" when I asked her to call me with the address. Let me know your thoughts. Thanks! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 5, 2015 I always prefer to chat with a gentleman prior to visiting for the first time. It's generally a quick chat, nothing too drawn out or personal, but I like to hear a voice before meeting in person. Not everyone does it this way, just my personal preference. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 5, 2015 I am the same way! I prefer to speak to someone on the phone, it's more personal. I have been told many times that the reason a guy sees me is because I am so nice on the phone. Like Kelly, the phone conversation doesn't have to be long, but you can really get a good feel about someone when you actually speak to them and hear their voice. I hate texting because it is so impersonal. I can't even return texts on my phone, I turned texting off. Emails are fine for initial contact but I will ask you to call me. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 5, 2015 Chemistry is important to me and I would like to speak to a first time provider before I seal the deal. Texting and email is ok for the details but I would like the opportunity to visit with a new provider on the phone before we actually meet. I just think you can gauge chemistry a bit better when speaking with someone. I was in the process of lining up a meeting with a new provider in Pueblo and she got really "scared" when I asked her to call me with the address. Let me know your thoughts. Thanks! This is how I feel about this situation. I have my own way on how I do things, I will not alter my screening to accomated you getting to know me for little visit before we meet for free. Unless of course your paying for my time. You want to text n email details... No wonder the girl got "scared" and didn't wanna see you. I would consider you time waster. A pain in my ass. With all the texting all the emails. You want visit with me too before sealing the deal for free. And i am not being paid for my time you want all the extras for free...and i don't know you. This is not match.com You don't get to know me. Im not here to get know you. I am not getting paid to get to know you either. So no. There are many guys who I can see without all this. I would pass on you in heartbeat. If this is all a must for you... Please don't ever book me... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 5, 2015 I would rather talk to someone before meeting them, The girl I have seen in the past and that know me know my shop is always noisy and my hearing is very bad. I have set up many appointments via text not by choice. For me there is a bit of build up hearing her voice and letting it stay in my mind on the way to the appointment. I think as of writing this I am going to only set up appointments via conversation. Just my 2 cents:) 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 5, 2015 Speaking via phone is the best idea and personally for me as well I'm more comfortable then text/email. You know that it is a real person and can get a feel for their personality. Screening via email/text is fine however after that I'd rather set the appointment and finalize via calling. I've found gentlemen are far less prone to asking explicit questions via calls as well. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 5, 2015 This is how I feel about this situation. I have my own way on how I do things, I will not alter my screening to accomated you getting to know me for little visit before we meet for free. Unless of course your paying for my time. You want to text n email details... No wonder the girl got "scared" and didn't wanna see you. I would consider you time waster. A pain in my ass. With all the texting all the emails. You want visit with me too before sealing the deal for free. And i am not being paid for my time you want all the extras for free...and i don't know you. This is not match.com You don't get to know me. Im not here to get know you. I am not getting paid to get to know you either. So no. There are many guys who I can see without all this. I would pass on you in heartbeat. If this is all a must for you... Please don't ever book me... The OP did not ask for a free meeting. He is asking to speak via phone prior to the appointment and after being screened. The girl did in fact have an exchange and then had an issue when he asked for her to call him with location instead of text/email. There could of been several reasons for this on her part. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 5, 2015 Chemistry is important to me and I would like to speak to a first time provider before I seal the deal. Texting and email is ok for the details but I would like the opportunity to visit with a new provider on the phone before we actually meet. I just think you can gauge chemistry a bit better when speaking with someone. I was in the process of lining up a meeting with a new provider in Pueblo and she got really "scared" when I asked her to call me with the address. Let me know your thoughts. Thanks! Doesn't seem unreasonable. Although maybe couching it in terms of, "mind if we chat for a couple of minutes on the phone. Just to break the ice a bit," might be better than, "Call me with your address." Also, never call Nikki on the phone. Really pisses her off, apparently. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 5, 2015 This is how I feel about this situation. I have my own way on how I do things, I will not alter my screening to accomated you getting to know me for little visit before we meet for free. Unless of course your paying for my time. You want to text n email details... No wonder the girl got "scared" and didn't wanna see you. I would consider you time waster. A pain in my ass. With all the texting all the emails. You want visit with me too before sealing the deal for free. And i am not being paid for my time you want all the extras for free...and i don't know you. This is not match.com You don't get to know me. Im not here to get know you. I am not getting paid to get to know you either. So no. There are many guys who I can see without all this. I would pass on you in heartbeat. If this is all a must for you... Please don't ever book me... Wow. There are so many ways to piss a lady off around here. It's a miracle anyone ever gets laid. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 5, 2015 Wow. There are so many ways to piss a lady off around here. It's a miracle anyone ever gets laid. Doesn't seem unreasonable. Although maybe couching it in terms of, "mind if we chat for a couple of minutes on the phone. Just to break the ice a bit," might be better than, "Call me with your address." Also, never call Nikki on the phone. Really pisses her off, apparently. No it doesn't piss me off. Im not interested in chatting. Im honest about it. lol Contact me, lets screen you, book appointment. Lets have sum fun. That 's it. Really simple. Im not on Match.com Please don't chat with me on n on... then here comes all the emails... then here comes all the texting back n forth... thats what craigslist is for. xoxox 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 5, 2015 I actually require a quick chat on the phone. I just like to get a feel for their personality and chemistry. Also, if they are not wanting to book that day it is nice to have that initial introduction. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 5, 2015 You might ask if you can set a meet and greet appointment. Maybe a half hour to meet for coffee. It would put you at ease. The gal should be compensated for her time, but it might make you and the girl feel more comfortable with future more private meetings. It is unlikely LE is going to but the time into meeting someone. You get to find out if it is someone you wish to do business with, and at the least, you get to have lunch or coffee with a beautiful lady. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 5, 2015 I think a real quick conversation can actually save time over a series of text messages. I prefer a real quick conversation with a lady I've never met before, after we have booked, just to confirm the specifics, ie. time, place. It is not necessary for me to have that conversation, just nice. I don't think a 30 second conversation should be considered time wasting. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 5, 2015 i require it and dont book if i dont like him on the phone. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 5, 2015 I don't think a 30 second conversation should be considered time wasting. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 5, 2015 Chemistry is important to me and I would like to speak to a first time provider before I seal the deal. Texting and email is ok for the details but I would like the opportunity to visit with a new provider on the phone before we actually meet. I just think you can gauge chemistry a bit better when speaking with someone. I was in the process of lining up a meeting with a new provider in Pueblo and she got really "scared" when I asked her to call me with the address. Let me know your thoughts. Thanks! Aloha from Sunny South Florida I'm going to add my 2 cents as you've said 2 different things here. 1), you want to have a conversation BEFORE sealing the deal, AKA, before you book. BUT, 2), you also stated someone freaked out when you asked f or a phone call for address. My question, if you didn't have a set/confrimed date, why are you asking for an address? You said you where in the process. I don't know of any provider who'll just give out her address when date is NOT lined up yet. I'm just wondering. Most of us will have no problem give a general location if that will help with you finalize date. Now phone calls. It depends on the Lady and Your intentions. Are you looking to have this heart to heart for like 30 minutes OR are you looking to just say Hi, I'm Ox from TOB, just wanted to introduce myself and let you know I'm looking forward to meeting you. Most Ladies will have no problem with the latter. Only a minority, a very small minority have Zero phone contact. Anyway, hope all the feedback helps you Aloha PS If your phone call is to inquire if Lady WILL PROVIDE/GUARANTEE a check list of services, you will get Shutdown. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 6, 2015 I don't mind a short intro call, and have found that it helps me to feel comfortable with you as well. It can even lead to fun anticipation. If you want to call me every day for an hour and monopolize all of my time texting every day until your appointment (true story), that may be an issue. I have found the most fun can be had when both parties are comfy and excited to meet though. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 6, 2015 I'm not turned on by a gal with a high, squeaky voice. A quick conversation is a must for me. If a gal won't give me that much, I'll move on. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 6, 2015 I'm not turned on by a gal with a high, squeaky voice. A quick conversation is a must for me. If a gal won't give me that much, I'll move on. it surprises me that a lady would not want to talk on the phone. booking without a voice is too risky for me. Voices do matter, you don't like high and squeaky and I could not spend an hour with someone who talks like Ed Grimley. There is also some very useful information you can glean from a ninety second phone call. Manners, the ability to follow directions and a quick feel for compatibility. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 6, 2015 Gez. For a new guy, this is like Alice in Wonderland. "Follow the yellow brick road little boy". With the differing answers from providers, no wonder he is confused. I have had everything from no talking, texting only, to having a nice conversation by email initiated by the provider. I cannot think of a single time I have talked to someone after an email appointment request. Use your feminine wiles and "ask" to talk so you can get a feel for the guy if you think it necessary. "Requiring" me do do something to spend my money comes across as rather abrasive and arrogant. How would a provider respond if the OP "required" her to speak to him before scheduling? One has to remember my time is just as important as yours. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 6, 2015 it surprises me that a lady would not want to talk on the phone. booking without a voice is too risky for me. There is also some very useful information you can glean from a ninety second phone call. Manners, the ability to follow directions and a quick feel for compatibility. this^^^^^^^^^ FOR THE LOVE OF FUCK please just follow directions. MOST girls don't bite....(.and if someone responds with some schtoopid response about how some girls out etc I will fucking scream!) MOST non bat shit fucking crazy girls are welcoming, kind and show a guy a good time. I do not think a phone call is out of line at all, especially to get specific directions or instructions from the lady you are calling. It is not out of line to ask (after the appt is booked) to speak to the lady,or even before. I personally would prefer ONLY a phone call. Saves a lot of time. The guy is calling you, OF COURSE he is interested in you. CLOSE THE SALE! Simple! Done! Anyone who has worked in a brothel should know that Let's get onto the >>>>>>FUN! K.I.S.S. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 6, 2015 Gez. For a new guy, this is like Alice in Wonderland. "Follow the yellow brick road little boy". With the differing answers from providers, no wonder he is confused. I have had everything from no talking, texting only, to having a nice conversation by email initiated by the provider. I cannot think of a single time I have talked to someone after an email appointment request. Use your feminine wiles and "ask" to talk so you can get a feel for the guy if you think it necessary. "Requiring" me do do something to spend my money comes across as rather abrasive and arrogant. How would a provider respond if the OP "required" her to speak to him before scheduling? One has to remember my time is just as important as yours. Alice went down the rabbit hole, Dorothy followed the yellow brick road. Requiring something as simple as a phone call is not abrasive or arrogant. One phone call takes so much less time than exchanging multiple emails. Eventually something has to give, with the current movement of "don't give out personal info" hearing a voice should just be mandatory. Requiring anything is the right of the person offering the service and like the old saying goes if you don't like it move on. It doesn't seem reasonable for me to give out my physical location without confirming that you are who you say you are. Many times a week I get some doofus trying to get my location via text. Most recently I had a "gent" try very hard to get my location and when I wouldn't give it up I received a string of nasty texts about my personal appearance and rate. Sounds like a totally legit dude right? You're asking for blind trust, or in this case deaf. That's a tall order and it's dismissive of our plight to call something that helps with safety abrasive or arrogant. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 6, 2015 this^^^^^^^^^ FOR THE LOVE OF FUCK please just follow directions. MOST girls don't bite....(.and if someone responds with some schtoopid response about how some girls out etc I will fucking scream!) MOST non bat shit fucking crazy girls are welcoming, kind and show a guy a good time. I do not think a phone call is out of line at all, especially to get specific directions or instructions from the lady you are calling. It is not out of line to ask (after the appt is booked) to speak to the lady,or even before. I personally would prefer ONLY a phone call. Saves a lot of time. The guy is calling you, OF COURSE he is interested in you. CLOSE THE SALE! Simple! Done! Anyone who has worked in a brothel should know that Let's get onto the >>>>>>FUN! K.I.S.S. Sounds like your ready to bite... start screaming.... lol. We have several ladies who advertise please text or email only. Some of the girls never give out a phone number. Every escort has the right to operate anyway she wants too. This isn't a problem for me with text...BTW you can get scammed by a phone call. A phone call doesn't mean shit until the guy shows up. No different then text or email. Any one who requests "a visit via phone" as the OP mentioned. Sounds like a long conversation to me. All I said was I don't want endless conversation. BTW There are many ways to to close the sale without even a single call. While working in brothel the guy comes in, picks you, says what he wants, you say how much... either its within his budget or it not. There is no calling...there is no long conversation unless he is paying for it. Its really simple. The only thing that gets screened is his junk! lol 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 6, 2015 Translated into my world, a 5 minute phone conversation or a few chatty texts back and forth would fall into the category of "business development" and would be considered the cost of doing business. It's what helps seal the deal. Not something that's required, but providers willing to make that investment can help put clients at ease and drive down the nervousness factor. I would imagine such exchanges would have the same benefit to the provider as well. Seems like a no-brainer to me. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 6, 2015 Texting takes more time than a simple two minute talk. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 6, 2015 Texting takes more time than a simple two minute talk. Hell, texting takes more time than morse code: http://m.wimp.com/neatexperiment/ "The love you gave me, nothing else can save me, S.O.S." 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 6, 2015 with a real world job, family often around and knowledge that often having a provider phone brings on the headaches attached to it.. I like: 1. Guy introduces self and gets screened first (that way i know i am not on the phone with someone meaning harm, time wasting nor entrapment-nothing like talking to the local PD and getting more on their radar) 2. I set up brief phone call with him prior to meeting for comfort level. (at this point- i know who i am talking to and that he is sincere in meeting if that call goes well) **there's too many wishy washy guys along with the game players that just want to spend time chatting with an escort on the phone vs the occasional sweet guy mixed in to not get frustrated... so Screen first-Show a Sincere Committed desire to Meet "not phone shop", and THEN...almost all reasonable providers that i know of..will want to speak via phone. IT's the TIMING of WHEN that Phone call happens that seems to differ. Again, my preference is when i know i am speaking safely to a legit client committed to see me and walk thru my door if that convo does not have red flags. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 6, 2015 As someone who absolutely hates talking on the phone to a level where I actually consider it a phobia, I personally would not agree to see a client who requires a quick chat on the phone ahead of time. Not because I think it's an unreasonable request, but rather because it's unreasonable for me and if a potential client can't respect that then I know he won't be able to respect other boundaries. For those who aren't as phone-phobic as me, I don't think there's anything wrong with it as long as it's quick. When I started in this business I posted a phone number in my ads and got an unbelievable amount of calls from time wasters who basically wanted me to help them take care of their business over the phone for free. What a hassle, and definitely didn't help me with my phone phobia whatsoever. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 6, 2015 It has always been my mojo with meetings. You must call me. NO text and if you e-mail I always say please call me at.... This is the only way to catch a personal feel and your inner instinct always tells you OK or NO Way. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 6, 2015 Hell, texting takes more time than morse code: http://m.wimp.com/neatexperiment/ "The love you gave me, nothing else can save me, S.O.S." In 2009 on an alpha/numeric keypad - yes. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
