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About MelindaMadison

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  1. Since some ladies still can’t access TOB

    I'm back (somewhat) Able to log on at work...(luckily I am the boss) but home computer and laptop- not at all yet. I'll take the suggestion on iPhone and try it away from my work wifi..
  2. Ex-Lover turns Provider

    You said you texted her...she didn't respond. Don't push the issue. if she wanted to connect with you- she would or she would have. It may be hard to hear...but time to move on...
  3. Screening Question

    Don't overthink it. Just ask her why. (could be something as simple as unlocking a door or propping open a door when you arrive ) to something more ominous as eliminating Someone Else showing up at her incall vs You and she is in a position to view the parking lot to see if it IS you...(as in a couple of guys sharing a profile/ email etc - has happened. (ugh) Could be any number of reasons not totally alarm-worthy at all. Ask Her. (and you say you already know she is legit and you have seen her that should not be a concern..)
  4. Sexiest Colorado weather person..go...

    Kathy Sabine of course... accomplished, smart, older sexy women are awesome!
  5. Greatest movie scenes / quotes

    So. Many. To Choose from...But Catherine Turner....OMG
  6. How much is too much description in a review?

    "Too Much Information" is the amount of information that can be used in court to prosecute what is still illegal activity. (nope the "time and companionship disclaimer is moot when you put specifics in words. Unfortunately, I've seen two cases (one recent) where this has happened; so what was once a valuable tool is now not worth the risk for some of us. (I knew people involved and the SW community it affected). We will see an evolution of this...and there are many other newer tools to determine if a companion might be a good match outside of that. If you are an acronym guy, it may be harder if that is your focus however.
  7. Providers who see clients with minor disabilities

    No worries, I do not have any metal detectors where i host. (no, seriously, most true professionals are attuned with dealing with many many issues) and we are happy to accommodate if we can. Simply be a gentleman in approach and all good in the sexy dating world!)
  8. P411 profile update

    In addition to a personalized introduction, the care a gentleman puts in their profile makes all the difference in the world to me. This is not like ordering a hamburger at McDonald's and yet not a dating service where one is looking for a life partner...but the care and attention that one does to intro themselves, helps us as companions determine whether it is a good match (where the gent will enjoy the date) beyond a list of acronyms etc. I am still surprised on how many don't even bother to fill out their introduction... which always comes across as somewhat lazy (or don't care at all?) .. It's your hard earned $, make an attempt at putting your best foot forward for the best experience.
  9. I'm all for the ladies staying safe, but...

    It doesn't mean that YOU were recorded inside.... it could have simply been one of those RING doorbell cameras. (interpretation can be tricky) ...Many homes have those now.
  10. Text or talk?

    The methodology of texting is also (in a post Sesta/Fosta environment and BP closure) attracting the dregs of society (pimps, time wasters, one-liners, dic pics) more than ever right now. the buzz behind the scenes is a Lot of frustration from ladies as the onslaught continues. sifting thru them all is a nightmare. I did an experiment and did a text app for 2 days. it yielded over 200 responses...ZERO of them could be deemed a potential client. Plus, again... many guys can't "lock down" their extra phones/phone apps as discreetly as passworded emails from their SO's - and getting a call/text from a SO really sucks and can be a risk to the guy... Direct contact methods may be largely going by the wayside again if the fuckery continues for many providers. More and more are transitioning to auto-replies on texting apps and emails again and the conversation is fierce via our social media contacts (Twitter etc) It's a gentleman's hard earned money- and i get the convenience of immediacy- but it should also be worth writing a full sentence or two and an introduction to a lady prior to moving forward. It yields MUCH better sexy results than "are you available?"- which some are not even capable of typing anymore via text.
  11. new vetting process?

    What someone looks like is NO indicator of whether they will be safe. "Look, see? I'm a nice guy"-almost every caucasian serial killer
  12. Text or talk?

    That has Nothing to do with the mode of contact used (after all....with today's tech..who doesn't have email with optional notification settings on their phones?) and Everything to do with a provider's business model (are they a same day provider? last minute provider? prebooking provider?) -which is due to many different personal aspects in a ladies' life (kids/career/family/incall accessibility etc) Again- tone gets lost in text and there's so much drama/lack of discretion associated with it... and there's too much potential for miscommunication in phone calls and voicemails ("provider called me hours later when i was with my SO" type stuff OR "provider never called me back" (she was at her vanilla job and didn't dare to call back hours later so guy thinks she's not interested or flakey- see?)
  13. Text or talk?

    I'll put in my .02cents here. Call me Old School...but direct phone contact and texting (although it's slipped into this industry more and more over the last 15 yrs) is the cause of most of the drama/lack of discretion/frustration on both sides that i see posted on these forums. I'm an email and screen and THEN arrange a "comfort for both of us call" prior to the actual date. (weeds out the insinceres pretty quickly, the 2am texters or callers) or miscommunication issues) I determined long ago, that i wanted to spend my time only with those that truly wanted to spend time with me vs "any hole in a storm" and that extra 2mins of effort to intro themselves through a typing medium has carried a long way in meeting really sweet guys. In the past, LE targeted the phone girls 1st cause in a sting it was fastest also. With throw away phones- conversing and info exchange with a complete stranger (could be a stalker, someone you said "no" to who got a new throwaway phone, pimp, etc- is like picking up a hitchhiker) It's HUGE for discretion of my clients also. Admit it gents, it's a LOT easier to lock down your computer/email with passwords then having to worry about a throw-away phone (and justification of having it) or calls or texts that come thru from the prying eyes of a SO. I have NEVER, in all my years, been approached or contacted by a spouse, never had LE issues and (except with some recant onslaught of the "u avail" knuckleheads) - it's been super peaceful and this venture has been pleasurable. I experimented once or twice (hoping that future suitors would listen to my voice-feel comfort and read my website) and it ended up being 200 "u avail?" and dick pics with zero bookings. It was horrible and being part time at this and pulling a full time career- i don't have time for that crap. Tone can't come thru thru short 1 sentence texts..and the back and forth would be maddening and frustrating. I love a VOICE (after screening). Old School email then a call is the most pleasurable for me..and pleasure to both parties trumps "lots of calls" anyday for me. My method attracts the right kind of client for myself in addition.
  14. new vetting process?

    It sounds like someone who feels that a pic will protect them from LE....(or most likely someone who does not know how to screen) ... asking for pics (from either party) could be a red flag...and it truly doesn't tell anyone anything. I typically DO ask a brief description, because if you tell me you are 5'9 175" 50 yrs old and a 6'4" 35yr old guy shows up to my door...then we have a Serious problem. (I know it sounds inconceivable-but that little bit of screening actually saved me from seeing a future murderer back in New England once as the person described did not match a corporate picture i dug up on the person he was trying to pose as. I confronted him and asked - he admitted to using a co-workers identity and then his face was plastered on national news and 20/20 2 months later) If it's a lady that you really want to see, why not ask her Why she needs a pic (politely), explain your concern for discretion and ask if there is any alternative way to make her feel comfortable. otherwise, there are many who are more savvy on how to screen invisibly and make a gent more comfortable.
  15. Visiting Denver

    Not all ladies do phone numbers only. Email is a wonderful way to reach out. As long as you are easily verifiable in another way (as some use phone numbers to screen). Simply ask the companion you are approaching what is best for her..and explain your situation. Many of us are professionals who can guide someone through quite easily....those who cannot...well... might not be the match for your situation. International gents for me have never been an issue in the past..