Posted August 24, 2013 I know most guys would say this is not a problem but it is for me. My ATF just wants DATY from me and nothing else. And now she wants a bigger tip--Is that fair? She used to like variety but outside pressures in her life have turned me into her slave. What should i do? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 24, 2013 I love daty! But if that's all that was being offered I would never go back. Find a provider that does all the activities you enjoy. There are so many amazing ladies here in Denver. Read some reviews and call a different lady. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 24, 2013 ATF just wants DATY and that's it!! No, she wants money too. And she probably wants money more than DATY, FYI. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 24, 2013 What should you do? What are you, a tool? No wonder you are now basically this woman's slave. Also, who demands tips? Back to the matter at hand; I personally think, you should bail out. Unless you like feeling like the bottom of a shoe after appointments with her. Lewd500 knows the game plan, find another provider who will treat you with respect. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 24, 2013 (edited) I know most guys would say this is not a problem but it is for me. My ATF just wants DATY from me and nothing else. And now she wants a bigger tip--Is that fair? She used to like variety but outside pressures inher life have turned me into her slave. What should i do? Dude....first, feel around between your legs......is the nutsack still there? assuming so.....your quote makes no sense. Unless, being someone else's slave is your desire......in which case the test above must have had negative results. I go back to my regular ladies because I enjoy their company and they provide what I need. If that changes, then so will I. Life is too short to be abused by anyone....even people you like. Edited August 24, 2013 by hgritstoo finished thought 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 24, 2013 You're not satisfied with the service you receive and you still go back? Why is she still your ATF? Are you married to her? Time to get a d-i-v-o-r-c-e! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 24, 2013 Sounds like an easy decision, if you are not ok with it. Time to find another ATF. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 24, 2013 This situation is ENTIRELY your fault. She treats you like dirt because you allow it. Grow a pair and kick her to the curb. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 24, 2013 More evidence that we need a pornographic Dear Abby. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 24, 2013 I know most guys would say this is not a problem but it is for me. What should i do? I doubt most guys would be ok with this. I love DATY but as part the whole experience not as the only activity. Find a new ATF. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 24, 2013 Who is the client, you or her? If you are paying her to treat you like shit you are getting what you paid for. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 24, 2013 AGREED! tell your wife it's no longer working out for you. you need to go seek some new pastures and pleasures! You're not satisfied with the service you receive and you still go back? Why is she still your ATF? Are you married to her? Time to get a d-i-v-o-r-c-e! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 24, 2013 Who is the client, you or her? If you are paying her to treat you like shit you are getting what you paid for. I disagree with you , I think she is generous,she is giving him more shit than he is paying for lol. Come to think about it the last sub I met , she did disrespect me after I told her I want to explore being a switcher. So may be on an unconscious level he is enjoying the experience. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 24, 2013 Unanimous input on this and I disagree with your opening line - it would be a problem for most of us. You're the client/customer go get the service and treatment you want. There are plenty of sources to do your research to find what you want. If you don't like what your arrangement and service is, change it you'll be happier in the long run. Some of the things I am paying for is no drama and my happiness. If I am not happy with that then I go elsewhere to find it. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 24, 2013 one alternative would be to top from the bottom, so to speak 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 24, 2013 Ummm, if she literally only allows DATY she should be paying you. Meanwhile go find another that is willing to do what she used to do that made her your ATF. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 24, 2013 I know most guys would say this is not a problem but it is for me. My ATF just wants DATY from me and nothing else. And now she wants a bigger tip--Is that fair? She used to like variety but outside pressures in her life have turned me into her slave. What should i do? I took a minute to run this post through the hobby forum post translator. here is what I got back..................... "On a recent trip to Denver I left a few items in a DTC hotel room. if anyone finds any of the items on this list, please let me know. Hobby money, self respect, left testical, my manhood, right testical, and a CD of Sonny bono's greatest hits" Thank you! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 24, 2013 It sure sounds like whatever self-respect you had is gone. You need to think about why you let this happen. Has it happened before, etc.? Would you feel guilty about no longer seeing her? Do you think you are taking care of her? The quickest and easiest way to improve the situation is to simply see someone else and make sure that you get what you want from her. Maybe that will give you some perspective. But unless you are getting something out of this that you have not let on about you will need to start over with someone else. Maybe you should try to NOT have an ATF for a while. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 24, 2013 Oh C'mon you guys. Jason Stackhouse posts on TOB with his problem and this is what he gets? How many of you would kill to be that vamp's bitch? (see True Blood) 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 24, 2013 How many of you would kill to be that vamp's bitch? Umm, not me. If fact, I'm having a difficult time taking the original post seriously. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 24, 2013 to paraphrase The Honorable Lloyd Bentsen to Dan Quayle in a 1988 Vice-Presidential debate: I've known ATFs and she's no ATF 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 25, 2013 quid pro quo, Clarice The Silence of the Lambs? Really? Awesome. You sir, just jumped up in my book! *starts slow clap* 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 25, 2013 if u cant lick 'em, join 'em 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 25, 2013 Maybe you should ask her, how much she should charge you for giving her a rim job !....if she said 100...you should take it....it is a bargin. save some money to pay her (hopefully) to give you golden shower. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 25, 2013 quid pro quo, Clarice Some fava beans and a nice chianti with that DATY 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 25, 2013 AGREED! tell your wife it's no longer working out for you. you need to go seek some new pastures and pleasures! Been there - Done that! (35 years ago) 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 25, 2013 cut off your tounge....problem solved. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 25, 2013 I think she is sending you a message that she is trying to leave the business ( and you) without actually dumping you. Your call but it is time to move on for both of you. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
