Posted September 28, 2019 Hello TOB! Sooo about two weeks ago I'm texting trying to set something up, We had agreed on him picking me up because my room mate was home. Well I didn't know this but he's married. To me it doesn't matter if he is married or not and I typically do not ask if they are married either. Any way I asked what time I should be expecting to get picked up at but never received a reply. Then I received a phone call from what I'm assuming is his significant other as the number wasn't the same I was texting before. The conversation went something very close to this. Me:😶 Her:😠 😶: Hello 😠: How do you know my husband *Bob (name has been changed) 😶: Excuse me? Who? 😠: Don't play dumb with me. I saw the text messages. You were supposed to meet up. You were calling him babe. It sounds to me like you're an escort. So are you? 😶: Listen I don't know "Bob" and that is something that you should be asking him and honestly if you can't trust him to tell you the truth then maybe you shouldn't be with him. 😠: Ok that's all I needed to know. Your answer just said it all. She then hung up on me. She called me again but I didn't answer. Shortly after I received several messages from his number. "I just want to let you know u can have him I'm done and now he'll have more free time " "And thank you for not lying for him" I can only assume these came from her. Several hours later... "Why the hell did you do that" 😶: Excuse me? Why the hell did I do what? Look here don't get me involved in your personal BS. I don't even fucken know you so I'll be damned if you're going to fucken come at me like I did anything or like i have to do anything for you. Don't message me you or your wife. "You were suppose to be on my side not make it look like I am lying" 😶: I'm blocking you. I don't even know you so stop wasting my time. "Your a fucking whore thanks for nothing" 😶: 😭 "So yeah lose my number since u were the one fucking asking to meet up👍" That was that. Now the whole reason for all this really is to ask. In the future how do I handle these calls? How have you ladies handled these before? Because in the past 4 years I've been in this industry I had never ran into this. Thanks! 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 28, 2019 That’s Why I don’t do calls. i have gotten a few in the past and I have pretend I’m a party planner or from catholic charities. Lol and ask for them to kindly give me the acount number for a up coming event I pick one at random or thank them for donating to fight homelessness. but that was years ago. 8 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 28, 2019 I think you handled it perfectly. And you already realize it is now just a bit of your deep and entertaining history. ... what a long, strange, trip it’s been... * *RIP, Robert Hunter 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 28, 2019 You asked him what time he was going to pick you up. I assume that means he has your address. Which means she has your address. Just sayin. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 28, 2019 lordy lordy lordy - they have remade this movie so many times:) that dood needs to get the latest edition of 'hobbying for dummies' - my gawd, why would you even entertain actions that could bring the wife into the fray unless you had an 'understanding'... VVC1 - sorry you got pulled into this - stay safe out there:) 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 29, 2019 I guess he didn't have a locked phone. It is the first thing you do when you get a phone. Password, swipe pattern, etc. Well Mustang, she might not have her address. He might have been meeting her somewhere else. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 29, 2019 This is one of the few reasons that I do not answer any phone calls until they have screened. For one, I am not having a prospective client think he can convince me to see him without screening(and they try by calling me instead of filling out my form), also I only want to waste my time talking to clients whom I have already seen or gone through my screening because they are top priority, also yeah, it is to avoid the wives/girlfriends, and I really don't like being on the phone unless I have to. I have had the wives call, and I just act stupid like I have no idea who she is talking about or what she is referring to. Like you said, it isn't your place to be in the middle, and he has no one but his stupid ass to blame but himself. Drop him and block him. Make sure(just in case you weren't doing this) that in the future, that they pick you up somewhere generic so they don't have your address. Safety should always be top priority for your well being. xoxo, Samantha Sheppard 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 29, 2019 It would be funny that when the wives call, if you were to answer "Hi, this is ABC Jewelry Store, we are still working on your order, your wife is going to love it!" 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 29, 2019 It's a cautionary tale for married guys or guys with S/O to ALWAYS clear your phone message logs, emails etc at all times. To the OP, I think you handled it as well as any one could. The guy is blaming YOU when he knows he was the dumb ass! If you play, you're going to pay, this time PAY may mean something else. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 29, 2019 12 hours ago, Alex Majors said: I guess he didn't have a locked phone. It is the first thing you do when you get a phone. Password, swipe pattern, etc. Well Mustang, she might not have her address. He might have been meeting her somewhere else. My Smart phone text message notification will ping & show on lock screen in an abbreviated form, 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 30, 2019 On 9/27/2019 at 11:15 PM, VeroVeroCam01 said: Hello TOB! Sooo about two weeks ago I'm texting trying to set something up, We had agreed on him picking me up because my room mate was home. Well I didn't know this but he's married. To me it doesn't matter if he is married or not and I typically do not ask if they are married either. Any way I asked what time I should be expecting to get picked up at but never received a reply. Then I received a phone call from what I'm assuming is his significant other as the number wasn't the same I was texting before. The conversation went something very close to this. Me:😶 Her:😠 😶: Hello 😠: How do you know my husband *Bob (name has been changed) 😶: Excuse me? Who? 😠: Don't play dumb with me. I saw the text messages. You were supposed to meet up. You were calling him babe. It sounds to me like you're an escort. So are you? 😶: Listen I don't know "Bob" and that is something that you should be asking him and honestly if you can't trust him to tell you the truth then maybe you shouldn't be with him. 😠: Ok that's all I needed to know. Your answer just said it all. She then hung up on me. She called me again but I didn't answer. Shortly after I received several messages from his number. "I just want to let you know u can have him I'm done and now he'll have more free time " "And thank you for not lying for him" I can only assume these came from her. Several hours later... "Why the hell did you do that" 😶: Excuse me? Why the hell did I do what? Look here don't get me involved in your personal BS. I don't even fucken know you so I'll be damned if you're going to fucken come at me like I did anything or like i have to do anything for you. Don't message me you or your wife. "You were suppose to be on my side not make it look like I am lying" 😶: I'm blocking you. I don't even know you so stop wasting my time. "Your a fucking whore thanks for nothing" 😶: 😭 "So yeah lose my number since u were the one fucking asking to meet up👍" That was that. Now the whole reason for all this really is to ask. In the future how do I handle these calls? How have you ladies handled these before? Because in the past 4 years I've been in this industry I had never ran into this. Thanks! Good for you !! Very glad you stood up for yourself and held your own! Never lie for anyone! If that douche bag can't be honest with his WIFE, then he deserves everything he gets! The old adage " Honesty is the best policy " is absolutely true!! Keeps life much simpler.. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 1, 2019 While I believe discretion on both ends is a must, the bottom line is it’s no one else’s responsibility to hide your infidelity but your own. If you have a s/o you’re stepping out on its on you to protect your shit. SWs deal with enough without having to cover for your cheating ass. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
