Posted July 27, 2016 I guess the first the Prude part. I had one of our more respected friends ask me if I considered a BB Stripper Slide to finish, the same thing as BBFS. Personally I like a BB Slide but have never finished that way. I’m like duh I don’t know and actually probably blushing at home alone. I flat out asked her, “And you’re asking me this question why?” Sometimes our conversations go wayyy beyond my experiences. While interesting, still a learning process for me and I find myself stuttering for confidence LOL... …Now the Naivety part. I Googled this word to make sure I had the definition right. I’m asked a lot, “What do I like, what’s my fantasy?” I have such a tough time answering this because I never think in advance. I like threesomes a lot, so when BCD, that’s not even an issue. But on 1st meetings one on one, I stammer, look down at the ground, and even shake. I do it even on second and third meetings with especially one who I simply adore. If I let her she’d absolutely teach and destroy me at the same time. I guess maybe that’s being naïve and prude at the same time… …So another stooped thread by me. But I guess my questions are. Should I blush when having candid conversations with friends, which seem to be the norm instead of the exception? Or just try and converse, even tho I am still somewhat inexperienced? Then, should I express my desires and fantasies when asked, even how bizarre at least to me they may be? And how long with someone should I be comfortable enough to express them? My feeble mind thinking only… …Peace! 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 27, 2016 If you like BB slide and think it is remotely safe, then yes, you are way too naive. Same thing as BBFS - no, but about as safe. Having hard time asking and blushing - nope, not too prudish cause you DO want it, just conditioned by upbringing that you don't ask a lady such stuff. (I don't agree with that theory, and for any lady that has been "in the business" for a while it is highly unlikely you will ask for anything she hasn't heard - or worse - before lol.) If you feel ashamed and uncomfortable you run the risk of making HER feel uncomfortable. Just my opinion worth about half what you paid for it. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 27, 2016 (edited) I suggest you converse as well as you can. Being nervous is common, try not to worry about it. If you're in a room with a provider, and she asks "What do you like?", answer with what you like. Describe a fantasy. If you have something you want to try for the 1st time, just ask. These girls have probably heard everything from "can I wear your panties?" to "Let's pretend to be ancient samurai, and have a swordfight!" If it doesn't involve scat, bbfs, or people not yet of age, I doubt you'll scare anybody. They may not be into your request, but they've probably heard it before. Good luck! Edited July 27, 2016 by pfunk 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 27, 2016 I have problem answering the "what do you like" question as well. I feel like the question kind of takes me out of the GFE experience a bit, especially if the conversation is early in the session. I really do appreciate the ladies wanting to please and satisfy a fantasy. But for me, unless it's some sort of special request, it's a better experience not to spell everything out before hand. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 28, 2016 Take her by the shoulders look her straight in the eyes tell her exactly what your dreams are made of. You do this? She will appreciate it. As long as you are not demanding or demeaning. Chances are she will greatly appreciate the honesty and will always remember the moment you were able to become amorous with great manliness! Just the same thinking as Pfunk! 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 28, 2016 7 hours ago, Kali Sensual Reiki said: Take her by the shoulders look her straight in the eyes tell her exactly what your dreams are made of. You obviously don't know why I do this. I have no idea what I want. I just know I want more. Hmm... I guess that would be the thing to say, wouldn't it? Never mind. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 28, 2016 Laughing so hard right now! Don't we all have a few good dreams or fantasizing left to discover?!;) 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 29, 2016 OK, I'm a bit shy about verbalizing my fantasies, even with ATFs, but not the least bit shy about performing them. Therefore, if anyone suffers from similar verbal shyness, what I would suggest is the response: "I don't know, lets just see what happens." Then I just indulge my fantasies without much talking. Occasionally you get an "I don't like that," in which you just smile, stop, and switch gears. Usually works out pretty well. PS BBStripperSlide is #fuckincrazy 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 29, 2016 Communication is always the key to making the time exceptional for all involved. We're taught from an early age to be ashamed of many different aspects of sex. Forget that. You're grown. It's just you and your partner, and she really wants to know. So now's the time to explore the big and little things that turn you on. Is there some sort of kink you see in porn you want to try? Some fantasy you've built in your mind? Something weird you've only heard about but never seen? Do it. Maybe you'll like it, maybe you won't, but you'll know. If you've found the right partner, they'll say yes or no to your ideas. If you have the wrong partner, they'll laugh and you'll know you're better off with a different one. Always make the effort to reciprocate, and take pleasure in another's pleasure. Whatever your thing is, you're not the only one who likes it. And it's not anyone's business what you like, so it doesn't need to leave the bedroom/sexswing/graveyard. And whatever level of trust you and your partner have in one another is between you two. It's not something the internet can answer. "What happens between consenting adults.." and all that. Lots of people flip out at the idea of BB anything. And every once in a while a provider will come around advertising it. That's between you and her. By this stage of the game, you should both know the risks and rewards associated with it, and should be able to make the decision for yourself. Most people will go bare with an SO at some point in their life, and it's not because they dragged them to the clinic and read the results. It's because they trust that person to be clean, and not expose them. That level of trust isn't impossible between friends, even friends who met doing this. I think it'd be a rare thing, though. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 29, 2016 If you're talking about having a discussion of things you like that may happen in a session then don't be prude and don't be uncomfortable. Consent goes two ways and the last thing a provider wants to do is something that you don't like, makes you uncomfortable or turns you off. Aside from discussing sex to establish boundaries and interests I don't really like to talk explicitly about sex. Sex in general is OK but I do not like to discuss my sex life or my personal preferences. I am not a huge fan of providing wank fodder in the form of my intimate stories. It may be prude but I am more private than prude. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted August 6, 2016 On July 29, 2016 at 0:02 AM, Lucy Kitten said: Aside from discussing sex to establish boundaries and interests I don't really like to talk explicitly about sex. Sex in general is OK but I do not like to discuss my sex life or my personal preferences. I am not a huge fan of providing wank fodder in the form of my intimate stories. It may be prude but I am more private than prude. I am similar, but for different reasons. Discussing specifics during an encounter makes it much too clinical. Discussing beforehand is much less stressful and lets our meeting flow more naturally. Additionally, for some reason I can never get into dirty talk. Every time I have tried I feel so foolish, it just doesn't feel right 😜 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
