What are the four major mistakes people make when having an affair with an escort?

[Guest]

Recently, one of my guys got caught red handed. Not sure exactly how he got caught as of yet. tbd I googled some research on it this weekend.

What are the four major mistakes people make when having an affair with an escort?

They get sloppy and don’t clear their computer’s history, thereby leaving evidence of adult dating sites, escort sites etc.

They leave evidence on the cell phone. This includes text messages to and from the cheating partner, far too many calls to the same number, and the monthly cell phone bill with numbers recorded.

They use their credit cards to pay for hotel rooms, dinners, flowers, etc. If your spouse has any knowledge of household finances and checks accounts this one is a guarantee of suspicion.

They leave emails with their cheating partner on their computer/in their online account and the spouse reads them.

Here’s how you can combat those four mistakes:

I googled some research on it this weekend.

Use Google Chrome as your browser and make use of their incognito feature, which allows you to browse without any record of it being kept. No history is recorded, cookies are banished (cookies are placed on your computer by the sites you visit), nothing is put in the cache, etc. Any browser will let you clear your history simply (a quick Google search will show you how if you don’t know) but the incognito browsing feature is perfect because the rest of your history is kept and only the parts you want to hide will be hidden. An empty history can be suspicious too (can you hear your spouse asking why you would need to clear your history?).

Get a prepaid cell phone. You can buy them almost anywhere, although convenience stores are typically the easiest. They tend to have call and text features and they’re untraceable. Once you have the prepaid phone you only need to make sure your spouse doesn’t discover it.

Get a prepaid debit card and start carrying cash and you’ll avoid the trouble of your spouse tracking your activities via the credit card bill. A prepaid debit card will still be tied to you in some way but there’s no reason your spouse will have to find out about it. Plus, you should carry more cash and pay for anything you can with it.

You need a brand new email account and you should only check it when you’re using the incognito feature of the Chrome browser or you’re going to delete the history right away. Also make sure whatever login you use doesn’t drop down in the form box after you first type it in. You want no evidence of that email address existing anywhere on your computers or phone.

If you resolve to plan before having an affair, use a website to make a connection with someone else looking to have an affair, and avoid the four common mistakes listed above you are nearly guaranteed to make a successful connection and have a pleasing sexual affair with the man or woman of your dreams.

Myself personally, its best not to lie, So if i am dating someone or married, id tell him I'm seeing another person.

[ash_36]

Another thing that can be done is to set your computer to automatically reboot at night. This is good in case you ever forget to close your browser. Firefox and Opera also allow you to open private Windows and tabsich is the same thing as incognito browsing on Chrome. Even better, do all browsing on a smart phone, many third party browsers also have incognito mode. Some can be set to use that by default.

On android, you can use third party launchers, like Nova, that allow you to hide applications, so they are not visible when scrolling through. If an app is hidden, I use Gesture Search to open it. As an added later of security, you can download apps that allow you to set a password to open applications. Now this could be harder to explain, but if the app is hidden and you don't keep gesture search on your home, hopefully this won't be seen, but it's better than explaining the emails.

Another thing on android that comes in handy is an app called Tasker.This can be used to automate many things on your phone, but the interface can be quite confusing. But there are many resources that can help you, pm me, I might be able too. Anyway, I use this to remove applications from the "recently opened applications" list on android. Depending on the android phone you have, opening this list may baa as simple as a button press. Going through trouble hiding apps won't do much good if a button press shows it was the last app you used. Unfortunately for Apple users, I don't think there is too much you can do. There isn't anything like Tasker or Nova that I am aware of, but I have never had an iPhone, so I don't know what is available for it.

More I know that there are applications that allow you to hide calls and messages on your phone, done that look like other apps or that will delete everything if you put in a certain password. I have even seen an app that doubles as a calculator and won't open until you put a password into the calculator, but a hobby phone is so much easier, so I don't know too much about those.

I am on my phone, so sure that there are a lot of typos, or do we call them Swypos. Sorry if there are any that makes anything confusing.

[fortysomething]

Good advice from both of you. Thanks! Not difficult to operate under the radar.

[harpo]

An empty history can be suspicious too (can you hear your spouse asking why you would need to clear your history?).

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Few years ago , I drove through Utah . I was stopped by a trooper , he asked for driving license and proof of insurance . When I asked him why I was stopped .his response was : I drove behind you for around 10 miles and your ability to drive within the speed limit in a deserted area of the highway made me suspicious.

Yes , you are right....being too careful can be as bad as being careless.

Good advice.

[ash_36]

Good advice from both of you. Thanks! Not difficult to operate under the radar.

No it's not. And the more you can automate, the less chance meeting lazy will bite you.

[2Big]

Shrug.

I'm single.

Plus, women have a sixth and seventh sense for sniffing out cheaters. Google Chrome ain't gonna save you.

[NaughtyNiceGuy]

How does one have an affair with a hooker? I thought it wad a business transaction.

[Guest]

Shrug.

I'm single.

Plus, women have a sixth and seventh sense for sniffing out cheaters. Google Chrome ain't gonna save you.

2Big is right. Wemon have a sixth and seventh sense for sniffing out cheaters.

If you get caught....

TRUTH ABOUT DECEPTION

Gentlemen, if your wife stops having sex with you, trust me she is getting it somewhere else. Unless their is a medical issue.

Women are less likely to cheat than men. But when they do, they are better liars, better cheaters then men.

Women are more likely to have an emotional affair. A cheating wife is also more likely to swap up when she cheats too.

Cheating wives tend to have affairs with men who have more status, resources than their own husband. Or women cheat

with men who are better relational partners – someone who is more attentive, appreciative and understanding and loving.

Women cheat to leave their husband. Unlike a man. A woman who does have a one night stand, it tends to be with

someone who is more attractive and physically fit than her husband and bigger and better dick. I also most forgot better

looking than you:eek:

[Guest]

How does one have an affair with a hooker? I thought it wad a business transaction.

Maybe I should have been little more clear, a long time client, who has been booking me for years has been seeing me.

Basicly his wife would see it as affair with a paid hooker.

[Guest Kashmir]

This is one, I am always concerned with. It seems to be more of a risk, when the man sees the same provider over a span of time.

I have one, that insists his wife never checks his email. I am always asking him, to get a hobby email. As you all know, emails can be flirty.

The hardest part, is how would we know? You would hope they would contact you and say please don't email me, but that is not always true. I don't think any good woman or provider wants to ever see a client in trouble. I know I don't.

I had one man get busted. I got a text, asking to meet. I said, when?

Next text said, he won't be coming this is his wife!

Since then, I have given my married clients a "safety" word that has to be in the text before I respond. We change those words frequently.

I also have several hobby phones. I always confirm meetings from a different number, as to prevent a pattern on the bill.

Be careful with Icloud it has some real trails, especially if you have your devices synced up.

I am also going to agree with Nikki, if a woman stops having sex for years with their husband (medical reasons aside) she is likely having an affair also. They may know their husband is cheating, but simply does not care. I think it easy for men to think " Oh she is not having sex with me because of "fill in the blank". I don't think it crosses their minds, that maybe their wife has fallen out of interest with them. Women stay for the children and the social stigma also.

My point is, if you have any heart at all. You will do your best to protect your client from being found. Our objective is to make a nice memory for the man, not wish drama on him.

[FatDog]

why bother being in a relationship, if "your" gonna fuck around on the side.

[Guest]

Maybe I should have been little more clear, a long time client, who has been booking me for years has been seeing me.

Basicly his wife would see it as affair with a paid hooker.

Nikki is correct. Some states actually have laws about this when it comes to divorce.

I have a personal friend who's Mother found out that her (now ex hubby) had been paying for years for Escorts. I don't remember the name of the clause/law, but not only did the Mother get a large settlement in the divorce, she also sue'd all of the Escorts and won too.

The Mother was scorned and pissed and played dirty until she got every last cent she could. Sadly, the stress of it all drove her to an early death.

Not trying to be the morbid one (you know I'm always shitting rainbows over here) but Nikki is correct about both sides needing to protect themselves. We Ladies are providing a service to many and wouldn't want your final "thanks" to be a bitch slap from your wife.

[Bit Banger]

why bother being in a relationship, if "your" gonna fuck around on the side.

I can think of a few reasons, sex for one. Relationships are not all things for all people. Some people have multiple relationships, each fulfilling different facets of their lives.

[pitbull]

2Big is right. Wemon have a sixth and seventh sense for sniffing out cheaters.

If you get caught....

TRUTH ABOUT DECEPTION

Gentlemen, if your wife stops having sex with you, trust me she is getting it somewhere else. Unless their is a medical issue.

Women are less likely to cheat than men. But when they do, they are better liars, better cheaters then men.

Women are more likely to have an emotional affair. A cheating wife is also more likely to swap up when she cheats too.

Cheating wives tend to have affairs with men who have more status, resources than their own husband. Or women cheat

with men who are better relational partners – someone who is more attentive, appreciative and understanding and loving.

Women cheat to leave their husband. Unlike a man. A woman who does have a one night stand, it tends to be with

someone who is more attractive and physically fit than her husband and bigger and better dick. I also most forgot better

looking than you:eek:

Nikki: Your normally perfect instincts are betraying you here. You say the wife is getting it somewhere else if she stops having sex with you. This is simply not true. You have stated in previous posts that you have a high sex drive, and I believe you, but many women do not have this gift. Toss in three forbidden topics and 20 years of marriage and the urge just VANISHES. I for one would love it if my wife were having an affair. It would at least signal that her drive was not gone. But it is gone. I am incredibly attracted to her, but she is simply played out on the sex thing. It is not part of her life. It's over. Sad but true.

[fortysomething]

No it's not. And the more you can automate, the less chance meeting lazy will bite you.

No. I stick by my original comment. What automation? Google Chrome Incognito, a throwaway cell and cash only. Wise choices.

Over and out

[ash_36]

I automate things like rebooting the computer in case I forget to close a browser window, removing apps from recently used lists. Basically the tracks that can be left behind or things that can be forgotten even when using things like incognito mode.The little things people stop doing when they get more comfortable and become more careless.

[pitbull]

Its scary to ponder the consequences of a second phone. If it's found, big trouble. Not worth the risk. Think Breaking Bad.

[2Big]

To repeat:

Technical solutionsare no threat to the inherent bio-evolutionary superiority of women's sixth and seventh sense to sniff out cheaters.

[Bit Banger]

Its scary to ponder the consequences of a second phone. If it's found, big trouble. Not worth the risk. Think Breaking Bad.

The concept of a 2nd phone always bothered me for the same reason. It would be a constant threat.

[pitbull]

To repeat:

Technical solutionsare no threat to the inherent bio-evolutionary superiority of women's sixth and seventh sense to sniff out cheaters.

Myth that has been successfully busted by NUMEROUS men on this board. I know one poster who has seen hundreds of providers over many years. His wife has NEVER suspected. I suspect he is not alone.

You have to understand that part of the SO's cluelessness is a fundamental UNDER-appreciation for the nature of the sex drive and the lengths men will go to satisfy said drive. They don't feel it AT ALL, and it's impossible for them to walk in our shoes.

[MrReindeer-9515]

Myth that has been successfully busted by NUMEROUS men on this board. I know one poster who has seen hundreds of providers over many years. His wife has NEVER suspected. I suspect he is not alone.

You have to understand that part of the SO's cluelessness is a fundamental UNDER-appreciation for the nature of the sex drive and the lengths men will go to satisfy said drive. They don't feel it AT ALL, and it's impossible for them to walk in our shoes.

Not necessarily.

Other than a few notable exceptions(the author of this thread is one, and anybody remember Frugger, Southern Boy?), people don't tend to post about their experiences being busted/outed.

The second bold part is why dudes get busted. There is nothing wrong with the available tech, it's that its being implemented by a bunch of fools that are making important decisions with their dicks.

[Guest]

The concept of a 2nd phone always bothered me for the same reason. It would be a constant threat.

I know a client who has safety deposit box for his hobby phone and hobby computer. No one has access to it including his wife.

He did this because providers where contacting him by text when they where told not too contact him. His wife see it. Then when told her to stop texting his wife saw it. She told him I don't wanna be involved in your drama. (unbelievable behavior on her part) He should have written her a review to include this.

[Bit Banger]

... providers where contacting him by text when they where told not too contact him. His wife see it. Then when told her to stop texting his wife saw it. She told him I don't wanna be involved in your drama. (unbelievable behavior on her part) He should have written her a review to include this.

I agree that the community should be warned about her behavior, but this is NOT reviewable because it was not "a session".

How to handle this, possible outing event, IDK???

[Guest]

Im not what the rules are for reviews. But if he seen her, she did this, she should get bad a review. Thats bad behavior.

[Guest]

I have heard of this, I know of gals who purposely get men to pay their bills, take care of them. Bacily they are using the man, yet I'm sorry... I'm sick... I have no sex drive. when 99% of time it means they don't like you. They are just using you.

Perhaps, your wife has medical issues like hormonal.

[Boardmember]

I would agree with PB. Same situation. I can't really explain the zero interest in sex aside from the usual too worn out from work, the "unmentionables," maybe age (but we're still fairly young, oh, and me. Honestly, I'm doing everything I can & our relationship -- by her estimation -- is good. I'm staying fit and so on (not much I can do about my crank size. Average is best I can do.) But, no intimacy of any sort for years -- approaching ten... FML. Anway, it is off to EscortLand -- precisely because it isn't an affair. No need for that sort of connection or possible drama.

Anyway, to your original point. All the issues you mention can be handled by a burner/pre-paid smart phone. (I actually use an old iPod Touch since I almost never have to phone. Email, txt'ing and P411 work well on it.) Web browsers on these devices have the same incognito & privacy modes as a computer. Since I'm mostly a early afternoon visitor, it just stays in the office desk drawer.

Nikki: Your normally perfect instincts are betraying you here. You say the wife is getting it somewhere else if she stops having sex with you. This is simply not true. You have stated in previous posts that you have a high sex drive, and I believe you, but many women do not have this gift. Toss in three forbidden topics and 20 years of marriage and the urge just VANISHES. I for one would love it if my wife were having an affair. It would at least signal that her drive was not gone. But it is gone. I am incredibly attracted to her, but she is simply played out on the sex thing. It is not part of her life. It's over. Sad but true.

Edited October 3, 2014 by Boardmember
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[The Oxymoron]

There is nothing wrong with the available tech, it's that its being implemented by a bunch of fools that are making important decisions with their dicks.

Now that was a good stinger.... haha

[Doc77]

I took a chance, asked my wife if she would want to join. Turned out to be a very smart move on my part!

[N6_in_the_village]

How does one have an affair with a hooker? I thought it wad a business transaction.

And I thought it was a business transaction, but "I thought it wad a business transaction" kind of works pretty well, too

[LegalEagle]

2Big, that ALONE was worth the price of admission!