Reasons I don’t respond to your phone call.

[Jez UaBriain]

Reasons I don’t respond to your phone call.........

• You spoke so fast that after 3 tries on playback-I gave up.

• These are cell phones- sometimes the signal does cut in and out.

• Being the lucky owner (or unlucky) owner of the cheesiest android made today, much depends on which mountain I may be on when in the hills. In short words signal varies.

• I was busy with another client ,. Or doing real life stuff and to much time has gone by- for that I truly do apoplogize.

• You are just plain rude – I don’t respond well to rudeness. Therefor, ignore works quite well.

[macho]

Top 3 reasons why I never call you.

3. I don't meet the minimum age requirement.

2. I'm too scared.

1. I don't know how to use the telegraph machine.

[NaughtyNiceGuy]

Is this going to be a regular rant? The reason I don't cal you are all your rants.

[Guest]

Top 3 reasons why I never call you.

3. I don't meet the minimum age requirement.

2. I'm too scared. Dont be scared little boy, come to the dark side. lol

1. I don't know how to use the telegraph machine.

[Jez UaBriain]

Is this going to be a regular rant? The reason I don't cal you are all your rants.

Is that the best you can come up with. Somehow I expected better from you. Jaysus, you guys are slipping.....So what are you going to do... turn this into a good ol' boy ...lets gang up on jez fest. Everything I post you or A----- or B----- just have to twist and turn everything into a rant. Grow the fuck up. Its getting redundant and one of the many reasons far fewer ladies post here. Now run along and step away from your keyboard for awhile. And have yourself a nice day.

[The Oxymoron]

Is this going to be a regular rant? The reason I don't cal you are all your rants.

HAHAHAHA... no kidding.

[MAG]

Is this going to be a regular rant? The reason I don't cal you are all your rants.

You read my mind -- nicely said.

[The Oxymoron]

Is that the best you can come up with. Somehow I expected better from you. Jaysus, you guys are slipping.....So what are you going to do... turn this into a good ol' boy ...lets gang up on jez fest. Everything I post you or A----- or B----- just have to twist and turn everything into a rant. Grow the fuck up. Its getting redundant and one of the many reasons far fewer ladies post here. Now run along and step away from your keyboard for awhile. And have yourself a nice day.

I'm not quite sure why you think that anyone, male or female, finds your "rants" entertaining or educational.... and yes, they do come across as rants. In case you weren't aware of that.

I suspect that while the majority of people don't say anything (they are more polite, perhaps?), they probably feel the exact same way that the people who speak their minds do.

If you don't like the response you are getting, you might want to take a look at how you are coming across to people. Or you could just continue to post your occasional rants and get pissed off when people start taking shots at you and your posts.

[MAG]

Or you could just continue to post your occasional rants and get pissed off when people start taking shots at you and your posts.

History would indicate this is more likely.

[Denguy40]

Is this going to be a regular rant? The reason I don't cal you are all your rants.

Dude if she was my type I'd call her anyways. Lol. But, such is not the case.

[Jez UaBriain]

The hardest thing about writing is to put into words what you are trying to say. And s the idea and the context of what is written will always be perceived differently based on different personalities and intellects. And it is also a given that not all will like you based on how you write.

The peanut gallery here would say I was ranting if I posted the sky is blue. And the original post has been hijacked by said peanut gallery and Oxy.

I did not think it was a rant. And I honestly meant this as a topic opener, and an opportunity for anyone who wanted to post possible reasons why they haven’t returned calls. But, since I wrote it, it has turned into another Jez fuckfest for the peanut gallery.

If what I write is a reason to not see me, then I am glad that you don’t. Because there is a pretty good chance I would not see you based on how I perceive your personality.And why some may like to think that I am butt hurt by this, I am not. But since I do like to participate, I write what I think.

Would you rather I went away like many other ladies have?

[MAG]

The hardest thing about writing is to put into words what you are trying to say. And s the idea and the context of what is written will always be perceived differently based on different personalities and intellects. And it is also a given that not all will like you based on how you write.

True enough. Happens to us all. I think you should have ended this post right here, taking the high road. Because the rest of it just makes the whole thing look like another rant.

The peanut gallery here would say I was ranting if I posted the sky is blue. And the original post has been hijacked by said peanut gallery and Oxy.

Hijacked?

I did not think it was a rant. And I honestly meant this as a topic opener, and an opportunity for anyone who wanted to post possible reasons why they haven’t returned calls. But, since I wrote it, it has turned into another Jez fuckfest for the peanut gallery.

I guess this is the butthurt part....

If what I write is a reason to not see me, then I am glad that you don’t. Because there is a pretty good chance I would not see you based on how I perceive your personality.And why some may like to think that I am butt hurt by this, I am not. But since I do like to participate, I write what I think.

No wait, THIS must be the butthurt part.

Would you rather I went away like many other ladies have?

Don't let the door hit ya

[Bit Banger]

While I did think that the OP sounded like a rant, she's correct that it is a valid topic of discussion, one that applies to both M & F. One of her stated reasons is one we should all be thankful for:

I was busy with another client ,. Or doing real life stuff and to much time has gone by- for that I truly do apoplogize.

How many of you would welcome a return call in the evening, say family dinner hour, when you were trying to schedule a nooner? The old rule was not to return any call older than 1hr unless explicitly told otherwise.

As for the rant part, I've noticed that Jez likes to poke us in the ribs every so often just to keep the board lively. She does speak her mind, much like our friend 2Big. If you don't want to participate in the discussion, then don't! Is it really any worse than the "411 on this BP ad?" threads?

Hyjack? The complaints about stating the obvious for old timers were off-topic. (As is this post. )

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If what I write is a reason to not see me, then I am glad that you don’t. Because there is a pretty good chance I would not see you based on how I perceive your personality. ...

This works both ways - gals don't respond to guys because of their board persona & guys don't call gals because of their board persona. That's just one factor in our screening process.

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Don't let the door hit ya

Really? Think about that, av8r. I suppose that we could turn this into a guy's only forum, but we already have one of those. We could also turn it into a forum where everybody agreed on everything - all sunshine & Pollyanna or all doom & gloom. But that pabulum would not hold my attention. The variety of viewpoints, and yes - specifically the ladies' viewpoints, is what draws me to this forum. I agree that there's a LOT of re-hash for the old timers of what is often fresh material for the new comers. But just because we learned this stuff years ago, does not mean that it isn't important for the new client or provider. But that's true for any forum over time, whether it applies to adult services or woodworking, as participants drift in & out of the discussion.

[The Oxymoron]

You gotta know that the reason some guys won't call a provider is because of their board persona and posts. That you don't like that fact being voiced, doesn't mean that it's a "Jez Fest". Lot's of people dislike me, and my board persona. Do you think I give a rat's ass?

It also doesn't mean that NaughtyNiceGuy's isn't a valid (and I thought pretty funny) contribution to the thread, that you started about why you don't call people back.

That you bicker about it, instead of taking the higher road, is exactly what gets you targeted by the board instigators. Don't get into it with them, if you don't want to get into it with them!

Of course I don't want to see the board turn into a sausage party. But if you are actually getting your feelings hurt on this stupid message board, and women are usually more sensitive types, it's probably healthier for you as a person to push away from the keyboard.

I don't want to see you go, but if you are truly upset about what is said on TOB, this isn't a good place for you.... or for anyone who is having those feelings.

[Audrey Astor]

Well then... I get what Jez was originally saying.

Sometimes I get a voicemail that indicates appropriate times to return the call, but sometimes they don't. As Bit mentioned, I don't want to call at the wrong time, and cause any family, spouse, work issues. If it were a text, I will respond, as hopefully that is more discreet. So, if you forgot to include a time to return your call, I'm not ignoring you, PLEASE call back.

[Guest Mr.Bubble]

While I did think that the OP sounded like a rant, she's correct that it is a valid topic of discussion, one that applies to both M & F. One of her stated reasons is one we should all be thankful for:

How many of you would welcome a return call in the evening, say family dinner hour, when you were trying to schedule a nooner? The old rule was not to return any call older than 1hr unless explicitly told otherwise.

As for the rant part, I've noticed that Jez likes to poke us in the ribs every so often just to keep the board lively. She does speak her mind, much like our friend 2Big. If you don't want to participate in the discussion, then don't! Is it really any worse than the "411 on this BP ad?" threads?7

Hyjack? The complaints about stating the obvious for old timers were off-topic. (As is this post. )

This works both ways - gals don't respond to guys because of their board persona & guys don't call gals because of their board persona. That's just one factor in our screening process.

Really? Think about that, av8r. I suppose that we could turn this into a guy's only forum, but we already have one of those. We could also turn it into a forum where everybody agreed on everything - all sunshine & Pollyanna or all doom & gloom. But that pabulum would not hold my attention. The variety of viewpoints, and yes - specifically the ladies' viewpoints, is what draws me to this forum. I agree that there's a LOT of re-hash for the old timers of what is often fresh material for the new comers. But just because we learned this stuff years ago, does not mean that it isn't important for the new client or provider. But that's true for any forum over time, whether it applies to adult services or woodworking, as participants drift in & out of the discussion.

+1, especially on the reason I come here. Also, I have made the decision to visit some ladies because of their posts here , and have put off the decision to see others due to their postings.

Ladies, I know there is value to your business in being favorably reviewed, and in maintaining a presence here, but you do need to be aware of how you sometimes come off. There is a providerthat regularly posts here that I was always attracted to, but she scared me half to death. I was so intimidated I was convinced for almost a year that I could NEVER meet her exacting standards. Fortunately I grew a pair and found out how nice she is in person.

Your posts can make business or lose business.

A lot of ladies recognize this, and have decided that the shit they have to put up with is not worth the effort of posting here. That is sad and I miss their intelligent and funny posts.

I know that the stated purpose of this site is to be a resource for the guys, but if this becomes a forum full of nothin' but swingin' dicks, it will be a place I no longer visit. And, Gina, I would think you would want to do what you can to protect the value of your investment and keep the ladies here. I know my opinion + 3 bucks will get you a cup of coffee at Starbucks....... but there it is.

[Maestro]

Well said, BB.... It's the "presents" of the ladies that brings me to viewTOB, not that I often post. I prefer to keep my conversations more private. I certainly appreciate everyone's honesty rant or not. It helps me ANALize posters personalities. "Peace"

[MAG]

Well thought-out post, Bit. I see that there are is at least one person who puts thought into his rebuttals. It's refreshing.

I also thought some of her original points were valid. However, when I read the post it came off to me as a rant. Possibly because of her (well deserved) reputation, partly because there was no pre-amble, such as "in case you guys are wondering..." Such a pre-amble is usually needed since we're not face-to-face. Words are needed to provide the context that voice & body language would otherwise supply.

Anyway, I don't have much sympathy for the "butthurt wounded" syndrome. I don't necessarily want this to become a sausage fest either, but some of the gals here provide more value than others....

[Guest Mr.Bubble]

Well thought-out post, Bit. I see that there are is at least one person who puts thought into his rebuttals. It's refreshing.

I also thought some of her original points were valid. However, when I read the post it came off to me as a rant. Possibly because of her (well deserved) reputation, partly because there was no pre-amble, such as "in case you guys are wondering..." Such a pre-amble is usually needed since we're not face-to-face. Words are needed to provide the context that voice & body language would otherwise supply.

Anyway, I don't have much sympathy for the "butthurt wounded" syndrome. I don't necessarily want this to become a sausage fest either, but some of the gals here provide more value than others....

This is true, but eloquence is not required in the bedroom. However, lack of writing skills does not negate the validity of anyones opinion. While I don't always agree with her, I find many of Jez' posts entertaining.

[Happymon]

Would you rather I went away like many other ladies have?

Wouldn't be the same without you.

[NaughtyNiceGuy]

Yes if all you are going do to is rant. You used to post some interesting information but for the last couple years you just keep repeating a few of your rants. Maybe you try some one on one rants then you lose the john you don't want to see and not lose more potential johns. [snip}

Edited May 10, 2014 by boink36
Intended to antagonize.

[lilithia]

I can't believe how hostile the men get over a rant as you say. I know using the board is another form of advertising for the ladies but maybe its time to let the man have the board all to themselves.

Man know where there are woman there will always be a rant or two. So why get worked up over it.

Or maybe the johns forget we are still woman. WE have all of the same ills as other women do so if a provider is having a bad day and needs to vent let it be.

Beside its not like any of you johns really care anyway.

lilithia

[MAG]

I can't believe how hostile the men get over a rant as you say. I know using the board is another form of advertising for the ladies but maybe its time to let the man have the board all to themselves.

Man know where there are woman there will always be a rant or two. So why get worked up over it.

Or maybe the johns forget we are still woman. WE have all of the same ills as other women do so if a provider is having a bad day and needs to vent let it be.

Beside its not like any of you johns really care anyway.

lilithia

If it's "just a rant" -- why not use the escorts-only board?

I didn't interpret any response as someone who "got worked up over it". Even if someone did "get worked up over it", how about YOU just chalk it up to a john having a bad day and needs to vent and let it be?

[lilithia]

and this a very good point to let the men have the board all to yourselves. I myself do not understand why the ladies would want to put their feeling out there like that anyway. Like I said you Johns careless.

I am not a member of EOB but from what I hear its useless, beside Jez was referring to you (clients). Why she would think any one cares is beyond me, but if she feel better after commenting on it than so be it. And if you and any other trick wants to act like a a "Bitch" over it than bitch on honey LOL After all it is a mans board.

lilithia

[fork]

I can't believe how hostile the men get over a rant

So did anyone notice that the number of men who got "hostile" in this thread can be counted on one hand with fingers to spare? Out of the 734 views this thread is reported to have?

I do realize that stereotypes are a great timesaver.

[Jez UaBriain]

Thanks everyone for your input. But really if you don't like what I write- then don't read it. I don't care if a trick doesn't want to see me because he doesn't like how I write. I don't come here to get laid.

I am somewhat surprised that this is happening, over a simple post. And I will say I am weary of always having the peanut gallery jump on every thing I write. Some here need to get a life. Because you have to be bored to turn a simple topic into a train wreck. I realize that being tactful is not my better quality. And sometimes I will throw a thread on here in a hurry because I have other stuff to attend to. So I don't always check it for sentence structure, spelling , etc. So If you good ol' boys think I am to stupid to write here, then don't read my stuff. Its that simple.

Like I said, "if I said the sky was blue, then the pack would say different. And the men who are hostile about this are few. But it just gets redundant feeling like everything I write is so scrutinized by these few .

Its like having a pack of little dogs yapping at your heels. So with that said, good night.

[Lucy Kitten]

+1, especially on the reason I come here. Also, I have made the decision to visit some ladies because of their posts here , and have put off the decision to see others due to their postings.

Ladies, I know there is value to your business in being favorably reviewed, and in maintaining a presence here, but you do need to be aware of how you sometimes come off. There is a providerthat regularly posts here that I was always attracted to, but she scared me half to death. I was so intimidated I was convinced for almost a year that I could NEVER meet her exacting standards. Fortunately I grew a pair and found out how nice she is in person.

Your posts can make business or lose business.

A lot of ladies recognize this, and have decided that the shit they have to put up with is not worth the effort of posting here. That is sad and I miss their intelligent and funny posts.

I know that the stated purpose of this site is to be a resource for the guys, but if this becomes a forum full of nothin' but swingin' dicks, it will be a place I no longer visit. And, Gina, I would think you would want to do what you can to protect the value of your investment and keep the ladies here. I know my opinion + 3 bucks will get you a cup of coffee at Starbucks....... but there it is.

On this rare occasion I welcome the judgement, brace yourself for the cliche. If you don't want to see me based on my posts I will thank you now for saving us both an awkward situation because I probably don't want to see you either.

I read some of my old posts now and then and some are just cringe worthy but I don't regret them. I believe in what I say and am more than happy to own my statements. Anyone who fails to see that about me is someone who I am just not going to get along with. I am vocal about my beliefs and opinions and often I am one of the few that likes to really speak out and that seems to give the impression to some that I am some sort of whiny ball buster. I think for the most part even when I disagree my posts are still respectful, some push my buttons and I don't always respond kindly but I am only human.

I do try to mind my Ps and Qs, some days are just harder than others. There aren't many other options when it comes to talking "biz" and I appreciate the outlet offered here. I play by the rules and refrain from calling you all a bunch of dildo factory rejects Some might find this hard to believe but I am really quite friendly and very nice in person.

Despite whatever perceived tone that was assumed from her post Jez does bring up a good topic. There are some guys that just have the absolute worst timing when it comes to calling me, there is just no possible way I can return some of their calls. Most just don't leave a time frame in which it's acceptable to call back so I feel uncomfortable returning those calls if more than an hour has passed.

[Bit Banger]

It's like the grammar & spelling police who frequent some boards. All it takes is one or two to twist and deflect one's thoughts.

F u kin red dis ya git ma meenin!

( Confession: I've been known to point out corrections being somewhat OCD about my own language use. But in the interest of harmony I try to let 'the small stuff' slide.)

[Guest Mr.Bubble]

On this rare occasion I welcome the judgement, brace yourself for the cliche. If you don't want to see me based on my posts I will thank you now for saving us both an awkward situation because I probably don't want to see you either.

I read some of my old posts now and then and some are just cringe worthy but I don't regret them. I believe in what I say and am more than happy to own my statements. Anyone who fails to see that about me is someone who I am just not going to get along with. I am vocal about my beliefs and opinions and often I am one of the few that likes to really speak out and that seems to give the impression to some that I am some sort of whiny ball buster. I think for the most part even when I disagree my posts are still respectful, some push my buttons and I don't always respond kindly but I am only human.

I do try to mind my Ps and Qs, some days are just harder than others. There aren't many other options when it comes to talking "biz" and I appreciate the outlet offered here. I play by the rules and refrain from calling you all a bunch of dildo factory rejects Some might find this hard to believe but I am really quite friendly and very nice in person.

Despite whatever perceived tone that was assumed from her post Jez does bring up a good topic. There are some guys that just have the absolute worst timing when it comes to calling me, there is just no possible way I can return some of their calls. Most just don't leave a time frame in which it's acceptable to call back so I feel uncomfortable returning those calls if more than an hour has passed.

Many of my posts are cringe-worthy as well. But I can get away with it because I'm the customer.

You said what I was trying to say better than I did. Ladies posts here HAVE influenced my decision to see or not see them. Experience with these ladies at a later date show that a decision to not see them was in error. You simply can't get to know a person from a few posts, especially since all of us post stupid shit from time to time.

I'll say it again. All of you ladies who are considering leaving.......please don't. Any of you ladies who have left.....while I can understand your reasons and frustrations......your contributions are missed.

Edited May 11, 2014 by Mr.Bubble
speeling

[MAG]

Thanks everyone for your input. But really if you don't like what I write- then don't read it.

If you followed your own advice, you wouldn't end up so upset every time someone called your post a "rant"

I don't care if a trick doesn't want to see me because he doesn't like how I write. I don't come here to get laid.

Since you brought it up, why DO you come here? It seems obvious that you don't enjoy it much....

And I will say I am weary of always having the peanut gallery jump on every thing I write. I realize that being tactful is not my better quality.

Maybe those two things are related.

So If you good ol' boys think I am to stupid to write here, then don't read my stuff. Its that simple.

Again, try practicing what you preach sometime, you might find that you are happier.

And the men who are hostile about this are few.

The two most hostile people in this thread are you & lilithia.