Posted October 21, 2013 Hello, I'm hoping that some of the ladies who frequent this forum can share a bit about how escorting has or is affecting their relationships with boyfriends. Maybe this is not a common occurrence (that escorts have boyfriends) but I know it happens. The reasons for my curiosity is that I have been in a relationship for over two years with a woman who has periodically worked as escort. She lives in Tijuana and was working when we met. She quit for me (so she said) but subsequently went back to work, at least a few times. Each time was to deal with a financial crisis that I couldn't help with but there have been a variety of other circumstances that have me wondering if she is still seeing former clients, either occasionally or on a regular basis. One thing I noticed after some time was that our sexual relationship changed. Sex was and is always great but some things are different. Some are hard to put a finger on...more the “feel” and then some specific (e.g., oral sex, sexual positions). One thing that started was that often the first night together she would ask me to wait. I should mention that she has a persistent problem with a cyst on her Bartonlia gland on the inside of her thigh, which has been operated on to be removed three times. This was the excuse, which at times (maybe everytime), was a legitimate excuse. The main difference is that she no longer lets me give her oral sex. Now I don't want to brag but have been told by numerous woman that I have excellent skills in this area. She used to enjoy receiving oral sex and would have major orgasms. No more...hmmm. She was never much for giving oral sex, which is somewhat of a bummer but she is so damn tight and making love is so awesome that I'd rather climax inside her anyway. As far as positions, our sex is much more tame (though as I mentioned, still awesome). We just don't progress through a lot of different positions. I really think her cyst is an issue. I have felt it and sometimes it is quite large. Anyway. I'm curious how some of you ladies who have had a relationship (call it boyfriend or sugardaddy or whatever) but someone with whom you have an emotional bond, have noticed a change in your sexual desires, preferences, etc while dating and working. Fpr example. one escort told me she cant enjoy oral sex after seeing a client. Thanks in advance for any insight you can provide and have a great week! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 21, 2013 First, sex in a relationship does change over time. Familiarity with each other can reduce the 'need' and also tend to speed things up as each partner knows what will get the other off. Second, for people who have been promiscuous it can sometimes be difficult to settle into monogamy. In your case, this is further complicated by the fact that she can solve her short term financial need quickly and easily. Last, get the cyst removed competently and completely. This will eliminate it as an obstacle to you both enjoying good sex. Oh, one last thought, most women do not want their S.O. going down on them after they have had sex with another partner. Fact is, do you really want her to? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 21, 2013 Sex between partners evolves through the years -- ebbs and flows -- mostly ebbs -- especially if you're married, but I digress. Hello, I'm hoping that some of the ladies who frequent this forum can share a bit about how escorting has or is affecting their relationships with boyfriends. Maybe this is not a common occurrence (that escorts have boyfriends) but I know it happens. The reasons for my curiosity is that I have been in a relationship for over two years with a woman who has periodically worked as escort. She lives in Tijuana and was working when we met. She quit for me (so she said) but subsequently went back to work, at least a few times. Each time was to deal with a financial crisis that I couldn't help with but there have been a variety of other circumstances that have me wondering if she is still seeing former clients, either occasionally or on a regular basis. One thing I noticed after some time was that our sexual relationship changed. Sex was and is always great but some things are different. Some are hard to put a finger on...more the “feel” and then some specific (e.g., oral sex, sexual positions). One thing that started was that often the first night together she would ask me to wait. I should mention that she has a persistent problem with a cyst on her Bartonlia gland on the inside of her thigh, which has been operated on to be removed three times. This was the excuse, which at times (maybe everytime), was a legitimate excuse. The main difference is that she no longer lets me give her oral sex. Now I don't want to brag but have been told by numerous woman that I have excellent skills in this area. She used to enjoy receiving oral sex and would have major orgasms. No more...hmmm. She was never much for giving oral sex, which is somewhat of a bummer but she is so damn tight and making love is so awesome that I'd rather climax inside her anyway. As far as positions, our sex is much more tame (though as I mentioned, still awesome). We just don't progress through a lot of different positions. I really think her cyst is an issue. I have felt it and sometimes it is quite large. Anyway. I'm curious how some of you ladies who have had a relationship (call it boyfriend or sugardaddy or whatever) but someone with whom you have an emotional bond, have noticed a change in your sexual desires, preferences, etc while dating and working. Fpr example. one escort told me she cant enjoy oral sex after seeing a client. Thanks in advance for any insight you can provide and have a great week! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 21, 2013 Well, this is why dating a provider is always going to be difficult. YOU KNOW, in the back of your mind, THAT YOUR GIRL IS SLEEPING WITH OTHER GUYS. So, whenever you get an issue in your relationship, you're going to jump immediately to that. She showed up late...maybe she was with a client? She didnt orgasm during your 7-minute sexcapade last night? Maybe its cuz she did her favorite client earlier that day? She seems to be thinking of something else instead of doing the dishes?? Maybe she's thinking of the client she saw earlier that day? It happened to Woody in Indecent Proposal and it will happen to MANY "normal" guys in the same situation. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 23, 2013 tsk, tsk, red. nagging sexual insecurity is a bad thing for any 'relationship' especially with a hooker. it's a foregone conclusion that you ain't gonna be the biggest cock she takes it from or the most skilled lover either. a real relationship is about more than just the old in-and-out. so at the end of every day, after all the condoms are flushed and the cum-soaked washcloths are dropped in the laundry hamper, if the escort-girlfriend chooses to come home to you, wtf difference does it make? despite what most hobby horse's perceptions are, i seriously doubt that too many hookers pine over too many studs that tromp in and out of their beds on the daily. me, i'd be washing those goddamn dishes myself after cooking dinner and giving her a long back massage (sans happy ending) 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 23, 2013 ... a real relationship is about more than just the old in-and-out. ... yeah verily! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 23, 2013 No Ladies have responded yet, but I'll throw my two cents in. A Lady is providing a service. All the attention is focused, at least it should be, on the client. If the Lady has "fun" at the same time she is providing a service, that is an unexpected benefit. Most of the Ladies enjoy their work. They enjoy sending a man to heaven and gently bringing him back to reality. In her private life, she is a woman. She has all the needs, wants, and desire of a woman. Her view of men in general might be different, but if she is in a relationship with a man it is because she likes him, not because she needs him. On your question of wanting to wait, could be showing up and jumping in bed is too much like a session. She might want the feeling that you enjoy her presence even without sex right away. DATY is probably very common in her sessions and she wants something different in her private life. As in all good relationships, communication is the key. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 23, 2013 No lady will respond, JMHO. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 27, 2013 Having sex with clients is very different (for me) than having sex with my man. It always has been. When I'm "Kelly" I'm bringing my A-game, I'm performing for you. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy what I do, but it's still a performance of sorts. When I'm with my man, I'm not always bringing my A-game, I'm not performing. I'm just me. Just my two cents. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 27, 2013 Well, this is why dating a provider is always going to be difficult. YOU KNOW, in the back of your mind, THAT YOUR GIRL IS SLEEPING WITH OTHER GUYS. How would this be different from any other woman on earth? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 28, 2013 I want to boyfriend sex and escort too! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 28, 2013 Having sex with clients is very different (for me) than having sex with my man. It always has been. When I'm "Kelly" I'm bringing my A-game, I'm performing for you. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy what I do, but it's still a performance of sorts. When I'm with my man, I'm not always bringing my A-game, I'm not performing. I'm just me...Very well said Kelly! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 29, 2013 Poking my head out from under my rock to leave this link here, as it directly relates to the OP's question and I wish I'd had this to give to my ex boyfriends (particularly the whorephobic one) though I wasn't an active sex worker while dating them. http://christianbvega.blogspot.com/2013/04/how-to-date-sex-worker.html?m=1 My take? Talk to her about it. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 29, 2013 Having sex with clients is very different (for me) than having sex with my man. It always has been. When I'm "Kelly" I'm bringing my A-game, I'm performing for you. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy what I do, but it's still a performance of sorts. When I'm with my man, I'm not always bringing my A-game, I'm not performing. I'm just me. Just my two cents. PARAPHRASE: Having sex with escorts is very different (for me) than having sex with my SO. It always has been. When I'm "Bit" I'm bringing my A-game, I'm performing. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy what I do, but it's still a performance of sorts. I read Kelly's post and related in so many ways. An ASP visit can be an event for clients, too. Homelife can be same-same, dull, and uninspiring. For some of us (clients) there is no sex in homelife, which makes an ASP visit even more special. We get to let loose, request activities objectionable to our SOs, and otherwise explore life. Why should the ladies feel any different? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 29, 2013 ... http://christianbvega.blogspot.com/2013/04/how-to-date-sex-worker.html?m=1 .... Good read. My problem on the occasions I've dated a sex worker have not been jealousy over sex, but rather problems related to schedule. I was working a 9-5, her hours were all over the clock and sporadic. We could arrange a dinner date or movie, but then a client would call and she'd run off to work, sometimes with an obvious excuse instead of the truth. While more predictable, I had similar problems with my wife when I was going to college and working the grave yard shift. I needed to sleep when she wanted to go out & play. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 29, 2013 Poking my head out from under my rock to leave this link here, as it directly relates to the OP's question and I wish I'd had this to give to my ex boyfriends (particularly the whorephobic one) though I wasn't an active sex worker while dating them. http://christianbvega.blogspot.com/2013/04/how-to-date-sex-worker.html?m=1 My take? Talk to her about it. Great article. Exactly. Sometimes, friends think they can date me. I always think - even if I've seen someone for years..."You don't really know me. You just know what I show you and what you pay for." I'd hate to be in a relationship and feel like I still had to be Sascha in bed, all the time...or at all. That's a mindfuck. That would make me very sad in a love relationship. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
