You ever have one of those days?

[Guest]

Or weeks, really. Just wanted a FBSM. Nothing special. No big deal. Yeah, I know. I should stay away from backpage. Two really bad, poorly organized, ultimately no show experiences. Ok. I get it. So I come here, look at reviews. Great, highly reviewed provider near downtown, which is kinda key for me. She had an ad on backpage today. Super. Email is the only contact. No problem. I'll book in advance. Get this set up and get this nonsense behind me.

No reply.

Is it me? Did I forget to shower? Do I need a secret handshake or something? I would think I'm a kinda "desirable" client. Reasonably fit, clean, executive, with money, doesn't try to haggle, respectful. Am I expecting too much? If you ask for email, shouldn't you at least reply? I offered to provide any information for screening. If there's a problem, no worries. Just let me know. I'll move on. But you know. Reply to you damn email. Super unprofessional. Can you leave a review for that?

What a waste of time. The one thing I don't have.

[Guest]

Its Friday. She could have been booked out. Maybe she posted, but wasn't working today. (auto post) With an email only as her contact, I would think you have know to be patient and wait for her response. Maybe this is not full time job for her. It could be part time. You just dont know. Maybe she didn't get your email, did you double check and see if you had the right email address? We all know, I usually don't stick up for the providers, but I am right now... Honestly... If you want to see someone right now, today.... its best to seek a provider whom offers her phone number. Sometimes last minute request don't work out. Esp if she is already booked out, hasn't even screen you yet... If you asked her about money or sex acts she may never respond.... there could be more than one reason why she didn't get back you right second. lol

"Reply to you damn email. Super unprofessional." Why are you so upset? Maybe your blacklisted and thats why she never responded to you. You don't know... how about you give her till monday night to respond? Some girls don't work weekends. Im trying to be reasonable here. Try to take all these things into consideration, take deep breath...

[Guest]

"Maybe she posted, but wasn't working today. (auto post)"

How does that work?

There must be a lot of that, auto post. I have had experiences where there are posts and the lady isn't working that day. Not only BP but EB too.

And BTW, I am not picking sides here. Just trying to relate my experiences.

[Bit Banger]

I NEVER use email for contact when trying to book a same day appointment. If a phone# isn't provided, move on. Even w/P411, I follow up my request with a phone call. The P411 request provides the details; the phone call is an alert telling her to check P411.

[Guest]

i'm just stressed out and had a rough day. My own fault for having the previous two no shows. They looked kinda sketchy from the get go. Not fair to take it out on this person who may eventually get back to me.

And guess I should mention this even if I don't understand it. I had a PM suggesting people think they know who i'm talking about? It was not that person.

Not a big deal. Sorry for being grumpy.

[Guest]

"Reply to you damn email. Super unprofessional." Why are you so upset? Maybe your blacklisted and thats why she never responded to you. You don't know... how about you give her till monday night to respond? Some girls don't work weekends. Im trying to be reasonable here. Try to take all these things into consideration, take deep breath...

It's almost like I need to find a hobby that will help me relieve some stress. lol

Thanks for your post. I appreciate the perspective. Certainly possible she just hasn't gotten to it yet. Wish I hadn't posted this. I'd delete the whole thing if I could.

[Guest]

"Maybe she posted, but wasn't working today. (auto post)"

How does that work?

There must be a lot of that, auto post. I have had experiences where there are posts and the lady isn't working that day. Not only BP but EB too.

And BTW, I am not picking sides here. Just trying to relate my experiences.

When you purchase on backpage it gives you the option to autopost.

[inkspot]

I have experienced the same thing as the OP lately.

This way I save soooo much money by not spending it on providers that do not bother to respond after supplying the needed references.

[pitbull]

Yes, it can often seem absurdly difficult to give money away.

[stevie]

The benefit of being a provider, can work when they want!, they should atleast respond saying they ars booked,busy,or for what ever reason, just plain rude if they dont, same with voicemails, why are they always full?

[Guest]

The benefit of being a provider, can work when they want!, they should atleast respond saying they ars booked,busy,or for what ever reason, just plain rude if they dont, same with voicemails, why are they always full?

Yeppers....Full of Cock lol

[pfunk]

I NEVER use email for contact when trying to book a same day appointment. If a phone# isn't provided, move on. Even w/P411, I follow up my request with a phone call. The P411 request provides the details; the phone call is an alert telling her to check P411.

This is the best response in this thread. If she wants your business, only offers email contact, but doesn't respond within 70 minutes, move on.

Call girl #2. Leave a message. If no call back within 70 minutes, call girl #3.

If you don't have that much time, call different girls, who interest you, until you get someone who answers the phone.

Then say "I'd like to schedule an appointment please!". Easy Peasy.

It really isn't hard to get an appointment same day. Really, it isn't.

[inkspot]

It really isn't hard to get an appointment same day. Really, it isn't.

Depends on how low on the list you want to go.

Wait 70 minutes? That is pretty brutal. I try to schedule at least a day in advance.

[Guest]

Since I started this stupid thread, I should follow up. I did just get a reply and a very nice apology and explanation. Just as Nikki suggested, I was just being impatient. Everything is good and I'm looking forward to having some fun.

And Nikki, I really appreciate your input. Nice of you to take time to sort something out for someone else.

[Guest]

Since I started this stupid thread, I should follow up. I did just get a reply and a very nice apology and explanation. Just as Nikki suggested, I was just being impatient. Everything is good and I'm looking forward to having some fun.

And Nikki, I really appreciate your input. Nice of you to take time to sort something out for someone else.

Its no big deal. Iv done stupid things too. We all have. You just have learn from it and move on. Bigs hugs.

[Guest]

It's one of those things. I know it was stupid to chase after sketchy looking ads with no reviews. I have no excuse for trying to be cheap. If I hadn't done that I wouldn't have had the two no shows. But that kinda set the table for this to bug me more than it should have, even though that's totally unfair.

[sparkey600]

HAHAHAHA!

That was RICH!!!

[Real Colorado Guy]

Yep I've been there too. In fact I had a no call now show recently from a reputable provider. I did write a review.

I'm disappointed too when emails don't get returned especially when she did reply in the beginning. Been waiting months for a reply. I guess the way I look at it is that that provider(s) doesn't want my money/business. No big issue. I guess we would like an answer even if it's "I don't want to see you." but that's not always going to happen.

So what I've decided is to try to see a good number of providers on a consistent basis and add 1-2 new ones when possible as well so that I have a go to if I need the day of or day before appointment & it seems to work for me. But i always try to schedule well in advance. To those providers that that I speak of, thank you; I appreciate it. You know who you are.

So in conclusion there are plenty of nice ladies out there. Thanks you for being there for us.

[dj278]

A couple months ago I decided to contact a well-established lady on P411 with excellent reviews whose rate was well above what I normally pay. I have about 10 OK's, just looking for vanilla GFE, and have never had a problem with any provider, so I thought it was a shoo-in. I usually just stick with my ATF, but she was out of town.

My request was for an appointment a week away. I received an auto-email notifying me that she had looked at my profile the same day, but that was it. Two days later I sent a PM to politely inquire about my request. I never heard a thing even though she was logging on every day.

I have no issue at all with any provider not wanting to see any client, but I would think it would be more professional to just notify me of that. I held out hope until the appointment day a couple hours before the time I requested, and then sent her a PM saying that I was withdrawing my request and letting her know as a courtesy. Never heard a thing back. I was pretty surprised and disappointed, and would have scheduled with another if I had heard back in time.

But, this is a wild and woolly truly free market, and I am so happy it exists for all of us.

[MrFister]

Never heard a thing back. I was pretty surprised and disappointed, and would have scheduled with another if I had heard back in time.

I always send a P411 request if possible. But I've found that I get a response probably less than 50% of the time through that channel. Sending my request through additional channels - phone, text, e-mail - will usually insure a response and an appointment.

[nudiej]

Truly, YMMV - right down to no call no shows, no answer, no voicemail, no good massage, no good HE - it just is...

someone said you gotta just move on, +1...

I got burned enough back in a day that I realized I always need a contingency plan when dealing with this community - especially with BP - unless you have seen a provider before (the more the better), there are no guarantees whatsoever...

live and learn - and share - so that others may learn from these choices as well...

[Guest]

A couple months ago I decided to contact a well-established lady on P411 with excellent reviews whose rate was well above what I normally pay. I have about 10 OK's, just looking for vanilla GFE, and have never had a problem with any provider, so I thought it was a shoo-in. I usually just stick with my ATF, but she was out of town.

My request was for an appointment a week away. I received an auto-email notifying me that she had looked at my profile the same day, but that was it. Two days later I sent a PM to politely inquire about my request. I never heard a thing even though she was logging on every day.

I have no issue at all with any provider not wanting to see any client, but I would think it would be more professional to just notify me of that. I held out hope until the appointment day a couple hours before the time I requested, and then sent her a PM saying that I was withdrawing my request and letting her know as a courtesy. Never heard a thing back. I was pretty surprised and disappointed, and would have scheduled with another if I had heard back in time.

But, this is a wild and woolly truly free market, and I am so happy it exists for all of us.

Reason#1 Some times gentlemen get blacklisted for no reason, or for something they actually did. So when you are seeking an appointment with a provider who takes black listings very serious and she reads your profile. She never called you. She never emailed you. Then you contact her again. She never responds. There is a reason she never contacted you.

Reason#2 Escorts who don't like each other. (I'm using fake names) Miss Pussy hates Miss Passion. You book Miss Passion (without knowing all fucking hooker drama queen bull shit lol). Then Miss passion sees your profile, one of your okays is from Miss Pussy. Miss passion decided not to ever see you if you seen Miss Pussy. Because if Miss Pussy finds out you seen Miss Passion shit will hit fan for Miss Passion. Thats why she never saw you.

Reason#3 She has no reason not to see you. After a week of two emails and she read your profile. This is lazy escort whom is not professional. lol

[Guest]

Reason#1 Some times gentlemen get blacklisted for no reason, or for something they actually did. So when you are seeking an appointment with a provider who takes black listings very serious and she reads your profile. She never called you. She never emailed you. Then you contact her again. She never responds. There is a reason she never contacted you.

Reason#2 Escorts who don't like each other. (I'm using fake names) Miss Pussy hates Miss Passion. You book Miss Passion (without knowing all fucking hooker drama queen bull shit lol). Then Miss passion sees your profile, one of your okays is from Miss Pussy. Miss passion decided not to ever see you if you seen Miss Pussy. Because if Miss Pussy finds out you seen Miss Passion shit will hit fan for Miss Passion.Thats why she never saw you.

LOL ART IMITATES LIFE.

To hell with Miss Passion. She couldn't keep her fucking mouth shut, and thats how Miss Pussy finds out. She may scream and yell at Miss Passion, but it is your sorry ass she is going to black list.

Then you are back to number one. Your P411 account is compromised. And if Miss Pussy has your personal info, your life as you know it is over.

Yeah, you're going to be seriously fucked, and no one will ever buy you dinner.

Pay attention to Nikki, boys. She may be annoying at times, but this is how it really works.

[Bit Banger]

...

My request was for an appointment a week away. I received an auto-email notifying me that she had looked at my profile the same day, but that was it. Two days later I sent a PM to politely inquire about my request. I never heard a thing even though she was logging on every day.

I have no issue at all with any provider not wanting to see any client, but I would think it would be more professional to just notify me of that. I held out hope until the appointment day a couple hours before the time I requested, and then sent her a PM saying that I was withdrawing my request and letting her know as a courtesy. Never heard a thing back. I was pretty surprised and disappointed, and would have scheduled with another if I had heard back in time. ...

And the ladies complain about time wasters!

Since no appointment was made, this is not a reviewable event. But such unprofessional behavior should (IMHO) be reported to P411.

Failure to respond to reasonable requests, even if it's "I'm not interested." is almost as bad as an NC/NS.

[Guest]

And the ladies complain about time wasters!

Since no appointment was made, this is not a reviewable event. But such unprofessional behavior should (IMHO) be reported to P411.

Failure to respond to reasonable requests, even if it's "I'm not interested." is almost as bad as an NC/NS.

Escorts and Johns are like bus stops. You miss one, you catch another in 15minutes. NEXT...lol:D

[Guest]

For some of us who have very little experience, Nikki Holiday is like the teacher. Mmmm. I always had a crush on my teacher. LOL

Seriously, you're very cool to provide so much input on here. This nonsense is weird enough. A little perspective is much appreciated.

Still don't understand the whole idea of "Black list for no reason". But whatever. Point I've learned from this whole thing is, stop worrying so much. I sometimes forget that none of this matters and start taking life seriously. Always wake up again eventually.

[Bit Banger]

Escorts and Johns are like bus stops. You miss one, you catch another in 15minutes. NEXT...lol:D

Right! For some of us the next bus doesn't come by until the next week (or month). Others are sufficient gentlemen that we don't initiate additional negotidtions until the current situation is resolved.

This "next?" attitude breeds 4F practices in the fellas. We develop time wasting habits like calling 6 YL, book with the first to call back, and ignore the rest.

You've wasted our time! Why shouldn't we waste yours?

One of the advantages of street walkers - you know what their availability is? NOW.

[inkspot]

Never heard a thing back.

This is very typical.

[Guest Shauna_Styles]

That is very frustrating and I can most certainly relate. It is definitely frustrating to book a room and then he doesn't show up. Imagine being out of not only $100+ bucks for a room but then not even getting an 'O'

Now that's what you call a bad day!

[Crazy Horse]

Yes, all the time.

To begin with although we are offered up menus like BP or EB it's not like ordering a pizza. Compound that with only a few of the ladies having any concept of basic customer service skills and most of us have had "one of those days".

...Happy Hobbying...

...Crazy Horse...