Posted June 20, 2014 I have been in the hobby for a year. In that time I've only seen 3 escorts and one was a rip-off. Countless ncs, as well as numerous other issues. Anyway I see a lot of ads asking for references, or otherwise call an escort who tells me "I don't see new clients w/out references, but I know there are some that do." point is I can't find 'some that do' outside bp. long story short I can't get references cause no one will see me, no one will see me cause I don't have references. It doesn't help that I just don't have much money or that they won't see me/don't show up(even 'reputable' escorts) because of my disability. Feel free to tear this disgruntled newb apart, I just wanted to get this off my chest. Open to suggestions on getting an appointment as my birthday is close and I would very much like to give this another try... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 20, 2014 Just contact the lady you want to see and give her the references you have. No matter what they say about checking, most don't and are feeling you out in how you communicate. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 21, 2014 I have been in the hobby for a year. In that time I've only seen 3 escorts and one was a rip-off. Countless ncs, as well as numerous other issues. Anyway I see a lot of ads asking for references, or otherwise call an escort who tells me "I don't see new clients w/out references, but I know there are some that do." point is I can't find 'some that do' outside bp. long story short I can't get references cause no one will see me, no one will see me cause I don't have references. It doesn't help that I just don't have much money or that they won't see me/don't show up(even 'reputable' escorts) because of my disability. Feel free to tear this disgruntled newb apart, I just wanted to get this off my chest. Open to suggestions on getting an appointment as my birthday is close and I would very much like to give this another try... These two things make for some big roadblocks in this endeavor. If I were you, I'd look for someone who advertises as disabled friendly, and let her know your dilemma. Often, girls have alternate screening methods, if they can't verify references. The fee is probably not negotiable though. Good Luck! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 21, 2014 I might be able to help you out little bit here, I'm handicapped too. I have MS and use a power chair to get around. This has certainly limited who I can visit, many ladies are not in a wheelchair friendly location and do not want to do out calls. I'm always upfront with my situation. Usually if I can get into their location I have no problem seeing the lady. Being low-profile is a bit harder in a chair. Someone just walking into the building no one notices, everyone notices someone in a chair. To me the ladies safety is very important, I have not seen certain ladies because of causing too much attention getting to their In call. Call and tell them your situation and ask if they are in a wheelchair friendly location. If they are they can screen you and set up an appointment while you're still on the phone. Most importantly just be polite and honest with them! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 21, 2014 I might be able to help you out little bit here, I'm handicapped too. I have MS and use a power chair to get around. This has certainly limited who I can visit, many ladies are not in a wheelchair friendly location and do not want to do out calls. I'm always upfront with my situation. Usually if I can get into their location I have no problem seeing the lady. Being low-profile is a bit harder in a chair. Someone just walking into the building no one notices, everyone notices someone in a chair. To me the ladies safety is very important, I have not seen certain ladies because of causing too much attention getting to their In call. Call and tell them your situation and ask if they are in a wheelchair friendly location. If they are they can screen you and set up an appointment while you're still on the phone. Most importantly just be polite and honest with them! This brings up another issue I have of not being able to do incalls; I don't drive, and TBH anyone who would give me a ride (that doesn't frown on this hobby) thinks it's a waste of time and money. Basically I'm looking for a disabled, newbie friendly ASP who does outcalls in denver, and on the cheap(ish) side, lol. There are several ASPs on p411 who meet most of my needs, but I honestly haven't seen any ads that specify disabled friendly, does anyone know of any ASPs who advertise that? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 22, 2014 " it doesn't help that I don't have much money". That could be your problem right there, not handicap..nor lack of good references... This was not meant to be a poor man's hobby. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 22, 2014 Truth be told, i thought my other hobbies were expensive, but this hobby takes the cake " it doesn't help that I don't have much money". That could be your problem right there, not handicap..nor lack of good references... This was not meant to be a poor man's hobby. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 22, 2014 And speaking of references aren't/shouldn't all you have to do is sent the names of your references and not all the contact details? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 22, 2014 And speaking of references aren't/shouldn't all you have to do is sent the names of your references and not all the contact details? You want the new lady to search out for the contact info of the previous ladies you have spent time with? This is about a quick buck. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 22, 2014 when I say I don't have much money, I just mean I can only do this every few months, so when I get ripped off or stolen from, for example, it's kind of a big deal. At any rate, if they turn me down for having no references or being disabled before I even know the cost, it doesn't really matter how poor I am. You want the new lady to search out for the contact info of the previous ladies you have spent time with? This is about a quick buck. exactly. if they had to find your references' contact info you probably wouldn't be seeing that escort(at least if they actually check their clients' references). That being said if you have bp references like me a lot of escorts say 'no bp girls' in their ads and they won't see you... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 23, 2014 This brings up another issue I have of not being able to do incalls; I don't drive, and TBH anyone who would give me a ride (that doesn't frown on this hobby) thinks it's a waste of time and money. Basically I'm looking for a disabled, newbie friendly ASP who does outcalls in denver, and on the cheap(ish) side, lol. There are several ASPs on p411 who meet most of my needs, but I honestly haven't seen any ads that specify disabled friendly, does anyone know of any ASPs who advertise that? Mentioning that you need an out call and someone who is disabled friendly and possibly going into a bit of detail about your disability might help. Intro emails are very important and for some ladies, can make or break the deal. References are like reviews, tough if you don;t have any and the luck of the draw to find someone who will see you without. The fact that you want a lady to come to you, in your environment could be a reason most escorts want a reference. They never know what they are walking into. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 23, 2014 To me out calls are a no brainer. Typically, guys are not going to do something to a lady in their own home. They do not want to have an incident where the police could possibly come and pay them a visit. Second, the OP mentioned that he is in a wheel chair, what the hell could he possibly do? In my experience Out calls are safer. If a girl has a check in person in place, what is the problem? If I lived in Denver, this would hands down be an easy choice for me, lack of references or not. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 23, 2014 It doesn't help that I just don't have much money This. Sorry. It's not a need-based service. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 23, 2014 This. Sorry. It's not a need-based service. I understand that, I don't expect a hand out or anything. I'm only saying I don't get many opportunities to hobby. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 30, 2014 Seems to me you have gotten good advice from several people already. But, I will add my two cents. 1. There are several newbie friendly ladies. A key word search for newbie on EB today lists two ladies with adds. Additionally, there are 113 reviews on TOB that also have the key word newbie. The ladies will screen you with other methods or information besides references. If you are will to share this information at least once and maybe twice you should be good to go. 2. If the two ladies discussed above are on P411 you can get a 6 month trail with there referral and this should take care of you reference problems. Additionally on your P411 profile you can list information about your disability. Send the request and go fro there. Most important in all of this is to have fun. Don't over think it 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 30, 2014 A possible solution to your not being able to drive is RTD Access-a-Ride. They will pick you up and drive you anywhere for a very reasonable fee. So then all you need is a wheelchair accessable building . But OP you never actually said you were in a wheelchair, I believe that was ak guy.But if you have diabilities of any kind you can use Access-a-Ride anyway. Just contact RTD and they will take you through the process. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 30, 2014 I have been in the hobby for a year. In that time I've only seen 3 escorts and one was a rip-off. Countless ncs, as well as numerous other issues. Anyway I see a lot of ads asking for references, or otherwise call an escort who tells me "I don't see new clients w/out references, but I know there are some that do." point is I can't find 'some that do' outside bp. long story short I can't get references cause no one will see me, no one will see me cause I don't have references. It doesn't help that I just don't have much money or that they won't see me/don't show up(even 'reputable' escorts) because of my disability. Feel free to tear this disgruntled newb apart, I just wanted to get this off my chest. Open to suggestions on getting an appointment as my birthday is close and I would very much like to give this another try... A physical Handicap does not bother most of the girls..."that I have met" It's the mental ones that bother us...lol -shoot everybody has a handicap sweetie...some are just easier to see than others your over thinking it. Its suppose to be fun. if she does not offer what you want . . . Next....there are so many to try. just relax and have fun. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted June 30, 2014 hey, changed my username ... well, had account deleted, made a new one lol. anyway I appreciate your many helpful suggestions. To clarify I am in a wheelchair. Also I do have accessaride, however using it to hobby isn't practical cause I have to set a ride in advance, and I'm boned if it's a no-show. I just gotta find a girl who's newbie/wheelchair friendly and does outcall and I'll be set. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
