Posted May 12, 2012 Anyone ever run into a provider you haven't booked an appointment with throughout your daily travels? You know they are a provider and you have conversed with them online, but haven't booked the appointment yet due to schedule conflicts ? This is the first time this has ever happened to me and I swear I didn't mean to do a double-look at this woman when I ran into her, but my brain had other plans. I've seen enough of her pics online to know it was her and so after I was sure I just kind of went about my business. Though I have to say, the blood was really pumping through my veins for about 5 minutes when I realized it [ She is also amazingly pretty so that also probably added to it]. What do you do in this situation? I don't want things to be awkward, because I think once I do book an appointment she might recognize me from a 'function' that I saw her at. Oh and nobody at the function had any knowledge she was a provider either from what I could tell. I suppose Denver is a small enough city to have something like this happen eventually. Should I still book the appointment even though there could be common friends involved? I am inclined just to not book the appointment now because I don't want both of us feeling strange. I am a low volume hobbyist at best, hence why I posted this question... MtnDew 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 12, 2012 i feel ya, dew. without knowing more about the event and all, my advice would be to think long and hard about things before you take the leap. things can get sticky between the civilian world and this one, but as long as you go into it with your eyes wide open, are sure of your intentions and resolve to keep things on the down-low it should be okay. plus, if you're interested in this gal, why deny yourself of the experience? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 12, 2012 I had this happen to me. I had her number to text her & I just said "Hi." & let her know what specific place I saw her at. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 13, 2012 a few years back I went to the Shakespeare Festival in Boulder. the next day, I had a polite, friendly email from a client: "Did I see you at "As You Like It?" I was pleased that he recognized me, and even more pleased that he chose NOT to approach me, but rather to drop an email the next day. He reasoned (correctly) that I might have been there with another client, or a family member, and had no wish to embarrass me. I was happy that he chose to be discreet. xxxooo Beverly ;-* P.S. I do the diet Mountain Dew, too. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 13, 2012 I don't think guys realize how stalker-ish their attempts to let you know you've been "spotted" really are. I'll bet they're just excited that they really saw you in the living, breathing flesh (like a celebrity sighting), but PLEASE stop and think how we might receive your contact (mtndew thanks for being aware of this and asking!). The creepiest was a guy that had texted me asking my rates - when I told him, he replied that they were a bit pricey. It wasn't but a few hours later I get a text "How's that martini?" as I sat alone in a bar - from the same number (ugh that's what odds you get in small towns)! "Pricey - just like me - But definitely worth it!" I responded. He then attempted to continue to text me while I tried to enjoy a quiet dinner alone, curious if I knew which person in the bar he was, etc. I ended up leaving quickly and it totally ruined my dinner plans. XOXO Adrielle 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 14, 2012 had a girl come up and talk to me once, she shared some drinks and great conversation... even gave me her non 'working' number... the next day sent her a message on a site saying "enjoyed the drink and conversation"... long story short she is one of my closest friends now. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 14, 2012 Dude, if you were all hot and bothered by that accidental meeting, then rearrange your schedule and visit her! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 14, 2012 I totally see that. I don't understand why a guy would feel compelled to do or say anything. My 2 cents for dew: You don't do anything at the time. If you later have an appt with her you can mention it, and as Beverly stated, she'll probably feel grateful that you were discreet and didn't intrude on her privacy. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 14, 2012 I love "celebrity" sightings.....just remember to always respect a ladies privacy. (I will admit though, it is the ultimate turn-on.) 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 15, 2012 The best thing to do is put yourself in her place for a moment. Being one of the ones who don't show my face I don't run into anyone seeing me and knowing who I am that has not seen me and this is one of the biggest reasons why I made that choice. As Adriel said there is a fine line when it comes to being looked at as a stalker. I've had situations with clients I've seen once crossing the line in public it's not the warm fuzzy feeling they think it is. On the other side how ever I feel it shows class when you see a provider out or they see you when it's the case and nothing is said or done well can't say done have had the amazing surprise of "A gentlemen already took care of it for you" a few times. As for setting the appointment I say DO IT and if the appointment is going well and you get the vibe to tell her just walking in and saying oh I seen you at ..... on .... yea not so much that's a bit creepy. Saying I believe I've seen you some place before and then asking where you by chance at ..... the other day? Hey cheesy YES it is how ever won't give way to the red flag of creepiness. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 15, 2012 years ago i ran into a provider in pleasures, me trolling to rent porn (those were the days, eh boys) and she buying a toy, accompanied by some long-haired dude. our eyes met briefly and a mutual look of recognition. little sideways smiles appeared on both our faces and we went on about our business. simple as that. later she told me it was her s.o. good thing i didn't make an ass out of myself. could have ended up with a broken jaw 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 15, 2012 urfan now that shows pure class and respect. As well as it's a good point you never know who we are with. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 15, 2012 I don't think guys realize how stalker-ish their attempts to let you know you've been "spotted" really are. Adrielle Last summer I thought I saw you in the screening line at DIA. We passed about 10 times, smiling each time we passed. I wasn't quite sure it was you until you posted newer pictures showing your face and ink. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 17, 2012 (edited) Anyone ever run into a provider you haven't booked an appointment with throughout your daily travels? She is also amazingly pretty so that also probably added to it. What do you do in this situation? I don't want things to be awkward, because I think once I do book an appointment she might recognize me from a 'function' that I saw her at. Oh and nobody at the function had any knowledge she was a provider either from what I could tell. Should I still book the appointment even though there could be common friends involved? I am inclined just to not book the appointment now because I don't want both of us feeling strange. MtnDew What do you do in that situation? You smile and wink quietly. Should you still book the appointment? Yes. DON'T mention seeing her in public. If she mentions it, rub your eyes and say whatever comes to mind ...no suggestions, as it's best for you to think for yourself. Be honest, be real, and if you're shy, that's okay! Shyness is kinda cute Fantastic discussion topic, as it perfectly illustrates why some of us don't show photos. In my profession, there is no margin for error, and backstabbing and mudslingling are statutorily permitted. No sh*t. Off the record, I do know a few awesome guys who are in my profession, as well as associated ones. Discretion is paramount, and knowing each others' secrets adds an extra thrill. The tension is palpable ...when we're out in the field, or talking on the phone, the sexual energy adds a whole 'nother dimension. We have an understanding, and our interactions are unbelievably hot! Resisting the urge to recount how I shorted out my electrical system ... See the provider, and remain silent, unless she mentions it. And do tell, discreetly. I for one am interested in hesring the happy ending to your story :-) Edited May 17, 2012 by JenniferOfDenver punctuation 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 18, 2012 Resisting the urge to recount how I shorted out my electrical system ... ... and leaving us to decide whether you mean the one in your home or the one in your body... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 18, 2012 hey crystal, i'd like to take full credit as you suggest, but honestly i was in shock for a few seconds while the recognition sunk in. then it turned to frozen panic - lol 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 18, 2012 mtndew, you were just super excited about your situation and wanted so badly to share! it's hot, isn't it?? i have passed a same client twice on 16th street mall (near my old incall) and we always just tipped our heads and smiled, like typical Texans. The most notable passing was at a wine mixer in Keystone. small town... small community... and a fundraiser. He walked right up to me, said hello, introduced his wife, and wished me a wonderful evening. It was perfectly normal and I was comfortable, as was he. just act like a normal human being would act in any situation and you will be golden. but having that brush with a secret life in reality is always so exciting! thanks for sharing. tg4tob 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 18, 2012 ... and leaving us to decide whether you mean the one in your home or the one in your body... Automotive 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 23, 2012 The best thing to do is put yourself in her place for a moment. Being one of the ones who don't show my face I don't run into anyone seeing me and knowing who I am that has not seen me and this is one of the biggest reasons why I made that choice. BUT...your adult videos are easy enough to find,so I wouldn't be suprised if someone has thought they recognized you. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 23, 2012 Oh gosh, this is very odd... even in my big city, it happens. I see clients at Walmart and such too. I always turn the other way or they do too and then I hear from them later. lol One odd thing that happened, is that I was out at a club with a bunch of friends and a guy walks up to me and says "hey! are you so and so?" I was freaked out. Because of this - he hung around my little group of friends all night. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 23, 2012 Don't you love those idiots and I mean idiots. Anyone with half a freaking brain should not walk there happy little self up to you and announce you WORK name. And be a complete douche bag and hang around. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 23, 2012 Don't you love those idiots and I mean idiots. Anyone with half a freaking brain should not walk there happy little self up to you and announce you WORK name. And be a complete douche bag and hang around. Gotta agree here...Of course this is a YMMV thing, as every girl is different and some might not feel like me about it. I'm single, so I don't mind guys approaching me at all. If I've seen them, then I feel they are friends enough to speak to me...No problem. . My only issue is them calling me "Velvet" in front of others who know me by my real name, in the real world. THINK BEFORE YOU ACT. This has happened to me twice before. Two times I was with family member and guys came up and loudly said "Velvet!". This is so careless. If you wanna say HI, but be discrete, and don't use my work name, no problem. I love seeing the guys I care about. Just don't call me Velvet when you see me out. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 23, 2012 Gotta agree here...Of course this is a YMMV thing, as every girl is different and some might not feel like me about it. I'm single, so I don't mind guys approaching me at all. If I've seen them, then I feel they are friends enough to speak to me...No problem. . My only issue is them calling me "Velvet" in front of others who know me by my real name, in the real world. THINK BEFORE YOU ACT. This has happened to me twice before. Two times I was with family member and guys came up and loudly said "Velvet!". This is so careless. If you wanna say HI, but be discrete, and don't use my work name, no problem. I love seeing the guys I care about. Just don't call me Velvet when you see me out. Very good advice Velvet!!! I have yet to see any providers I have or havent been with on the street yet. Of course with my work and the part of town I lived in before its not that big of a problem. I used to live in Thorton, if I lived close to the DTC maybe I would see you beautiful ladies out there. I think if I saw a provider out in town doing her shopping I would look but not talk unless she approached me to say hello. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 23, 2012 If you wanna say HI, but be discrete, and don't use my work name, no problem. I love seeing the guys I care about. I couldn't agree more:) 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 23, 2012 That is so crazy when that happens...I would send her an e-mail to get her feedback. Dianna 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 23, 2012 I usually just smile and wave to my clients if I see them out and about (and they are alone). Sometimes we stop and chat depending on who I/they are with, and how well we know each other. Some people I have known for years. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 23, 2012 Yeah sorry about taking your parking spot. LOL 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 23, 2012 Hahahahaha! I forgive you even if I had a longer walk! That was more a case of me seeing you before you recognized me. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 23, 2012 All I remember saying to myself( seeing you out of the corner of my eye) was, sexy lady coming. So it was like I had not met you yet. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 23, 2012 I actually have ran into a previous client at a wal mart. It was so awkward because i was there with my SO.... And he still approached me to say Hello Alayna... LOL 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
