What's up with references?

[gimmyg]

I have contacted 2 providers for a date giving my most recently seen providers numbers and haven't heard back. Both encounters were in September so it hasn't been that long and both meetings went well. Not sure what is happening here? 

Is it that the providers have stopped referring?

I also don't hear back from the provider I'm willing to see. I send a text/email asking if I'm clear but there's no response and I hate to send multiple emails. 

 

Any advice? 

[TheWhisperer]

I have contacted 2 providers for a date giving my most recently seen providers numbers and haven't heard back. Both encounters were in September so it hasn't been that long and both meetings went well. Not sure what is happening here? 

Is it that the providers have stopped referring?

I also don't hear back from the provider I'm willing to see. I send a text/email asking if I'm clear but there's no response and I hate to send multiple emails. 

 

Any advice? 

Call...

This is located under the Help button:

The Provider Never Replied To My Reference Request?
We suggest contacting the provider by text, phone or email. She may have overlooked your request. When she logs into her account she just needs to hover to the right of your name and click to expand the reference area. She can then Approve your request.

[Real Colorado Guy]

Yea, I wish they would especially since this was added. 

[TheWhisperer]

Yea, I wish they would especially since this was added. 

just give a follow up phone call and ask them to login and approve. If they forgot their login they can recover the account by phone or email. We recommend phone number as we send them a text:)

[Cecilia]

I have contacted 2 providers for a date giving my most recently seen providers numbers and haven't heard back. Both encounters were in September so it hasn't been that long and both meetings went well. Not sure what is happening here? 

Is it that the providers have stopped referring?

I also don't hear back from the provider I'm willing to see. I send a text/email asking if I'm clear but there's no response and I hate to send multiple emails. 

 

Any advice? 

Perhaps the provider is only available certain days and before she heard back from your reference it became her "days off" and until she is back on and available she may not see any of your texts or hear any messages. 

I have a hobby phone/email/schedule and on days I am unavailable I am not logged in and phone is not turned on. When I do log in and fire up the whole devices, I will have about 50 messages and a good chunk of them from 1 or maybe 2 men desperately texting over and over and finally getting pissed and calling me names for ignoring them. *eyeroll* Some of us have lives/family's/businesses outside of this lifestyle. 

[gimmyg]

Thank you for that Cecilia.

But can I not expect a response from the provider saying she's having difficulty verifying and may be we could find another way like work verification??   

[Cecilia]

Thank you for that Cecilia.

But can I not expect a response from the provider saying she's having difficulty verifying and may be we could find another way like work verification??   

In my scenario, once the provider is available again then yes she should respond.

I don't know the span of time since you provided the info and asked for a date but if it's only been a few days then I would give the benefit of the doubt. 

Of course, I'm a part-timer so my perspective may not apply. 

[TheWhisperer]

Thank you for that Cecilia.

But can I not expect a response from the provider saying she's having difficulty verifying and may be we could find another way like work verification??   

let me add that the TOB reference area is new and she may be unaware of it. Anytime a reference is requested by a client the provider is notified. When she logs into TOB she just scrolls down that first page and below the galleries are Pending References.

[Lucy Kitten]

 

Any advice? 

Have you contacted the providers you have used as references? Did you just verbally use them as references or did you ask them to give a reference on a site?

[Alli]

One thing I do not like about referrals, is when you contact the other provider , she goes back to the client and asks why he didn't come to see her. Then he feels conflicted and goes and sees her or just cancels.

We are all trying to eat.

[Cecilia]

One thing I do not like about referrals, is when you contact the other provider , she goes back to the client and asks why he didn't come to see her. Then he feels conflicted and goes and sees her or just cancels.

We are all trying to eat.

I am glad to say that I've never had that problem. So far every lady I've contacted has been very kind and helpful. 

[gimmyg]

Sending a text to the provider worked. Strangely enough, she sent me a text asking when I was coming to see her 

Not sure how to reply to that...especially if the appointment wasn't that great 

[Lucy Kitten]

Sending a text to the provider worked. Strangely enough, she sent me a text asking when I was coming to see her 

Not sure how to reply to that...especially if the appointment wasn't that great 

So the one you used a reference and said went well texted you back? If it didn't go that great then maybe don't use a lady for a reference?

[Scarlett Dayne]

One thing I do not like about referrals, is when you contact the other provider , she goes back to the client and asks why he didn't come to see her. Then he feels conflicted and goes and sees her or just cancels.

We are all trying to eat.

That is so uncouth in my opinion.

Obviously if he wanted to see her again he would have contacted her for a reference. She has every right to say she doesn't want to be used for references. That way if she's feeling insecure she will never have any knowledge that the man has gone to see another escort.

My thought is this... I want to see a man who desires to see me.

If I have to force him to see only me then I have internal insecurity issues that I need to get straightened out on my own. Him wanting variety, especially in this venue, seems extremely normal. There will be a man that I connect with deeply who will want to see me all the time. I Choose to Focus on that man instead of trying to force someone to see me when they really want to hang out with someone else.

It's only fun when it's consensual with all parties involved lol ;-)

[Guest]

Sending a text to the provider worked. Strangely enough, she sent me a text asking when I was coming to see her 

Not sure how to reply to that...especially if the appointment wasn't that great 

Its very simple, when provider shows this type of behavior, you should never see her ass again.  

[Guest]

One thing I do not like about referrals, is when you contact the other provider , she goes back to the client and asks why he didn't come to see her. Then he feels conflicted and goes and sees her or just cancels.

We are all trying to eat.

I agree with Alli.

This type of poor behavior needs to stop. This happens all the time here in Denver. Its bullshit. This is just one of the reasons why I try to avoid using references and encourage the guys to get p411 account. The way this shit gets stop, is by writing her a bad review on all the boards, and you never see her again. You tell all the guys who is doing this, so they can AVOID her. 

Just my 2.0 If your an escort and your that insecure that you cant share, GET ANOTHER FUCKING JOB! Or place it on your advertisement that your not reference friendly so the guys don't use you as a reference. 

 

Edited October 16, 2015 by Nikki Holiday

[Nina Simone]

I agree Miss Nikki, I found that since traveling alot this summer I could not get any providers to get back with me, let alone give me a reference, I know all of them were not that busy. [ snip ]

 

Edited October 17, 2015 by Kaduk
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[abigailfox]

I've had no issues with references, but then again, I seem to get contacted by the same few providers, who are all pretty stand up women. We share a similar body type so it's not that surprising. I'll even toss their names out there when I am unavailable as someone the client may be interested in, as they have good reputations and personalities. I don't find Denver to be that brutal...it's too bad there are ladies like that out there though.

[Alli]

I agree with Alli.

This type of poor behavior needs to stop. This happens all the time here in Denver. Its bullshit. This is just one of the reasons why I try to avoid using references and encourage the guys to get p411 account. The way this shit gets stop, is by writing her a bad review on all the boards, and you never see her again. You tell all the guys who is doing this, so they can AVOID her. 

Just my 2.0 If your an escort and your that insecure that you cant share, GET ANOTHER FUCKING JOB! Or place it on your advertisement that your not reference friendly so the guys don't use you as a reference. 

 

lol. Touche

[Alli]

That is so uncouth in my opinion.

Obviously if he wanted to see her again he would have contacted her for a reference. She has every right to say she doesn't want to be used for references. That way if she's feeling insecure she will never have any knowledge that the man has gone to see another escort.

My thought is this... I want to see a man who desires to see me.

If I have to force him to see only me then I have internal insecurity issues that I need to get straightened out on my own. Him wanting variety, especially in this venue, seems extremely normal. There will be a man that I connect with deeply who will want to see me all the time. I Choose to Focus on that man instead of trying to force someone to see me when they really want to hang out with someone else.

It's only fun when it's consensual with all parties involved lol ;-)

Touche as well here. I love your vocabulary love. 

[Cecilia]

On a similar note... How about the guy that you see one time and wants to use you as a reference an infinite number of times? I told him I'm going to charge a service fee for the daily task of responding to references for him and hooking up everyone else.   

[Guest]

On a similar note... How about the guy that you see one time and wants to use you as a reference an infinite number of times? I told him I'm going to charge a service fee for the daily task of responding to references for him and hooking up everyone else.   

I know of a Las Vegas provider who only allows guys to use her as a reference for 1 year and up to 3 times with in the same year. After the 3times or the 1 year is up in order to keep using her as a reference he as to book another appointment with her. Here is the deal its on her website part of her booking and she has them acknowledge it. 

Edited October 18, 2015 by Nikki Holiday

[Lucy Kitten]

On a similar note... How about the guy that you see one time and wants to use you as a reference an infinite number of times? I told him I'm going to charge a service fee for the daily task of responding to references for him and hooking up everyone else.   

Cute faces aside it's actually a really good idea  You are offering a service so to speak and as helpful as references are it's still a huge favor to do for someone repeatedly. A lot of guys will see ladies with more lax screening policies so they can see ladies who rely on references.

[Cecilia]

Thank you ladies for the reassurance, I will gladly incorporate this policy. 

Even though it's almost been a year since I started this adventure, I still feel very new so when I have strong ladies back me up I feel like super woman. 😘

Edited October 18, 2015 by Cecilia
typo

[Scarlett Dayne]

Touche as well here. I love your vocabulary love. 

Thank You. Words are Fun so why not use a variety of them lol. Wishing you a day filled with Joy and pleasant Surprises... ;-)

[Laci French]

My reference requests and references shared is not working on my end.  I am not able to view anything.😒

[gr8horse]

OK. I am sometimes really thick I admit it. Others easily navigate nearly any site with no complications I simply am not able to. I would like to be guided (blow by blow) so to speak through the reference request process. I am certain that there are providers I have seen that would provide a reference through this site if only I could create the request. Any help for this Neanderthal would be appreciated. I think I qualify as a VIP member but not even certain of that. Thanks in advance for any assistance. 

Gr8horse

[TheWhisperer]

OK. I am sometimes really thick I admit it. Others easily navigate nearly any site with no complications I simply am not able to. I would like to be guided (blow by blow) so to speak through the reference request process. I am certain that there are providers I have seen that would provide a reference through this site if only I could create the request. Any help for this Neanderthal would be appreciated. I think I qualify as a VIP member but not even certain of that. Thanks in advance for any assistance. 

Gr8horse

go to the providers profile page click the button Request Reference. If she has not approved it in 4-5 days send her a personal message to follow up

[TheWhisperer]

My reference requests and references shared is not working on my end.  I am not able to view anything.😒

I sent you a pm but it says you can receive pms , please empty your mail and or ensure you allow pms..

 

if a client requests a reference you will get a notification . Login , scroll below your gallery of photos and there you will see any Pending References- approve or deny

if a client shared his references those clients will be listed right below the Approved References. You can click on their name and view their profile and reference area

[Cayla Cabela]

I'm only assuming that the original post is regarding me in some way. I'm only here to state the facts as I experienced them. I tend to step back from any type of drama infused situations, so this is extremely hard for me.  Yes, we met and had a wonderful time together. Within the month, he did call me again for another time to play. Unfortunately, I did not have time to "fit him in" that day. Soon after I told him that I was busy that day, I was notified of the unfavorable review. Confusion set in. Why would he call for another time to play if I'm not his type? I was away for a week (which was noted in all of my ads). This happened to be the time in which the OP texted me requesting a reference from me. I discovered his text when I returned. My reply was this, "Yes, and I do recall you wanting to visit again." I never asked him to come see me. I only stated that, "I do recall". He twisted my words "I do recall" into "When are you coming to see me". Those words were never spoken has he stated in this thread.  Thank you for the opportunity to share what actually happened.