Posted March 5, 2015 (edited) I face a dilemma when trying to find a good FemDom provider and am curious if anybody here has any recommendations. My dilemma: I enjoy pretty rough femdom (yeah, I know I am weird, but fuck you too) but want a better ending to the experience than self-service. In my experience I have found that: Many femdom provides are willing to do the rough femdom session, but aren't willing to offer any sort of ending beyond self-service. Most traditional providers are willing to go beyond self-service, but aren't experienced or equipped for femdom, nor are they comfortable providing the level of intensity that I crave. So I either get a good femdom session without a good ending, or a minimal femdom session with a good ending. I'd like to have both the intense femdom session w/ the good ending. There are a lot of traditional providers that *say* they offer femdom, but they're not equipped for it, nor are their hearts and heads really into it providing such an experience. Does anybody know of good providers that might offer both a high intensity femdom experience AND more than just self-service? Bonus points for providers near the Springs. Thanks! Edited March 5, 2015 by MikeInCOSprings spelling 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 5, 2015 It's my understanding that lack of a happy ending is part of the Dom experience. She's not there to serve you; you're there to serve her. Besides, for Doms it's not about sex. It's a power/control game. That's one hope BDSM providers have for staying legal. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 5, 2015 Have you tried Fetlife? I know it is a social site for kinksters, but there are some Pro-Dommes on there. I'm more into the power exchange going the other way, but I have seen some ladies who look like they know what they are doing, advertising sessions. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 5, 2015 Wow, I would swear that I've seen some escorts who advertise in both ways - one ad geared more to femdom & another ad toward traditional escort servicing. I don't remember any off hand, but I bet they exist. Maybe try trolling BP in both the escorts area and the BDSM area, looking for overlap. With any luck, you'll find someone who is well reviewed. Then, call & let her know you want the best of both worlds. I doubt you'll find this in the springs though - you'll need to go to the bigger denver market. Wish I had a better memory - good luck. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 5, 2015 Bit Banger - I understand that perspective, but I obviously am looking for the best of both worlds. av8r - I've seen that too, and I've visited a few that advertise both but none has ever seemed to be a real fetish enthusiast. There's a big difference between someone who will do it for $$$ but isn't otherwise into it, and someone who is genuinely into it. Thanks to both of you. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 5, 2015 Book back to back providers... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 5, 2015 Book back to back providers... That was my thought too, book one for the fetish and the other for the release. Finding professionals that do both with the same level of commitment is almost impossible. There are pro doms/mes and h words with whips. I am a lifestyler but never really involve it in my work. It took me over a decade to learn all I know now about BDSM and don't have an interest in sharing that with someone who is not on my same level. Sounds snotty but I want to play with someone I can have fun with and not be dragged down by their lack of expertise. So I get the dilemma. I say that booking back to back providers will be the best advice you get. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 5, 2015 The only Dom I ever knew who provided Happy Endings had a sub to take care of the squishy details. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 5, 2015 (edited) Bit Banger - I understand that perspective, but I obviously am looking for the best of both worlds. av8r - I've seen that too, and I've visited a few that advertise both but none has ever seemed to be a real fetish enthusiast. There's a big difference between someone who will do it for $$$ but isn't otherwise into it, and someone who is genuinely into it. Thanks to both of you. What about a fetish club? You might find someone who's genuinely into it, and not have to pay. Or, you could possibly find a UTR provider that way. Granted, it would take more work than just calling a provider, but the rewards might be greater. I know what you mean about wanting the best of both worlds. I look for CMT's who give a great ending. It's the holy grail - back to back appointments just wouldn't scratch that itch. Edited March 5, 2015 by av8r Spelling 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 5, 2015 My guess is that it will come down to your (and their) definition of "rough". I have had several "sensual dom" sessions that ended very happily, but that might not fit your definition of "rough". Frankly, I'm always looking for someone who can make the "sensual dom" thing work the way it works in my head. I would suspect that within a day or so you'll get a few PM's from providers wanting your definition of "rough" to see if they can meet your needs. In the meantime you might look up CSGeisha and see if she fits the bill. Vic 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 6, 2015 I'll do it for $14.95 +tax... butt I ain't driving all the way to the springs... Hope u like dude's 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 7, 2015 My experience has been that it's a toss up finding a Domme who will provide a release. My ATF only offered it the last time we played but that didn't stop me from seeing her for going on 12 years. OTOH the Lady who got my BDSM cherry took things in hand very nicely after an all afternoon session. Which in a way was unfortunate because it colored my expectations... FWIW the Pro Dommes in the Denver area seem less reticent to offer a release than the East Coast Dommes do. But I think it depends some on the chemistry between you AND there are fewer Dommes who will admit that this IS about sex (at least for me) and not just about dominance/power exchange. I can't speak to the "rough" as that's not my thing. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 11, 2015 Thanks to all that replied. I have some good leads now. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 13, 2015 I know a dom, she does also sensual massage. May be she can provide you with what you want 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 13, 2015 Lady January Frost Iv never met her, I don't know her. But I have 13 guys who have seen her and they all love her. www.TheMinistryOfBoulder.com For FS you should call Justina Carter. Iv had a session with her. I think she has the personality your seeking. I think this combo right here would do your body good with one hell of BANG!!! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
