Posted July 26, 2014 I recently was out for an evening listening to a very fun local band and dancing. I noticed that a local provider was also there having a great time with a few lady friends. I only know her from her photos and she does not know who I am. There were opportunities to introduce myself throughout the evening. I was very tempted to meet her just to chat and get to know her without the hobby issue being on the table. But, I thought it might be inappropriate or rude and did nothing. Truth is, if I did not know her situation, I probably would have introduced myself. Since we share similar musical tastes, I suspect that we could meet again socially. It complicates the decision to ever see her as an ASP. Although I would have no issues with any of it. I would not want to put her in a difficult situation. Thoughts ladies? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 26, 2014 I recently was out for an evening listening to a very fun local band and dancing. I noticed that a local provider was also there having a great time with a few lady friends. I only know her from her photos and she does not know who I am. There were opportunities to introduce myself throughout the evening. I was very tempted to meet her just to chat and get to know her without the hobby issue being on the table. But, I thought it might be inappropriate or rude and did nothing. Truth is, if I did not know her situation, I probably would have introduced myself. Since we share similar musical tastes, I suspect that we could meet again socially. It complicates the decision to ever see her as an ASP. Although I would have no issues with any of it. I would not want to put her in a difficult situation. Thoughts ladies? I'm sure the ladies will respond, but here's a few quick thoughts: 1) If you see an escort in public, NEVER, EVER call her by her working name. She may be with friends, or family, who do not know of her escort life. 2) If you've already had an appointment with her, do not make contact at all. Again, how is she supposed to explain who you are? (Plus, you probably don't know her real name). 3) If you've never met, feel free to make contact as if you don't know who she is. However, if you try to pursue any type of relationship, be honest, and fess up, in private. Lying will eventually be exposed. Good Luck! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 26, 2014 No no no no no. Totally creepy. And completely indiscreet, intrusive...whether you disclose that you know her as a provider to not. This business is suppose to be about complete discretion, non commitment...I would never ever think about approaching a gent in public when he was around friends..even if he was single and his friends would not suspect I am an escort. ( have had friends who got confronted by guys in public..borderline outing them as they called them by escort names..and one didn't mention her escort name..but his approach and shit eating grin on his face caused some uncomfortable questions by her mother) NEVER EVER.. Unless you have permission by the lady should you approach.. Let her be..even if she does not know who you are. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 26, 2014 If I ran into a provider in public I had seen professionally, I'd treat her like any other stranger. I'd be polite, open doors, and maybe give a smile or a "howdy." The lady shouldn't have to explain why guys turn white and run when they see her, either. If it was a lady I'd not seen, but recognized.....if I was never interested in seeing her I'd do nothing.....unless it was again treating her like any other stranger. If I DID want to see her professionally.......I would mention seeing her as an icebreaker when I made my initial date request. But that evening........treat her like any other stranger. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 27, 2014 No no no no no. Totally creepy. And completely indiscreet, intrusive... What's wrong with "hitting" on her like he'd hit on any other woman he was attracted to at a concert? They'd never met. Assume he isn't a twit and doesn't hit on her by saying anything about her business or stage name. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 27, 2014 What's wrong with "hitting" on her like he'd hit on any other woman he was attracted to at a concert? They'd never met. Assume he isn't a twit and doesn't hit on her by saying anything about her business or stage name. My thoughts exactly. But then again, many girls consider guys hitting on them to be creepy anyway. So go figure. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 27, 2014 Hitting upon, ok. As soon as one brings up the "saw your hooker ad on..."... probably gets awkward. Especially if you walk up to her and start referring to her with her fake name instead of her real name. Seen a number of providers over the years outside of work. Usually what keeps the peace is to maybe give a discreet nod, but no more. Every one "safe" and happy. Posted this years ago on the board, but, was on the reverse side of this. Went to a restaurant in town. Dinner at bar. Provider was there as well. She picked up my dinner tab! Awkward trying to explain to the folks that knew me well why SHE bought dinner for me. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 27, 2014 I'm sure the ladies will respond, but here's a few quick thoughts: 1) If you see an escort in public, NEVER, EVER call her by her working name. She may be with friends, or family, who do not know of her escort life. 2) If you've already had an appointment with her, do not make contact at all. Again, how is she supposed to explain who you are? (Plus, you probably don't know her real name). 3) If you've never met, feel free to make contact as if you don't know who she is. However, if you try to pursue any type of relationship, be honest, and fess up, in private. Lying will eventually be exposed. Good Luck! Thank you pfunk, you are right on. This has happened to me more than once, and I was mortified. Even after I whispered, please do not address me as Holly, they guy continued to yell, "Holly, how are you, how have you been?" ugh!!! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 27, 2014 I recently was out for an evening listening to a very fun local band and dancing. I noticed that a local provider was also there having a great time with a few lady friends. I only know her from her photos and she does not know who I am. There were opportunities to introduce myself throughout the evening. I was very tempted to meet her just to chat and get to know her without the hobby issue being on the table. But, I thought it might be inappropriate or rude and did nothing. Truth is, if I did not know her situation, I probably would have introduced myself. Since we share similar musical tastes, I suspect that we could meet again socially. It complicates the decision to ever see her as an ASP. Although I would have no issues with any of it. I would not want to put her in a difficult situation. Thoughts ladies? Ok, I have to ask.... I go dancing every single week with group of friends. Iv recently been to big, local concerts. Was it me? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 27, 2014 I have seen a provider that I had seen several times in a public place. We looked right at each other and neither of us did anything. In our next session she brought it up and I think she was happy that I basically just ignored her and treated her like any other stranger. If I had never seen her as a customer and had no plans on seeing her I wouldn't have any problem approaching her as I would any other woman I might be interested in. If it was a provider I was planning on seeing I wouldn't approach cause later when I do book it might look a little creepy/stalkish if she remembers me approaching her. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 27, 2014 I see myself getting recognized all the time in public, and count myself lucky that no one has ever approached me or said they recognized me from this biz. It's not something I would appreciate- unless they were approaching me to discreetly ask if they could contact me about business at a later date. The reasons for it are complicated, though. I am completely out to all my friends, family, acquaintances, everyone. So it wouldn't be a discretion problem for me, but it would be for most other providers and I am extremely sensitive to that. It's not something I would encourage simply on that basis, even though it's OK for me. Another problem with it for would be someone who has the potential to be a client thinking that it's appropriate to chat with me while I'm out with my friends and on my time. When I'm out I'm not working, and that's sort of the point. Even worse would be if he thought that since he saw me in public that would therefore mean he could start to chat me up and attempt to "date" me for "free." I'm actually the sort of person who never liked to be approached by strangers in public under any circumstances, though, so this part could just be me. I promise that despite this paragraph, I'm actually pretty friendly once you get to know me And if I were approached I would likely be polite but firm about my space. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 27, 2014 I'm sure the ladies will respond, but here's a few quick thoughts: 1) If you see an escort in public, NEVER, EVER call her by her working name. She may be with friends, or family, who do not know of her escort life. 2) If you've already had an appointment with her, do not make contact at all. Again, how is she supposed to explain who you are? (Plus, you probably don't know her real name). 3) If you've never met, feel free to make contact as if you don't know who she is. However, if you try to pursue any type of relationship, be honest, and fess up, in private. Lying will eventually be exposed. Good Luck! In a normal situtation pfunk is right. However, someone us such as myself, I live a different lifestyle unlike most people. Everyone in my entire family knows exactly what I do. I dont lie about it, I dont hide it. I am simply not intrested in bullshitting around about it playing that game of hide and dealing with bunch drama later. Even my ex husband and Yiayia my friends know what I do. If you reconise me and you would like to say hi. Feel free to do so. I would not consider it creepy/stalkish. If I see you, I will not approach you. As I have no idea what your circumstances are. This is just my opinion. Anybody who has a problem with how you live your life just has no place in it, especially if your not hurting yourself or anyone else. Isn't is amusing that the harshest of those judging your talents are usually the ones lacking it? And if anyone doesnt like how I choose to live my life, wants to judge me for it.......surely they can simply go fuck off. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 27, 2014 I appreciate the feedback everyone. I made the safe choice to not approach her. As a newbie, but, not a totally brain dead idiot, I would never use a name or even hint that she was anything other than a beautiful, fun stranger whom I wanted to meet. And that would be true. Thank you pfunk, you are right on. This has happened to me more than once, and I was mortified. Even after I whispered, please do not address me as Holly, the guy continued to yell, "Holly, how are you, how have you been?" ugh!!! Sorry to hear that this happened Holly. What an arse. Ok, I have to ask.... I go dancing every single week with group of friends. I've recently been to big, local concerts. Was it me? It was not you Nikki. I generally party in FoCo. But, if you'll tell me where you hang out...just kiiiidding! It's really too fuckin' bad that there is such a stigma to this whole thing. I bet you sisters are fun in real life too! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 27, 2014 Walking downtown one time going to a certain event. Noticed out of the corner of my eye a very sexy lady walking towards me. When I finally looked up, it was a provider I have seen several times. We were both alone so she says hello and gives me a big hug, funny we were both going to the same place that night. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted July 27, 2014 I appreciate the feedback everyone. I made the safe choice to not approach her. As a newbie, but, not a totally brain dead idiot, I would never use a name or even hint that she was anything other than a beautiful, fun stranger whom I wanted to meet. And that would be true. Sorry to hear that this happened Holly. What an arse. It was not you Nikki. I generally party in FoCo. But, if you'll tell me where you hang out...just kiiiidding! It's really too fuckin' bad that there is such a stigma to this whole thing. I bet you sisters are fun in real life too! Holly is an awesome friend in our personal life Yes we are super duper fun:D:D:D:D:D:p! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
